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(@wynne)

Posted : 11/04/2010 12:14 pm

It's one minor spot. Relax. I'm an RN, and thus qualified to tell you to see a therapist. Also former psych nurse. You're welcome. :)

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(@lillymay77)

Posted : 11/04/2010 3:10 pm

It's one minor spot. Relax. I'm an RN, and thus qualified to tell you to see a therapist. Also former psych nurse. You're welcome. :)

 

 

Just saw another doctor, its not a scar, its a cyst!!!!! Not exactly what I was expecting to hear, I am having an excision november 16th. So glad this nightmare will finally be over. No due respect wynne for my attitude, but when it comes to my looks I turn into a bitch. =)

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(@wynne)

Posted : 11/04/2010 3:17 pm

It's one minor spot. Relax. I'm an RN, and thus qualified to tell you to see a therapist. Also former psych nurse. You're welcome. :)

 

 

Just saw another doctor, its not a scar, its a cyst!!!!! Not exactly what I was expecting to hear, I am having an excision november 16th. So glad this nightmare will finally be over. No due respect wynne for my attitude, but when it comes to my looks I turn into a bitch. =)

 

Obviously. Good luck with finding help from me in the future. I get enough verbal abuse at work.

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(@lillymay77)

Posted : 11/08/2010 8:14 pm

Just got back from my main plastic surgeon and he told me my "thing" is a mole. This is getting ridiculous. Well looks like I am getting my "mole" shaved. or not I shall wait and see

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Posted : 11/09/2010 3:26 am

dood, im trying to figure out what these bumps on my nose are as well. They just randomly appeared and feel kind of hard to the touch. Are these scars? they are kinda like rough..

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(@Anonymous)

Posted : 11/09/2010 3:42 am

id be glad that all you have is a SLIGHTYL raised bump that you can only see with a micrscope.

 

But in all honesty, i would wait and see if it goes away. Give it 2-3 more months and if it does not go away, maybe go with the plastic surgeon?

 

I have bumps on my nose too and i hate them but they ar emuch worse than yours!

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(@lillymay77)

Posted : 11/09/2010 10:23 am

It's one minor spot. Relax. I'm an RN, and thus qualified to tell you to see a therapist. Also former psych nurse. You're welcome. :)

 

 

Just saw another doctor, its not a scar, its a cyst!!!!! Not exactly what I was expecting to hear, I am having an excision november 16th. So glad this nightmare will finally be over. No due respect wynne for my attitude, but when it comes to my looks I turn into a bitch. =)

 

Obviously. Good luck with finding help from me in the future. I get enough verbal abuse at work.

 

 

 

Wynne how can moles come from a pimple? It just doesn't make any sense to me.

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Posted : 11/09/2010 12:44 pm

dood, im trying to figure out what these bumps on my nose are as well. They just randomly appeared and feel kind of hard to the touch. Are these scars? they are kinda like rough..

 

 

Did you go to a derm?? I thought your derm told you they were healing pimples?

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(@beadyb)

Posted : 11/09/2010 2:25 pm

It's one minor spot. Relax. I'm an RN, and thus qualified to tell you to see a therapist. Also former psych nurse. You're welcome. :)

 

 

Just saw another doctor, its not a scar, its a cyst!!!!! Not exactly what I was expecting to hear, I am having an excision november 16th. So glad this nightmare will finally be over. No due respect wynne for my attitude, but when it comes to my looks I turn into a bitch. =)

 

Obviously. Good luck with finding help from me in the future. I get enough verbal abuse at work.

 

 

 

Wynne how can moles come from a pimple? It just doesn't make any sense to me.

 

 

 

You bitch at the one person who was trying to help you, and NOW you want her help? This is hilarious.

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(@lillymay77)

Posted : 11/09/2010 3:15 pm

I did not bitch at her actually you can read through my posts and see that. I apologized to her, as you can see. I don't understand why you have to add your two cents? How is that helpful or how will that benefit me or you? I agree my reaction my my spot was extreme, but this is my face. With all the opinions I have been receiving about it, it just leaves me more frustrated and worried. My attitude is just one of frustration. I am a semi good looking gal, and this problem has been effecting me severely for months. Please understand this.

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(@beadyb)

Posted : 11/10/2010 3:55 am

Please don't respond on here, and send me a message. One or the other is fine. Saying you turn into a bitch when you have skin issues doesn't count as an apology anyways.

 

And who the hell qualified you to tell me to see a therapist? How dare you, my derm with 29 years experience and is an associate professor of derm told me its a nodule.
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(@wynne)

Posted : 11/10/2010 4:16 am

I did not bitch at her actually you can read through my posts and see that.

You did. Most assuredly you did.

I apologized to her, as you can see.

You did not. Stating that you become a bitch is not an apology.

 

And like I had said, you will need to seek help from someone else as I shan't provide it.

 

 

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(@lillymay77)

Posted : 11/10/2010 2:55 pm

Please don't respond on here, and send me a message. One or the other is fine. Saying you turn into a bitch when you have skin issues doesn't count as an apology anyways.

 

 

And who the hell qualified you to tell me to see a therapist? How dare you, my derm with 29 years experience and is an associate professor of derm told me its a nodule.

 

That is a rude thing to say to someone who was trying to help you. Everyone is suffering on this site, I can understand that perfectly. What I don't understand is why you are treating this like a life and death situation, and why you are being so aggressive to those who take the time to respond.

 

I'm not discounting your feelings, having skin problems hurts emotionally and psychologically. But there are ways to ask for help without snapping at everyone.

 

I wish you the best.

 

 

 

Hi beady b, this is a life and death situation actually, I could have skin cancer, since now its a mole, that oozes. This is more then a cosmetic issue this is a medical one. Well its actually both. Thanks for the well wishes.

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(@lillymay77)

Posted : 11/10/2010 2:59 pm

I did not bitch at her actually you can read through my posts and see that.

You did. Most assuredly you did.

I apologized to her, as you can see.

You did not. Stating that you become a bitch is not an apology.

 

And like I had said, you will need to seek help from someone else as I shan't provide it.

 

 

 

 

I said with no due respect Wynne, but when it comes to my looks I turn into a bitch. That is indeed an apology.

 

And ps and by the way I have good insurance, I can see any doctor I want. Your "help" is not benefiting me therefore I no longer require nor desire it.

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(@ashala)

Posted : 11/10/2010 5:04 pm

* This is an edit. Mrs. Grape doesn't live here anymore.

Cya, the Org.

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(@lillymay77)

Posted : 11/10/2010 6:50 pm

Actually, an apology goes something like "I'm sorry."

 

What you wrote was an excuse to your behaviour, but you were in no way telling her that you apologized for your behaviour, just explained WHY you behaved that way. Saying "with due respect" means that you are going to be saying something that the other person might be offended by, but trying to say it a little more politely. So... I don't understand how that qualifies as an apology.

 

 

You are saying that her help is not benefiting you and you no longer require it... you are basically saying "I don't like you, so I don't want your help", because as far as I can see, Wynne offered peaceful aid to your situation, and you simply bitched at her for not telling you want you wanted to hear, or so it appears.

 

I have to say, your attitude throughout the entire thread is quite sour.

 

By the way, not all doctors and derms are going to say that the same thing is at work. In the ER and ICU, all the doctors said I had septic shock. Yet my respiratory specialist said that it was in no say septic shock because they did not culture bacteria, yet I got better on antibiotics. You are stressing out over something SO tiny, at least you aren't diseased or without legs.

 

I bet if you were to place 20 strangers in a room with a picture of your supposed "deformity" and someone was to ask them if they saw anything strange with your picture, no one would mention this.

 

 

Just my own opinion... and I'm expecting some backlash from this, which won't surprise me.

 

Also, it's unlikely it's cancerous. If it were, the derms you saw would have mentioned that, and would have wanted to run tests. Are you poking at it? Trying to pop it? Oozing it normal when something is healing, and the more you prod at something, the longer it will take to heal and the more it will ooze.

 

Seriously, 99% of the users here would kill for your skin. I think you need to take a step back, see how much you are overreacting, and just LISTEN to what some of these users are telling you because they are just trying to help you and give you advice. It's extremely unfair to basically blame them for not saying what you were wanting to hear or having opinions that differ from yours.

 

 

Hi Ashley Nicole, I feel horrible about the way I have conducted myself on this forum. I am soo lost. I feel like I lost everything. I have been avoiding my friends, I cry when I look in the mirror. I am ashamed to go out in public, I dropped out of school, seriously my life is in ruins. I don't recognize the face I see in the mirror anymore. The girl I once was is no longer there, she is dead. I haven't taken a shower in weeks, I chain smoke, I pop xanax like candy, I have cried an ocean of tears, I can't even believe my eyes can cry anymore. I don't believe I am overreacting in the slightest. I am walking around with a perpetual "zit" "scar" "cyst"

"mole" on the bridge of my nose. My son calls me bubble nose. No guys will even look at me anymore. In all honesty I would rather have ill health then this "thing" in the center of my face. I walk around in a daze, almost feeling like I lost my mind, or i am no longer in my body. I don't want to live like this anymore, moderator edit I have seriously had enough. How can i face the world, when I cry at the reflection I see in the mirror? this is just too hard for me

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(@ashala)

Posted : 11/10/2010 7:27 pm

* This is an edit. Mrs. Grape doesn't live here anymore.

Cya, the Org.

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(@cest-la-vigne)

Posted : 11/10/2010 7:46 pm

Demona, if what you're saying about how you're feeling is true, then you seriously need to seek therapy or counseling. If you won't do it for yourself, do it for your son. It must be very hard on him to see his mother like this.

 

I've edited a few posts in this thread, and sent a PM to you.

 

 

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(@lillymay77)

Posted : 11/10/2010 8:12 pm

Actually, an apology goes something like "I'm sorry."

 

What you wrote was an excuse to your behaviour, but you were in no way telling her that you apologized for your behaviour, just explained WHY you behaved that way. Saying "with due respect" means that you are going to be saying something that the other person might be offended by, but trying to say it a little more politely. So... I don't understand how that qualifies as an apology.

 

 

You are saying that her help is not benefiting you and you no longer require it... you are basically saying "I don't like you, so I don't want your help", because as far as I can see, Wynne offered peaceful aid to your situation, and you simply bitched at her for not telling you want you wanted to hear, or so it appears.

 

I have to say, your attitude throughout the entire thread is quite sour.

 

By the way, not all doctors and derms are going to say that the same thing is at work. In the ER and ICU, all the doctors said I had septic shock. Yet my respiratory specialist said that it was in no say septic shock because they did not culture bacteria, yet I got better on antibiotics. You are stressing out over something SO tiny, at least you aren't diseased or without legs.

 

I bet if you were to place 20 strangers in a room with a picture of your supposed "deformity" and someone was to ask them if they saw anything strange with your picture, no one would mention this.

 

 

Just my own opinion... and I'm expecting some backlash from this, which won't surprise me.

 

Also, it's unlikely it's cancerous. If it were, the derms you saw would have mentioned that, and would have wanted to run tests. Are you poking at it? Trying to pop it? Oozing it normal when something is healing, and the more you prod at something, the longer it will take to heal and the more it will ooze.

 

Seriously, 99% of the users here would kill for your skin. I think you need to take a step back, see how much you are overreacting, and just LISTEN to what some of these users are telling you because they are just trying to help you and give you advice. It's extremely unfair to basically blame them for not saying what you were wanting to hear or having opinions that differ from yours.

 

 

Hi Ashley Nicole, apparently my last post was edited. I was just relaying the pain I was going through dealing with this issue. I appreciate your words, I really do, but if you were to see me in person, you would understand. I can't see eye to eye with anything regarding my affliction. I have just decided to just deal with this and move on. I can't change the past, I just have to accept the fact, that I look different and just get over it. I know it will take time, and yes my reflection will still make me sad. But it is what it is. I will forever mourn the girl I use to be. And learn to live in this new really messed up shell. Its gonna be way harder, but there is nothing more I can do.

 

 

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Posted : 11/10/2010 8:47 pm

Demona, if what you're saying about how you're feeling is true, then you seriously need to seek therapy or counseling. If you won't do it for yourself, do it for your son. It must be very hard on him to see his mother like this.

 

I've edited a few posts in this thread, and sent a PM to you.

 

 

Hey c'est la vigne, much of what I was saying was true. I have shielded my son from my behavior, but he is fully aware of the distress this bump is causing me. I asked him what the first thing he noticed about me before and he said my white beautiful smile, now he says all he notices is my nose. He even mentioned to me my scar seems more 3d. lol I have to laugh through all these tears or I will seriously lose whats left of my mind. I do go to therapy, and it really doesn't help.

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Posted : 11/10/2010 9:02 pm

As I said, you are overreacting. Have you seen some of the pictures on here? As Wynne siad, it's not a competition as to who has better/worse skin, but you have to realize that your skin (or at least what you've shown thus far) is in impeccable shape and is in no way categorized as acne, just a possible blemish! That being said, emotional distraught over skin issues are entirely acceptable regardless of the severity. So someone with 5 pimples is allowed to feel as depressed as someone with 30. But what I, and I think others, are trying to get you to realize is that you are blowing your emotions out of proportion. I don't think that blowing off friends and throwing your life away over one spot that doesn't seem to want to go away is wise. It's likely making your view of the situation worse; if you were to surround yourself with great friends, positive influences, and happy surroundings, you would not feel nearly as overwhelmed by the situation. Trust me! I have a bunch of small zits on my chin, clogged pores all over my face (which are healing,thankfully), red scars, oily skin, splotchy skin, etc. My skin is nowhere near as bad as many users here, but it's the worst it's been in years, yet when I'm around a few good friends, even just talking to them online (and even talking to people online here), I don't think about my skin as much. I think that the best thing for your emotional health right now would be to get acclimated back into your normal life. Invite a good friend over, or talk to them online if you aren't ready for face-to-face situations. Enroll back in school, perhaps fewer classes if possible, or take this time to get a part-time job and work a few shifts a week to get used to being around people again. You will notice that no one will care about the spot on your face, and everyone will be courteous to you. People are kind to me even though my skin is significantly worse than yours, and I'm on campus daily and around hundreds of strangers daily. Being able to confront that type of situation is actually very beneficial and might actually help your spot more so than mopping around will.

 

I'm sorry, but yes you ARE overreacting. I have some spots on my face that have been here for over a month, scars that are from a year ago, clogs from a few months ago, etc etc. Yet I'm not getting drunk, dropping out of uni, smoking, doing drugs, or any of that. A lot of the people here with severe acne aren't even doing that. I mean, it's like turning to substances because you got a really bad hair cut.

 

 

You know why guys don't look at you? Because of how you are acting, not because of your skin. My skin is worse than yours, yet there are two guys I see on a regular basis whom I think are interested in me. I dress nicely, I do my makeup (usually, just eye makeup), I take pride in my appearance, and I act normally. Yet they still seem interested, even with my oily, broken-out skin. In fact, one of them I believe liked me when I was overweight, before my acne got worse, and still seems to like me now that I've traded the weight for bad skin.

 

How can you face the world? How about wearing some concealer on the ONE "imperfection". There are women who have benign LARGE moles on their faces and are completely confident in their appearance.

 

 

moderator edit then I think Wynne was underestimating how much you are in need of psychiatric help. Otherwise, it's possible you are trolling. And if that's the case, then I am quite.... well, embarrassed. You joined this message board based on this one bump, all your posts have been about it... I don't think anyone here can help you, as it's unlikely you are actually going to accept help unless someone came on and said "OMG YOUR SKIN IS HORRIBLE, I CAN SEE WHY YOU ARE SO UPSET" and basically indulged in your self-pity.

 

Sorry to be harsh, but has to be said.

 

 

picture of me, and yes i am deformed.

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(@lillymay77)

Posted : 11/10/2010 10:48 pm

Hi everyone. I was wondering if I can use a laser on an active pimple to reduce the brown color of it, or do I have to wait until its not active anymore. I wanted to get laser done tomorrow on my dark pimple, but its still active. Please advise.

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(@ashala)

Posted : 11/10/2010 10:53 pm

* This is an edit. Mrs. Grape doesn't live here anymore.

Cya, the Org.

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Posted : 11/10/2010 11:06 pm

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Seriously?

 

 

Honestly, there is no point in you posting here, because you will not listen to anyone when we tell you there is nothing wrong with your goddamn face. Jesus Christ, it's seriously like trying to drill something into an inattentive child at this point.

 

You do not have acne. I mean hell, it took me a good minute to actually remember where your "acne" was.

 

 

As I said, overreacting.

 

 

Ashley Nicole, I have been suffering from acne since I was 23. Severe acne nodules, all over my forehead, ( I have the scars to prove it) and every four months or so my entire nose swells up to double its size, don't even know what the hell that is? My acne isn't all over, its in spots and when it happens the pimple are cystic, deep hard and the size of a quarter. Please don't tell me I am overreacting, please when I get a zit I don't get a normal small zit, I get the big ones. My skin woes, are severe. My face may seem clear, because I have no active pimples right now, except for the thing on my nose. I even had fraxel laser hoping it would take away my scars on my forehead and cheek scar. My battle with acne is severe. Please don't downplay my skin woes. tnx

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(@ashala)

Posted : 11/10/2010 11:13 pm

* This is an edit. Mrs. Grape doesn't live here anymore.

Cya, the Org.

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