Well, my mom regularly accused me of "destroying my face". Maybe I did pick on it and try a lot of products and methods on it, some harsher than others, but what else are you supposed to do besides sitting and doing nothing about it. And it was all the more difficult as this was someone I had to encounter every day.
To the above poster, I agree that it stings when you overhear others talking about someone with bad skin. Or when they mistakenly do it in your presence...kind of uncomfortable
Just a couple of days ago this little brother of a friend after noticing that this friend and i look alike said:
"Oh you guys look like twins, how will i tell who's who? Oh I know you have pimples and she doesn't."
Imagine how that made me feel...
This friend once looking at a picture of me said:
"Did you edit this picture because I can't see your pimples and marks."
*sniff* *sniff*
I have been there so many times. No one is perfect. try to disregard any negetive people or thoughts that come in through your acne. Breathe in positive energy, breathe out negetive energy. Surround yourself with fun positive people. that includes a dermatologist who is positive and not negetive about your acne. It happens to all sorts of people, I worked with a girl who had a piturity tumor and it made her gain weight in her stomach, everyone kept asking her when her baby was due. Heavy people get the same treatment, so do people with disabilities, deaf people, people who walk with limps, burn victims. My husband went bald at a very early age. People use to make all sorts of terrible comments to him. Maybe that why we got married, because we understood each other and our very compassionate to people with issues. You will grow from these situations, it will only make you stronger.
I think my acne was worst in grade 8 and kids at that time can be particularly cruel. I had a girlfriend and this kid in my class always used to ask me "is she blind? or disfigured?", and it got aggravating after the first couple of weeks (it happened like EVERY day). Some of the stories on here are just awful though... I can't even imagine some of those scenarios, especially from ADULTS, don't they have any perception of how that would make someone feel?
I guess i'm lucky in the sense that people didn't direct too rude of comments to me (at least to my face) after junior high. Sometimes I used to assume that they were secretly thinking it but I guess that was just paranoia. Luckily i'm in university now and I know even if my face was 100 times worse than it really is I think most people would be respectful enough to not point it out.
I had a friend who is very critical of people's appearances and notices everything. Of course my acne did not escape his notice. Week after week, he never failed to comment on the state of my acne.
The worst one I remember was,
'Hey, your acne seems better now. But then again, I wouldn't know for sure because you had so many old ones that new ones just seem to blend in....'
i have so many.
"do you have poison ivy on your face" 8 year old at a summer camp i worked at
"do you have the chicken pox?" another kid from the camp
"how come your acne is so bad on the one side of your face. you look like darth vader" friend
one time i went to my doctor because i needed medication for impetigo i got during wrestling season and i got into a fight with him because claims i never ever did anything to clear up my skin. he said "youve never done anything i can look at your face and tell"
"the only thing you know how to do is rub dirt on your face"
"have you ever tried clearisil"
"have you ever heard of proactiv?"
"do they hurt"
"your face looks really really bad today michael" my mom!
"take the pepperoni off you face"
Yeah. Loads. Especially when you're in a secondary school where all the people who smoke and eat lots of junk food get flawless skin and you have whiteheads all over your visage.
"EEYER what's on your face."
"Moon face."
"Don't come near me or I'll get what you got."
"You are so disgusting no guy would like you."
"Who the heck'll want to kiss you?!"
"Please, get out of my face I can't stand to see your clogged pores."
My best friend (who is a hot guy at that) got dissed because of my face. The girls (who liked him) would all cluster around him and remark, "why would you want to hang around with her? You will also get it! Acne is contagious! How would you kiss her with all her oils on her face?!"
And I absloutely hate those who think that by just plain washing your face you'll get miraclously cleared or something. If it's so easy everyone's face would be clear by now would it.
My mum doesn't usually point out my acne, apparently she 'never notices it'. Which is bollocks. I've been getting bad breakouts recently probably due to using the wrong cleaning products. I get through the door after being in college and she says "I see you've got spots again..."
...No shit!! Like I haven't noticed at all. Naturally she blamed the stuff I was using and she's probably right but when your mum mentions your acne you know it's bad. Now I feel shit. I've also had insults like you guys, the worst being from small kids "What's on his face?". I hope when he grows up and gets it himself he'll think back to the day he questioned it.
A friend of mine whom I was very close with HS had severe, severe cystic acne and the things that people would say to him at first left me stunned and speechless, and then after awhile I started cussing them out for it.
He never cried or even looked upset when they would say these things, which to this day kind of astounds me. I do know that it really hurt him, though. People can be such fuckers.
Ugh, I just wish people would bug off when it comes down to it. If people say things about my skin, I just have no clue how to react.
I think the one that really hurt me was when one of my friends was looking in the mirror and was upset that she had one tiny little zit. Okay, if your lucky enough to have perfect skin, this can seem like a big deal I guess.
I replied with "Well be thankful its only one hon, I've had this lot on my face for years."
To which I got the repsponse of; "Well. Maybe if you WASHED more, you know, that stuff called soap? It works wonders."
I've got a few from family members too, like;
"Oh its like brail! People could read off your face!"
" Your skin is terrible! How can you go out like that!?" Yeah...its always been like that, you just caught me without my trowel of make-up on. -_-
"You remind me of a leper or something."
"You're going on about your skin again? Stop whining! Do something about it for gods sake!"
I love family support. -_-
I think the one that really hurt me was when one of my friends was looking in the mirror and was upset that she had one tiny little zit. Okay, if your lucky enough to have perfect skin, this can seem like a big deal I guess.I replied with "Well be thankful its only one hon, I've had this lot on my face for years."
To which I got the repsponse of; "Well. Maybe if you WASHED more, you know, that stuff called soap? It works wonders."
Fucking.... Wow.
I have no idea how you could have handled that, I really admire your patience and calm temperament. Especially from a FRIEND.
There was a lad who started hanging out with my crew for a little bit who made a cutting remark about my acne that was much less offensive than that and I punched him in the mouth. It was good, none of my mates stepped in or did anything about it when he was whinging and whining. He just stopped hanging around us... I do regret it now, though.
So big ups to you.
Ive had some pretty mean comments thrown at me by women which ive had relations with but it doesnt really get to me. When it comes down to it acne isnt the end of the world and just like everyone else I have certain things going for me that other people coul only dream of. I never react to peoples comments with an insult back because not only is is stooping to there level but it lets them know that they were successful in there objective. Walking away not only leaves them with guilt but also lets them know that they were apparently not as important as they had hoped and their remarks have no bearing on the way I live my life. Let people say what they want because it helps them with there insecurities.
I was once a 10 year old kid and one of my older cousins had acne and i told her
"hey you have lots of pimples, you should try clearasil"
She was cool about it though, she laughed and got her friend over and told me to repeat what i said. Then they both laughed and so did i!
Now i'm older and i have acne...sigh the irony, and kids say that shit to me now
hahaha this thread is hilarious yet depressing as hell.
I had a few moments in 7th grade where I got some mean comments but nothing compared to 8th grade when I broke out in severe acne. I haven't had any since when it cleared up for high school, no one gives a shit about mild acne.
But anyway, in 7th grade here were a few...
Someone said something about his acne then he said "I know someone who has bad acne" then said my name and I didn't really care for some reason.
I was talking to this kid on the bus and he said something to the bus driver like "the kid with pimples"
can't remember the rest, it never bothered me then.
8th grade when i broke out the first day coming back to school this happened all in one day
"what happened?"
"whoa "my name""
"jesus christ"
"whoa! what happened to your face?"
"god damn"
"____ it looks like you have herpes on your face"
end of day "haha ____, what happened?"
i felt like shit and just broke down at home and cried. I then had to deal with basketball and play like that. What a horrible, depressing few months.
but, like I said, haven't had any comments since high school but have heard mean ones to other people.
I think the one that really hurt me was when one of my friends was looking in the mirror and was upset that she had one tiny little zit. Okay, if your lucky enough to have perfect skin, this can seem like a big deal I guess.I replied with "Well be thankful its only one hon, I've had this lot on my face for years."
Wow, that was really rude of her. I was in a store with my friend, she was shopping for sneakers and then she stopped by a mirror to look at herself and she noticed a little red freckle in the middle of her forehead and she started freaking out. I grab her and go, first off you can barely see it, its cause your squeezing it so much right now that its starting to show more. She was literally freaking out about one little acne that was starting to form but it would probably disappear by the end of the day. She's like oh my skin is so pale though. I was thinking please I have more acne then you and my skin is light as well.
Anyways, so meanest thing someone has said about my acne. I love it when people use it to win arguments. All of a sudden, I'd get a remark like well do something about your face. It's like where did that come from? We weren't even talking about the subject of face or anyone's face. My mom gives me a lot of shit about my face but then one day I got pissed and threw my bowl of food at her when she was talking about it and she hasn't commented since. Ever once in a while she'll just be like wtf is with your face. My relatives are always commenting about it too, but seriously what can we do about it, its not like anyone wanted acne. It just happened.
i'm in the emotional mood that if any bloke came up to me and said anything i'd kick the fuck out of them.
the worst anyone's ever said about my face was one of my close friends who also suffered from a bit of acne said "you need to take care of your skin"
just remember, my mate said i looked like a chicken nugget, but to be fair the day before i od'd on benzoyl peroxide and to be fair, i looked a fucking state.
my mate also said "what's up with your face, it's so dry!" - but that's nothing to be honest.
my dad feels slightly obliged to remind me that i have acne ( havent had a breakout for 2 weeks now ), hell stay stuff like popped a pimple yet every morning or im sitting at the couch watching tv and this news about this dead guy comes on hell say he probably saw ur pimple and fainted ... meh not much u can do i just try and stay away from home a bit more than usual
I went over to my step moms apartment for supper without make up...and my step-bro told me I looked ugly. I seriously almost started bawling.
Thanksgiving this year, my bf's cousin was inspecting my face while sitting at the FULL dinner table and accounced that I had "a lot of freckles". I almost died. I excused myself without even finishing my meal and hung out downstairs for the rest of the visit. I was so embarassed.
My dad ALWAYS used to tell me to run hot water as hot as I could possibly handle it, run a cloth under it, then scrub my face raw. Little did he know this was a horrible thing to recommend.
My co-worker also suggested it was my diet and told me not to eat chocolate. Or when customers would suggest things to use/do. The last guy that said something started apologizing profusely after I gave him the dirtiest look ever when he asked if I was seeing a derm.
It really pisses me off when people know absolutely nothing about the truths and myths of acne - or how emotionally damaging the comments can be.
these second graders i taught at VBS (who were cute and awesome) said I had alot of freckles. it made me laugh. til i heard these middle schoolers later saying 'he has freckels! LOL OMG!'. stupids
yah.. i taught 1st-2nd graders (cute and awesome too) in VBS a year ago and the kids kept asking why i had so many blisters on my face and how i got them. Didn't bother me too much cus there just curious, but when the older kids comment on my face...
i hate it when ur talking to somone and then they start looking at ur acne! it's like.. can u ... stop..?
I get this all the time! I'll be talking to someone and then i'll see their eyes glance towards my chin (this is where my acne is bad) and then this reminds me about my acne so I then start feeling all self conscious!