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When I was 16 I woke up one day and my acne didn't look as bad as always. Still pretty bad, but better than it looked in months! It made me feel so happy and I even had the confidence to not bother with make-up for ONCE. And then a friend would comment on how horrible my face looked that day. That day I learned that natural beauty is overrated.
iAm a very agressive person so nobody really said anything about my acne in front of me. (i have mild acne) and...sometimes you got to look mean so people would respect you more iAm serious. one time i was in a restaurant with some friends and i didnAt have any makeup just a little bit to cover some pimples and we were talking about a girl who gets bully everyday and i said in front of everybody and all the people in the restaurant heard what i said, and i said AAif somebody ever makes fun of me because the way i look or anything like that iAm going to kill that person cause i donAt have no remorse at allAA and i start it to look at all of my friends including some other people that i didnAt know they all got a little bit of scare cause i was very serious jajaa it was very funny, since i said that, nobody ever said anything about my acne. i know that violence is not good but if you donAt stand for yourself who else is gonna do it? NOBODY. you canAt let others feel more important and better than you.
I remember when I used to occasionally go home for the weekend. A lot of times the very first thing my mom would say to me was something like "Your face looks bad". Not how am I doin?, how's school?, etc. Then I would get pretty pissed about it and then she would get angry at me for being angry with her. I kind of just once wanted to make some mean comment to her about her being overweight to show her how it feels, but I never did. Another thing that bothered me to, at that point I was really big into weight lifitng and even my friends would say things like "jeez, have you been taking roids or something?", but my mom never once said anything. She has no problem pointing out my flaws but wont even say something nice when I'm working hard to improve myself.
yea dude, dont u just hate all that kissing/hugging stuffs? >_> y do evry1 allways have to do that?its ew already
n if u have acne well duh esp then n for every1 >_> when i was small n couldnt talk against adults, theyd allways make me hug or kiss some relative
gma: right naoww! me: ok! ._.'
Yeah I think the girls reaction/decision was correct (you dont want to do something ---> dont do it). I was probably mad at her mom for not seeing the outcome.
Edit: Thanks for opening my eyes.
i actually didnt mean it from kids perspective, although ur right kid is right too, but kinda from our point of view but i probably wrote it a bit confusing n mixed tho, so u got it in that way @_@' anyhow ur right, its her moms fault, what was she thinking? o__0
I feel really bad for those who have been horribly mocked here. Some people just are absolutely terrible. I've been pretty fortunate, but there are some instances.
First, I was at my dentist appointment, and then my dentist said, "oh! You are turning into a young lady now!" (prodding the three pimples on my cheeks, I have mild/moderate acne. Thank goodness the powder was hiding my red marks! xD) she then went on to follow me out of the examination room, and tell my mom and me about how she totally understood, how she used to have acne, how I should always use a moisturizer, etc. She's a really nice lady, and was just trying to help me, but the thought that was going through my head at the moment was, "um, I don't want to be rude, but aren't you my dentist, not my dermatologist?"
It's also kinda hard being the sibling with acne. My older sister is two years older than me, and has pretty much no acne. People always get us mixed up, so I was randomly listing off differences, saying, "........and my hair's longer, I've got bangs, she's taller than me....." then my sister broke in, saying, "......and you have acne...." then, after seeing the mortified look on my face, she quickly said, "just kidding!" However, it was still really annoying, and she said it in front of other people too!
But otherwise, I've been very fortunate and blessed with great friends who don't tease me about my acne at all. They just tell me my skin's fine, and they really mean it.
not really mean but funny sorta
I was waiting outside of a restaurant and a tamale vendor lady asked if i wanted anything and i said no and she then proceeded to tell me about her acne cure in broken English she said to wake up every morning and put my own saliva all over my face wait for it to dry then wash it off and she was going to demonstrate and put her nasty saliva on my face but i backed away oh no but i took all this politely but when she walked away i just laughed so freaking hard i found it hilarious
anyways the meanest thing i would say is being called pizza face a million times
or when the acne conversation comes up with all my acne free friends saying how much they hate acne and cant resist popping their pimples when they do get menstrual acne and i just shy away and stay quiet because whenever that conversation comes up i feel like a spotlight is on me and i cant get away plus those conversations always seem to last forever to me and also it makes me feel less attractive if all my beautiful friends are saying all these things sorta like when a skinny girl says shes fat in-front of a fat girl totally lowers my self esteem
I am the type of person who threatens people.. And happily they would believe me. Hehehe... But there are THOSE type of people who are out spoken and yell, of all the things yell!!
"Did u just had measles?"
Im thinkin,' *#%#+* you! Then ill say, no.
Have you tried putting on ice?
That your advice.?!? Dumb.
What happened to your face? Have you tried.... (After a long conversation) ..... Oh its genetics.
I should add all these different people are married with kids. Like 35-40 age range. And all WOMEN. I never expected women would be much harsh on their own gender.
I'm quite fortunate in that I've never actually had anyone comment on my acne unless I've brought it up first, and then usually I get yelled at for being down on myself. I think the strangest reaction I've had was when I told somebody that I have it (I've only ever had makeup on around them) and they just didn't say anything. It's not that they stopped talking to me or anything, they just didn't comment. Other than that people either don't notice or are polite enough to pretend not too.
When I was at school it was the usual suspects, zitface, spotty, greaseball and the references to lack of hygiene etc, etc. What bothered me far more was a physical attack that I suffered at school - on one occasion I was physically held down by four or five kids and had my spots squeezed. It left me feeling absolutely repulsive and disgusting and it is only very recently that I have managed to open up and actually tell anyone about the experience.
Getting back to the subject, the meanest things that anyone has ever actually said to me are things that I have said to myself. When my acne was at it`s worst, I would often stare at my reflection in the mirror and tell my reflection out loud that I was repulsive, disgusting, vile, filthy scum. I did this for many years - even on some occasions when I only had one or two spots.
I still have hang-ups but I think that I may finally have come to terms with accepting myself. After all these wasted years I feel that I can move on and actually do someting positive with the rest of my life.
3-4 years ago in high school when they had that ask box thing on MySpace or maybe it was Facebook?
anyway, its this thing where you can ask the person a question either anonymously or not. One day I anonymously received a message saying that I was disgusting, hideous, full of pimples, gross, bla bla. The person even went on to say "how can all these guys even want to have sex with such an ugly girl"
I WAS A FREAKING VIRGIN ALL THROUGH OUT HIGH SCHOOL. Thats what really pissed me off. Someone was claiming they had sex with me? yeah fucking right.
I ended up finding out who the bitch was. Jennifer Gonzalez. She was obese and jealous that I still remained pretty popular with my flaws. I remember right after i found out (through a comment i saw i think) my younger brother saw her on the public bus one day and completely embarrassed her. My brother always had great skin and was extremely known in school so when he did that, it had an effect
I still thank him till this day lol. Just leave us alone.
well, i've had a lot more meaner situations happen then this one, but this one sticks out the most. in highschool, this guy came up to me and said "did you know you have holes in your face" and he started counting all my holes one by one. what a jerkface!! needless to say i started crying lol.
haha if he saw me now, he probably couldn't keep track!
I can't remember anything really cruel, but I remember mostly backhanded comments and things that just royally pissed me off. Most of these happened when I was younger and a little more prone to angry outbursts, lol.
-one man came into my work and and said "You're a good looking young man, you need to get those pimples taken care of. Don't let that get out of hand." He was trying to be nice I guess but it annoyed the shit outta me because he has no idea what I do day and night to treat my skin.
-an old girlfriend and I went out to waffle-house one night, her friend and my friend went along, and halfway through the meal she says to me "I'm gonna let you borrow some of my pore strips...you need them for your nose." I got so infuriated that I dumped her right there in the middle of waffle-house and never spoke to her again.
-there was only once instance that I can remember where someone brought up my skin in high school. I was at the lunch table and this kid started laughing and saying "look at that big red pimple on his cheek"...so I pretty much jumped across the lunch table and started beating the hell out of him, lol. That was one of the only fights that I can remember ever getting into back in high school, and all I can remember about that moment was just this red wave of rage overcoming me. I busted the kid's lip up pretty black and bruised the underside of of his eye....that was in 10th grade, I believe...and after that I can't recall anyone ever saying anything to me about my skin.
The usual "spotty" and "zitface" from younger kids when I was in school. I remember once there was a class activity and some of the people in my group that were the same age were talking about me and calling me "spotty" and laughing, they thought I was just out of earshot but I heard everything.
Once I had a huge cyst on my nose that was angry as hell so one of my friends started calling me "Rudolf"... he's actually a really good friend of mine and I know he didn't mean it to hurt me, it was just banter back then... it still sticks in my mind though.
A guy once said I was as "ugly as Moe Szyslak (the ugly guy from The Simpsons) but even worse with your disgusting skin". Looking back I find it funny how creative he was with that but its the one that sticks in my mind the most, I'll never forget that, it was tough to take at that age.
"What happened?" As they point to a large and painful cyst that has been brewing under your skin for the past week or two...and it almost resembles a raised burn so you consider using an excuse that you burnt yourself with a curling iron to test if they're actually that cruel or that stupid.
"What happened to your face? You need to see a doctor, this is the reason you are not getting a job. Every (fill in the blank of crappy menial service type job which I have unfortunately had to resort to trying to find recently) I have seen is attractive with flawless skin." -My Father
As far as school.. I have no clue because no one ever said anything to me. Just the typical dirty/disgusted looks and talking/giggling behind my back.
I would say the meanest comments have actually come from my parents.
"You should go as a pizza for Halloween. Saves us money on a costume."
"You know what.. you're an oxy moron! Get it? Cause you use those oxy pads."
"I am not going to the mall to do the shopping with you until you get rid of that nasty crap on your face.."
Geeeeee...... thanks mom and dad.......
Sometimes the cysts under my skin get SO BIG they look like bruises, or boils. The men in my life (father, boyfriend, male friends, teachers, whatever) are ALWAYS ASKING if I'm okay. They'll say it looks like I got punched, or that I burned my skin. And then there's this terribly awkward moment where they look to me for an explanation. "It's a pimple...." ".......oh....".
But the hardest is people criticizing how much makeup I wear to cover the hyperpigmentation and current acne. I used to feel beautiful without it....now I feel like I have to cake it on to be able to lift my head up in public and look people in the eye. I take FOREVER to get ready, because I'm so painfully self-concious of how I look, I'm afraid to walk out my front door. They don't understand. They think it's vanity. They say "well maybe if you wore less makeup your skin would be happier"... but the acne preceded the heavy makeup. The makeup didn't cause the acne, the acne caused the makeup!!
We all have terrible stories.
It's how you deal with them, emotionally.
To be honest, don't believe that parents say something like that because they love you, or because they want you to succeed in life. If they did truly love you, they wouldn't place such conditions. Conditions that say "I love you, ONLY if you become that, ONLY if you do that, otherwise I'll get mad and not accept you"
They only love you, if you meet their expectations, which is pointless. It's their life that they have to deal with, their suffering. But you, you don't have to suffer from that.
.. my advice.
