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Here is a comment I received on my blog today:
"why are we supposed to take all these beauty tips & recipes when you have such horrible diseased skin & protruding fleshy cysts everywhere??? maybe try not having the skin of a right-whale before dictating what anyone should do, acne monster elephant woman"
^ This is the exact type of bullying that leads people with skin problems (or any other physical abnormality) to suicide, body dysmorphic disorder and feelings of not wanting to leave the house.
I hope I did the right thing by not responding to the comment and deleting it immediately.
And for the record, if anyone who posted that happened to come from this site, I just want to say that my blog is about the pursuit of beauty and health as a woman, including the pursuit of clear skin. I've been quite open on my blog about my battle not only for the health of my skin but for my emotional health and well-being as well. Never did I claim to be an expert on beauty or clear skin, if I was, I probably wouldn't write blogs documenting my pursuit of these things.
That said, leaving a comment like that on the blog of a girl who has openly shared her struggles with low-self esteem and a distorted self image is just fucking cruel. I think whoever did that should be ashamed of themselves.
So yeah...I'm not feeling great about my acne today, but I am feeling like a good person...which is more than I can say for some....
I wouldn't take comments like that personal. It's probably a little kid who's a victim of bullying himself. "acne monster elephant woman," What an eloquent wordsmanship!
Here is a comment I received on my blog today:
"why are we supposed to take all these beauty tips & recipes when you have such horrible diseased skin & protruding fleshy cysts everywhere??? maybe try not having the skin of a right-whale before dictating what anyone should do, acne monster elephant woman"
^ This is the exact type of bullying that leads people with skin problems (or any other physical abnormality) to suicide, body dysmorphic disorder and feelings of not wanting to leave the house.
I hope I did the right thing by not responding to the comment and deleting it immediately.
And for the record, if anyone who posted that happened to come from this site, I just want to say that my blog is about the pursuit of beauty and health as a woman, including the pursuit of clear skin. I've been quite open on my blog about my battle not only for the health of my skin but for my emotional health and well-being as well. Never did I claim to be an expert on beauty or clear skin, if I was, I probably wouldn't write blogs documenting my pursuit of these things.
That said, leaving a comment like that on the blog of a girl who has openly shared her struggles with low-self esteem and a distorted self image is just fucking cruel. I think whoever did that should be ashamed of themselves.
So yeah...I'm not feeling great about my acne today, but I am feeling like a good person...which is more than I can say for some....
I find this type of thing absolutely despicable. Bullying (both verbally and physically) is one of the main reasons that I have so many hang-ups about my skin even to this day.
Dejaclairvoyant, you are very brave to post both on this website and on your blog your trials, tribulations and emotional ups and downs in the pursuit of clear skin. Most people admire you for your courage, empathise with your struggles and find the advice that you offer very helpful. The pathetic keyboard warrior who tried to belittle that must be a truly sad and shallow individual - whoever they are, you are worth a million of them!
As for me - sod`s law, I`ve got a cyst developing around my left sideburn area and a couple of spots by the sides of my nose. Don`t know for certain but I have been having a cappuccino every day for the past few days so may be down to this. I`ve got my works `Xmas meal tomorrow so the challenge of eating out is gonna be even harder. However, right now I don`t care if having a full `Xmas meal does break me out - I cannot go through life denying myself just because I may or may not develop a few spots. Determined to enjoy tomorrow come what may!
I feel so alone!!! I know I'm not in this alone but it's just how I feel. I have a cystic pimple on the side of my left cheak and it HURTS!!! I cdnt smile or eat for the fear of it cracking open and bleeding. This Is the worst. Yesterday I went to the mall withy hubby an I really didn't want Togo but he wanted me to go with him. I was so nervous because I didn't want people staring. While there i noticed so many people with acne some was worse then me. It didn't seem to really bother them at least not in public. Looking at them i felt there struggle and realized that I am not the only person going through this even though it feels like I am most of the time. Once this clears up I will be happy again but for now I'm just sad.
I went out on Saturday, meeting my ex's new friends (we're making a go of things again). I have a few problems still in certain social situations so I was fairly nervous but I tried to be nice - I even bought one of the girls some flowers to say thankyou to her and her boyfriend for taking my ex in when he was having some trouble. Well, you all know that I'm clear now - just a few clogged pores. This is because of BP.
Unfortunatley it was really hot in one of his friend's houses where we met up and my face went bright red. I know this because one of his friends very loudly pointed it out; in his words 'God, you look like you had an accident on a sunbed!'. This was the same guy (The girl's boyfriend) that I bought the flowers for. Then her grandma called me a 'big girl' (as in giant) then they all wondered why I started crying and said I was weird for doing so. My ex - well, my boyfriend now - didn't know what to do. He got his friends to apologize and they all seemed genuine enough. It was the first time I'd gone to a night out without makeup on in about a year.
The girl herself had pretty severe acne and scarring everywhere, so I would have thought she'd be sympathetic to my situation. Unfortunatley it seemed that it had made her incredibly insecure and so she was wary of me all night and giving me 'those' looks - most of the women here will know the ones that I mean.
It sounds petty, but only my boyfriend said I looked nice all night. Never mind my hair which had taken an hour, never mind my beautiful new dress or my new figure from training so hard. All anybody cared about was that my face went red because I have the choice between that or acne and scarring. Even though I understand my own worth nowadays and that there's so much more to life than appearance I guess I was hoping for a 'you're looking well' from at least our mutual friends.
I went out on Saturday, meeting my ex's new friends (we're making a go of things again). I have a few problems still in certain social situations so I was fairly nervous but I tried to be nice - I even bought one of the girls some flowers to say thankyou to her and her boyfriend for taking my ex in when he was having some trouble. Well, you all know that I'm clear now - just a few clogged pores. This is because of BP.
Unfortunatley it was really hot in one of his friend's houses where we met up and my face went bright red. I know this because one of his friends very loudly pointed it out; in his words 'God, you look like you had an accident on a sunbed!'. This was the same guy (The girl's boyfriend) that I bought the flowers for. Then her grandma called me a 'big girl' (as in giant) then they all wondered why I started crying and said I was weird for doing so. My ex - well, my boyfriend now - didn't know what to do. He got his friends to apologize and they all seemed genuine enough. It was the first time I'd gone to a night out without makeup on in about a year.
The girl herself had pretty severe acne and scarring everywhere, so I would have thought she'd be sympathetic to my situation. Unfortunatley it seemed that it had made her incredibly insecure and so she was wary of me all night and giving me 'those' looks - most of the women here will know the ones that I mean.
It sounds petty, but only my boyfriend said I looked nice all night. Never mind my hair which had taken an hour, never mind my beautiful new dress or my new figure from training so hard. All anybody cared about was that my face went red because I have the choice between that or acne and scarring. Even though I understand my own worth nowadays and that there's so much more to life than appearance I guess I was hoping for a 'you're looking well' from at least our mutual friends.
Ugh. I'm so sorry you had such a horrible night. I think a lot of people are generally insensitive, especially about physical stuff like skin. It depends on the type of crowd, as different groups of friends are obviously different in how they treat each other. I used to hang out with a group of people who sound a lot like the people you were around on Saturday. None of them took much of anything seriously and the entire "bonding force" (not sure what else to call it) between the group was that they all enjoyed making fun of each other. I realize that for some people, this is some weird fucked up way of showing love, but sometimes they could be really mean. I ended up moving on from that group of people and the friends that I have now would never view it as appropriate to yell out about someone's face being red. I try to surround myself with people who have a higher level of sensitivity than that, but they can be hard to find.
I also totally relate to the feeling of getting all cute and pretty-looking and having no one comment on it. Unfortunately, most people don't even notice how others look. I always try to compliment people every time I have the thought that they look cute or I like something they are wearing, but so many people don't. I doubt they could ever imagine how much it can mean.
Even though it was hard, you should be proud that you put yourself in a situation outside your comfort zone. I think everyone here is aware of just how hard that is.
<3
Thanks dude. I know what you mean - I try to have only positive people in my life also; but obviously I can't chose his friends, and he wanted them to meet me. I have to confess I think I'll only be hanging out with his old friends frequently because I get on with them much better than the new ones.
Update: Not feeling great today, but I'm alive. I broke down crying in the shower this morning having all sorts of guilty feelings about my eating disorder stuff. I finally am admitting that I definitely have orthorexia. I went and read some more about it and was just like yeah...that's 100 percent ME. I am getting a book called "Health Food Junkies" very soon. It sounds like was written for me. They even have a section devoted to food allergies and the fear of them/imagining them and stuff like that.
I'm still a mess but I'm eating well and although my acne hasn't improved, I feel better mentally since adding fruit, honey and chicken back into my diet. When I eliminated all the fruit--that was the moment I really began scaring myself. All I was eating was lettuce and small servings of protein and greens. I was starting to feel guilty about drinking water for God's sake, thinking that it was diluting my digestive enzymes and killing me. If you fear water, something is seriously wrong.
I've added all this stuff back in and my skin is the same. So even though I'm depressed about my skin, at least maybe I can look forward to more foods in the future. I'm even adding dairy back in--something I NEVER thought I would do. I had a spoonful of goat milk kefir yesterday and two spoonfuls today. No bad reaction. 
Hang in there deja, i just looked up orthorexia and it seems like something that would be easy to slip into, but tough to pull out of. During my most obsessive health kick, i wasn't eating near enough calories, and i think it really affected my mentality. Now i make sure to eat plenty of food, but good food. I've too been testing adding back organic yoghurt to my diet, and it's been roughly a week now and i've actually seen an improvement in skin tone. I still keep it balanced with everything else i eat. I might have to update my signature soon
And Spotthedifference, i was reading your story a couple posts ago and...wow. These are people that live here on this planet with us? That's very alarming, and i'd like to ask them if they are for real. Maybe it was only a dream...
Hi All,
I'm new to the forum. Don't feel great today. I've been suffering from acne for years and want to believe that one day i'll be acne free. I'm going away for a week on friday and i'm feeling depressed about it which my hubby don't get why. We're going to new caledonia which means it's gonna be beach every day and i know the place is really beautiful but i can't help it but feel stressed about it. How am i going to be hide my pimples while snorkelling? my make up is not gonna last on my face. I've been crying every second day and almost wish that it will be the end of the world on the 21st. That sounds pretty ridiculous i know. What do you do to cheer yourself up? can we be happy when we suffer from acne?
Hi All,
I'm new to the forum. Don't feel great today. I've been suffering from acne for years and want to believe that one day i'll be acne free. I'm going away for a week on friday and i'm feeling depressed about it which my hubby don't get why. We're going to new caledonia which means it's gonna be beach every day and i know the place is really beautiful but i can't help it but feel stressed about it. How am i going to be hide my pimples while snorkelling? my make up is not gonna last on my face. I've been crying every second day and almost wish that it will be the end of the world on the 21st. That sounds pretty ridiculous i know. What do you do to cheer yourself up? can we be happy when we suffer from acne?
I think you should just not wear makeup during your vacation. The ocean water and sunshine will likely help your skin--don't let makeup get in the way!
I'm jealous. It's cold here and my holiday is probably going to be spent cuddled on the couch watching TV, lol. 
My skin looks pretty good, mostly. EXCEPT this morning I woke up with what looks like a broken blood vessel right in the middle of my cheek. It's not acne, there's nothing raised there and it's a blotchy red area... looks nothing like acne. I went to the sauna yesterday, could that be it? It's so weird and obnoxious. Anyone ever had this?
Feel pretty good today. Apart from one small cyst on the side on my left sideburn, my skin is really clear. Had a full `Xmas dinner on Monday and thought that this might break me out a bit (especially as I had apple and toffee cheesecake with double cream for dessert - something I normally would avoid like the plague). However touch wood nothing has happened which psychologically for me is brilliant as I have a real phobia about certain foods. Got an office party tomorrow and a few things over the `Xmas period which will completely take me out of my comfort zone both in terms of my diet and socially. However, really looking forward to them and trying not to think about possible consequences in January.
I'm feeling okay today. I actually had to clean the house with the terrible red-enhancing lights in the bathroom and surprisingly, my face didn't look that bad. I mean it looked bad, but not OH MY GOD bad, you know? Which in that lighting says a lot. I'm still pretty broken out and in pain due to a huge cyst that has been on the bottom of my chin for ages now. I started to get a new painful breakout on the side of my mouth, too. 
It never fails. As soon as the ones I have are healing, new ones begin to form. It's like I HAVE to be broken out. I don't get it! *screams*
I talked to my boyfriend about my orthorexia issues today and he was really supportive. I shared some secrets that he didn't know about and it's so good to tell him that stuff and have him understand completely and accept me.
Wishing everyone a happy 12-21-12 tomorrow! Enjoy life and smile.
Haha i can't wait to get the internet fixed in my house so i can get to this site via computer and not just my phone - things don't seem
too different on my phone from what it used to be - apart from the home page
Skin wise... I don't know - I've been avoiding mirrors today 
I don't like it! Every web site I'm on keeps changing things. Why do they have to do that? Why fix what isn't broken? I hate that SO MUCH! /end rant
I agree...I hate change. I like familiarity in my websites! This will take some getting used to...
My skin is not terrible, and it's not the best either. Couple of large pimples, some may just fade away quick and not get too big, and others are kinda noticeable.