Have you seen him bothered by your acne in any way?

Im married and go thru the same things w/ my wife. Although she always says she doesnt see anything, or its not that bad, im still very self conscious around her, and ev1 else. Im also on a boatload of meds for depression/anxiety/BDD all related to my skin. I wish I had some advice to get you thru this, but just wanted to let you know you're not the only 1 out there going thru it. Good luck

Things are hard for you right now , I hear that. I'm assuming that your boyfriend is with you regardless of how you or others may see your skin. If so he obviously finds you attractive and thinks a lot more of you than you do yourself..That being the main problem. I got real low a while back about my skin , my life etc and it ruined a good relationship that I was in. Cause of my low self esteem and the way that I see my skin I did not see myself as being worthy enough to be someone's friend , someone's lover or much else really.

So I went and seen a shrink and had some counselling ( probably one of the best things that I ever done in my life and I would highly recommend it. ) and she told me -" To be secure enough within a relationship I had to first be secure within myself ". That means learning to love yourself. Still not there yet but I have made some progress , its tuff but in my opinion learning to love yourself is the right way to becoming comfortable enough with the idea that people might just love you for you , regardless of your skin or how you feel about yourself. Keep talking to your boyfriend about how you feel , consider seeing a counsellor about how you feel and start telling yourself that you are amazing every now and then. I hope my experience helps and that you start to feel better about things soon and as the gentleman above rightly said , your not alone in how you feel. Keep your head up

I've been there. It seems that people without skin problems don't seem to really notice our acne or scarring as much as we do. Which can be good, but also not so great because they have a hard time understanding why we let it get to us so much.

If you like reading at all, "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne helped me a lot. It inspires you to think positively and not to dwell on the negatives. It's worth a try. It helped to reduce my stress level and seemed to lower inflammation.

Thanks for your replies, guys. It makes me feel less alone in this.

My boyfriend doesn't seem to mind that I have acne especially as he can relate because he has psoriasis quite bad (although not on his face), so the main problem is how I feel about him seeing my skin looking so bad. I really can't get my head around it! I know he loves me regardless but I just feel so damn self conscious! By the way I'm already seeing a counsellor weekly...

Thanks again to all of you for replying. All the best xxx

Thanks for your replies, guys. It makes me feel less alone in this.

My boyfriend doesn't seem to mind that I have acne especially as he can relate because he has psoriasis quite bad (although not on his face), so the main problem is how I feel about him seeing my skin looking so bad. I really can't get my head around it! I know he loves me regardless but I just feel so damn self conscious! By the way I'm already seeing a counsellor weekly...

Thanks again to all of you for replying. All the best xxx

There was a time i had nodular acne all over my face. I couldn't sleep from the pain. At that time i was living temporarely with him so there was no hiding. No need to say how i felt.. but this was the time i remember him more compassionate than ever, he tried to make me laugh. And he succeeded. As you can see, many of us feel the same as you do.. perhaps he is afraid himself about psoriasis (it has emotional effects like acne)! You are not alone.. Think of it as the depression trying hard to keep you sad, to make you break up so it can exist. You can be happy with someone who loves you and can relate to acne. Don't let depression take this away from you. Besides he knew about your acne.. he loves you and when you love someone you look beyond skin conditions. Don't be afraid to live!

Thanks. Acne really makes positivity so hard! And just so you know I didn't have any acne when we met! I've known him for nearly 10 years (as friends). He is also compassionate and makes me laugh. Did your relationship survive? X

Yep, I'd say I'm most insecure around my boyfriend than anyone else when it comes to my acne. I find myself constantly asking him to look at my acne and see how bad it looks.... I have no clue why. I try to take my makeup off once the lights are out at night but then there is no hiding in the morning. I think I'm particularly bad with my boyfriend because when I met him 2.5 years ago my skin was 100% clear and now I don't look the same. I wish I could help you but I don't know how to get past this one either. x

Thanks. Acne really makes positivity so hard! And just so you know I didn't have any acne when we met! I've known him for nearly 10 years (as friends). He is also compassionate and makes me laugh. Did your relationship survive? X

We are together for 8 years I always had acne and he actually said he finds this cute. I believe that he is either lying or crazy Well now he knows you have acne and doesn't care so there is no need to worry! Don't exclude the possibility of finding something that works.. or perhaps your body finding balance again after your weight loss. Whatever happens, remember this.. we can be sure only for this life and it won't last forever (i am sorry if this sounds pessimistic).. we have to try our best to make the most of each moment. Difficult when you have acne and depression i know. But we shouldn't let them dominate our perhaps only life, it's a pity..

Thanks. Acne really makes positivity so hard! And just so you know I didn't have any acne when we met! I've known him for nearly 10 years (as friends). He is also compassionate and makes me laugh. Did your relationship survive? X

We are together for 8 years I always had acne and he actually said he finds this cute. I believe that he is either lying or crazy Well now he knows you have acne and doesn't care so there is no need to worry! Don't exclude the possibility of finding something that works.. or perhaps your body finding balance again after your weight loss. Whatever happens, remember this.. we can be sure only for this life and it won't last forever (i am sorry if this sounds pessimistic).. we have to try our best to make the most of each moment. Difficult when you have acne and depression i know. But we shouldn't let them dominate our perhaps only life, it's a pity..

Y'know what? I have a friend who, at University, had quite bad acne on her cheeks (small inflamed bumps all over) and, I know it sounds strange, but I thought it looked quite cute. I only had very mild flare-ups at the time and I guess my outlook was different. (Side note: her face is totally clear now.)

I'm most insecure about my acne when I'm around my boyfriend, but he tells me it's not a big deal, it's not as bad as I think it is and that everyone gets spots sometimes. People spend most of the time thinking about their own perceived flaws to dwell too much on yours. I bet your boyfriend thinks you're gorgeous inside and out.