These kind of posts keep me away from trying something big, but seeing all testimonies are bad I guess I'm not missing much. Even Infini which was supposed to be a great machine is a POS because apparentely it gives you fat loss. All the same

I think you are right though, endless journey, it's better to accept and live with (sigh)

Yes, sadly you are 100% right. The bigger problem is, what if we can't find acceptance? We are in for a lifetime of sadness and misery. A diminished quality of life. Why should we have to settle for this? It just isn't fair.

what also makes it frustrating is that people who don't have skin issues are extremely ignorant when it comes to permanent scarring. Almost everyone i know told me that idbe fine, my scarwould be any easy fix,that "they can fix anything these days". But when I started to research treatments and realized that it is actually impossible to fix a scar and almost impossible to significantly improve one, my friends and family accused me of being pessimistic and told me that I need to be more hopeful, that scars just keep getting better with time. Another horrible misconception. Very dismissive. Even my primary care physician told me that my scar will continue to get better and "blend into my face" after many years. Another frustrating misconception. A doctor told me this! And a physican assistant told me to use mederma! Seriously? These people are trained medical professionals and don't even understand basic wound healing and scar tissue.People with no skin issues are so ignorant. And they have no clue about the mental pain and suffering. No one gets it until it's on their face. Period.

Also, I wonder how many other people on this forum lead sad reclusive lives. My scarred face just puts a huge damper on everything I do, sort of like a dark storm cloud constantly hanging over me and I find it much easier just to stay at home alone. Is this a common?

1 hour ago, scarredandsad34 said:

Also, I wonder how many other people on this forum lead sad reclusive lives. My scarred face just puts a huge damper on everything I do, sort of like a dark storm cloud constantly hanging over me and I find it much easier just to stay at home alone. Is this a common?

your "scarred" face? you have ONE scar. I wonder how you would react had you gotten acne since the age of 13, and really wonder how you would react if you had actual acne scarring on your face. yeah sure, your scar is obvious (to you) and you are entitled to be upset over it, but do you ever think about people who have actual facial deformities? Look I don't want to start an argument, I respect how we all feel, but come on. atleast you were happy with your flawless skin for 32 years, most of us here have suffered since puberty.

20 minutes ago, Scarface65567 said:

1 hour ago, scarredandsad34 said:

Also, I wonder how many other people on this forum lead sad reclusive lives. My scarred face just puts a huge damper on everything I do, sort of like a dark storm cloud constantly hanging over me and I find it much easier just to stay at home alone. Is this a common?

your "scarred" face? you have ONE scar. I wonder how you would react had you gotten acne since the age of 13, and really wonder how you would react if you had actual acne scarring on your face. yeah sure, your scar is obvious (to you) and you are entitled to be upset over it, but do you ever think about people who have actual facial deformities? Look I don't want to start an argument, I respect how we all feel, but come on. atleast you were happy with your flawless skin for 32 years, most of us here have suffered since puberty.

So you think that just because I have one large scar in the middle of my face I don't have a scarred face? Sorry, but I disagree, because by definition my face is scarred!

and disfigurement is disfigurement, regardless of age. I was trying to date and find someone to get married to/have kids before I got too old. Now, my self esteem is ruined and I no longer feel comfortable even socializing, yet alone dating! I'm an old single maid. Being my age, female, and scarred is a curse and you will never understand this. My eggs are rotting and it's almost too late for me.

You say you don't want to start an argument with me, yet that is exactly what you do. I'm in pain, ok, just like you are. Why is anyone else's pain (other than your own's) not valid?

Scarface, here's some food for thought.

Have you ever looked at other people with "flawless" skin and felt so different that you simply don't belong between them? Has it ever made you feel so extremely insecure to a point where you'd avoid looking other people in the eyes? Have you ever had social anxiety because of this? Have you ever been told that your scars are no big deal and you're being over dramatic, even though the important thing is not what THEY SEE, is how YOU FEEL? Yeah, being misunderstood sucks.

We don't hate our scars; we hate the way they make us feel. That is something most of us have in common. Show some empathy, dude.

how do you think I feel paula? I even told my girlfriend when we went on a double date I don't feel like I belong there because I'm different. I hate seeing people with flawless skin because they truly don't know how good they have it. to live a normal life. my point was SAS is a bit exaggerated, but she does have her own right to feel the way she does. all I'm saying is, what can we do? nothing. we are all screwed. sitting and talking about it on here doesn't do anything . and scarredandsad, I will never understand this? I have acne scarring spread throughout my face, unlike you. YOU don't understand what it feels like . I am amazed at how CP has given me multiple warnings but yet scarredandsad is able to post here no problem, although she does nothing but make me want to punch her and her one scar in the face

On July 1, 2016 at 4:25 PM, Scarface65567 said:

how do you think I feel paula? I even told my girlfriend when we went on a double date I don't feel like I belong there because I'm different. I hate seeing people with flawless skin because they truly don't know how good they have it. to live a normal life. my point was SAS is a bit exaggerated, but she does have her own right to feel the way she does. all I'm saying is, what can we do? nothing. we are all screwed. sitting and talking about it on here doesn't do anything . and scarredandsad, I will never understand this? I have acne scarring spread throughout my face, unlike you. YOU don't understand what it feels like . I am amazed at how CP has given me multiple warnings but yet scarredandsad is able to post here no problem, although she does nothing but make me want to punch her and her one scar in the face

I said that you will never understand how it feels to be a 34 year old scarred woman with my clock fastly ticking too devastated and self conscious to date because of the stigma of a large facial scar in the middle of my face. Meanwhile, you post on this forum that you can't take it anymore, that you are ending it and "goodbye", but in reality you are going on double dates with a girlfriend/friends. Unless you are now posting from heaven....

Dude, Wtf?? I wish I could send your postings to your girlfriend and expose you for who you really are.

And you know what else? My face was neveractually flawless. No, I didn't have acne, but I have a deep scar in the corner of my eye that I've had since achild, but this has never bothered me. Again probably much worse of a scar than anything on your face. I also have a chicken pox scar on my nose and fucked up scars on my earlobes that from stretched out ear piercings. But this stuff is all very minor. That's how I know that my forehead scar is severe and noticeable.

47 minutes ago, Scarface65567 said:

how do you think I feel paula? I even told my girlfriend when we went on a double date I don't feel like I belong there because I'm different. I hate seeing people with flawless skin because they truly don't know how good they have it. to live a normal life. my point was SAS is a bit exaggerated, but she does have her own right to feel the way she does. all I'm saying is, what can we do? nothing. we are all screwed. sitting and talking about it on here doesn't do anything . and scarredandsad, I will never understand this? I have acne scarring spread throughout my face, unlike you. YOU don't understand what it feels like . I am amazed at how CP has given me multiple warnings but yet scarredandsad is able to post here no problem, although she does nothing but make me want to punch her and her one scar in the face

Well Scarface, I get it. I really do. But think about this, Scarredandsad probably understands the way you feel way better than all those people with "flawless" skin you're hanging out with. That alone should make you reconsider punching "her and her one scar in the face". It'd be nice if you apologized for saying that, but that's none of my business.
You seem to be so frustrated and mad at these people who don't have the scars that you do, but seriously you're doing yourself no favours with this anger. I'm sure people with flawless skin have their own problems that we may or may not understand.
I am not exactly optimistic when it comes to improving my scars either, but one point of this forum is to give each other a little more hope. It makes me so sad when people give up.

I don't get it, man. We're on the verge of the freaking Singularity and people still have to suffer from being scarred? WTF. Can't we all just get into bio chemistry or bio engineering or something and fix this shit once and for all? Christ.

And... Scarredandsad, you really don't have to explain yourself, it's not like there is a minimum number of scars we must have in order to join this forum, is there?! I totally understand how you feel. Scarface is just redirecting his weird anger at you.

SAS34, sorry in advance if this isn't helpful, not a possibility for you or too personal...

Have you considered getting bangs or side bangs to completely hide your scar? I know it still sucks knowing it's there and it wouldn't take away the pain but maybe this could help with feeling comfortable and normal at work. Like a disguise you put on so that you can continue focusing on your career goals and maintaining an income/being self sufficient. Maybe thisdoesn't need to stop you from enjoying and pursuing your work life since it is possible tocover your scar with bangs?

I'm wondering if by being able todothe above this could increase your options. If having kids is really importantto you, you could then afford to look into a sperm donor or adoption. This would take away the pressure of having to find the "perfect" person for you. You would just need to find the right sperm donor. Maybe without this pressure you could eventually find other people you just like being around. There's other flawed people out there who get it maybe it'sjust hard finding them.

It's not the perfect life that we all envision and hope forbut maybe it'spossible to build something different out of thedisaster that hasbecome our livesthat gives us some form of purpose, reason for sticking around maybe even a little happiness.

If I could onlyhave a fewpieces of my life instead of all the piecesI think I would still choose those few pieces versus the alternative of no life. If that makes any sense...

17 minutes ago, Ommmmmm said:

SAS34, sorry in advance if this isn't helpful, not a possibility for you or too personal...

Have you ever considered getting bangs or side bangs to completely hide your scar? I know it still sucks knowing it's there and it wouldn't take away the pain but maybe this could help with feeling comfortable and normal at work. Like a disguise you put on so that you can continue focusing on your career/career goals and maintaining an income/being self sufficient. Maybe thisdoesn't need to stop you from enjoying and pursuing your work life since it is possible tocover your scar with bangs?

I'm wondering if by being able todothe above this could increase your options. If having kids is really importantto you, you could then afford to look into a sperm donor or adoption. This would take away the pressure of having to find the "perfect" person for you. You would just need to find the right sperm donor. Maybe without this pressure you could eventually find other people you just like being around. There's other flawed people out there who get it maybe it'sjust hard finding them.

It's not the perfect life that we all envision and hope forbut maybe it'spossible to build something different out of thedisaster that hasbecome our livesthat gives us some form of purpose, reason for sticking around maybe even a little happiness.

If I could onlyhave a fewpieces of my life instead of all the piecesI think I would still choose those few pieces versus the alternative of no life. If that makes any sense...

Thank you for the advice. I already do hide my forehead with my hair. Sadly, I have to hide my entire eye too, unless I get bangs. I have thick wavy hair, so bangs don't work well. And I can't walk around confortably outside with any wind. This isn't a good solution unless I'm sitting still indoors. It's very distressing. But I appreciate your kind suggestion.

i mostly work from home anyway. It's my social life that has taken the hit and is now nonexistent.

On 7/2/2016 at 4:43 AM, scarredandsad34 said:

Being my age, female, and scarred is a curse and you will never understand this.

LOL.

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1. Your pathetic little scar is gone after 5 seconds with makeup. No girls leave the house without it anyway in 2016:

?15

2. Any female (even if she looks like dogshit) can get companionship whenever she wants or sex at the snap of a finger.

You females have life on easy-mode. I am disgusted of your complaining. If you lived just one day as your male-equivalent you would buy a pistol, put the tip to your mouth and pull the trigger.

Never ever post again.

On 7/4/2016 at 5:55 AM, ChildhoodDreams said:

LOL.

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1. Your pathetic little scar is gone after 5 seconds with makeup. No girls leave the house without it anyway in 2016:

?15

2. Any female (even if she looks like dogshit) can get companionship whenever she wants or sex at the snap of a finger.

You females have life on easy-mode. I am disgusted of your complaining. If you lived just one day as your male-equivalent you would buy a pistol, put the tip to your mouth and pull the trigger.

Never ever post again.

You are so ignorant. You think makeup can cover a deep divot deformity? Think again. Makeup makes it look worse! If makeup worked that well, then why the fuck would I be so devastated? In fact, why the fuck don't you try makeup if it's THAT easy to cover a scar? The only thing makeup helps is with color. It does not hide deep indentations. In fact, it actually accentuates lumpy disfigured scar tissue even worse.

plus it is typicallymuch more socially acceptable for a manto have a battle scar than a woman. Even though I would arguethink men are equally as distraught over facial scarring as women are.

look, I get that you are miserable. We all are, or else we wouldn't be wasting our lives posting on this stupid forum and would be out living them instead. But don't take your chauvinistic ways out on me or any other woman here. NEVER EVER POST THAT SHIT AGAIN!

1 hour ago, scarredandsad34 said:

You are so ignorant. You think makeup can cover a deep divot deformity? Think again. Makeup makes it look worse! If makeup worked that well, then why the fuck would I be so devastated? In fact, why the fuck don't you try makeup if it's THAT easy to cover a scar? The only thing makeup helps is with color. It does not hide deep indentations. In fact, it actually accentuates lumpy disfigured scar tissue even worse.

plus it is typicallymuch more socially acceptable for a manto have a battle scar than a woman. Even though I would arguethink men are equally as distraught over facial scarring as women are.

look, I get that you are miserable. We all are, or else we wouldn't be wasting our lives posting on this stupid forum and would be out living them instead. But don't take your chauvinistic ways out on me or any other woman here. NEVER EVER POST THAT SHIT AGAIN!

hop off, you sit here all day and cry about your dent on your forehead. wahh wahh ihave a scar from trauma wahh. I could only imagine if you were scarred from acne all over your face. you are 34 and single because you have no self confidence, you are vain and all about image. not because of your scar. keep sitting at home crying about your dent as life passes you by, I mean it is the best solution after all isn't it.

6 hours ago, Scarface65567 said:

7 hours ago, scarredandsad34 said:

 

You are so ignorant. You think makeup can cover a deep divot deformity? Think again. Makeup makes it look worse! If makeup worked that well, then why the fuck would I be so devastated? In fact, why the fuck don't you try makeup if it's THAT easy to cover a scar? The only thing makeup helps is with color. It does not hide deep indentations. In fact, it actually accentuates lumpy disfigured scar tissue even worse.

plus it is typically much more socially acceptable for a man to have a battle scar than a woman. Even though I would argue think men are equally as distraught over facial scarring as women are.

look, I get that you are miserable. We all are, or else we wouldn't be wasting our lives posting on this stupid forum and would be out living them instead. But don't take your chauvinistic ways out on me or any other woman here. NEVER EVER POST THAT SHIT AGAIN!

hop off, you sit here all day and cry about your dent on your forehead. wahh wahh ihave a scar from trauma wahh. I could only imagine if you were scarred from acne all over your face. you are 34 and single because you have no self confidence, you are vain and all about image. not because of your scar. keep sitting at home crying about your dent as life passes you by, I mean it is the best solution after all isn't it.

I don't even have to refute this. You are a cruel person with a horrible personality. Your posts below speak for themselves....

Wow, this forum got a bit cruel since the last time I visited.

No, you can't do much about scarring with makeup. It does make it look worse. When I had severe acne I cared but I can admit as a woman it didn't phase me as much as it would a man. I could use cosmetics and it was socially acceptable. Scarring? Nope. Doesn't work. Look at the woman above. She has active acne, bumps and redness mostly with a couple shallow scars. You can still see the fucking shallow scars in the after pic, so imagine having severe scarring. It won't help you. I feel like this is all a useless battle of who has it worse.

I think our mental state will determine how well we handle the issue, because obviously it deteriorates our mental health. It's not entirely about how many scars you have or how severe it is, it's about your ability to cope and your confidence/mental health. There are people here with bad scarring and positive attitudes. I'm not one of those people, I had avoidant personality disorder before this ordeal because of childhood abuse and this shit made it worse. I would never insult someone with minor scarring and severe coping issues, even if I have it worse. They might have body dysmorphic disorder. You can have a minor disfigurement and have the disorder, it doesn't have to be entirely imagined. If others believe you're blowing it out of proportion and it's destroying your life then seeking counseling could help. I'm sorry for the way you've been spoken to here scarredandsad. We're all struggling here, no use in anyone lashing out on others struggling.

On 7/4/2016 at 5:55 AM, ChildhoodDreams said:

LOL.

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1. Your pathetic little scar is gone after 5 seconds with makeup. No girls leave the house without it anyway in 2016:

?15

2. Any female (even if she looks like dogshit) can get companionship whenever she wants or sex at the snap of a finger.

You females have life on easy-mode. I am disgusted of your complaining. If you lived just one day as your male-equivalent you would buy a pistol, put the tip to your mouth and pull the trigger.

Never ever post again.

wow you need to stfu, you come across as an utter insensitive ASS.