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I can't image how bad your scars are but I can relate a little bit! I have acne too and sometimes I have really bad breakouts. It's make me feel awful... Even worst my boyfriend broke up with me because of my acne. 
he's now falling for a girl who has beautiful flawless complextion! I didn't atemp to kill myself but I got depressed and I cut my wrist constantly! I cry myself to sleep at night and I don't even care of anyone see my acne! I got angry at almost anyone even my mom... I feel really bad about myself. I feel you bro...
If it is causing you this much distress, your GP should be able to fast track your dermatology referral. Also, please talk to your GP about your suicidal thoughts. They will do everything they can to help you and they won't judge at all. When I was going through it they would see me whenever I needed and made sure the medications were working. It'll get better.
I had no acne and no scars in my face, but on different places on my body from other reasons.
Yes, i feel suicidal and i'll probably do it earlier or later. The thought of suicide always scared me, but as time passes it gets a more and more pleasant imagination. I'm 24 now and my scar problem robbed me all the last years. I dont know how it feels to be happy anymore. I still scare death a lot and i dont know how to overcome this, but i hope i'll find a way soon to lose my fear from death and let go.
r u kidding me? if you have no scars on your face your officially free from the hell that others live in. scars on body is completley different from the face. you can cover your scars with clothing look yourself in the mirror and go about your day, those with facial scars get reminded everytime they look in the mirror of the deformity they carry. i wish my scars were on my body n not my face my life would of been totally different for the better !
I would gladly trade my body scars your your little holes on your cheeks. I wasnt at a swimming pool or beach in 5 years. I dont know if i can even swim anymore, lol.
Don't compare what you are dealing with to what other people are dealing with. Different things affect people in different ways.
Just a bit of a quick update. I'm being referred to a dermatologist when I go to have my blood taken in a fortnight, so I'm cautiously optimistic at the moment. I've started taking small steps towards where I want to be again, and I've seen friends a few times and met some new people.
Since I started this thread I've looked at changing my behaviours and triggers for getting so down... I don't obsess with staring into the mirror all day and try not to think about it so much... Worrying won't change anything after all. I'm keeping myself as busy as possible too.
In the coming months I'm gonna get myself back out there again and just try to live the life I had before. I miss my friends, my social life, education, and overall just feeling like a valuable person. Yeah, I'm really insecure and maybe always will be, but if people don't want to know me because of a physical flaw, they're hardly the type of person I want in my life anyway. I still have my really bad days yeah, but I'm trying to fight away this perfectionist part of me, and just accept things as they are. Instead of focusing all my energy on torturing myself over scarring, I'm going to become the best version of myself that I possibly can be.
Big thanks to everyone who left any sort of supportive feedback or just let me know that I wasn't alone in this thing. It really means a lot more than you know. I'm gonna update this thread every so often just to share my progress as well hopefully!
If I'm strong enough to tackle this thing, then anyone is.
Just a bit of a quick update. I'm being referred to a dermatologist when I go to have my blood taken in a fortnight, so I'm cautiously optimistic at the moment. I've started taking small steps towards where I want to be again, and I've seen friends a few times and met some new people.
Since I started this thread I've looked at changing my behaviours and triggers for getting so down... I don't obsess with staring into the mirror all day and try not to think about it so much... Worrying won't change anything after all. I'm keeping myself as busy as possible too.
In the coming months I'm gonna get myself back out there again and just try to live the life I had before. I miss my friends, my social life, education, and overall just feeling like a valuable person. Yeah, I'm really insecure and maybe always will be, but if people don't want to know me because of a physical flaw, they're hardly the type of person I want in my life anyway. I still have my really bad days yeah, but I'm trying to fight away this perfectionist part of me, and just accept things as they are. Instead of focusing all my energy on torturing myself over scarring, I'm going to become the best version of myself that I possibly can be.
Big thanks to everyone who left any sort of supportive feedback or just let me know that I wasn't alone in this thing. It really means a lot more than you know. I'm gonna update this thread every so often just to share my progress as well hopefully!
If I'm strong enough to tackle this thing, then anyone is.
I've always thought of that as the only way to lift this burden a little off my shoulder I'm also willing to occupy life with friends and society again it's not gonna be easy though but it's doable.
I don't think I'm ever gonna be able to forget how crappy and bitter my life has been for the past 8 years but I'm sure that by getting involved again in social activities will help a ton, On a scale from 1 to 10 how unmeaningful my life is right now I would say 8.5 and I think by getting social again I can lower it to about 2/3 or even extinguish my anxiety gradually. Not sure what the side effects are gonna be though seeing and having conversations with normal people face to face again actually this is what made me worried and prevented me from doing it long ago.
I'm not ready for someone to point out my acne and scars again or even remotely mention anything that might hurt my feelings so will just make preparations and hope for the best however I'm already traumatized and not sure how I'm gonna react if someone acts strange or inconsiderate around me.
i feel the same. scars in the face is the worst thing ever.
when i go to the university and talk to people i pretend like everything is ok even though its a big lie and my life is shit. once i actually dropped the act while walking around some place thinking bout my shitty life and had this very sad face but i didnt cry or anything.. some stranger actually passed by and asked me 'whats wrong?', i told them some lame exuse i dont even remember like 'im late to class'. and they were like 'really? because of that?' and i was like 'yeah..gotta run...'.
nobody understand whats its like, and if there are a few (like u) that do, they are just as miserable as me and in no position to help me or any1 else in anything.
acne scars.. worst thing ever and it happened to me.
i think about suicide alot but here its hard to get a gun, unlike in the us. i actually thought of going to the us and buy a gun there and do the deed.
I agree except for the part where you don't believe that other people who understand your sufferance because they are facing the same pain can't help you, Actually it's the only logical thing that can help you knowing that out there throughout our vast globe a couple of miles away from you or even overseas there are other human beings that are having the same ideas that crosses your mind synchronously.
I'm well aware that we can't help each other when it's physical related but seriously the only thing that makes it kinda tolerable at least for me is knowing that I'm not the only one out there who can't accept the foul reality that I'm obligated to keep on living looking like that and scarred for life because of a condition I've no control over.
knowing that there r others with similar burden doesnt help me man. all i want is my skin to get better, having other people with bad skin doesnt help me or them =/.
mazgan, i feel for u mahn ive beenshitty over the last couple of weeks i haven't really gone out thanks to tca cross, I got shitty acne scars on my cheeks and temples some are very deep and in the sun look v bad, people stare at me a lot when i walk, in my mind im like, ffs so over this and want to murder somebody and always walk around pissed half the time.
its annoying how good looking i woulda been had this sht acne scars not came, i woulda banged 100s of women, trying to keep my shitt hopes up because thinking bout suside nearly everyday is driving my insance everyday just about at night time, like even if i had lots of money i wouldn't be able to enjoy it thanks to this sht, im 23 ive fell under major depresstion since 2012 and my life has been literally drained
yeah man, just like u..i feel like i could be the king of the world by now if i didnt have this horrible skin that has caused me so much pain and so many problems... it just robbed me of everything. i never stood a chance.
i feel the same. scars in the face is the worst thing ever.
when i go to the university and talk to people i pretend like everything is ok even though its a big lie and my life is shit. once i actually dropped the act while walking around some place thinking bout my shitty life and had this very sad face but i didnt cry or anything.. some stranger actually passed by and asked me 'whats wrong?', i told them some lame exuse i dont even remember like 'im late to class'. and they were like 'really? because of that?' and i was like 'yeah..gotta run...'.
nobody understand whats its like, and if there are a few (like u) that do, they are just as miserable as me and in no position to help me or any1 else in anything.
acne scars.. worst thing ever and it happened to me.
i think about suicide alot but here its hard to get a gun, unlike in the us. i actually thought of going to the us and buy a gun there and do the deed.
I agree except for the part where you don't believe that other people who understand your sufferance because they are facing the same pain can't help you, Actually it's the only logical thing that can help you knowing that out there throughout our vast globe a couple of miles away from you or even overseas there are other human beings that are having the same ideas that crosses your mind synchronously.
I'm well aware that we can't help each other when it's physical related but seriously the only thing that makes it kinda tolerable at least for me is knowing that I'm not the only one out there who can't accept the foul reality that I'm obligated to keep on living looking like that and scarred for life because of a condition I've no control over.
knowing that there r others with similar burden doesnt help me man. all i want is my skin to get better, having other people with bad skin doesnt help me or them =/.
>mazgan, i feel for u mahn ive beenshitty over the last couple of weeks i haven't really gone out thanks to tca cross, I got shitty acne scars on my cheeks and temples some are very deep and in the sun look v bad, people stare at me a lot when i walk, in my mind im like, ffs so over this and want to murder somebody and always walk around pissed half the time.
its annoying how good looking i woulda been had this sht acne scars not came, i woulda banged 100s of women, trying to keep my shitt hopes up because thinking bout suside nearly everyday is driving my insance everyday just about at night time, like even if i had lots of money i wouldn't be able to enjoy it thanks to this sht, im 23 ive fell under major depresstion since 2012 and my life has been literally drained
yeah man, just like u..i feel like i could be the king of the world by now if i didnt have this horrible skin that has caused me so much pain and so many problems... it just robbed me of everything. i never stood a chance.
That's what I keep convincing myself with in order to keep on living, Acne didn't just ruin or demolish how fantastic my life could have been it utterly ended it and I did talk to a psychiatrist but he hasn't been able to help me whatsoever, I know for a fact that the pain would be so much greater if I was suffering alone because of any certain condition not just acne, At least for me it diminishes my sorrow for a little bit I admit that doesn't help much it just puts my messed up mental state on hold for a couple of minutes.
I had no acne and no scars in my face, but on different places on my body from other reasons.
Yes, i feel suicidal and i'll probably do it earlier or later. The thought of suicide always scared me, but as time passes it gets a more and more pleasant imagination. I'm 24 now and my scar problem robbed me all the last years. I dont know how it feels to be happy anymore. I still scare death a lot and i dont know how to overcome this, but i hope i'll find a way soon to lose my fear from death and let go.
r u kidding me? if you have no scars on your face your officially free from the hell that others live in. scars on body is completley different from the face. you can cover your scars with clothing look yourself in the mirror and go about your day, those with facial scars get reminded everytime they look in the mirror of the deformity they carry. i wish my scars were on my body n not my face my life would of been totally different for the better !
I would gladly trade my body scars your your little holes on your cheeks. I wasnt at a swimming pool or beach in 5 years. I dont know if i can even swim anymore, lol.
Don't compare what you are dealing with to what other people are dealing with. Different things affect people in different ways.
You kidding me mate? I wrote what my problem is and he out of nothing claimed that my problem isnt as serious as his/yours.
I had no acne and no scars in my face, but on different places on my body from other reasons.
Yes, i feel suicidal and i'll probably do it earlier or later. The thought of suicide always scared me, but as time passes it gets a more and more pleasant imagination. I'm 24 now and my scar problem robbed me all the last years. I dont know how it feels to be happy anymore. I still scare death a lot and i dont know how to overcome this, but i hope i'll find a way soon to lose my fear from death and let go.
r u kidding me? if you have no scars on your face your officially free from the hell that others live in. scars on body is completley different from the face. you can cover your scars with clothing look yourself in the mirror and go about your day, those with facial scars get reminded everytime they look in the mirror of the deformity they carry. i wish my scars were on my body n not my face my life would of been totally different for the better !
I would gladly trade my body scars your your little holes on your cheeks. I wasnt at a swimming pool or beach in 5 years. I dont know if i can even swim anymore, lol.
Don't compare what you are dealing with to what other people are dealing with. Different things affect people in different ways.
You kidding me mate? I wrote what my problem is and he out of nothing claimed that my problem isnt as serious as his/yours.
what are u doing here if ur problem isnt even acne related then?
i completly agree with no_hope. scars on the body isnt even on the same scale as scars on the face. i have scars on my body and i dont even care about them because they are so meaningless compared to those on my face.
also, scars on the body that were instantly caused from some accident that could've been avoided (or even if it was slowly caused) is infinitly better than being slowly scarred from acne (torture) in ur face from the time u start ur teenage years and being powerless in doing anything about it.
I'm not a huge fan of being judgemental but as far as scars are concerned no matter where it's located on the body (except for the face that's a whole different story) I'm sure it varies from a person to another depending on where the scar is, How he got it and its degree of severity.
For instance If I get bitten by a shark and survive I'll be eager to show it to everybody and impress them, On the other hand facial problems or any kind of scars related to diseases have been and always will be embarrassing and depressing. It's quite unrealistic and unjust though comparing severe facial acne scars or injuries to other types of similar conditions in other body parts because this bitter and unbearable sensation of being scarred for life usually generates and derives its characteristics from the stares people give us and how jerks they are sometimes to actually point it out without any kind of considerateness.
Lightening, I went through decades where the only treatment was dermabrasion. Today you have many treatment options that were not available to me. Go on the attack instead of giving up. Research your options, and give it a try. If it doesn't work try another. 3 years since my last Re:pair and there is a woman at work who insists I am getting Botox - I have not yet.
Lightening, I went through decades where the only treatment was dermabrasion. Today you have many treatment options that were not available to me. Go on the attack instead of giving up. Research your options, and give it a try. If it doesn't work try another. 3 years since my last Re:pair and there is a woman at work who insists I am getting Botox - I have not yet.
I'm not too fond of conducting experiments on the face not because I disagree with being persistent to cure what's making us unsatisfied with our looks but mainly because I don't believe that the medical community care that much, I can't deny the existence of treatments that do actually make averagely about 30 to 40% improvement or in some very rare cases more percentage of scar healing success.
However I also can't deny the existence of those who got disgusted with trying new treatments and paying thousands only to worsen their condition and this would be the group in which I currently belong, I suppose it has something to do with the medical community not being competent enough or somehow not categorizing the available treatments based on what kind of skin type they do make noticeable effect. I can assure you it's not about trying as much methods as you can until you find something that actually does work. Many people got chemical burns I myself have gotten my scars worsened after a couple sessions of erbium laser.
OKAY. I just went through this entire thread and I am shocked as shit. Here's the deal. I have very severe scarring on my face and I've tried to unsuccessfully for years to get it off my face.Yeah it sucks like all of hell and I can't say it doesn't bother the shit out of me. But SUICIDE? NOT LIVING A HAPPY LIFE? FEELING INSECURE? what the actual FUCK, How you look should in no way have any effect on how you live your day to day to life. If it is there are other issues at play and you should probably see a therapist. My face is fucked up but I'm smart, funny and confident and if people don't want to look past my face then fuck them. However, I rarely feel like people actually give a shit. they have other things to worry about like their own lives than to give two shits that my face is scarred. I have a hot girlfriend who hasnt brought up my scarring once since weve been going out and iv had hot girlfriends in the past who didnt give a shit. HOW SHOULD THE WAY YOU LOOK HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE?? I DONT GET IT. if you say you wont get girls because of it that. that IS BULLSHIT girls care about confidence that is ALL and for you girls out there...guys DO care about looks but if that look is scarred but the girl is happy and confident well forget about it.
YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE DON'T WASTE YOUR SHORT TIME WORRYING ABOUT YOUR FUCKING FACE GO LIVE LIFE.
Khaled91, the alternative to researching treatments, and finding what is best for you is to accept your condition. I could never accept my scars, hence the long list of treatments in my signature. Dermabrasion did nothing, regular CO2 did nothing, because their technology could not go deep enough to do any good. I went to a plastic surgeon as soon as Fraxel Re:store was released and I was scheduled for that until the doctor came back into the room and told me that it wouldn't do any good. He was honest with me so I went back to him for hair transplants a few years later, and he will probably do my facelift soon. Fraxel Re:pair hit the market late in 2007, and I started doing my research. The technology made sense to me, and I was lucky enough to find a doctor within 3 miles of me. I think in 2008 there was only 15 Re:pair lasers in the country. I saw immediate results from Re:pair. What convinced me were non-acne scars on my nose and forhead that almost totally disappeared after the first laser. There have been plenty of Lasers of a Lesser God that have come out, but I still consider Re:Pair to be the Gold Standard.
The real research that is helping us is done for cosmetic treatments. The market for that is huge compared to the acne scar market. Everybody is aging, but only a small percentage have acnes scars of any importance. Follow the money trail.
OKAY. I just went through this entire thread and I am shocked as shit. Here's the deal. I have very severe scarring on my face and I've tried to unsuccessfully for years to get it off my face.Yeah it sucks like all of hell and I can't say it doesn't bother the shit out of me. But SUICIDE? NOT LIVING A HAPPY LIFE? FEELING INSECURE? what the actual FUCK, How you look should in no way have any effect on how you live your day to day to life. If it is there are other issues at play and you should probably see a therapist. My face is fucked up but I'm smart, funny and confident and if people don't want to look past my face then fuck them. However, I rarely feel like people actually give a shit. they have other things to worry about like their own lives than to give two shits that my face is scarred. I have a hot girlfriend who hasnt brought up my scarring once since weve been going out and iv had hot girlfriends in the past who didnt give a shit. HOW SHOULD THE WAY YOU LOOK HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE?? I DONT GET IT. if you say you wont get girls because of it that. that IS BULLSHIT girls care about confidence that is ALL and for you girls out there...guys DO care about looks but if that look is scarred but the girl is happy and confident well forget about it.
YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE DON'T WASTE YOUR SHORT TIME WORRYING ABOUT YOUR FUCKING FACE GO LIVE LIFE.
First of all your positivity is admirable but you shouldn't be shocked the situation varies depending on the person because people differ you know ! Just because you were able to overcome what others couldn't and not give a rat's ass about it doesn't mean that everybody can, Maybe the conditions were met for you to compensate how acne scarred your face with other things maybe by being charming/funny/likable /handsome/confident and any other trait or feature you're blessed with.
Some others are sensitive especially when it's about a problem which is permanent and has no solution to and it's no-brainer that acne demolishes self-confidence/esteem, I know that your intentions are to be helpful and supportive but trying to degrade from how serious this condition affects human lives isn't helping someone like me who let acne take over my life indeliberately, The rejection of people stares and other jerks pointing it out and making fun of how my face is inflammatory because I don't wash it enough is what made me not even add to my options the possibility of living a normal life looking like that.
Khaled91, the alternative to researching treatments, and finding what is best for you is to accept your condition. I could never accept my scars, hence the long list of treatments in my signature. Dermabrasion did nothing, regular CO2 did nothing, because their technology could not go deep enough to do any good. I went to a plastic surgeon as soon as Fraxel Re:store was released and I was scheduled for that until the doctor came back into the room and told me that it wouldn't do any good. He was honest with me so I went back to him for hair transplants a few years later, and he will probably do my facelift soon. Fraxel Re:pair hit the market late in 2007, and I started doing my research. The technology made sense to me, and I was lucky enough to find a doctor within 3 miles of me. I think in 2008 there was only 15 Re:pair lasers in the country. I saw immediate results from Re:pair. What convinced me were non-acne scars on my nose and forhead that almost totally disappeared after the first laser. There have been plenty of Lasers of a Lesser God that have come out, but I still consider Re:Pair to be the Gold Standard.
The real research that is helping us is done for cosmetic treatments. The market for that is huge compared to the acne scar market. Everybody is aging, but only a small percentage have acnes scars of any importance. Follow the money trail.
I think we are on the same page it's just that for some people whether or not they find a way out is completely coincidence dependent, I dunno what else is there for me to try I reached a dead end and not accepting the reality is something I'm doing unconsciously I know that I can't and won't because it scarred me from the inside I still remember people's stares and comments 8 years ago.
OKAY. I just went through this entire thread and I am shocked as shit. Here's the deal. I have very severe scarring on my face and I've tried to unsuccessfully for years to get it off my face.Yeah it sucks like all of hell and I can't say it doesn't bother the shit out of me. But SUICIDE? NOT LIVING A HAPPY LIFE? FEELING INSECURE? what the actual FUCK, How you look should in no way have any effect on how you live your day to day to life. If it is there are other issues at play and you should probably see a therapist. My face is fucked up but I'm smart, funny and confident and if people don't want to look past my face then fuck them. However, I rarely feel like people actually give a shit. they have other things to worry about like their own lives than to give two shits that my face is scarred. I have a hot girlfriend who hasnt brought up my scarring once since weve been going out and iv had hot girlfriends in the past who didnt give a shit. HOW SHOULD THE WAY YOU LOOK HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE?? I DONT GET IT. if you say you wont get girls because of it that. that IS BULLSHIT girls care about confidence that is ALL and for you girls out there...guys DO care about looks but if that look is scarred but the girl is happy and confident well forget about it.
YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE DON'T WASTE YOUR SHORT TIME WORRYING ABOUT YOUR FUCKING FACE GO LIVE LIFE.
First of all your positivity is admirable but you shouldn't be shocked the situation varies depending on the person because people differ you know ! Just because you were able to overcome what others couldn't and not give a rat's ass about it doesn't mean that everybody can, Maybe the conditions were met for you to compensate how acne scarred your face with other things maybe by being charming/funny/likable /handsome/confident and any other trait or feature you're blessed with.
Some others are sensitive especially when it's about a problem which is permanent and has no solution to and it's no-brainer that acne demolishes self-confidence/esteem, I know that your intentions are to be helpful and supportive but trying to degrade from how serious this condition affects human lives isn't helping someone like me who let acne take over my life indeliberately, The rejection of people stares and other jerks pointing it out and making fun of how my face is inflammatory because I don't wash it enough is what made me not even add to my options the possibility of living a normal life looking like that.
I am not trying to degrade the issue...I get it, it obviously really effects people and I do empathize with that. I just want to address something you said. You said maybe my conditions were "met" by my other positive traits. This is true i.e my skin sucks ass but that does not define me as a person as I have tons of other great traits. Note I did not say handsome was one of them because my point was that physical appearance is way overrated and we are our biggest critics..that is a fact. How much time do you spend on other people's imperfections..the answer is probably very little, guess what? most people would answer that too.. everyone else has other things to worry about other than your face. Now back to my point, if you don't believe that your conditions are being "met" to live without letting your scars bother you i.e confidence, social skills, charm etc. than I would work on those things more than your skin. because first 1) everybody needs to be happy with who they are more than what they look like and 2) if your skin problem is not something that can fixed these other things most certainly can be. Life is about rolling with the punches and making it the best experience it can be...we all go through and live with shit. some physical, some emotional but you know what? that was the hand we were dealt so we get up every morning and be happy with who are and live another day to the best of our ability. Something physcial should have minumuim impact on that.
OKAY. I just went through this entire thread and I am shocked as shit. Here's the deal. I have very severe scarring on my face and I've tried to unsuccessfully for years to get it off my face.Yeah it sucks like all of hell and I can't say it doesn't bother the shit out of me. But SUICIDE? NOT LIVING A HAPPY LIFE? FEELING INSECURE? what the actual FUCK, How you look should in no way have any effect on how you live your day to day to life. If it is there are other issues at play and you should probably see a therapist. My face is fucked up but I'm smart, funny and confident and if people don't want to look past my face then fuck them. However, I rarely feel like people actually give a shit. they have other things to worry about like their own lives than to give two shits that my face is scarred. I have a hot girlfriend who hasnt brought up my scarring once since weve been going out and iv had hot girlfriends in the past who didnt give a shit. HOW SHOULD THE WAY YOU LOOK HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE?? I DONT GET IT. if you say you wont get girls because of it that. that IS BULLSHIT girls care about confidence that is ALL and for you girls out there...guys DO care about looks but if that look is scarred but the girl is happy and confident well forget about it.
YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE DON'T WASTE YOUR SHORT TIME WORRYING ABOUT YOUR FUCKING FACE GO LIVE LIFE.
First of all your positivity is admirable but you shouldn't be shocked the situation varies depending on the person because people differ you know ! Just because you were able to overcome what others couldn't and not give a rat's ass about it doesn't mean that everybody can, Maybe the conditions were met for you to compensate how acne scarred your face with other things maybe by being charming/funny/likable /handsome/confident and any other trait or feature you're blessed with.
Some others are sensitive especially when it's about a problem which is permanent and has no solution to and it's no-brainer that acne demolishes self-confidence/esteem, I know that your intentions are to be helpful and supportive but trying to degrade from how serious this condition affects human lives isn't helping someone like me who let acne take over my life indeliberately, The rejection of people stares and other jerks pointing it out and making fun of how my face is inflammatory because I don't wash it enough is what made me not even add to my options the possibility of living a normal life looking like that.
I am not trying to degrade the issue...I get it, it obviously really effects people and I do empathize with that. I just want to address something you said. You said maybe my conditions were "met" by my other positive traits. This is true i.e my skin sucks ass but that does not define me as a person as I have tons of other great traits. Note I did not say handsome was one of them because my point was that physical appearance is way overrated and we are our biggest critics..that is a fact. How much time do you spend on other people's imperfections..the answer is probably very little, guess what? most people would answer that too.. everyone else has other things to worry about other than your face. Now back to my point, if you don't believe that your conditions are being "met" to live without letting your scars bother you i.e confidence, social skills, charm etc. than I would work on those things more than your skin. because first 1) everybody needs to be happy with who they are more than what they look like and 2) if your skin problem is not something that can fixed these other things most certainly can be. Life is about rolling with the punches and making it the best experience it can be...we all go through and live with shit. some physical, some emotional but you know what? that was the hand we were dealt so we get up every morning and be happy with who are and live another day to the best of our ability. Something physcial should have minumuim impact on that.
Unfortunately we live in a very shallow and superficial world, morally I agree with everything you've said but what makes the situation helpless is knowing the fact that I neither have the ability to repel those who act unethically and inconsiderately around me nor the strong will not to make a big deal of it, Being over-sensitive is not something I gained over the years but born with not to mention my everlasting sufferance of obsessive-compulsive disorder. What these illnesses and disorders does to a human being when it all gathers up on him is literally turning him into a misery machine he lives to suffer.
So what I'm trying to say is you've to be well aware of the tiniest details and the bigger picture in order to be able to judge and evaluate a situation, And applying that principle on myself I also don't know what you had to go through in your life so I'm not gonna judge you that it was easy for you or that the conditions were met to compensate for the pain that was hasty and unconsidered of me.
OKAY. I just went through this entire thread and I am shocked as shit. Here's the deal. I have very severe scarring on my face and I've tried to unsuccessfully for years to get it off my face.Yeah it sucks like all of hell and I can't say it doesn't bother the shit out of me. But SUICIDE? NOT LIVING A HAPPY LIFE? FEELING INSECURE? what the actual FUCK, How you look should in no way have any effect on how you live your day to day to life. If it is there are other issues at play and you should probably see a therapist. My face is fucked up but I'm smart, funny and confident and if people don't want to look past my face then fuck them. However, I rarely feel like people actually give a shit. they have other things to worry about like their own lives than to give two shits that my face is scarred. I have a hot girlfriend who hasnt brought up my scarring once since weve been going out and iv had hot girlfriends in the past who didnt give a shit. HOW SHOULD THE WAY YOU LOOK HAVE ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE?? I DONT GET IT. if you say you wont get girls because of it that. that IS BULLSHIT girls care about confidence that is ALL and for you girls out there...guys DO care about looks but if that look is scarred but the girl is happy and confident well forget about it.
YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE DON'T WASTE YOUR SHORT TIME WORRYING ABOUT YOUR FUCKING FACE GO LIVE LIFE.
many of us who suffered (and still suffer) for years form acne and acne scarring just lost thier social life completly. thats one major difference between u and i. u were able to keep ur social life throughout the years with acne and acne scars and i didnt (like others here). not going here into the why thats how things happened, but after years with no social life its so much harder because everyone around u got thier own social circle they've had for years, making it alot more harder for u to befriend them.
also, not going into details about my own personal life, but theres basicly no opportunitys for me to make good friendships, let alone get a nice gf.
i am basicly stuck in a perament shitstorm, with no hope of getting out of it, so why is it shocking if i think about suicide?
its actually shocking if i didnt.
I had severe scars. At 21 I married the prettiest girl in town. We divorced a year later, but ended up married again after I got my 2nd divorce. Society is obsessesed with beauty, hell I am obsessed with beauty. If a person can accept their condition all the more power to them, but I could never do that. I had a beautiful girlfriend who lived with me last year. Heads would just turn when she would go anywhere, but she had mental issues that broke us up. I wouldn't trade my mind for her looks. She is finally getting help, and she still calls me about every 2 weeks begging me to come see her, but I have another girl living with me now who is just as hot. I would actually prefer to be alone for a while as strange as that sounds. It is too easy to put beauty on a pedastal so you have to think of them as every other girl barfing their guts out or sitting on the toilet taking adump. They are only human.
I have read post after post, and I am sorry but if you haven't done multiple Re:pairs at high settings you are just skimming the surface of what lasers can do. Quit listening to doctors who have an investment to recoup and wasting your money on inferior lasers. This an elective procedure so elect the Gold Standard of lasers - Re:pair.
I had severe scars. At 21 I married the prettiest girl in town. We divorced a year later, but ended up married again after I got my 2nd divorce. Society is obsessesed with beauty, hell I am obsessed with beauty. If a person can accept their condition all the more power to them, but I could never do that. I had a beautiful girlfriend who lived with me last year. Heads would just turn when she would go anywhere, but she had mental issues that broke us up. I wouldn't trade my mind for her looks. She is finally getting help, and she still calls me about every 2 weeks begging me to come see her, but I have another girl living with me now who is just as hot. I would actually prefer to be alone for a while as strange as that sounds. It is too easy to put beauty on a pedastal so you have to think of them as every other girl barfing their guts out or sitting on the toilet taking adump. They are only human.
I have read post after post, and I am sorry but if you haven't done multiple Re:pairs at high settings you are just skimming the surface of what lasers can do. Quit listening to doctors who have an investment to recoup and wasting your money on inferior lasers. This an elective procedure so elect the Gold Standard of lasers - Re:pair.
All the cosmetic centers in my country don't have fraxel laser the only available ones are erbium yag and the outdated Co2 so it's not an option for me nevertheless they use extremely low settings because they aren't very technical around here (How pathetic of them), but a little extra research won't harm maybe I've missed something.
However I'm trembling in fear as not to get dragged into this endless cycle of unsuccessful treatments again I much prefer exposing myself to the hideous reality rather than having false hope I'm kind of settled mentally right now, Tormented but stable.
Khaled, what country are you in? Notice that I refer to Re:pair because Fraxel Re:store is useless. Your next best bet is DeepFX, and I was considering that before I found Re:pair so close. Read the thread by Ernestoria. If this doesn't shake a few people up nothing will. This thread should be a sticky for all those who get despondent.
Acne scarring isn't just debilitating appearance wise. Since it's usually the result of chronic severe acne that lasts for years, it ends up serving as a reminder of all that time you were stuck with it. I had cystic acne starting at the age of 11. Yeah, ELEVEN. Also the fact that acne scarring has a strong stigma behind it whereas other facial deformities/scars don't makes it difficult to cope with. Most people still think that pitted scarring is only caused by picking. If my scars were caused by a horrible accident people would probably just feel really bad, but instead people blatantly say things like, "Yeah, that's why you don't pick." If people at least were educated on cystic acne and scarring I think sufferers would be less insecure about it. I'm really glad there are people on here who can still be confident with scarring, but there are others who aren't. And poor confidence isn't something you can magically snap out of it. The only time I was ever happy with my awful skin was when I was on medication for depression/adhd (Ritalin), that extra dopamine made me extremely confident with myself, not something I could have achieved without it.