Pianina

Just gotta echo missamua's thoughts on this. If it doesn't affect you that's great. Really. But for a lot of people it does, and being so condescending doesn't really help anyone does it? From the title of the thread it should be obvious that maybe I just wanted support or some type of connection with someone who'd been through similar experiences.

Facial scarring is something that can take over your life, whether you have a strong character or not. Combine depression into that, and it's a struggle for a lot of people. Maybe you don't understand it, and that's fine, but to just dismiss the fact that people's lives are in ruins and put it down to being 'weak' is something I thought we'd left in the past as a society 50 years ago.

Your thoughts on depression are clearly the thoughts of someone who's never suffered from it, nor understands it, so to say someone suffering depression or any mental illness is just a weak link is just silly. Look at Robin Williams for instance. Rich, famous, loved the world over, achieved things most can only dream of, yet still took his own life. There were millions of people far worse off in the world. Would you consider him a 'weak link'?

 

I've steered from the topic, and I don't mean to have a go, but people who stigmatize mental illness the way you do are a massive part of the problem, and it's the people suffering who bear the brunt of your ignorance.

I was battling borderline personality disorder, depression and self-harming at the age of 17-21, along with cystic acne until age 24. But as dark as the world can look at that moment, somewhere in my mind I kept a voice telling me that there is light in a tunnel and it's really not worth taking more serious measures like ending my life. That is what I would tell other people nurturing some suicidal thoughts - however bad is it right now, there are no reasons important enough to commit suicide, just like you seek for support in a forum (which means you're conscious about the problem), look for ways to help yourself. It can really get better, at least the depression part!

"I was battling borderline personality disorder, depression and self-harming at the age of 17-21, along with cystic acne until age 24. But as dark as the world can look at that moment, somewhere in my mind I kept a voice telling me that there is light in a tunnel and it's really not worth taking more serious measures like ending my life. That is what I would tell other people nurturing some suicidal thoughts - however bad is it right now, there are no reasons important enough to commit suicide, just like you seek for support in a forum (which means you're conscious about the problem), look for ways to help yourself. It can really get better, at least the depression part! "

Ohhh. I'm sorry if I sounded harsh, and I'm sorry you've suffered. Didn't mean to have a go, but I just thought you were coming from a different place with things you'd said. But for what it's worth, next week I'm having my blood taken by my GP, then finally getting my referral to a dermatologist. I'm trying to stay positive as much as possible, and keep away from mirror checking all day every day

I've wrote this on another thread but coming from a guy who has went through several scar revision treatments and experienced the rough patches of being a person with low self esteem because of my acne scars, I found the older I got the less I simply cared about my scars and just got on with life.

I've thought here recently about going ahead and doing a couple more rounds of Silicone microdroplet but even if I don't it's not that big of a deal.

The way you perceive yourself and the way you look at the world at 22 will likely be different than the way you do at 32 or 42.

For me it just took time for those emotional scars to start healing before I could really start to feel good about myself.

just think of it this way....we have all the odds against us ...so we have to work harder ... people who are good looking have no idea how easy there life is

just think of it this way....we have all the odds against us ...so we have to work harder ... people who are good looking have no idea how easy there life is

but then you realize we live in america + we have scar treatments and countless billions live in poverty. who's life is easier now?

id rather be poor and good looking anyday ...i've been poor and ugly ...when i was younger and poor i had better luck bc i was better lookin lol

death is the one goal we don't have the right to make ....i think death will be glorious but we have to wait until they call us home )

Severe depression is a cause of acne. And some depressed people never are able to push through and be persistent in getting the help they need, or to educate themselves about why? It's demoralizing , humiliating, costly- if you can't work, the burden to help you is on others. Asking for help is also made difficult to impossible by mental illness.

Suicide happens when suffering exceeds one's ability to cope. And every individual's threshold is different .

And most if us don't feel like broadcasting the severity of our suffering is productive in reaching our goals here, to the person who wonders why "everyone seems so calm/casual." We all need to vent , there's a whole subforum for it. But we're here to learn and take action. That's positive!

there is no such thing as suicide...it was there destiny

u might not believe in destiny but things will happen every day that you have no control over ...if u don't believe me look at your past

 

"I was battling borderline personality disorder, depression and self-harming at the age of 17-21, along with cystic acne until age 24. But as dark as the world can look at that moment, somewhere in my mind I kept a voice telling me that there is light in a tunnel and it's really not worth taking more serious measures like ending my life. That is what I would tell other people nurturing some suicidal thoughts - however bad is it right now, there are no reasons important enough to commit suicide, just like you seek for support in a forum (which means you're conscious about the problem), look for ways to help yourself. It can really get better, at least the depression part! "

Ohhh. I'm sorry if I sounded harsh, and I'm sorry you've suffered. Didn't mean to have a go, but I just thought you were coming from a different place with things you'd said. But for what it's worth, next week I'm having my blood taken by my GP, then finally getting my referral to a dermatologist. I'm trying to stay positive as much as possible, and keep away from mirror checking all day every day

That's great! I really hope you will find a way out and not checking mirrors is good to keep yourself from obsessing with the scars. Myself I always avoid the mirrors in the public bathrooms or my reflection on a smartphone screen, when the sun shines directly to it. That's when it looks really bad, so I just put the phone away, hehe. My friend always laughs at me, cause I have a very weak light on while I'm in the bathroom or sometimes I don't take it on at all. Just choose to not see my flaw!

u might not believe in destiny but things will happen every day that you have no control over ...if u don't believe me look at your past

Destiny is just a justification to make yourself feel better about the outcomes of some things...Nothing more, but a coincidence though...

Of course we are puppets. We are just a bunch of cells created from evolution in a universe of meaninglessnes. We are not more than robots and our consciousness is an illusion that emerges of the combination of the different senses. We just make what is necessary to stay alive, reproduce and stay as happy as possible to not kill ourselves. We are punished by pain when we let something hurt our bodies.

We are IN this world, the world steers us. We dont have "souls" that are beyond the universe that could give us a real free will. Free will is an illusion.

How can anyone even doubt this? How can someone believe there is a "reason" or smth we are here?

its nt preprogrammed bt the way it goes is like linear? bt it just goes in absolutely whatever direction it seems, absolutely meaningless, aimless, flawed af nd wht baffles me the most is tht ppl hv sense of aesthetics tht theyre too ugly for nd just arent capable to reach..its like our mind hv evolved faster than our bodies? n idk wht the fuk is this shit life for at all...

This is a big feel trip guys for all of us, my story is this i was getting hit on girls like crazy i was srs getting annoyed in grade 8 9, 2007 had some acne and i kept poping them ffs i didn't know i wasn't ment to do that then had bad skin few cystc ones, then in 2013 it went down heaps but left heaps of scares of my checks and side of my face did tca cross 2013 and again this once, for some reason i don't think tca cross results are permanent.

This years been the worst for me ive thould have suside nearly everyday, what upsets me the most is i was such a good looking guy and this happen, ive had to put this pos make up to cover dark spots before i go out, i woulda had so much money now i have no will to live

Hold on tight guys. Two years from now there will be a cure for scars. No point committing suicide right now.

Anyone?

For me I just get so down about it I honestly feel the urge to. I know it might seem stupid to an outsider, but it's on my mind all the time lately, and the only thing that's stopped me is that my mum lost her brother to suicide, and the family's still in ruins because of it.... I don't want to hurt the people I love.

 

These scars have robbed me of so much that it just seems like, why bother anymore with a shadow of a life, when I'll always have to live this? I'm 22 years old, but It's like I've been handed a life sentence.

 

I have no social life, no self-esteem...I hate myself for what I am. I barely leave the house anymore because the scarring is so horrible. Day-to-day I obsess and constantly mirror-check for hours a day, and my moods swing all over the place. I'm not much fun to live with and I feel guilty as hell for putting my Mum through it, because she doesn't deserve it. I hate to be a burden to her when she's done everything for me. Most of the time I stay awake all through the night and sleep all day just so I won't have to see anybody, and I'm so isolated I feel as though I could be the only person in the world.

 

I look at the person I used to be, and I just wish I could get back to that, but deep down I know that can never happen. I do try and keep a combative attitude and stay upbeat and positive about the whole thing, but I see my reflection and it's gut-wrenching... It brings me straight back down to feeling like it.

 

I hope I don't come across as attention seeking, melo-dramatic, or just whining or anything like that, but it's just constant you know? I try to explain to people what it's like to live with, but since they've never been through it, they just don't get it, and even if they did, there's nothing they, or anyone else could do. I feel like I've been crying out for help so long that there's nothing left in me anymore. Can anyone relate to this, even remotely?

 

Adam

It's going to sound selfish and ignorant to say because it's evident that there are people who have lived a worser life than us acne sufferer but I seriously wish that the people who hasn't had an experience like what you've described would at least go through a phase like that. It will make the world a much better place. In the long run it will make us better because we have to fight our inner self and the society around us that constantly judge us based on what is beautiful and what isn't. When we constantly have to battle out our insecureties is probably one of the greatest thing that the humans can do. The inner demon that constantly making us depress and not live or the force that makes us make or say stupid things in general is a force that we have to over come, this is the thin line of becoming a kid to an adult. That's just my subjective take but do keep fighting to live another day. I learned to ignore my scars and love them now. You're a fighter, you have to finish strong. Sorry for sounding too cliche but I just had to.

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Hold on tight guys. Two years from now there will be a cure for scars. No point committing suicide right now.

Agree man, my life is so good tho it good be better i got everything materialistic, sports car, 2000$ home threate, and all the toys a grown man needs just need to fix skin 85% 90% and make a lot of money fall in love and buy lots of sports car and thats all the matters in life lol

I think I'm too coward to kill myself however suicidal thoughts definitely cross my mind everyday, I know down inside that I'm utterly disgusted with my life and sometimes I hope to just vanish into thin air or if I had never existed.

If you think about it taking one's life is so simple because of how fragile the human body is but what I'm really worried about is that life sucks so why would the afterlife be any different? It could be as malicious as it is right now or even more horrifying so no one should take the legend of being relieved after death for granted.

oh man...i am just glad to have a good job who cares about women ...they spend your money take everything you got and make you miserable ...be happy with yourself )

yall r rekt!

I've said it before somewhere and will say it again that our world is based on wide variety of distinctive personalities with different traits and abilities, Someone will manage to overcome his depression which is in his case just transitory I even much prefer not to call him depressed but just a little feeling of anxiety like we all do but how he was raised and his surrounding environment and much likely his genes allowed him to cope with his feelings and not letting it grow to the point that it deprives him from enjoying life and functioning as a normal human being.

At the other hand some others like me can't maybe because we are over sensitive and fragile when it comes to reality being ugly and atrocious I've no clue what the reason is that made me not wanting to live anymore but I know something for a fact that I couldn't and will never be able to exterminate the sensation that grows inside me over time that I'm suffering because of acne and scars and how it affected me on a catastrophical level. yeah maybe some day I'll get more comfortable around people again but I know I'm scarred for life seriously when someone looks at me I feel like I'm naked or something and even if a miracle happens I can't just forget how filthy and rotten my life was for the last 6 years !!! And btw I tried every procedure, Medication and natural remedy the world has to offer and paid thousands to only make my skin worse Lol This is just sad I used to get mentally handicapped for long periods of time everyday thinking about it and saying to myself how could you be so stupid and dumb to actually have a hope that your scars will get treated by even 50 percent eventually it all turned out to be a gimmick after all.

Well, That was definitely a rant. Good luck to you all.

i feel the same. scars in the face is the worst thing ever.

when i go to the university and talk to people i pretend like everything is ok even though its a big lie and my life is shit. once i actually dropped the act while walking around some place thinking bout my shitty life and had this very sad face but i didnt cry or anything.. some stranger actually passed by and asked me 'whats wrong?', i told them some lame exuse i dont even remember like 'im late to class'. and they were like 'really? because of that?' and i was like 'yeah..gotta run...'.

nobody understand whats its like, and if there are a few (like u) that do, they are just as miserable as me and in no position to help me or any1 else in anything.

acne scars.. worst thing ever and it happened to me.

i think about suicide alot but here its hard to get a gun, unlike in the us. i actually thought of going to the us and buy a gun there and do the deed.

i feel the same. scars in the face is the worst thing ever.

when i go to the university and talk to people i pretend like everything is ok even though its a big lie and my life is shit. once i actually dropped the act while walking around some place thinking bout my shitty life and had this very sad face but i didnt cry or anything.. some stranger actually passed by and asked me 'whats wrong?', i told them some lame exuse i dont even remember like 'im late to class'. and they were like 'really? because of that?' and i was like 'yeah..gotta run...'.

nobody understand whats its like, and if there are a few (like u) that do, they are just as miserable as me and in no position to help me or any1 else in anything.

acne scars.. worst thing ever and it happened to me.

i think about suicide alot but here its hard to get a gun, unlike in the us. i actually thought of going to the us and buy a gun there and do the deed.

I agree except for the part where you don't believe that other people who understand your sufferance because they are facing the same pain can't help you, Actually it's the only logical thing that can help you knowing that out there throughout our vast globe a couple of miles away from you or even overseas there are other human beings that are having the same ideas that crosses your mind synchronously.

I'm well aware that we can't help each other when it's physical related but seriously the only thing that makes it kinda tolerable at least for me is knowing that I'm not the only one out there who can't accept the foul reality that I'm obligated to keep on living looking like that and scarred for life because of a condition I've no control over.

mazgan, i feel for u mahn ive beenshitty over the last couple of weeks i haven't really gone out thanks to tca cross, I got shitty acne scars on my cheeks and temples some are very deep and in the sun look v bad, people stare at me a lot when i walk, in my mind im like, ffs so over this and want to murder somebody and always walk around pissed half the time.

its annoying how good looking i woulda been had this sht acne scars not came, i woulda banged 100s of women, trying to keep my shitt hopes up because thinking bout suside nearly everyday is driving my insance everyday just about at night time, like even if i had lots of money i wouldn't be able to enjoy it thanks to this sht, im 23 ive fell under major depresstion since 2012 and my life has been literally drained

scars ruined large part from my life by all the meanings !! , but without many words and stories , i believe that 70% / 80 % improvement can be achieved in our time of world , whatever the severity of your acne scars ... suicide will waste all the life , scars just damaged part of it , but you can be happy the rest of your life !! , the real problem now is money !! , it's the real key with knowledge (searching for the best) ,not just in your country but may be around the world to achieve best for you , i live in poor country with poorness type of acne scars treatments and bad quality , but i'm still fighting , i would to steal and doing treatments rather than end my life ..