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My parents won't let me go on accutane

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(@sergioal1944)

Posted : 09/26/2016 8:08 pm

My life currently: moderate to severe acne (mostly hyperpigmentation and scars).
-whiteheads and break outs from time to time.
-spent over $400 on products that don't work
-low self esteem
-lost all my confidence
-struggling in school because of this stupid condition
-rejected by a girl because of my acne, additionally from being a short guy (Imagine being 5"6 with acne and losing confidence because of it, lol pretty hard to attract girls)
-senior year in HS
My parents struggle financially and have no health insurance for me, making accutane ridiculously expensive. My mother refuses to buy insurance and refutes accutane because of one case she saw of the severe side effects hat rarely happen.

After being laughed at by my own mother because I shedder tears in front of her because of my acne, telling her how much it has affected me. She told me, "suck it up, your acting like a girl".

Lost all hope right now. I, unfortunately, truly despise my life. What did I do wrong to deserve this?

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(@umas)

Posted : 09/27/2016 3:09 am

Accutane is powerful and dangerous drug. If your acne is trully severe then it might be a thing to consider, but first I would do changes in lifestyle to try to minimize acne in more natural way. Of course maybe some of those things you are doing already, but I would suggest doing those things even if you would try accutane - I mean accutane not always is 100% helping with acne
- changing pillow cases as often as you can
- not touching your face
- in my case I observed that washing too often is counterproductive. Wash face for example only on morning and evenings(and when you face is dirty of course)
- Dan regimen. BP is really good stuff
- probiotics + cutting down sugars.Health of your gut can effect your skin
- cut down milk.

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(@brokenporecelain)

Posted : 10/22/2016 10:21 pm

You did nothing wrong to deserve this..even if you were generally a "bad" person or a poor excuse for a human being, you still wouldn't deserve this.

My dad poked fun at me also after I was damaged by a retinoid (tazorac) in a freak reaction..he mimicked me as I was trying to explain to him that I have no clue what's going on and I'm scared and "my poor skin" and
he was like "ohhhhh my poor skin my poor skin ohhhhh" in a whiny child's voice..he believes life is about suffering and working yourself to death..but I had/have no one else to talk to about this OR help me so I TRIED.

I hope to some greater power or luck that my skin goes back to normal..because my parents will also just tell me to suck it up if it doesn't...and there is no way in hell Im going to live like this from just using a cream twice..I REFUSE.

Strangely enough tho, I DID go on accutane 4 years ago and I DID have insurance through my parents...my skin was perfect afterwards besides a little scar on my nose that happened 2 years ago (not accutane related).
I also had to fight my parents and even my derm to get on it..and I had to also fight my own bad habits and change my diet and lifestyle to get bloodwork approved...but by god was it worth it.
If only I had left well enough alone..I wouldn't be in the mess
I am now.

do you have a job?
Accutane is about 300 a month if I remember correctly ..I'm sure even a minimum wage job/part time jobcould afford it.

unless your parents also have you pay for Aton of other ****
that would be unfortunate

also, I know we all have our additional insecurities..I am also dealing with another issue that, actually, most people will never experience in their life, will be beyond expensive and risky to fix, and which also caused me to be housebound before this tazorac cream nightmare even happened..

but as for your issue..as afemale I can tell you that I don't consider 5' 6" to be short for a guy..I'm 5'4" and personally I would prefer someone my height or not much taller..but I get it..if I were even relatively tall, I know I would HATE it..being female and all..and having that preference for myself...so I do understand that height is just another thing to add to this hell..
Skin tho..I think it's more important than people think..it's amazing what good skin can do for a person's appearance and also, how bad skin can wreck it.
I just recently found out the latter.
Even when I had acne..my over all skin quality was not the mess that it is now..so this is a fresh hell for me.
And not to mention skin absolutely has an effect on confidence..it's our SKIN after all!! It's all over our face (and body).
We show it to the world and to ourselves in the mirror everyday.
No one should have to be so unhappy with it.
And I can tell you this..even tho my other issue is also appearance related..even with that, significant as it is, I did not see NEARLY as much mention of things like suicide like I do now, while researching and conversing with people dealing with SKIN issues.
I don't know what it is about skin..but when it's not good..people really lose their heads, myself included, you are not alone.
Saw an article yesterday about a girl who killed herself after 6 months of developing rosacea.
I think a member on this site from a long time ago also committed suicide.
And that usually happens when the person sees that there is no way out, no remedy, or that their remedy is being held over their head by some other person or circumstance.
As it is in your case.
I don't know how truly bad your acne/skin is..but it doesn't matter.
I'm sure it's enough to affect you and you deserve to have it taken care of.
You are not a girl for crying over this.
Your mom is a bully for saying so.
I am a girl and literally the ONLY thing I cry for is my own appearance related issues. My mother has actually practically accused me of being a sociopath otherwise!! (I wish!!)
We all have our kryptonite.
I'm sure there are other burdens you could have been handed that you could deal with and your mother couldn't..and vice versa.
But we don't get to pick our poison unfortunately.
I have no plans on having children but if I DID have a son, I would do everything in my power to help him, ESPECIALLY when it comes to this kind of stuff.
Because I understand, I've been through it, I'm still in it now.
Maybe your mom has never dealt with this or maybe she's dealt with things she deems more detrimental..but it doesn't mean that you aren't taking a major hit from this.
So I truly wish you the best, and all the luck to get you to where you need to be.
Maybe you can make your parents see the light.
There has got to be a way for you to get on this drug.

Message me anytime ifyou need to...I hope to see an update soon..maybe it wil be that you are going to get the Accutane
*fingers crossed for you*

your parents can still change their mind

Edit**..also..I know that some people DOhave bad reactions to things when most others don't..I am a prime example..most people will throw my testimony aside as far as the retinoid goes because retin a is supposed to be some miracle cream that can do no harm. But it absolutely did harm me..a cream harmed me and yet the even more controversial drug, accutane,did not.
So I am warning people left and right..I probably wouldn't want anyone close to me to even let this cream so much as grace their line of sight..but I have to realize that for many, at leastaccording to them..it works

so to a degree I understand why your mom wouldntwant you to be ona drug that she has seen someonefirst hand, have a bad experience with..but honestly, I think much of that is a way to avoid or dilute the real reason she doesn't wantyou on it..the only reason..the finances..my dad is the same way..with my other issuehe acts like he is "concerned"aNd then he lets it slip that it's all about the money.
100%
I could be wrong..but it's often the case

I'm afraid that sometimes..money really can buy happiness..or the ingredients necessary..and a lack of it can also take that happiness, and that hope , far and away from us..

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(@hcolumbia)

Posted : 11/01/2016 8:21 pm

Hope you're alright. Acne is quite the bummer, I've been dealing with it since I was 9 and I'm in my sophomore year and it's progressively gotten worse. Accutane is no easy journey but I've just begun. Hang in there. I know a lot of guys in highschool with really bad acne, and I have to say that although it is noticeable, after a while you sort of put blinders on and look past it. I wouldn't say that acne makes any of them ugly or undateable. In highschool almost everyone has acne, and many have bad cystic acne like I do. Rejection hurts, but personally, I wouldn't want to be with someone that only likes me because of my height or skin type. I hope that you can see some improvement in your acne. Have your parents let you try oral antibiotics like doxycycline or Bactrim? It's not nearly as expensive as accutane and has few risks involved. Hyperpigmentation and scars are something I struggle with, too. I have relatively few active cysts but my scars are really noticeable since I'm quite pale. I do not know if accutane will help scars, but I have my fingers crossed.

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