I can mostly deal with the words being said to me, the same old 'do u wash your face properly' but the cold stares will always be the worst and most uncomfortable
"Have you tried washing your face?"
NO. I HAVEN'T. WHAT A REVOLUTIONARY CONCEPT. I CAN'T BELIEVE I DIDN'T THINK ABOUT THIS. GEE. SURELY THIS WILL SOLVE ALL OF MY PROBLEMS.
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"Have you tried washing your face?"
NO. I HAVEN'T. WHAT A REVOLUTIONARY CONCEPT. I CAN'T BELIEVE I DIDN'T THINK ABOUT THIS. GEE. SURELY THIS WILL SOLVE ALL OF MY PROBLEMS.
That's actually hilarious. Funniest thing I've read all day.
I've never been made fun of for acne, but I've made fun of it myself. If someone did, I'd insult them in return. It's terrible that people have to worry about these things. No one should have to worry about ridicule or insults on any day. That's not a good way to live.
"you look so dirty" - a few of my "friends" and I know that some of them don't even wash their faces properly.
"It will go away if you drink enough water" or "It will go away once you're through with the teenage phase" - My parents.... It's ruining my life right now and thats not helping my future ... andd it might not even go away..
"No, you can't buy this face wash (or toner, moisturiser, mask)! you're wasting money, just drink more water and don't stay up late.. trust me!" - my mom..
Not only I have acne (and acne scars) for the past 16 years, I have also scars on my cheeks from a accident when I was a kid.
I didn't get much direct insults but I had a lot of stare down once they realise how badly dmg my skin is. They are not even subtle.
As a teenager, I had things like: *your handsome but then ugly*. Or, *you're good looking from the distance*. it's like, I catch there eyes and 2 sec later I repulse them. Awful feeling. Result, as a adult, I'm a complete mess. I'm done with life.
On 11/14/2015, 2:18:44, Michael001001 said:Not only I have acne (and acne scars) for the past 16 years, I have also scars on my cheeks from a accident when I was a kid.
I didn't get much direct insults but I had a lot of stare down once they realise how badly dmg my skin is. They are not even subtle.
As a teenager, I had things like: *your handsome but then ugly*. Or, *you're good looking from the distance*. it's like, I catch there eyes and 2 sec later I repulse them. Awful feeling. Result, as a adult, I'm a complete mess. I'm done with life.
I've experienced this before. I had a girl checking me out from afar, it was painfully obvious. She then came over with a friend and as soon as they got close her friend blatantly made a "meh" face.
I try to block things out with my skin when in social situations because I've constantly been dreading it for the last 15 years (I'm 30 now). The problem is if I have a pimple in a particular spot and I talk to someone close (especially in bright light) they scratch their face exactly where that pimple is. If my acne is particularly bad or my scars are showing, I've seen people take both their hands and wipe them across their face..as if I wasn't just right there in front of them. Really stings.
When I was young, I was hanging out with a family friends daughter who was my age, and very beautiful. After hanging out in my room and generally being in a really good mood and in a daze due to how in love I was (lol), she all the sudden says to me "I can see your warts".
First off... WARTS!? And... you can see them? Thank you. Much appreciated.
That one stuck with me for awhile and I still think about it.
One time some douche in my Fantasy Baseball league started a thread about my acne, with screenshots of AOL conversations he had between him and random attractive girls at my school, discussing my acne. That hurt really bad.
Reading all the horrible things that people have said to you guys brought a lump to my throat but remember if you are strong it will get better. I started getting severe acne in 6th grade and kids used to call me pizza face and Rudolf the red nose reindeer. But the insults only made me strong and determined and I worked hard to get rid and prevent my acne. When I got to high school after 2 years of hard work my face was clearer than almost everyone I saw and I am having a good time in high school now with a clear face and most of the kids who used to bully me are struggling with acne and burning their skin with those harmful acne medication. So I suggest to all of you to use those insults to make you stronger and fight against acne. Because I have learned that in the end everyone gets at least some acne and you have to be the one that gets the last laugh.
Nothing. Maybe they think something but they don't express it verbally. At most I got some look but nothing else. Vast majority of people were very kind and said it wasn't bad and I shouldn't worry about it.
I'm wondering where you guys live to get such nasty comments....mah
I havent really been told anything mean about it but im self concious with depression so i wear coverup over it. But one time i ran out so iwas like whatever one day of it and myskin dont define me and i felt uncomftorable the whole day and a little girl asked whats on your face and even though she was little it was still embarassing. I dont have bad acne but i pick at it and it looks bad.
On 12/2/2015, 3:03:10, vatsboy said:
I've experienced this before. I had a girl checking me out from afar, it was painfully obvious. She then came over with a friend and as soon as they got close her friend blatantly made a "meh" face.
I try to block things out with my skin when in social situations because I've constantly been dreading it for the last 15 years (I'm 30 now). The problem is if I have a pimple in a particular spot and I talk to someone close (especially in bright light) they scratch their face exactly where that pimple is. If my acne is particularly bad or my scars are showing, I've seen people take both their hands and wipe them across their face..as if I wasn't just right there in front of them. Really stings.
When I was young, I was hanging out with a family friends daughter who was my age, and very beautiful. After hanging out in my room and generally being in a really good mood and in a daze due to how in love I was (lol), she all the sudden says to me "I can see your warts".
First off... WARTS!? And... you can see them? Thank you. Much appreciated.
That one stuck with me for awhile and I still think about it.
One time some douche in my Fantasy Baseball league started a thread about my acne, with screenshots of AOL conversations he had between him and random attractive girls at my school, discussing my acne. That hurt really bad.
I can agree with most of what you are saying vatsboy. I am turning 30 this month and have been battling acne scarring for the past 5 years or so (my acne battle itself goes back to junior year of High School)...
While no one has directly said anything to me to my face (or within earshot) about my acne scarring, people have taken actions that indicate disgust and fear... I mentioned this more in some of my other threads, but the main point is that I have noticed older women (aged ~30 +) who react very negatively to seeing my face for the first time... I've encountered these older women as bank tellers, HR ladies at companies that I've gone to interview with, and sometimes female coworkers. Many times when seeing my face for the first time, they will make motions to cover their breast area - either pulling their blouse or suit lapels closed, or by crossing their arms in front of their breasts.... Other times, they will make motions and actually pull down their blouse, jacket or shirt, to cover their private parts area... like WTF? First of all, I am frankly not attracted to any of these older women! Second of all, I don't look them up and down! I can see them doing that out of my peripheral vision and am not directly checking them out.... I think they see someone with bad acne scarring and automatically think I'm some kind of evil hormone crazed rapist who is going to grope them or eye-fvck them....
So what is going on here? Men don't have any reaction to seeing me for the first time and also (thankfully perhaps), younger women don't seem to have the same reactions as the older women do... I really do think it is because older women just never have seen an adult with bad acne scarring as readily as younger women have....
Anyway, whatever... Que Sera Sera...
Update on what might be the worst thing that happened to me:
I was walking on the street when this guy driving a car stopped on a red light and went out of his way to scream," GET A DOCTOR FOR YOUR FACE" at me. I did not know this guyAT ALL.
Nobody really says anything except really small kids. They usually ask something like, "what is that thing?" or "why do you have that on your face?"
It doesn't really bother me. I just tell them it's a boo-boo. I think we, as acne sufferers, get really ticked off when someone assumes we haven't done anything about it or we don't even know it's there, even though we've put up with so much shit and exhausted so many options trying to get our skin clear. Whoever says this stuff (usually) doesn't know the backstory - if they did they probably would be a lot more sympathetic.
On January 14, 2016 at 12:06:20 PM, getschwifty said:Update on what might be the worst thing that happened to me:
I was walking on the street when this guy driving a car stopped on a red light and went out of his way to scream," GET A DOCTOR FOR YOUR FACE" at me. I did not know this guyAT ALL.
^ that seems completely insensitive - but anyone who feels the need to lash out at others like that probably have some serious insecurities of their own. Don't worry, karma always gets those kind of people in the end.
- I couple of years ago my little cousin told me "it looks like you have a moustache" im a girl
-another day a lady, about 50 years asked me, what happened to your face. I wanted to punch her b/c you don't ask people that -_-. Then her daughter , who I think is more mature, told her it was stress.
- I was walking through a hospital, as a volunteer, and one lady wanted to sell me a soap b/c of my face
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On 7/9/2009 11:14:06, PuppyLove09 said:Ex boyfriend:
"You would be so f*cking hot if your face wasn't so gross. All my friends would be jealous. Maybe you should wash more."
Broke up with him on the spot. (no pun intended
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Friend (that happened to be a guy I liked):
After staring at a spot I had for like 15 minutes...
"You got a...thing...on your...(points to my face). Oh it's just another zit. Ew."
Random boy chimes in:
"Dude, don't be so harsh. She can't help it. She still got great tits, though."
Yeah. I left art class and cried in the bathroom. At least I "got great tits."
*dramatic eye roll*
I feel little related to that comment b/c all my life i have been commented on how big my tits are by all my friends but i have also been commented bad stuff related to my acne.. Nothing we can help.
- I couple of years ago my little cousin told me "it looks like you have a moustache" im a girl
-another day a lady, about 50 years asked me, what happened to your face. I wanted to punch her b/c you don't ask people that -_-. Then her daughter , who I think is more mature, told her it was stress.
- I was walking through a hospital, as a volunteer, and one lady wanted to sell me a soap b/c of my face
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On 4/16/2008 5:46:08, pedroal3xandre said:Nobody ever said anything bad about my acne that bothered me. Only my consciousness...
the comments people told me were years ago. Right now it is just me and trust me i hate ir
- I couple of years ago my little cousin told me "it looks like you have a moustache" im a girl
-another day a lady, about 50 years asked me, what happened to your face. I wanted to punch her b/c you don't ask people that -_-. Then her daughter , who I think is more mature, told her it was stress.
- I was walking through a hospital, as a volunteer, and one lady wanted to sell me a soap b/c of my face
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Once, as a teenager working at Dairy Queen, my coworkers all started a conversation about how disgusting it is when people with large whiteheads come through the drive through. One of the girls (of course she had flawless skin) kept talking about how she just wanted to reach through the window and pop the zits for the customers...everyone was staring at me the whole time, it was really humiliating. I immediately ran to the bathroom to check my face for whiteheads.
On 1/14/2016 at 9:06 AM, getschwifty said:Update on what might be the worst thing that happened to me:
I was walking on the street when this guy driving a car stopped on a red light and went out of his way to scream," GET A DOCTOR FOR YOUR FACE" at me. I did not know this guyAT ALL.
I haven't had people yell at me about my face, but definitely my weight. I had a guy yell at me once, out of his car, "Watch where you're going, you fat b**ch!"
I walked in front of his car in a parking lot.
Needless to say, first came shock, then I went to my car and cried.
Why do people think they can say these things to us?
I'm so sorry for what that person said to you. Just remember, truly bad people exist. There's no two ways about it.
On 6/1/2015 at 0:01 AM, Perservering said:Friends and other people have said hurtful things, but the thing that stands out to me the most is the looks. Death stares. Looks of pure disgust. Especially in harsh lighting where my shadows looks prominent. I was at a music festival enjoying myself in April, happy as can be. Then this gorgeous girl like 5 or 10 feet away just kept staring at me shaking her head. I tried to not let it bother me, but it ruined my night. She was looking at me as if I was a monster. Fuck LA, everyone is so superficial.
Sometimes I have caught myself staring at others who have some deformity, abnormal feature or handicap, and shake my head. But it's out of sadness. I just think how unfortunate it is that some people win the genetic lottery, and others get dealt a lifetime of debilitating stigma. But I agree, a lot of people in California are INCREDIBLY superficial. I personally like to focus on my own looks and fitness and health, though, so I'm not sure if I'm better suited for an area that is less superficial. My roommates already make fun of my vanity, although I enjoy their company because they are relaxed and so down to earth. So...I don't know. Catch 22 for me.