"At least my problem will go away eventually! You'll always be Asian!"
I said I similar thing to one of my two friends who constantly called me "Oxy Pad" or "Zit Face" - "At least my ugliness is temporary - yours is permanent!". Didn't feel bad about that one. It was a favorite joke of theirs to count the number of bumps on my face, and call it a "mountain range".
One of these two friends got a large whitehead on his forehead at one time, but when my other friend and I began to make fun of him, he became all mad and started saying "I'm really sensitive about it!".
(Of course, I'm not sensitive about mine, which are several times worse... )
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I was on vacation at one point, and a photographer said "Young man, your face looks really bad.", before immediately taking a family photo. Thanks for that - completely ruined my entire day.
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I was in a gr. 10 English class last year, when someone asked a guy beside me what he was doing. He responded: "Nothing, nothing, just staring at all that stuff on [My Name here]'s face.". I pretended not to hear it.
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I was at a family dinner, when my 3-year-old cousin looks over at me and says, in his loud 3-year-old voice: "What's that on your face?! That's DISGUSTING!" (with that much of an emphasis on his newly learned word). Everyone went silent for a few seconds, before resuming to eat while while I sat there, wishing to be dead.
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Not a lot of good memories.
when a friend I haven't seen in years said I needed to start taking better care of my skin...at that moment I hated her so much because she had flawless skin
In school when I had severe acne and had to do a presentation the teacher spoke in front of the class asking me if I was having an allergic reaction to something
People harassing me in school about my skin and telling me it would look better if I got a lighter and burned it off...
Can't remember all the things people have said about my skin because almost every memory I have that relates to skin is something negative but the worse memory was probably when I first started to develop severe acne and taking our class photos...the photographer said "We are retaking photos in a month would you like to take it than?" and when that month came along and the same photographer took my picture I still had severe acne...maybe he meant to be nice at the time but all I wanted to do was cry
eh and also 2 weeks ago i was with 2 of my good friends eating dinner and one of them says you no sauna's are good for cleaning your pores for like acne and stuff, i was just like mm (was eating a burger) then they both proceeded to turn and stare at my face, i felt so aquard and felt like shit
Where to start
"You look like something from Star Trek with all those spots on your forehead"
"Pimple face"
"Scarface"
"Lets play dot to dot"
"whats all those holes in your face"
"Once your skin clears up, you'll be really pretty"
"Get a facial, your skin is terrible"
"Those spots are horrendous"
"Get a fringe, it will cover up all your spots on your forehead"
"Erghh"
"You've broken out quite badly"
"What happened to your face"
The worst part is that most of that has come from my family.
One girl said in a lesson, that all the "ugly people" had acne. Everyone went quiet, then laughed. i almost died.
Cunts.
my sister's doing some modelling soon and she had a tiny spot, probably cos she eats shit. So she was in a foul mood and I was talking about changing my hair and she goes "Your hairs the only good about you, girls wont like you if you wreck your hair like you wrecked your face"
Younger sister as well, I just told her to fuck off.
Also I was watching Sweet 16 the other day when one of the girls was having loads of treatment for 1 spot. Man I was a state at 16, that made me feel bad.
"You don't have acne, you have bloody gaping wounds all over your face." Guy in my class.
"Ever heard of oxy-pads?*laugh*" Random guy walking down the street.
The worst however, is when little kids ask me what's wrong with my face, not intending to be mean of course, then back away while asking if it's contagious.
>You're having a conversation with someone and they're eyes are wandering over your face
>Your in a group of people and they start talking about how much they hate acne. As if they have a friggin' idea what really hating acne means. And you feel so outa place because you're the only one there who actually has acne.
>I was with a friend at a football game and when we passed a couple he said "Dang! How is it that all the hottest girls go out with ugly guys with so many zits???" I just laughed and said "Then I'm in luck!" But inside I was dying.
Well, this is the thread that made me join. LOL
Reading the posts makes one sad. It's a shame how one is looked at differently for not being perfect.
First I was thinking no one really said anything harsh about my acne... that was until I started thinking back to my younger days. Ugh, weird how within the last two months, after watching a few videos on YouTube about extreme acne, now one side of my face has broke out badly, and sadly, nothing I use seems to clear it up. Seems I'm stuck.
Okay, enough. On subject now:
1. A so-called homegirl at school, gave me an attitude like look, then said in front of a lot of people, "You need to do something about your acne."
2. In middle school, though I wasn't perfect, nor had perfect skin, I had a body, and for some reason most of the guys liked me a bit more than most girls, even the ones with a body and perfect skin. (Probably the only thing that didn't make me too, too depressed at the time, though what I'm about to say has stuck with me.)
So, one guy had a thing for me and one other girl at school. Though he liked my body, I guess, he'd always mention how I needed to use Nazima. (however you spell it LOL, haven't seen it in a long time) He'd say how his sister used it for her face, and I needed to use it also to clear my face. (Mind you, as most folks without acne who use creams, she probably never had acne, just used it as others do. You know how it goes, for some reason, others who don't suffer from this assume the products on the market will clear it up, just because of TV etc.) Well, the hurtful part that has stuck with me all these years, was when he said to me that men will only use me to sleep with, but they'd never marry me due to my acne. I know it's not true because I've had plenty of relationships since then, but some things you never get out your mind!
3. My ex homegirl older sister used to always tell me I needed to use something for my skin. Again, another person who acts as if we're not trying to use everything we can to rid this... many times I wonder if they're just that stupid, or think we are!
4. I was with my mother friend at her job years ago, at a school. A little boy asked me if I had chicken pox. Really, I know my skin wasn't perfect, but didn't get it at the time, because back then I only had about 3 to 4 very small spots on my cheeks. It wasn't very noticable to most folks, nowhere near how it has broke out within the last 2 months on one side of my face.
Long post, huh?
It's weird how people think if you have acne, it's OK for them to be hostile or mean to you about it. It makes me so mad when people (even strangers) will recommend some kind of acne face product to use, just because it worked for someone they know who had maybe 2 zits on their face once.
People are just really uninformed about it..everybody thinks that acne is something that can be easily controlled or stopped..by splashing some water and lotion on your face. I wish!
Reading some of these cruel things people say makes my heart break...I've got a few of my own as well...
~ (one day in grade seven, when I came to school without covering up my zits) My 'friend': "Oh my God! What happened to your face, you look so *awful*!" Coincidently, I never went to school or even outside my room without makeup again.
~ "Have you tried ____ [insert some typical otc product that was one of the first thing you tried years ago when you started getting acne] ?"
~ "You don't wash your face enough"
~ "You wash your face too much"
~ My friend matter-of-factly: "It's because you drink coke that you have all that acne, you know." (That was years ago, but even then I didn't believe it. I have been drinking hardly anything but water and juice, and my acne is still terrible.)
~ "You should squeeze that."
This one hurt the most...
Well-meaning but tactless friend: "Don't worry, not everyone can be beautiful."
Some other awful things were not what people said, but what they did... Like, one time the same friend from the last quotation... completely out of the blue when we were talking to each other, she ran her finger down my nose and then looked at the oil on her finger that came off of it with a horrified expression and said. "EW!"
That hurt so, so so bad when she did that....
Shucks, Visage. That's not a friend. THAT'S A MONSTER!
your reply was awesome! this has been the only thing that has made me smile after being so down about myslef this week!
what happened to your face dawg?
then i said, i got hepres nigga, what you think.
I had a friends gf make a somewhat uncalled for comment about my skin this past weekend. They just bought these "Aloe Vera" pillows or something (they cost like 80 bucks for 2 of them) and we were talking about them and how they moisturize the face and make it more healthy and the gf says something along the lines of "We should give one to Brad" (me) as I was staying in their guest room that night. Now that may seem harmless but I know she was referring to my shoddy skin or else she wouldn't have said anything as I already had a pillow.
Kinda pissed me off as I'm extremely sensitive about my looks. I definitely wasn't expecting it either as we get along very good most of the time. She even told me one time I could get almost any girl if I had confidence but she was probably just being nice.
A year ago my "friend" asked me do you have acne ? What kind of question is that?!?!
Back when I was on Dan's regimen, my face was always bright red, people would always comment on my face, thankfully I'm off of the regimen.
A classmate once was saying wether or not people at the table were pretty or not and on mine she commented something along the lines of "With that face? Your ugly."
Well being that I am older in my mid thirties I don't get as many comments as when I was younger, but recently had an ex boyfriend that just would not go away so after so many months of his phone calls and text messages and all I just told him I was dating someone cause I figure that way he would just go away. Well his response was "whatever butterface". Now first of all like I said I am older and so is he. This is a grown man with a child making these comments. I just said thats why I left you and you'll still be calling me in a few weeks. That was about 4 months ago and I still get calls and messages from him apologizing, wanting to take me to dinner, he really feels bad, that wasn't really him. I just don't respond at all because basically someone like that isn't worth my time, even if its to go off. Making him feel like he just doesn't count anymore is the best thing I can do and honestly to me he doesn't anymore. There is no going back from that.