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(@avalati)

Posted : 03/15/2017 11:35 am

I find myself wishing a lot.... "i wish i had some sort of chronic illness instead of acne".... "i can deal with pain as long as it isn't visible and making me so ugly.".... "at least I can get the support and pity of people without without them judging me and assuming I'm some disgusting and unhygienic mess".....

I actually do have another condition, which I was soooo upset about and stressed over before. Vaginismus (which most people probably aren't aware of) (I can't put things in my vagina without extreme pain). It created a whole mess for me earlier, I felt broken, I felt so insecure, I'd cry about it feeling like I'd never find a permanent partner because of this condition I had.

And not that vaginismus isn't a horrible condition, I still have it and it still makes me feel bad but the pain of it just fades in comparison to the acne I now have. Like, I was worried before guys would dump me at the sex stage but now it doesn't even seem plausible to get there!!! I'm so ugly!!! I feel so incredibly insecure!!!!!!! acne is so horrible!!!!!! I could write pages and pages about how horrible it is but I'm sure you all know!!

And so because I was curious, I got this would you rather app, "this or that" a while ago. I just wanted to see what the general public thought about it. I posted two questions, (I don't remember them exactly.. I actually deleted the app a while ago and I tried going back just now to get the data but I guess I didn't have an account in the first place and I can't get back : V.....).Severe acne vs.arthritisandsevere acne vs.cancer with 70% chance of survival...........the majority picked not acne in both situations. sigh. my mom has arthritis, it SUCKS, so does cancer (obviously)...... the general public picked those over acne. the general public picked straight up 30% chance of death over acne. .....................

I don't know. people don't put much thought when answering these would u rather questions, but the fact that these illnesses seemed more desirable than acne to normal people just makes me feel. depressed? (thats why i deleted the app lol) I really do wish i was suffering with something else, even if more severe, as long as it didn't effect me so visibly like this...

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(@alyleiii)

Posted : 03/15/2017 12:29 pm

Strengthening your pelvic floor could help. Here are some exercises: http://www.prevention.com/fitness/strength-training/pelvic-floor-exercises-prevent-urinary-incontinence

Also, Yoni Eggs are a therapeutic way to get back in touch with your natural feminine energy, to heal sexual trauma and emotional pain related to sex/sexuality. It may even help your condition. Read about it here: [Edited link out]

Try not to be too hard on yourself. I believe vaginismus has a huge psychological component, so the more you stress, the more impossible it will be to relax and get back in touch with your body. You aren't broken. You're in the process of healing, but it doesn't invalidate your beauty or worthiness.

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(@dandytsunami)

Posted : 03/15/2017 1:05 pm

1 hour ago, avalati said:

I find myself wishing a lot.... "i wish i had some sort of chronic illness instead of acne".... "i can deal with pain as long as it isn't visible and making me so ugly.".... "at least I can get the support and pity of people without without them judging me and assuming I'm some disgusting and unhygienic mess".....

I actually do have another condition, which I was soooo upset about and stressed over before. Vaginismus (which most people probably aren't aware of) (I can't put things in my vagina without extreme pain). It created a whole mess for me earlier, I felt broken, I felt so insecure, I'd cry about it feeling like I'd never find a permanent partner because of this condition I had.

And not that vaginismus isn't a horrible condition, I still have it and it still makes me feel bad but the pain of it just fades in comparison to the acne I now have. Like, I was worried before guys would dump me at the sex stage but now it doesn't even seem plausible to get there!!! I'm so ugly!!! I feel so incredibly insecure!!!!!!! acne is so horrible!!!!!! I could write pages and pages about how horrible it is but I'm sure you all know!!

And so because I was curious, I got this would you rather app, "this or that" a while ago. I just wanted to see what the general public thought about it. I posted two questions, (I don't remember them exactly.. I actually deleted the app a while ago and I tried going back just now to get the data but I guess I didn't have an account in the first place and I can't get back : V.....).Severe acne vs.arthritisandsevere acne vs.cancer with 70% chance of survival...........the majority picked not acne in both situations. sigh. my mom has arthritis, it SUCKS, so does cancer (obviously)...... the general public picked those over acne. the general public picked straight up 30% chance of death over acne. .....................

I don't know. people don't put much thought when answering these would u rather questions, but the fact that these illnesses seemed more desirable than acne to normal people just makes me feel. depressed? (thats why i deleted the app lol) I really do wish i was suffering with something else, even if more severe, as long as it didn't effect me so visibly like this...

Just remember the more you suffer the smarter/stronger/luckier you become

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(@avalati)

Posted : 03/15/2017 8:47 pm

On 3/16/2017 at 1:29 AM, cloudydreamer said:

Strengthening your pelvic floor could help. Here are some exercises: http://www.prevention.com/fitness/strength-training/pelvic-floor-exercises-prevent-urinary-incontinence

Also, Yoni Eggs are a therapeutic way to get back in touch with your natural feminine energy, to heal sexual trauma and emotional pain related to sex/sexuality. It may even help your condition. Read about it here: [Edited link out]

Try not to be too hard on yourself. I believe vaginismus has a huge psychological component, so the more you stress, the more impossible it will be to relax and get back in touch with your body. You aren't broken. You're in the process of healing, but it doesn't invalidate your beauty or worthiness.

 

On 3/16/2017 at 2:05 AM, DandyTsunami said:

Just remember the more you suffer the smarter/stronger/luckier you become

oh hey thanks guys. the point i was trying to make was that it really doesn't bother me as much now that i have acne, which has affected me a lot more. But I appreciate these comments!
and cloudydreamer, i have already tried many things lol. I'm on/off using dilators;; I really don't think a yoni egg is physically possible right now haha.. And yeah it's definitely psychological : / I get stressed a lot.... which doens't help with vaginismus or acne at a l l .
But thanks!! It's hard

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