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(@essex11)

Posted : 10/21/2015 9:58 pm

and I'm tired of people telling me that I will out of pity. I'm disgusting. No one can love a face that's covered in blemishes and pus. I've been in relationships before, but all before my acne got severe. No one thinks I'm beautiful anymore. I haven't taken a selfie in who knows how long. People used to see me as beautiful, and now see me as a disgusting monster. Really, who in the world wants to love a girl with acne? No one.

you are good looking, don't think otherwise 

the problem is ur confidence, not ur face.

think about it :wub:

Girls don't care about your confidence. They care about your face.

Can you please stop with the "girls are shallow and only care about looks" thing? Do you realize that there is no one singular definition of what "good looking" is? My idea of an attractive guy is completely different from millions of other girls, and vice versa. I've even been attracted to and dated guys who *gasp* have acne! So please, just stop. 

But women do care about looks more than anything else. If you were an unattractive man for one day you'd understand and wouldn't even get dates because all women would ignore you and treat you like crap.

There's a reason why Jeremy Meeks has so many female fans online who love his mug shot. An average ugly man that works an average job will be ignored for women for his entire life while a good looking man like Jeremy Meeks will get thousands of female fans online from around the world who love him because he's very good looking.

 

Okay dude, whatever you say. My two best friends are very conventionally attractive, could probably be with any "hot" guy they wanted, but they're both dating guys that you would probably not consider to be any more attractive than you. They're both balding, have crooked and/or missing teeth, one has serious acne scars, but neither of my friends give a fuck because they're incredibly happy with them. I guess they're just two more of those "rare exceptions" that couldn't possibly exist in your neck of the woods.

I will never say that they don't exist. It's just seemingly impossible to meet them and I have never met anyone before. It is not possible to be less attractive than me by the way. My attractiveness level is already zero.

you ever thought maybe you were the problem and not the women? If you go out and are so negative that's never going to attract. I'm a guy, I have bad acne. Yes it affects me but when I'm out chatting to girls and you're being confident, making them laugh. They definitely don't see it as much. Maybe you need to work on how to chat to women.

i would also say I see men in relationships with women who are more attractive than them, than the other way round. I personally think men are more shallow.

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(@alexanderj86)

Posted : 10/22/2015 3:48 am

and I'm tired of people telling me that I will out of pity. I'm disgusting. No one can love a face that's covered in blemishes and pus. I've been in relationships before, but all before my acne got severe. No one thinks I'm beautiful anymore. I haven't taken a selfie in who knows how long. People used to see me as beautiful, and now see me as a disgusting monster. Really, who in the world wants to love a girl with acne? No one.

you are good looking, don't think otherwise 

the problem is ur confidence, not ur face.

think about it :wub:

Girls don't care about your confidence. They care about your face.

Can you please stop with the "girls are shallow and only care about looks" thing? Do you realize that there is no one singular definition of what "good looking" is? My idea of an attractive guy is completely different from millions of other girls, and vice versa. I've even been attracted to and dated guys who *gasp* have acne! So please, just stop. 

But women do care about looks more than anything else. If you were an unattractive man for one day you'd understand and wouldn't even get dates because all women would ignore you and treat you like crap.

There's a reason why Jeremy Meeks has so many female fans online who love his mug shot. An average ugly man that works an average job will be ignored for women for his entire life while a good looking man like Jeremy Meeks will get thousands of female fans online from around the world who love him because he's very good looking.

 

Okay dude, whatever you say. My two best friends are very conventionally attractive, could probably be with any "hot" guy they wanted, but they're both dating guys that you would probably not consider to be any more attractive than you. They're both balding, have crooked and/or missing teeth, one has serious acne scars, but neither of my friends give a fuck because they're incredibly happy with them. I guess they're just two more of those "rare exceptions" that couldn't possibly exist in your neck of the woods.

I will never say that they don't exist. It's just seemingly impossible to meet them and I have never met anyone before. It is not possible to be less attractive than me by the way. My attractiveness level is already zero.

you ever thought maybe you were the problem and not the women? If you go out and are so negative that's never going to attract. I'm a guy, I have bad acne. Yes it affects me but when I'm out chatting to girls and you're being confident, making them laugh. They definitely don't see it as much. Maybe you need to work on how to chat to women.

i would also say I see men in relationships with women who are more attractive than them, than the other way round. I personally think men are more shallow.

That's what the psychiatrist thought as well until my social skills were tested.

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(@essex11)

Posted : 10/22/2015 11:56 am

and I'm tired of people telling me that I will out of pity. I'm disgusting. No one can love a face that's covered in blemishes and pus. I've been in relationships before, but all before my acne got severe. No one thinks I'm beautiful anymore. I haven't taken a selfie in who knows how long. People used to see me as beautiful, and now see me as a disgusting monster. Really, who in the world wants to love a girl with acne? No one.

you are good looking, don't think otherwise 

the problem is ur confidence, not ur face.

think about it :wub:

Girls don't care about your confidence. They care about your face.

Can you please stop with the "girls are shallow and only care about looks" thing? Do you realize that there is no one singular definition of what "good looking" is? My idea of an attractive guy is completely different from millions of other girls, and vice versa. I've even been attracted to and dated guys who *gasp* have acne! So please, just stop. 

But women do care about looks more than anything else. If you were an unattractive man for one day you'd understand and wouldn't even get dates because all women would ignore you and treat you like crap.

There's a reason why Jeremy Meeks has so many female fans online who love his mug shot. An average ugly man that works an average job will be ignored for women for his entire life while a good looking man like Jeremy Meeks will get thousands of female fans online from around the world who love him because he's very good looking.

 

Okay dude, whatever you say. My two best friends are very conventionally attractive, could probably be with any "hot" guy they wanted, but they're both dating guys that you would probably not consider to be any more attractive than you. They're both balding, have crooked and/or missing teeth, one has serious acne scars, but neither of my friends give a fuck because they're incredibly happy with them. I guess they're just two more of those "rare exceptions" that couldn't possibly exist in your neck of the woods.

I will never say that they don't exist. It's just seemingly impossible to meet them and I have never met anyone before. It is not possible to be less attractive than me by the way. My attractiveness level is already zero.

you ever thought maybe you were the problem and not the women? If you go out and are so negative that's never going to attract. I'm a guy, I have bad acne. Yes it affects me but when I'm out chatting to girls and you're being confident, making them laugh. They definitely don't see it as much. Maybe you need to work on how to chat to women.

i would also say I see men in relationships with women who are more attractive than them, than the other way round. I personally think men are more shallow.

That's funny, you said that you had issues dating in another thread and now you're suddenly the expert on how to get women.

dating yes, as I said because I'm not completely comfortable with myself. I would be up and down too much emotionally for a relationship. It's not to do with the women. I'm referring to meeting women in bars/clubs/cafes, for short term dating. Or let's be blunt... Hook ups. Maybe you need to try and chat to some woman you never know... You might like it 

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Posted : 10/22/2015 3:34 pm

the problem is ur confidence, not ur face.

think about it :wub:

Girls don't care about your confidence. They care about your face.

Can you please stop with the "girls are shallow and only care about looks" thing? Do you realize that there is no one singular definition of what "good looking" is? My idea of an attractive guy is completely different from millions of other girls, and vice versa. I've even been attracted to and dated guys who *gasp* have acne! So please, just stop. 

But women do care about looks more than anything else. If you were an unattractive man for one day you'd understand and wouldn't even get dates because all women would ignore you and treat you like crap.

There's a reason why Jeremy Meeks has so many female fans online who love his mug shot. An average ugly man that works an average job will be ignored for women for his entire life while a good looking man like Jeremy Meeks will get thousands of female fans online from around the world who love him because he's very good looking.

 

Okay dude, whatever you say. My two best friends are very conventionally attractive, could probably be with any "hot" guy they wanted, but they're both dating guys that you would probably not consider to be any more attractive than you. They're both balding, have crooked and/or missing teeth, one has serious acne scars, but neither of my friends give a fuck because they're incredibly happy with them. I guess they're just two more of those "rare exceptions" that couldn't possibly exist in your neck of the woods.

I don't believe it.

The same works for attractive females though as well? Type into google 'sexy mugshot' and you'll see loads of 'attractive' females similar to Jeremy Meeks.

I don't think anyone, a guy or a girl, has ever solely been attracted to someone for their confidence, no, looks play an important part. But I don't think females are any more interested in looks than men are.. I mean the huge huge majority whole porn industry is aimed at men and stars the stereotypical 'ideal' woman.. Big boobs, long hair, slim, etc.

You simply wouldn't date someone you find as ugly. Some women and men may not like acne, some men and women may not like overweight inidivuals. 

Real studies from major online dating sites proved that men pretty much respond to any women while women only respond to the top 20% best looking men. It shows that women care about looks more than men and are pickier. You are not a straight man so you wouldn't understand. Gay men are not as picky as straight women.

It's funny how you brought up overweight individuals when men have BBW groups while women do not.

P.S. major Hollywood movies like Major Mike are aimed at women.

I think gay men are just as picky as both women and men. Equal.

BBW is a fetish. It's no different that girls being attracted to bigger men. The difference is that girls dont have porn for that is because porn is aimed at men. Men are more focused on the womans body, sexual and attraction wise. The amount of men who are probably into bigger-women -porn are going to always be the minority, the same way bigger men are probably attractive to the minority percentage of women, but we see the men's appeal more because of the porn industry.

Dating sites also offer a fake insight into the world. They are literally a picture and that's that. Yes, women may be more statistically picky on that one dating site study you consistantly quote and mention, but again, men are probably thinking more sexually (as they are naturally) and selecting yes to more to, let's be blunt, get laid, and women are more focused on long term relationships and therefore take more into consideration. There's a lot more factors in play than you think.

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Posted : 10/22/2015 6:45 pm

Don't blame woman because you can't get laidand I'm tired of people telling me that I will out of pity. I'm disgusting. No one can love a face that's covered in blemishes and pus. I've been in relationships before, but all before my acne got severe. No one thinks I'm beautiful anymore. I haven't taken a selfie in who knows how long. People used to see me as beautiful, and now see me as a disgusting monster. Really, who in the world wants to love a girl with acne? No one.

you are good looking, don't think otherwise 

the problem is ur confidence, not ur face.

think about it :wub:

Girls don't care about your confidence. They care about your face.

Can you please stop with the "girls are shallow and only care about looks" thing? Do you realize that there is no one singular definition of what "good looking" is? My idea of an attractive guy is completely different from millions of other girls, and vice versa. I've even been attracted to and dated guys who *gasp* have acne! So please, just stop. 

But women do care about looks more than anything else. If you were an unattractive man for one day you'd understand and wouldn't even get dates because all women would ignore you and treat you like crap.

There's a reason why Jeremy Meeks has so many female fans online who love his mug shot. An average ugly man that works an average job will be ignored for women for his entire life while a good looking man like Jeremy Meeks will get thousands of female fans online from around the world who love him because he's very good looking.

 

Okay dude, whatever you say. My two best friends are very conventionally attractive, could probably be with any "hot" guy they wanted, but they're both dating guys that you would probably not consider to be any more attractive than you. They're both balding, have crooked and/or missing teeth, one has serious acne scars, but neither of my friends give a fuck because they're incredibly happy with them. I guess they're just two more of those "rare exceptions" that couldn't possibly exist in your neck of the woods.

I will never say that they don't exist. It's just seemingly impossible to meet them and I have never met anyone before. It is not possible to be less attractive than me by the way. My attractiveness level is already zero.

you ever thought maybe you were the problem and not the women? If you go out and are so negative that's never going to attract. I'm a guy, I have bad acne. Yes it affects me but when I'm out chatting to girls and you're being confident, making them laugh. They definitely don't see it as much. Maybe you need to work on how to chat to women.

i would also say I see men in relationships with women who are more attractive than them, than the other way round. I personally think men are more shallow.

That's what the psychiatrist thought as well until my social skills were tested.

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and I'm tired of people telling me that I will out of pity. I'm disgusting. No one can love a face that's covered in blemishes and pus. I've been in relationships before, but all before my acne got severe. No one thinks I'm beautiful anymore. I haven't taken a selfie in who knows how long. People used to see me as beautiful, and now see me as a disgusting monster. Really, who in the world wants to love a girl with acne? No one.

you are good looking, don't think otherwise 

Juju problem is ur confidence, not ur face.

think about it :wub:

Girls don't care about your confidence. They care about your face.

Can you please stop with the "girls are shallow and only care about looks" thing? Do you realize that there is no one singular definition of what "good looking" is? My idea of an attractive guy is completely different from millions of other girls, and vice versa. I've even been attracted to and dated guys who *gasp* have acne! So please, just stop. 

Mann But women do care about looks more than anything else. If you were an unattractive man for one day you'd

understand and wouldn't even get dates because all women would ignore you and treat you like crap.

There's a reason why Jeremy Meeks has so many female fans online who love his mug shot. An average ugly man that works an average job will be ignored for women for his entire life while a good looking man like Jeremy Meeks will get thousands of female fans online from around the world who love him because he's very good looking.

 

Okay dude, whatever you say. My two best friends are very conventionally attractive, could probably be with any "hot" guy they wanted, but they're both dating guys that you would probably not consider to be any more attractive than you. They're both balding, have crooked and/or missing teeth, one has serious acne scars, but neither of my friends give a fuck because they're incredibly happy with them. I guess they're just two more of those "rare exceptions" that couldn't possibly exist in your neck of the woods.

I will never say that they don't exist. It's just seemingly impossible to meet them and I have never met anyone before. It is not possible to be less attractive than me by the way. My attractiveness level is already zero.

you ever thought maybe you were the problem and not the women? If you go out and are so negative that's never going to attract. I'm a guy, I have bad acne. Yes it affects me but when I'm out chatting to girls and you're being confident, making them laugh. They definitely don't see it as much. Maybe you need to work on how to chat to women.

i would also say I see men in relationships with women who are more attractive than them, than the other way round. I personally think men are more shallow.

That's what the psychiatrist thought as well until my social skills were tested.

Ignore that post above, for some reason I can't quote just singular posts at the minute. Basically, the two guys moaning here. Stop blaming women for your lack of getting laid. Go out and try to meet some woman. Start conversations that have quick exits to start with to build confidence and then try to hold longer conversations. Tinder and dating sites are making people socially inept, they're not going to help you talk to women.

i think your defensive nature and negativity will be having a. Lot to do with lack of female interest.

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(@alexanderj86)

Posted : 10/22/2015 7:32 pm

Don't blame woman because you can't get laidand I'm tired of people telling me that I will out of pity. I'm disgusting. No one can love a face that's covered in blemishes and pus. I've been in relationships before, but all before my acne got severe. No one thinks I'm beautiful anymore. I haven't taken a selfie in who knows how long. People used to see me as beautiful, and now see me as a disgusting monster. Really, who in the world wants to love a girl with acne? No one.

you are good looking, don't think otherwise 

the problem is ur confidence, not ur face.

think about it :wub:

Girls don't care about your confidence. They care about your face.

Can you please stop with the "girls are shallow and only care about looks" thing? Do you realize that there is no one singular definition of what "good looking" is? My idea of an attractive guy is completely different from millions of other girls, and vice versa. I've even been attracted to and dated guys who *gasp* have acne! So please, just stop. 

But women do care about looks more than anything else. If you were an unattractive man for one day you'd understand and wouldn't even get dates because all women would ignore you and treat you like crap.

There's a reason why Jeremy Meeks has so many female fans online who love his mug shot. An average ugly man that works an average job will be ignored for women for his entire life while a good looking man like Jeremy Meeks will get thousands of female fans online from around the world who love him because he's very good looking.

 

Okay dude, whatever you say. My two best friends are very conventionally attractive, could probably be with any "hot" guy they wanted, but they're both dating guys that you would probably not consider to be any more attractive than you. They're both balding, have crooked and/or missing teeth, one has serious acne scars, but neither of my friends give a fuck because they're incredibly happy with them. I guess they're just two more of those "rare exceptions" that couldn't possibly exist in your neck of the woods.

I will never say that they don't exist. It's just seemingly impossible to meet them and I have never met anyone before. It is not possible to be less attractive than me by the way. My attractiveness level is already zero.

you ever thought maybe you were the problem and not the women? If you go out and are so negative that's never going to attract. I'm a guy, I have bad acne. Yes it affects me but when I'm out chatting to girls and you're being confident, making them laugh. They definitely don't see it as much. Maybe you need to work on how to chat to women.

i would also say I see men in relationships with women who are more attractive than them, than the other way round. I personally think men are more shallow.

That's what the psychiatrist thought as well until my social skills were tested.

jjllljjjjjjjjjjjjj

and I'm tired of people telling me that I will out of pity. I'm disgusting. No one can love a face that's covered in blemishes and pus. I've been in relationships before, but all before my acne got severe. No one thinks I'm beautiful anymore. I haven't taken a selfie in who knows how long. People used to see me as beautiful, and now see me as a disgusting monster. Really, who in the world wants to love a girl with acne? No one.

you are good looking, don't think otherwise 

Juju problem is ur confidence, not ur face.

think about it :wub:

Girls don't care about your confidence. They care about your face.

Can you please stop with the "girls are shallow and only care about looks" thing? Do you realize that there is no one singular definition of what "good looking" is? My idea of an attractive guy is completely different from millions of other girls, and vice versa. I've even been attracted to and dated guys who *gasp* have acne! So please, just stop. 

Mann But women do care about looks more than anything else. If you were an unattractive man for one day you'd

understand and wouldn't even get dates because all women would ignore you and treat you like crap.

There's a reason why Jeremy Meeks has so many female fans online who love his mug shot. An average ugly man that works an average job will be ignored for women for his entire life while a good looking man like Jeremy Meeks will get thousands of female fans online from around the world who love him because he's very good looking.

 

Okay dude, whatever you say. My two best friends are very conventionally attractive, could probably be with any "hot" guy they wanted, but they're both dating guys that you would probably not consider to be any more attractive than you. They're both balding, have crooked and/or missing teeth, one has serious acne scars, but neither of my friends give a fuck because they're incredibly happy with them. I guess they're just two more of those "rare exceptions" that couldn't possibly exist in your neck of the woods.

I will never say that they don't exist. It's just seemingly impossible to meet them and I have never met anyone before. It is not possible to be less attractive than me by the way. My attractiveness level is already zero.

you ever thought maybe you were the problem and not the women? If you go out and are so negative that's never going to attract. I'm a guy, I have bad acne. Yes it affects me but when I'm out chatting to girls and you're being confident, making them laugh. They definitely don't see it as much. Maybe you need to work on how to chat to women.

i would also say I see men in relationships with women who are more attractive than them, than the other way round. I personally think men are more shallow.

That's what the psychiatrist thought as well until my social skills were tested.

 

Ignore that post above, for some reason I can't quote just singular posts at the minute. Basically, the two guys moaning here. Stop blaming women for your lack of getting laid. Go out and try to meet some woman. Start conversations that have quick exits to start with to build confidence and then try to hold longer conversations. Tinder and dating sites are making people socially inept, they're not going to help you talk to women.

i think your defensive nature and negativity will be having a. Lot to do with lack of female interest.

That doesn't work in my case.

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Posted : 10/24/2015 8:17 am

I have the same feeling at days where my acne gets worser and worst. But people will love you for the person you truly are, not the person acne makes you from the inside and outside (reddish and depressed). You need to be the girl you was before, even tho it can be really hard due acne. Just don't let it take over your mind (: AND If people stopped loving you because of your acne (which is crazy), they never really loved you so basicallyyou just lost something what was not even there

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(@alexanderj86)

Posted : 10/24/2015 2:12 pm

This is like saying I drive a cheap ugly car so I will never find love, you just need to perhaps search a bit harder to find it, that's what I did when my acne was bad and it seemed to work! Don't forget foundation/make-up especially if you're trying to pull on those nights out whether you're male or female.

The cheap ugly car is a totally different situation. It's never about the car, it's about me, or rather, my skin. You know, I have mental disorders, but I am not really crazy. Crazy is that you do the same thing constantly and expect to get a different result. What works for you doesn't necessarily work for other people. It's not the problem that I no relationships for a year. It's not a problem that never had a relationship. The problem is that it is seemingly impossible to get it. That's what it is all about. I am not going to wear makeup by the way, fuck that. They have to accept me exactly as how I really look like. In fact, by saying that (the makeup thing) you are actually proving my point.

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Posted : 10/25/2015 3:31 pm

I know exactly how you feel. I started avoiding my last boyfriend because my acne came back after being gone for almost a year. I had told him about my skin problems before, and I knew he loved me and wouldn't leave me over something like that, but I was still just so devastated and embarrassed about my skin getting bad again. I convinced myself that I looked so repulsive that my boyfriend couldn't possibly be attracted to me anymore. I got so depressed and anxious that I wouldn't let my boyfriend or friends come over, and I wouldn't leave the house unless I had to go to work or school. My boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago because he couldn't understand why I didn't want him around. I couldn't explain to him how disgusting I feel, how I don't want anyone to look at me, much less touch me or kiss me.

 

I know how hard it is to have confidence and feel attractive when you have acne. Even when my skin was clear, I didn't feel confident. Years and years of acne have permanently damaged my ability to feel good about my appearance. At the end of the day though, I know I'm my own worst critic, and I'm sure you are too. Trust me, NO ONE on this earth cares about the fact that you have acne as much as you do. I bet you would be shocked to know how many people still think you're beautiful.

 

Try to keep your head up. I say that as someone who is struggling to do the same. Just trying get through each day hoping that my skin will be a little better tomorrow.

I know exactly how you feel. It's a horrible feeling to wake up every morning with the most horrendous skin, cysts with pus all over your jaw, chin & forehead. I know how it feels to feel like a a monster, like no one can ever possibly love you. I know how it feels to avoid hanging out with your boyfriend and with people. I also know what you mean about acne permanently damaging how you saw and felt about yourself and your self-worth.

I'm currently in a relationship (we got together before my skin has gotten really bad but I've been upfront about my acne from the beginning, and he saw the acne all over my chest and back the first time I was naked in front of him - I cried like hell), but I've always shared my feelings about acne. I've even offered to break up until my skin clears up but he refuses to, continuously tells me he loves me, that I'm beautiful and that it hurts him that I'm pushing him away when he loves me no matter what.

We hung out yesterday, and my cysts kept on oozing with blood and pus. I felt horrible and gross, but he said he didn't notice, hugged me tightly and told me I was beautiful. I think I've got a keeper. <3

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Posted : 10/25/2015 5:39 pm

If that is your definition of love, maybe you will learn something from this experience. Your beauty is not about how you look.

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