At the beginning of this year I was suicidal due to the acne all over my body and seb derm on my face. Well, I found a video of me a couple weeks back. I filmed it with a friend about two years ago and my skin was awful. Acne was worse than earlier this year, my seb derm was SO red it looked painfully sore.. But guess what? I was happy and really didn't care. I was dating people, very sexually active (not to be crude), out every night, working all the time, physically active... I was great! Something clicked earlier this year that made me think I'm ugly with my skin, but it was worse before and never stopped me from living my life.

Something has clicked that even now, if I get a tiny blemish I will consider myself hideous. As I post this I'm sitting after my shower waiting for my face to cool down before I look in the mirror.. But deep down I know that I've looked worse in the past. It's hard to get over but I will..

As will you.

You'll eventually find yourself and be happy. You will find someone, I promise.. Your profile pic shows me you're a very attractive girl. Sure, you'll probably say oh good lighting, filter, edit.. Whatever excuse you want - but nothing can change your mouth, your face shape, your eyes, your hair... Acne is only a small feature out of many that make you

and I'm tired of people telling me that I will out of pity. I'm disgusting. No one can love a face that's covered in blemishes and pus. I've been in relationships before, but all before my acne got severe. No one thinks I'm beautiful anymore. I haven't taken a selfie in who knows how long. People used to see me as beautiful, and now see me as a disgusting monster. Really, who in the world wants to love a girl with acne? No one.

I would.

At the beginning of this year I was suicidal due to the acne all over my body and seb derm on my face. Well, I found a video of me a couple weeks back. I filmed it with a friend about two years ago and my skin was awful. Acne was worse than earlier this year, my seb derm was SO red it looked painfully sore.. But guess what? I was happy and really didn't care. I was dating people, very sexually active (not to be crude), out every night, working all the time, physically active... I was great! Something clicked earlier this year that made me think I'm ugly with my skin, but it was worse before and never stopped me from living my life.

 

Something has clicked that even now, if I get a tiny blemish I will consider myself hideous. As I post this I'm sitting after my shower waiting for my face to cool down before I look in the mirror.. But deep down I know that I've looked worse in the past. It's hard to get over but I will..

 

As will you.

 

You'll eventually find yourself and be happy. You will find someone, I promise.. Your profile pic shows me you're a very attractive girl. Sure, you'll probably say oh good lighting, filter, edit.. Whatever excuse you want - but nothing can change your mouth, your face shape, your eyes, your hair... Acne is only a small feature out of many that make you

I agree. I had that click too at some point in life, but also some time after I got acne. It is that click that is the problem.

Actually to be honest I dated a couple really attractive girls who had bad cystic acne. They had a lot of guys after them. I noticed that in general guys are much more forgiving than women about acne, and yes this does show up in polls.

In any case I suffered for 20 years before going on accutane. I can say 100% my life would be better in so many ways if I had done it when I was younger. Don't waste your life accutane works even low doses.

What bugs me is I can remember the exact day it clicked for me! I was at a shopping center with really bad lighting and noticed my forehead acne.... And it all went downhill from there.

I always wonder what would have happened if I was just sick that day and didn't go.

What bugs me is I can remember the exact day it clicked for me! I was at a shopping center with really bad lighting and noticed my forehead acne.... And it all went downhill from there.

 

I always wonder what would have happened if I was just sick that day and didn't go.

I didn't care about it much until other people started to bully me.

Actually to be honest I dated a couple really attractive girls who had bad cystic acne. They had a lot of guys after them. I noticed that in general guys are much more forgiving than women about acne, and yes this does show up in polls.

 

In any case I suffered for 20 years before going on accutane. I can say 100% my life would be better in so many ways if I had done it when I was younger. Don't waste your life accutane works even low doses.

Girls discriminate way too much when it comes to love.

Acne (scarring) is unfortunately not my only problem. If that was the only thing standing in my way between my current loveless life and love, then I would just go on Accutane if that was guaranteed to work. I have several other major problems that will prevent me from ever getting loved, like my personality, my way of life, etc.

Well if it makes you feel better, romantic love is a myth.

Make lots of money and you won't be able to get rid of people who "love" you.

This will also help you pay for the scarring to be removed.

I guarantee you there isn't a single guy here, as we're all suffering, who won't admit that you're attractive. You are. Keep your head help up, as this is some advice I should be taking for myself as well.

I share these struggles except I have never been in relationships before, I'm pretty scared and I must admit I suffer sometimes.

Make me feel such like a huge loser saying that

^^ i'm 24 and I only got into my first 'relationship' three weeks ago haha! Before then I'd never had a partner, just failed dates

I know exactly how you feel. I started avoiding my last boyfriend because my acne came back after being gone for almost a year. I had told him about my skin problems before, and I knew he loved me and wouldn't leave me over something like that, but I was still just so devastated and embarrassed about my skin getting bad again. I convinced myself that I looked so repulsive that my boyfriend couldn't possibly be attracted to me anymore. I got so depressed and anxious that I wouldn't let my boyfriend or friends come over, and I wouldn't leave the house unless I had to go to work or school. My boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago because he couldn't understand why I didn't want him around. I couldn't explain to him how disgusting I feel, how I don't want anyone to look at me, much less touch me or kiss me.

I know how hard it is to have confidence and feel attractive when you have acne. Even when my skin was clear, I didn't feel confident. Years and years of acne have permanently damaged my ability to feel good about my appearance. At the end of the day though, I know I'm my own worst critic, and I'm sure you are too. Trust me, NO ONE on this earth cares about the fact that you have acne as much as you do. I bet you would be shocked to know how many people still think you're beautiful.

Try to keep your head up. I say that as someone who is struggling to do the same. Just trying get through each day hoping that my skin will be a little better tomorrow.

I know exactly how you feel. I started avoiding my last boyfriend because my acne came back after being gone for almost a year. I had told him about my skin problems before, and I knew he loved me and wouldn't leave me over something like that, but I was still just so devastated and embarrassed about my skin getting bad again. I convinced myself that I looked so repulsive that my boyfriend couldn't possibly be attracted to me anymore. I got so depressed and anxious that I wouldn't let my boyfriend or friends come over, and I wouldn't leave the house unless I had to go to work or school. My boyfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago because he couldn't understand why I didn't want him around. I couldn't explain to him how disgusting I feel, how I don't want anyone to look at me, much less touch me or kiss me.

 

I know how hard it is to have confidence and feel attractive when you have acne. Even when my skin was clear, I didn't feel confident. Years and years of acne have permanently damaged my ability to feel good about my appearance. At the end of the day though, I know I'm my own worst critic, and I'm sure you are too. Trust me, NO ONE on this earth cares about the fact that you have acne as much as you do. I bet you would be shocked to know how many people still think you're beautiful.

 

Try to keep your head up. I say that as someone who is struggling to do the same. Just trying get through each day hoping that my skin will be a little better tomorrow.

Wow, you didn't believe your own boyfriend. Please seek professional help.

This scares the heck out of me. I long so bad for love.

I have recently learned that lots of people eventually find great relationships once they get into a state of mind that goes "love would be nice, but meh".
Mental health, self-esteem and other personal problems should come way before the quest of finding love. It is much more important to love yourself.

Mental issues are caused by lack of love from the environment, a lack of human connection.

This was really sad to read. You should reach out to your ex and just clear the air. Acne is embarrassing but other people's reaction to it is not our problem, not really. I think seeing a therapist about those feelings will be beneficial. It has helped me tremendously but I have a long way to go.

Hugs

the problem is ur confidence, not ur face.

think about it 

Girls don't care about your confidence. They care about your face.

Can you please stop with the "girls are shallow and only care about looks" thing? Do you realize that there is no one singular definition of what "good looking" is? My idea of an attractive guy is completely different from millions of other girls, and vice versa. I've even been attracted to and dated guys who *gasp* have acne! So please, just stop. 

If my girlfriend has acne I wont mind it at all but I will advise her to take accutane and just clear it out. Srsly accutane works and is safe if you are healthy adult just pop some pills for a year and you will be fine.

The same works for attractive females though as well? Type into google 'sexy mugshot' and you'll see loads of 'attractive' females similar to Jeremy Meeks.

I don't think anyone, a guy or a girl, has ever solely been attracted to someone for their confidence, no, looks play an important part. But I don't think females are any more interested in looks than men are.. I mean the huge huge majority whole porn industry is aimed at men and stars the stereotypical 'ideal' woman.. Big boobs, long hair, slim, etc.

You simply wouldn't date someone you find as ugly. Some women and men may not like acne, some men and women may not like overweight inidivuals.

No, I am not going to stop until I observe evidence that disproves my current observations. You are an exception, a very rare one. I have never met girls like you in my vicinity.

I had to google him. Yeah, he is going to be a well known celebrity. He is going to do well with the women. He probably beats you into a pulp and rip your fucking head off your body when you meet him, but that is not a problem. At least he is HOT!

Okay dude, whatever you say. My two best friends are very conventionally attractive, could probably be with any "hot" guy they wanted, but they're both dating guys that you would probably not consider to be any more attractive than you. They're both balding, have crooked and/or missing teeth, one has serious acne scars, but neither of my friends give a fuck because they're incredibly happy with them. I guess they're just two more of those "rare exceptions" that couldn't possibly exist in your neck of the woods.

I will never say that they don't exist. It's just seemingly impossible to meet them and I have never met anyone before. It is not possible to be less attractive than me by the way. My attractiveness level is already zero.