I haven't worried about dating for the past 5 years or so (recently turned 30) since my scarring has gotten worse and it is clear to me that the majority of women around my age have trouble accepting that in a man....

At least there are easy outlets for sexual tension including jerking off, escorts, going to Las Vegas or Amsterdam, etc. Those things only bring temporary pleasure though and not happiness.... Even though I recently have become religious again, I do not find fault with people who choose those above options. I use them from time to time to relieve any tension I have. If there is tension, then I can't interact properly with people in social settings.... In fact, looking back, I am kind of glad that I stayed a virgin during my 4 years of undergrad since if I was not, I would have been too distracted by women on campus!!!

Money can buy pleasure, but not love !

An older topic that I did enjoy reading. While i do not fully support some of the topics brought to the table here, i do feel that they have some merit.

Everything about everything has changed. Really it has. While movies and grandparents tell us one thing about dating the reality in today's world is much different because of a complex web of happenings. Not one piece is a direct cause. The whole world has evolved and had its influences and in this case some for the better and others not, In respect to dating in today's world it is hard for both sexes in different aspects. There is a great focus on image and sex appeal by men to women and women demand to be treated as equals as they should be because 1 guy ruins it for the rest of us few, decent men by thinking with his cock instead of his head. Women abusethe good guy for his money or sex and dump him when done. Vise Versa. People judge each other severely on looks and preset mindsets about each other. Which impedes either party from actually meeting or establishing a life together.Its a vicious circle of people being wronged, expectations, image, social stereotypes etc etc. And its not going to change. Dating today is really a form of hell.

In my experience I have one female I attempted to date that today as i reflect on it makes me see how messed up peoples perceptions are. She had great charm, attitude, unique personality, and while she was overweight and a single mother it did not deter me as the "whole" picture of her drew me into liking this person. Emotions are a funny thing. She "demanded" her man treat her like a queen. Flowers, chocolates, little surprises, she expected me to cook, pay for every expense, she demanded i contact her every few hours via text message. Which usually meant she texted me every few hours asking "whats up" "what are you doing" "you should bring me coffee". Her response to this being treated like a queen is that i got treated like a king in the bedroom. As if life revolved around her vagina. Funny thing is i bought into it. Because im a decent guy who could do all she asked. Because after trying to date for over a year she was the one who payed attention to me. Not anyone else. Im glad it never worked out. She didn't trust me around her kid. Which was the deal breaker. This nurse loves kids.

The idea is there a few of us with level heads on our shoulders who are good people who want what we see from our friends, family, tv, movies, grandparents. Times have changed, people before us have fucked it up. There are standards everywhere and real sick expectations. Some of the things listed in this thread are examples.

I used to be a beautiful woman. I had a great body, long flowing hair, stunning features, and flawless skin. Men adored me and I always had a boyfriend or dates. But 10 months ago I had an accident that gave me a deep gash and hideous scar in the middle of my forehead. Now it is my most prominent feature. I used to always feel great about myself when I saw my reflection in the mirror. Now I cringe. Sunlight, strong overhead lights, car windows, and elevators give me panic attacks.

In the past 10 months, I've let myself go. I rarely go out in public and when I do, I am forced to wear a hat or hair in my face to cover the scar. I used to exercise 5-6 days a week. Now I don't anymore and my body is thin, gaunt, and flabby, I never wear makeup anymore or even cut my fingernails. My hair is long and unruly and I don't blow dry or style it. It is turning gray overnight from all the depression and anxiety. I always wear baggy clothes and sunglasses in public. Basically, my body image has been destroyed because of my deforming scar. Men no longer look at me and I feel like yesterday's trash. It is devastating. Trust me that it is way worse to be a woman with a scarred face than a man. I will probably die alone and am very suicidal right now. I don't know what's worse, never having beauty so never knowing what it is like to be attractive or having it ripped away from you in the blink of an eye and having to rebuild your life with a brand new identity. I think the latter is worse,

I realize this is an acne forum and I don't have acne. I tried expressing my feelings on a ptsd forum but for the most part no one understood me. Some even verbally attacked me and minimized my suffering, claiming that my situation paled in comparison to theirs. But I can relate much better to the posts/suffering in this forum. No one really gets it until it's on their face. Facial disfigurement is awful, and my heart goes out to each and every one of you.

On 2/15/2016 at 3:27 AM, scarredandsad34 said:

I used to be a beautiful woman. I had a great body, long flowing hair, stunning features, and flawless skin. Men adored me and I always had a boyfriend or dates. But 10 months ago I had an accident that gave me a deep gash and hideous scar in the middle of my forehead. Now it is my most prominent feature. I used to always feel great about myself when I saw my reflection in the mirror. Now I cringe. Sunlight, strong overhead lights, car windows, and elevators give me panic attacks.

In the past 10 months, I've let myself go. I rarely go out in public and when I do, I am forced to wear a hat or hair in my face to cover the scar. I used to exercise 5-6 days a week. Now I don't anymore and my body is thin, gaunt, and flabby, I never wear makeup anymore or even cut my fingernails. My hair is long and unruly and I don't blow dry or style it. It is turning gray overnight from all the depression and anxiety. I always wear baggy clothes and sunglasses in public. Basically, my body image has been destroyed because of my deforming scar. Men no longer look at me and I feel like yesterday's trash. It is devastating. Trust me that it is way worse to be a woman with a scarred face than a man. I will probably die alone and am very suicidal right now. I don't know what's worse, never having beauty so never knowing what it is like to be attractive or having it ripped away from you in the blink of an eye and having to rebuild your life with a brand new identity. I think the latter is worse,

I realize this is an acne forum and I don't have acne. I tried expressing my feelings on a ptsd forum but for the most part no one understood me. Some even verbally attacked me and minimized my suffering, claiming that my situation paled in comparison to theirs. But I can relate much better to the posts/suffering in this forum. No one really gets it until it's on their face. Facial disfigurement is awful, and my heart goes out to each and every one of you.

And that is the truth. No one really gets it until its on their face.  Many forget the mental trauma and subsequent depression that follows such battles of the physical change that you are almost helpless to resit. In the case of acne it is a losing battle most days. You just welcome the fact this is what it is going to be. Because fighting it takes some much out of you. In your case i cant begin to understand.  But i know the suffering.

You're beautiful you've forgot it though because others have took that from you. You can't seek approval from others you must believe it for yourself as you once did. Someone will realize that someday and they will respect your courage and what makes you you. And they will want to be with you. I guess that is my belief. Though in the off chance that's why i am building up a savings account for adoption  

On August 2, 2015 at 7:45 PM, azstl25 said:

I'm a 34 year old male virgin who has never been on a date, or has had any sort of sexual experience with a woman. I've never even had any female friends. I probably have some personality issues, but the number one reason I believe is my acne and the subsequent scarring that I've had since I was 14. Has anyone overcame the odds and found dating success and or love despite having this genetic flaw? I often cringe when I walk by a woman and imagine what she thinks about my deformed face. I often imagine my female co-workers saying disparaging things about how I look. Even though I've controlled my adult acne, my scarring has made me feel like this will be a permanent affliction in my life.

You post breaks my heart. It makes me sad that you think so poorly about yourself, because I've been there and I know what that feels like. I personally know several gorgeous women that are dating men with pretty bad acne. The right woman will not care if you have acne or not. I'm a woman that has suffered horrendous acne in the past, and my husband(who is quite handsome), never cared, and always made me feel beautiful when I was at my lowest. Your soul mate is out there, trust me! Side note: have you ever considered therapy? I finally decided to go about a year ago, and it has been tremendously helpful.

On 5/14/2016 at 6:13 PM, MonroeQT said:

You post breaks my heart. It makes me sad that you think so poorly about yourself, because I've been there and I know what that feels like. I personally know several gorgeous women that are dating men with pretty bad acne. The right woman will not care if you have acne or not. I'm a woman that has suffered horrendous acne in the past, and my husband(who is quite handsome), never cared, and always made me feel beautiful when I was at my lowest. Your soul mate is out there, trust me! Side note: have you ever considered therapy? I finally decided to go about a year ago, and it has been tremendously helpful.

I definitely need therapy, but I don't know where to start. Side note: Not surprised that a man would want to marry you acne or not, you're very pretty. I'm so ugly no woman has or will ever find me attractive, there is no soul mate out there.

Trust me when I tell you that you wouldn't have thought that 10 years ago. I was called ugly almostevery day(especially by men). As far as therapy goes, what's holding you back? If you are unsure about where to go you can just google "therapy" in your city, or you can ask your local hospital, they should know. Have you ever been before? You will be nervous the first time, but once you start going regularly, I promise you will feel much better about things. Now, in reference to your appearance: beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I've dated many different types of guys. Many of them were not "attractive" by societal standards. I got a lot of shit for it actually, but frankly, I didn't care. It may be because I grew up being bullied, but I viewed dating differently. Typically, I would be friends with a guy, and then I would fall in love with his personality. Looks aren't everything to me, they WILL fade. What's important to ME is that the person I'm with is kind, funny, and intelligent. Good looks are a bonus, but it's never been a deciding factor for me. Is your profile picture you? Because if so, I don't see anything ugly.

19 hours ago, MonroeQT said:

Trust me when I tell you that you wouldn't have thought that 10 years ago. I was called ugly almostevery day(especially by men). As far as therapy goes, what's holding you back? If you are unsure about where to go you can just google "therapy" in your city, or you can ask your local hospital, they should know. Have you ever been before? You will be nervous the first time, but once you start going regularly, I promise you will feel much better about things. Now, in reference to your appearance: beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I've dated many different types of guys. Many of them were not "attractive" by societal standards. I got a lot of shit for it actually, but frankly, I didn't care. It may be because I grew up being bullied, but I viewed dating differently. Typically, I would be friends with a guy, and then I would fall in love with his personality. Looks aren't everything to me, they WILL fade. What's important to ME is that the person I'm with is kind, funny, and intelligent. Good looks are a bonus, but it's never been a deciding factor for me. Is your profile picture you? Because if so, I don't see anything ugly.

It's not me, I would never post a picture of myself on the internet. Just was lookingfor pics ofpeople that I felt I looked like, (or felt like), but come on really? So if a guy looking like that approached you and tried to talk to you, you wouldn't be creeped out?

Lol, no why would I be? I mean, I'm married now so I obviously wouldn't pursue it. I've dated guys that those around me considered "ugly" and I've also dated guys who are considered "attractive." I go for personality, because like I said looks fade and eventually everyone becomes old, wrinkly, and less attractive.  

Im 26 and have been single for 3 years. A girl liked me last year while my skin was looking clear, but I thought she was superficial so I avoided her. Sure enough when my acne came back she looked at it and started laughing. I asked her what she was laughing at and said "your face".

Its very difficult for me to trust women. and Ive been isolated for like 6 months now ugh.

20 minutes ago, QuanHenry said:

Im 26 and have been single for 3 years. A girl liked me last year while my skin was looking clear, but I thought she was superficial so I avoided her. Sure enough when my acne came back she looked at it and started laughing. I asked her what she was laughing at and said "your face".

Its very difficult for me to trust women. and Ive been isolated for like 6 months now ugh.

That is so immature of her. I don't know if this helps, but I've found having acne/having had acne weeds out the people who are not good for you. I understand trust issues, it took me quite a while to get over mine.

Thank you, I know what you mean. If I didn't have a history of ups and downs with acne I probably would have gotten in to a bad relationship with her that would have imploded when I broke out. In a way it all balanced out, but its still kind of shitty.

10 hours ago, QuanHenry said:

Thank you, I know what you mean. If I didn't have a history of ups and downs with acne I probably would have gotten in to a bad relationship with her that would have imploded when I broke out. In a way it all balanced out, but its still kind of shitty.

I understand the need/desire of finding a mate, but just be patient and she will come. I wasn't even looking for a relationship when my husband came into my life, it was honestly fate. Try to take this time to work on your own happiness. Trust me, not all women out there are superficial.

I will be 36 in less than two months, and I will still be dateless, sexless scar-ridden beast of the apocalypse. I would like to thank my parents for giving me my subhuman genetics, and alsofor having a lack of empathy for my suffering that I've endured.You're the best fam.

On 8/15/2015 at 7:17 PM, azstl25 said:

Yea I saw that one coming. To be honest the "pay for play" option has definitely crossed my mind since it's the most likely way that I would experience sex. However, being in the U.S it's extremely risky. With my luck I would get arrested and have to go on a sex-offender registry, and my shitty life would be even shittier. I wished I lived in Europe or Australia if you know what I'm saying.

I don't think its a good idea, at least not to substitute as a relationship. It could make you feel even more bad because you had to pay for someone to pretend to like you. If you just want sex its one thing but if you want to be loved, that's not the way to go.
Maybe start taking walks, going to some kind of events, bookstores, sports events,etc. I know its scary to go out and be seen in public but the more you do the more chance to meet people. What activities do you like, cars, bikes, sports? I was at a baseball game the other day with 9,000 people, a good meeting opportunity.
You could try online dating but I agree, you're more likely to get judged if you don't end up looking like your profile pic. Meeting in person is the best because, they either like you right away or they don't.

On 5/17/2016 at 9:53 PM, MonroeQT said:

That is so immature of her. I don't know if this helps, but I've found having acne/having had acne weeds out the people who are not good for you. I understand trust issues, it took me quite a while to get over mine.

thats what a truly ugly person is.

14 hours ago, snarkygirl said:

I don't think its a good idea, at least not to substitute as a relationship. It could make you feel even more bad because you had to pay for someone to pretend to like you. If you just want sex its one thing but if you want to be loved, that's not the way to go.
Maybe start taking walks, going to some kind of events, bookstores, sports events,etc. I know its scary to go out and be seen in public but the more you do the more chance to meet people. What activities do you like, cars, bikes, sports? I was at a baseball game the other day with 9,000 people, a good meeting opportunity.
You could try online dating but I agree, you're more likely to get judged if you don't end up looking like your profile pic. Meeting in person is the best because, they either like you right away or they don't.

I agree about it not being a good idea, I was just venting at the time. I heard stories of advanced virgins seeking out prostitutes and how they weredreadful experiences. If a guy cant meet a regular woman, how are they going to have a good experience with a woman who'sadept atexploiting guys for their sexual needs?

On 8/2/2015 at 8:45 AM, azstl25 said:

I'm a 34 year old male virgin who has never been on a date, or has had any sort of sexual experience with a woman. I've never even had any female friends. I probably have some personality issues, but the number one reason I believe is my acne and the subsequent scarring that I've had since I was 14. Has anyone overcame the odds and found dating success and or love despite having this genetic flaw? I often cringe when I walk by a woman and imagine what she thinks about my deformed face. I often imagine my female co-workers saying disparaging things about how I look. Even though I've controlled my adult acne, my scarring has made me feel like this will be a permanent affliction in my life.

As an acne and scars sufferer myself, all I can say is we all have our own issues. One thing you're obviously doing is staying away without even trying. You also feed yourself with so much negativity that it hinders you to show who truly you are. I know we should expect the worst but feeding yourself with so much negativity won't do any good to you most especially. I can't believe I'm saying this but (I do now) not all human beings are judgmental. Try to get to know someone first. Don't ask someone out without knowing them. Be yourself (it's tiring to hear but it's reality). Being handsome/pretty -- is safe to say that it's a physical attribute. But being attractive is a different case, it's your overall package. keep that in mind.

As a female, I find someone attractive who makes me laugh (even if a joke can be stupid sometimes) and when he genuinely cares for me. 

My former CDP (chef de partie) -a male- is intelligent, fun to be with and talented. when it comes to working in the kitchen, he's phenomenal. I really do respect and look up to him. He's the person that don't brag himself (even if he can). He's "the way I move/work can speak for me" person type. EVEN if his face is like mine, hyperpigmentation at its finest and his scars are visible as well (we get along). but it didn't make him a lesser person.  And he has girlfriend for 7 years already. I also happen to know girls who are attracted to him.

My point is... there are living examples of your case and yet they live their life, have normal life and in a relationship. Don't think just because you have acne you can't be normal. Don't just sit and watch your life pass you by.

Most females out there wants someone who can make them laugh and be genuine to her.

Best of luck to you mate!

2 hours ago, MissyCheyser said:

As an acne and scars sufferer myself, all I can say is we all have our own issues. One thing you're obviously doing is staying away without even trying. You also feed yourself with so much negativity that it hinders you to show who truly you are. I know we should expect the worst but feeding yourself with so much negativity won't do any good to you most especially. I can't believe I'm saying this but (I do now) not all human beings are judgmental. Try to get to know someone first. Don't ask someone out without knowing them. Be yourself (it's tiring to hear but it's reality). Being handsome/pretty -- is safe to say that it's a physical attribute. But being attractive is a different case, it's your overall package. keep that in mind.

As a female, I find someone attractive who makes me laugh (even if a joke can be stupid sometimes) and when he genuinely cares for me. 

My former CDP (chef de partie) -a male- is intelligent, fun to be with and talented. when it comes to working in the kitchen, he's phenomenal. I really do respect and look up to him. He's the person that don't brag himself (even if he can). He's "the way I move/work can speak for me" person type. EVEN if his face is like mine, hyperpigmentation at its finest and his scars are visible as well (we get along). but it didn't make him a lesser person.  And he has girlfriend for 7 years already. I also happen to know girls who are attracted to him.

My point is... there are living examples of your case and yet they live their life, have normal life and in a relationship. Don't think just because you have acne you can't be normal. Don't just sit and watch your life pass you by.

Most females out there wants someone who can make them laugh and be genuine to her.

Best of luck to you mate!

funny= appealing, that's for sure.

On 8/15/2015 at 7:02 AM, AlexanderJ86 said:

I am in the same boat as you are. Just go to a prostitute, man. From personal experience I can tell you that they are infinitely more social than regular women will ever be. Prostitutes are doing it also for the money, the presents, the attention, etc, but at least they are honest about it and sex is guaranteed. I recommend that you pick a good one. The good ones will act as if they are your girlfriends for an hour or 2. You have to watch out though, because it is highly addictive and you have to watch your money. All this virgin- and relationship bullshit is absolutely not worth the love, attention and sex. I have good experiences with women who come from the poor areas in the world. The poorer they are, the more of an effort they will make to please you.

Don't take any tips from the women over here. Trust me, they are lying just to make you feel better and to save their own faces. They will always say things like "women regard personality just as important, if not, more important than looks", but the reality is that it is the other way around. In fact, personality doesn't matter one bit and they regard appearance as more important than men do. Men generally love anything with a heartbeat and a hole. The same goes for narcissism, feelings of entitlement and special treatment.

Unless you look like George Clooney and are as rich as him, you are not going to have any success under any circumstance. Anything else is an exception that definitely does *not* confirm any rules whatsoever.

I can also tell from experience that women are not only put off by acne. If you are highly intelligent, withdrawn, good with mathematics and computers, then will run away from you as fast as they humanely can, because you are a dull and boring person. I fall in that category and women absolutely don't care that I have the best of intentions with the word, the nature, the animals, the environment, stuff like that. It never worked out for me. In fact, anything you do as a job or something like that will not work for you.

I am struggling with mental disorders due to how I am treated by my environment and that includes women. The psychiatrists thought that I was screwing up my relations with other people, but then they tested my social skills and my skills are excellent. Now they are slowly finding out that I am speaking the truth.

Okay, so I tend to agree--pretty much ONLY with the first paragraph . This is far more mainstream these days than most people would believe. Though I was never an "escort", I did do pro-domme work for a short time while I was working on my masters and I think I'm a perfectly normal (if slightly sexually colorful), educated, cool girl. There will be no judgement, no shame, and no bullshit. I think it can actually be a deeply bonding experience.

That said, a lot of us acne sufferers do tend to fit a certain typology, in that most of us seem to share a lot of attractive physical attributes: a great or at least forgiving metabolism, good natural muscle tone, facial symmetry, and high sex drive.

Some of the most gorgeous men and women I've met have also been acne sufferers. A ton of models struggle with acne. Objectively speaking, we are not "disgusting", by any measure. I remember some of the first heartbreaking crushes I had in middle school, high school, and even college were acne sufferers. I could see how gorgeous they were underneath the acne more than I could see the acne.Which is to say, I was attracted to someone who also *happened* to have acne.

Because I have always been very sexually assertive and moderately confident, I don't think my acne ever affected my sex life, except when it was of my own making. Insecurity is honestly your worst enemy--not your acne.

Acne just means your human and you live in a developed world filled with GMO processed junk food and vaccine poisons , unless your acne is severe don't let it bother you 80% of population have it in one form or another. It never stopped me from getting laid accutane however caused me unwanted side effects that were completely unessesary in my life.

Also, for what it's worth, your avatar is hilariously charming and I think speaks a good deal about how attractive your personality is, whether or not you choose to believe it.

I like to think my bacne isn't causing anything, it's me. But it effects my self esteem so much it does prevent me from being my normal self especially when it comes to meeting women. I feel really inadequate. I've only had two rather serious girlfriends. The first I tried to hide it from her constantly and she could tell. The lack of confidence was less attractive. She ended up cheating on me after 4yrs and that was a big blow to my confidence as well. I dated another girl and we recently broke up. I hid it from her too. She said she didn't care but I still felt so bad about myself. Now I'm in the dating game and I still feel bad. I see all these amazing attractive girls on tinder or bumble but who wants to hookup with some gross bacne ridden guy? No one! They want attractive dudes who's not afraid to take his shirt off. Those with bad face acne probably think it's a blessing but I say bacne is a curse. It's a hidden secret. You appear "normal" but little do people know your skin sucks.

I've struggled with back acne since I was 17 and I'm 28 now. It's almost at it's worst actually. I'd say it's moderate. I'm lucky it's not cystic and my face is perfectly clear but occasionally I'll get a big painful deep sucker. It never seems to clear entirely. Dozens pop up and heal and it keeps repeating. I even get blackheads cause I have big pores and oily skin. I tried to stop it early when I was younger. I've seen a few derms and tried various OTC and prescriptions. Head and shoulders. I tried sun. I even did the acne.org regimen for a few months. It helped keep it at bay but it never really cleared up, not to mention ruining a lot of clothes and towels in the process. I've given up. I'm just a flawed person I've concluded.

I'm 31. I've had sex twice and on both occasions I've was so severely inebriated I can't really remember much of it. The last time was about eight years ago. I've been on maybe five or six dates in my life. That's a slow month for some people!

Never had a real girlfriend, basically because of low self esteem and a fear of getting close to people. When I had acne I genuinely didn't want a girlfriend, or close friendships for that matter, as I just didn't want anyone to see me ever. After acne I'm mostly just insecure about my lack of experience, both sexual and life in general. I've also got to a point where I'm so used to being on my own and doing my own thing, I'm not really sure if I'd want to be with anyone.

I can't really blame it on acne, at least not directly. When I was young there were a few girls that I was attracted to that I know were interested in me, but I didn't pursue it because of insecurities. I was preemptively rejected a lot by girls when I was younger, so that's always made me hesitant and a bit resentful. My appearance may have contributed to those insecurities, but I could have worked harder to overcome them.

9 hours ago, amanwithbacne said:

I like to think my bacne isn't causing anything, it's me. But it effects my self esteem so much it does prevent me from being my normal self especially when it comes to meeting women. I feel really inadequate. I've only had two rather serious girlfriends. The first I tried to hide it from her constantly and she could tell. The lack of confidence was less attractive. She ended up cheating on me after 4yrs and that was a big blow to my confidence as well. I dated another girl and we recently broke up. I hid it from her too. She said she didn't care but I still felt so bad about myself. Now I'm in the dating game and I still feel bad. I see all these amazing attractive girls on tinder or bumble but who wants to hookup with some gross bacne ridden guy? No one! They want attractive dudes who's not afraid to take his shirt off. Those with bad face acne probably think it's a blessing but I say bacne is a curse. It's a hidden secret. You appear "normal" but little do people know your skin sucks.

I've struggled with back acne since I was 17 and I'm 28 now. It's almost at it's worst actually. I'd say it's moderate. I'm lucky it's not cystic and my face is perfectly clear but occasionally I'll get a big painful deep sucker. It never seems to clear entirely. Dozens pop up and heal and it keeps repeating. I even get blackheads cause I have big pores and oily skin. I tried to stop it early when I was younger. I've seen a few derms and tried various OTC and prescriptions. Head and shoulders. I tried sun. I even did the acne.org regimen for a few months. It helped keep it at bay but it never really cleared up, not to mention ruining a lot of clothes and towels in the process. I've given up. I'm just a flawed person I've concluded.

have you tried diaper cream with zinc?

I just want to say thank you to everyone who shared their stories on this thread.

I think we all spend so much time worrying about healing the physical scars acne leaves us with with that we neglect treating the emotional scars.

For me, when it came to gaining confidence, I went the "fake it til you make it" route. I had no other choice. I had to accept that my own perception of my appearance and my self-worth could no longer be trusted. We become dysmorphic in many ways. And I can tell you from experience that it won't just magically disappear when/if your skin finally clears.

When you see someone else struggling with acne, do you find them repulsive? Unfuckable? Unworthy of love and affection? If you do, then you probably need to do some serious work on yourself. And if you don't, you need to figure out why you've deemed yourself somehow less deserving than every other acne-sufferer that crosses your path.