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Acne scars and Self Perception

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(@grooving-till-old-till-dust)

Posted : 07/08/2016 11:42 pm

These indentations from acne take away all of my self worth. Can anybody else relate?

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(@snarkygirl)

Posted : 07/09/2016 9:53 am

A lot of people on here can relate. I don't have acne scars( still have acne though) but I have some scars from self harm on my arms I'm really ashamed of. Lately there's been some fighting on the scar forums but I promise you, everybody who has scars it affects their self worth, its just a question of how much.

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(@grooving-till-old-till-dust)

Posted : 07/10/2016 11:43 pm

The indentations just take so much from me. This gross, textured skin I have on my cheeks is a huge bummer since I'm 20 and want to be happier about how I look. The umsmooth skin takes up my time, energy, and confidence.

Dang, I gotta change myself fast before my youth flies by and leaves me regretting how I lived during this time.

Change is necessary, mental change. This is very important to me. I can't waste any more of my 20s being stressed the fuck out.

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(@welcomesmirk)

Posted : 07/10/2016 11:59 pm

The best thing I have ever done for myself was attend an eating disorder clinic. I attended a program 3 nights a week for 2 1/2 years and it helped me sort out my psyche. I started the program because I developed razor burns all over my face because I was unwilling to look in the mirror to shave, I also had severe over exercising tendencies and heavy binging issues ; this process went on for 6 years because of my avoidance behavior. I finished the program a year and a half ago, and still struggle to look in the mirror on a daily basis, but the impact on my life that it has is extremely minimal compared to what it used to be. I notice the dissatisfaction, move on and live life. I look in the mirror every morning regardless if I don't want to, and now my body doesn't feel like its being stabbed with a knife when I look at my reflection. There are skills you need to learn to utilize to calm yourself, and I found my rescue in a clinic that taught me how to feel better about myself in a general sense, inside and out. No acne regimen can do that for me.

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(@grooving-till-old-till-dust)

Posted : 07/11/2016 4:26 pm

On July 9, 2016 at 9:53 AM, snarkygirl said:

A lot of people on here can relate. I don't have acne scars( still have acne though) but I have some scars from self harm on my arms I'm really ashamed of. Lately there's been some fighting on the scar forums but I promise you, everybody who has scars it affects their self worth, its just a question of how much.

Sorry about what you've been through in the past, sounds like a really hard time. I hope you are much better today.

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Posted : 07/11/2016 4:49 pm

WelcomeSmirk,

I am happyyou don't let your scars rule your life anymore. This gives me hope that one day I'll be able to do the same. Thanks for sharing your story.

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(@rika22)

Posted : 07/25/2016 11:41 am

Hey acne scars obsession, your texts could come from me. I'm 21, always had super smooth, clean skin, then suddenly huge acne breakout, couldn't look at myself in the mirror, noticed some scars lately and just wish that time passes by, even though I should enjoy life, I just can't, I feel so shitty

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(@marebearwrites)

Posted : 07/25/2016 6:50 pm

I had good skin growing up, I didn't even know it at the time, I totally took it for granted. In my mid 20s I began getting scars, and it has been devistating. It's strange because I never had full on face-covering acne, just a big hormonal cyst that would pop up every few months. Over the past 6 or 7 years, that has left 4 big, significant scars on my cheeks. The kind of large deep indentations that no make up can cover - not small little ice pick scars but larger boxcar scars. I have smaller ones as well, but the big ones are what bother me. Sometimes I'll go through a phase of acceptance where I don't think about it as much, other days I call out of work, obsess, feel hopeless, can't leave the house, and spend hours on these forums wondering how the hell Bruce Jenner can become Caitlin Jenner, but I can't fix a couple acne scars. Sometimes I just sit & cry. I know it has deeply affected my social life & sadly it's my self image & self consciousness that has more to do with me pushing ppl away than my actual looks being the reason. I wish I could help it. Most of all, I hate thinking about myself so much. I have so many pictures of my young happy self, very few recent ones because I can't stand looking at my scars. Other ppl my age are obsessing about losing weight, wrinkles etc. I don't care about any of that, for me it's my acne scars I would do anything to fix. Even worse, my peers have started families, are living life and I've pushed so many people away I'm not even close to that (and if I want to have kids the clock is kinda ticking).. I almost wish I got married when I was younger & didn't have these problems. Anyway, whew sorry for dumping but yes, I relate.

Let me add that if I could go back in time and tell myself anything it would be these 3 things: 1) don't pick a pimple let it be! 2) way more importantly, live your life, think about others. Accept yourself & when you catch yourself obsessing remember that you care way more than anyone. I would have told my 25 yr old self "go on girl, you're beautiful & young - act like it!" And 3) invest in Apple (lol)

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