3 minutes ago, ScarFace6556 said:yeah guys ..you guys are right ..quan, why dont you ever opt for fillers ? ive seen a thread of yours where you were going crazy because of your scars when some kid came up close to you and had a look of disgust on his face.
and monroe, the problem with me is accepting the scarring. reality is, majority of population has NO scarring. so everytime i go out in public i feel DIFFERENT, and feel like i could have been so attractive had i had normal looking skin.
You're right about that, but EVERYONE has struggles. Some you can't see. Not one person lives a perfect life. I have Epilepsy, but no one would know that unless I told you. Try to think about the positives(as cheesy as that sounds). You may have scars, but some people were born down right ugly. You may have scars, but you're still attractive. I hope someday you see that.
to me, life would be so much easier had i never had to deal with this disease. and even then, for the first 4 years of this disease i left it untreated and popped every zit because i never knew i could get actually indententation and holes in my skin from pimples. i thought if i popped them they would go away faster and return to normal skin everytime. plus it was very tempting to pop my pimples all the time, some of them had 2 heads. had acne since 12-13 and finally went on accutane at like 18. im 21 through 2 courses and i still get acne and im paying thousands for treatments for scarring . if this was NEVER an issue i would have saved and my family would have saved so much time and money....pretty much all the times ive been to the hospital is for fricken acne. other than acne im a healthy ass person.
8 minutes ago, MonroeQT said:You're right about that, but EVERYONE has struggles. Some you can't see. Not one person lives a perfect life. I have Epilepsy, but no one would know that unless I told you. Try to think about the positives(as cheesy as that sounds). You may have scars, but some people were born down right ugly. You may have scars, but you're still attractive. I hope someday you see that.
i understand that. youre not the 1st person to tell me everyone has issues and their own insecurities. however, most people do not have to wear it on their face daily.
I slip in and out of depression over my skin. I had a bad acne breakout a couple months ago and my skin was looking horrendous when I posted that thread. Looking back I dont know for sure that he was even looking at my skin.
As far as fillers, I dont want temporary solutions, and I think permanent fillers are just too risky. Im going to needle them until November, then do a round of fraxel my doc is offering at no cost to him.
and i was seriously thinking about this. im not sure whats worse, being born as an unattractive person with nice skin or a good looking person with horrible skin? i mean, atleast if i was unnattractive with nice skin id FEEL NORMAL....thats my issue, not feeling normal. because being unattractive is very common. not everyone out there is a model. however, most unattractive people are not scarred.
i wanna also tell you guys something. i was at a party a month or two ago and it was dark outside there was this guy with earrings and a hat on sitting down and the flash from his phone was showing on his face and he had really bad scarring. im talking about scarring where not an inch of skin was spared, including nose and full on neck. all pitted from head to chest. ive also seen some guys from a mile away with pitted scarring all over, thats how severe it was..am i greatful for mild scarring? yes, but majority of population doesnt even have that.
5 minutes ago, QuanHenry said:I slip in and out of depression over my skin. I had a bad acne breakout a couple months ago and my skin was looking horrendous when I posted that thread. Looking back I dont know for sure that he was even looking at my skin.
As far as fillers, I dont want temporary solutions, and I think permanent fillers are just too risky. Im going to needle them until November, then do a round of fraxel my doc is offering at no cost to him.
why are permanent fillers so risky? what are the risks
quan send me a picture of your scarring dude. and how old are you
and another thing too. i dont like the fact people see my face and they can tell i used to have acne. having acne before was bad enough, i mean i still break out but its not like before....but the scarring is just a sign that says " this guy had really bad acne"
synthetic meaning temporary? if you do get a lump from a temporary filler..the lump wil still last as long as the filler does right? i was gonna get fillers but i decided not to because i was scared of going blind or having a stroke ...im going to the same doc that 1 poster went to for her subcision-kazalea
20 minutes ago, ScarFace6556 said:and another thing too. i dont like the fact people see my face and they can tell i used to have acne. having acne before was bad enough, i mean i still break out but its not like before....but the scarring is just a sign that says " this guy had really bad acne"
synthetic meaning temporary? if you do get a lump from a temporary filler..the lump wil still last as long as the filler does right? i was gonna get fillers but i decided not to because i was scared of going blind or having a stroke ...im going to the same doc that 1 poster went to for her subcision-kazalea
Well, I think you're much stronger than you give yourself credit for. There is hope for you yet. I didn't realize you were so young. You are not a lost cause. Trust me, it is way worse to be ugly with perfect skin than to be a very attractive guy with some very mild scarring.
In my opinion, your depression is morethan a"skin-deep" issue.The only way you're going to start feelinggood about yourself is if youfind a good therapistto help youget to the root of the problem. I don't think the real problem is your scarring. I think you have some other things going on here such as BDD.
Dear Scarface,
I'm sorry to hear you are going through so much pain. Welcome to the shit. Welcome to the time in your life when you can decide whether you want to live like everyone else, or do something for this planet. You were given the gift, to be able to step back from life and tell yourself that you're different; that you stand out. Well that's exactly it, there is a reason you stand out, there's a reason why you feel separated from everyone else. ACNE IS NOT THAT REASON. Whether you are completely deformed or temporarily deformed, take this chance in your life to step back and figure out WHAT YOU WANT. Follow your dreams and your skin will linger behind your success in the dust. People are born everyday into deformity, at least your condition can be worked with. Now is the time to follow your instinct to thrive. Its a necessity that you find your passion so you can ignite your self love again. Because really, we aren't what we see in the mirror. You can't see yourself the way others see you; its a psychological fact. Build yourself so high with dreams that people bask in your triumph. This is your special opportunity to rise past those who suffer from narcissism and vanity.
IF YOU'RE WORRIED ABOUT FINDING SOMEONE:
I fell in love with someone who's face was 95% acne. He was teased regularly, but the first time I saw him I knew he was the most beautiful man I'd ever seen. Whenever someone tells me how they will always be lonely with their acne, I remember when I fell for someone at first sight, and acne was never invited in the conversation. I've always been roughly 90% clear.
1 hour ago, ScarFace6556 said:
synthetic meaning temporary? if you do get a lump from a temporary filler..the lump wil still last as long as the filler does right? i was gonna get fillers but i decided not to because i was scared of going blind or having a stroke ...im going to the same doc that 1 poster went to for her subcision-kazalea
Synthetic meaning artificial. If you get a lump from a temporary filler it will go away on its own eventually. If I was super rich I would probably do Juvederm twice a year, but that just isnt realistic for me right now.
Anyway, by no means am I a poster boy for having great mental health and I dont mean to Dr. Phil you. I can relate to what youre going through right now. I used to be suicidal but I came to realize that life is too interesting, there are people dealing with worse, there are ways to improve the scars, and others have overcome it. I know youve heard all of this by now, I just dont want you to hurt yourself, or continue do things like fuck up your relationship.
How old are you anyway? Im 26.
I just saw your pics and and I promise you they are not bad at all. I know how you feel though. I had bad acne and scarring in my 20's and I just felt so utterly worthless. I feel like crying remembering how I felt now. I'm doing much better now. I still deal with a bit of acne and my scars have faded over the years. There's pics in one of my posts if you want to see. You are absolutely not alone in this fight so keep it up.
I can honestly, honestly tell you that most people here would kill for your skin. Just take a look at some of the member pictures -- all of them will have skin worse than yours because yours is verging on flawless. Your tone is even. Your 'scars' just look like slightly enlarged pores to me. You NEED to get help for this, because you are literally the definition of BDD.
It's almost offensive that you find your skin suicide-worthy, haha... I'm sorry you're going through this. I know the toll mentally acne and scarring can place on people -- but you've already beaten acne. That's over half the battle.
Has anyone actually ever commented about your skin or said anything about it to make you feel this way? It doesn't even look like you even suffered from MODERATE acne at any point in your life.
I love the support system on here. You all are really making a difference. Stay strong! I'm a certified esthetician who has battled acne for many years. Proactive, Tazorac, Antibiotics, Diet change, you name it, I've probably done it. After going on accutane my life changed dramatically. I then did a few TCA chemical peels and my skin was even more flawless. Vitamin C serums took it to Amazing. I was a different person. Confident, engaging, Friendly, and much more of an extravert. I then went to school to study the skin. I wanted to start a non profit organization like Dan but a public facility to educate & help others understand and deal with acne. After all of the education I received I'm still so confused because here it goes, THERE IS NO CURE for acne. Accutane was the only magic bullet for me. Other products did help improve the the clarity , texture and condition but Accutane put it into remission just for a while. Well its back and now im very depressed. So depressed that I've disconnected with everyone because Im the one who should be the expert and I was too proud then. Now I stay home most days, avoiding interactions, avoiding the sun , and just avoiding life. Guess another round of tane is necessary. I wish there was a Acne Chatline. Would that be too much? I'm connsidering starting one and making it free so anyone can release their frustrations and concerns. Oh and have an skincare expert available via request. Please tell me what you think. I know I could benefit from this. I feel so alone. : (
On 6/1/2016 at 8:32 PM, QuanHenry said:Synthetic meaning artificial. If you get a lump from a temporary filler it will go away on its own eventually. If I was super rich I would probably do Juvederm twice a year, but that just isnt realistic for me right now.Anyway, by no means am I a poster boy for having great mental health and I dont mean to Dr. Phil you. I can relate to what youre going through right now. I used to be suicidal but I came to realize that life is too interesting, there are people dealing with worse, there are ways to improve the scars, and others have overcome it. I know youve heard all of this by now, I just dont want you to hurt yourself, or continue do things like fuck up your relationship.
How old are you anyway? Im 26.
im 21. send me pics of your scarring im curious. i dont judge man