26 Depressed Because Of Acne- Parents Making It Worst

drewfish01 · 2013-02-11T05:08:09Z

First i would like to mention i'm not the typical young person who is stressed b/c of their paretns. I am 26 male. I currently have no job and not even looking for it due to my acne. I live with my parents. Basically a few months ago my face has erupted with acne. I went on vacation just to get away from them but broke out later on in the vacation. I haven't had acne like this since back a few years ago when it cleared up. I come back home and I was broken out in my face. However it wasn't that big of a deal because i know in a few weeks my face would probably clear if i just stay inside the house and not eat any junk food etc and clean my face. Well my parents would just get upset at me and say stuff like when you going to look for a job. I said after my face clears up then i start looking. However, my mother kept coming into my room every week or so and have this talk with me like how you should look for a job as you are getting older etc and i understand what she is coming from. She then goes well if you dont get married by 30, then im going to get an arranged marriage for you etc... well she didn't say it exactly like this but you get what i'm trying to say. I know that any guy that hears this from their mother would obviously get pissed off. I told her stop saying this stuff to me because i would get angry and when i get angry like normal ppl i get stressed and my acne would get worst. Its like she keeps on doing this over and over again and i tell her to stop. The other thing is she wants me to eat food with the family. However, i hate it b/c i told her so many times they food she makes, its not good for my acne. I told her so many times, stop cooking food for me. I go and cook my own food and eat the stuff i buy etc. She goes oh don't worry its just so and so and i just get very upset. Why you ask? Because everytime i eat anything like that, my face breaks out within 3 days. And the worst part is i have tons of red marks as a result of it. I told her please stop it. Then there is my father. Whenever he sees food at a discount in a supermarket he would buy it. Wheres the problem though? He would buy those junk food such as ice cream bars and sandwiches and then put it in the fridge. The problem is stuff like that i'm very addicted to and those stuff give me pimples immediately. Thats why i never buy that stuff and avoid it. But what does he do? He buys it but doesn't even eat it. He just leaves it there and the only reason he buys it is because its CHEAP. I told him quit buying that stuff because last time i couldn't resist and ate some of it and then broke out even more. He then goes well just stop eating it then... WHO'S TELLING YOU TO EAT IT? Well i then said no one is and i try to stop eating it buts its so damn hard when its right in the fridge. The worst part is he NEVER EATS IT... he just leaves it there. The thing is i know how to avoid eating foods that aggraviate acne but isn't buying stuff like that and putting it in the fridge making it hard to not even try? The thing is i see it all that time and don't even touch it for like a month and then suddenly i go and get one b/c i couldn't resist. I know its my fault but does anyone here think this is just bad? He also smokes a lot and my mother told her to quit smoking. He still does it but not as much.. I told him this How about you aren't not allowed to smoke but we just put a pack of cigarettes on the table right next to you. You think that would be tough on you? Does anyone see where i'm going with this or is my logic wrong. I then last time would then eat with them and then they make some eggs. I told them so many times if i eat with them, don't make that stuff. Basically just make vegetables and chicken and thats it. No sauce or anything as well. And recently when i was eating with them, i forgot and then ate some crabs and then broke out even more in my face where i then broke down very hard inside my room because of it. Then my mother/father would go okay starting from now then, we not cooking anything you cook food for yourself then. I go... you said said 15 times already. After i go cook my own food and eat by myself you then say lets all eat the same food etc. its like the same process going over and over again. I know its my fault for eating those food such as ice cream and crab etc but I completely forgot about the crabs. The reason was b/c before i ate the crab my face was clearing up so much a few days before that i got happy so i forgot about it. Then after i ate it, next day my face just broke out so much again. I really hate my parents so much. I told them so many times quit doing that and they never listen. They go you can't just eat vegetables and chicken everyday etc. I told them i'm trying to clear my acne and they say fine okay but after some time, they always do crap where its causes me more acne such as leaving certain food i can't resist on the table or stressing me out. Last time i screamed at them and said my acne is ...

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John 96

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Posted : 02/17/2013 11:36 pm

I'm 16 years old and you sound a lot like how i sounded a few years back. I think you've got to realize that a lot of people without acne don't know how stressed/depressed people with this "condition" can get and how serious they take having it.

i don't get along with my parents, but a simple solution was to put a lock on my door and buy my own food. I mean that way i have my own privacy when i'm stressed and don't want to be around people. I'm living in their house so i don't really have a choice but to back down and respect them to a certain extent. I just think maybe you should stop worrying about what your parents are doing and focus on yourself and getting clear. I know you've said you're trying to do that but they keep interfering, so maybe have a chat with them and ask if a few changes can be made.

I always used to say " i will start taking my studies serious once i'm clear and happy" That day is yet to come, and that is probably why my grammar sucks

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Posted : 02/18/2013 2:01 am

Your parents have probably gotten used to seeing you with acne that they probablly dont even realize how much this shit pounds with pain from within you. I understand you dude I work and go to college and each day is motherfucking struggle just to leave the front door, I constantly think of just saying fuck this shit and dropping out and quiting work and go live under a bridge for the rest of life. I can't stand being around stupid ass immature people, which nowadays seems to be everybody around the fucking corner, they make me want to pound my face through a brick wall.

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Posted : 02/22/2013 4:54 am

I have a lot of sympathy for the OP in this thread and I think some of the replies haven't really tried to explore the OP's psychological state of mind at all, which seems to be the key issue to his present situation. It is extremely simplistic to ask the OP to simply accept 'adult' responsibilities and move out/ get his own apartment if he is struggling with psychological issues that are preventing him from doing so. Judging by the OP's responses, it's obvious he is extremely anxious about the state of his skin and this is having a negative impact on his life choices. OP, I would suggest that you seek out advice from a counselor/ psychotherapist who might be able to help you get to the key issue of the anxiety that you are currently feeling. I do recognise that acne has played a large role in determining the way you are feeling right now, but it also sounds like those original feelings about your skin have evolved into something that might be more akin to depression/ onset anxiety and if that is the case then that can be treated with SSRI's and psychotherapy

This forum is one of support and we should all try and remember that acne is a complex phenomenon that can influence a person's life beyond physical boundaries and It is not constructive to offer advice in terms of crude absolutes such as 'you need to move out now' etc.

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dejaclairevoyant

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Posted : 02/22/2013 6:34 am

No one said he has to move out now. I said he has to move out OR accept his current situation for what it is.

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