I have my prom in 5 days and my face is looking awful, I feel like crying every time I look at myself in the mirror. Despite having the perfect dress and accessories, all I can think about is how crap my face is going to look - black marks all over my face from pimples (I have Indian skin so PIH is so hard to cover up ) and tons of spots everywhere.

 

I don't even want to show my face to anyone; I hate how much acne affects me. I should be happy and enjoying life, but no, I'm sat in my room feeling sorry for myself and trying random things like ACV in the hope that some sort of miracle will happen. Not likely.

 

Im so sorry you feel bad. please dont skip your prom you will always regret it.

Just cover up the best you can look cute in your dress/hair and remember your friends love you for YOU .

Anyway probs are usually low-lighting anyway 😉

 

I didnt have this problem at my proms, which I am grateful for. I didnt start to get seriously botherd by acne until I was older. yup, 30 year old with acne its getting SO old :-I

Will say prayers for you to heal very fast!

 

I won't skip prom, but I'm definitely not going to enjoy it as much as I should . It's hard to not think about acne/marks/scarring when it's ruled my life for what seems like a lifetime. Thank you! I can't cover it up very well though - it looks cakey and more obvious, no matter what I use. If I had red marks I think I could deal with it, but the marks I have are almost pitch black and nothing covers that up. It just looks like I've bruised myself but I can't go out without make up on. Haha, I hope it is low lighting that happens to have a yellow tone to it...my skin looks kind of decent then!

I'm sorry to hear that, and thank you again for your kind words . I hope your acne goes away asap too, I hate it!

feeling pretty good today. Got enough sleep. Skin is looking nice except a scab from the pimple i picked the other day. But with the aloe i use it should go away by atleast Monday. I just need to appreciate my progress instead of always wishing it was better or perfect. :/

Zits on my face, zits on my face...... Zits on my forehead, bumps on my cheeks......ahahhahahahahahahahahahahaha

Whateverrrrrrrr!

I have my prom in 5 days and my face is looking awful, I feel like crying every time I look at myself in the mirror. Despite having the perfect dress and accessories, all I can think about is how crap my face is going to look - black marks all over my face from pimples (I have Indian skin so PIH is so hard to cover up ) and tons of spots everywhere.

 

I don't even want to show my face to anyone; I hate how much acne affects me. I should be happy and enjoying life, but no, I'm sat in my room feeling sorry for myself and trying random things like ACV in the hope that some sort of miracle will happen. Not likely.

 

I had my prom a few years ago (we call them formals here) and my skin wasn't that great then either...

I hope you do go and enjoy your prom! Try and not worry about your skin and cover it as best you can and remember most people will be looking at dresses anyway Have a good time - don't let acne stop that!

Zits on my face, zits on my face...... Zits on my forehead, bumps on my cheeks......ahahhahahahahahahahahahahaha

 

Whateverrrrrrrr!

 

Don't worry, things will get better...just takes time. :/

On 7/8/2012 at 12:08 PM, Lilly75 said:

On 7/8/2012 at 12:43 AM, secretcircus said:

I have my prom in 5 days and my face is looking awful, I feel like crying every time I look at myself in the mirror. Despite having the perfect dress and accessories, all I can think about is how crap my face is going to look - black marks all over my face from pimples (I have Indian skin so PIH is so hard to cover up ) and tons of spots everywhere.

I don't even want to show my face to anyone; I hate how much acne affects me. I should be happy and enjoying life, but no, I'm sat in my room feeling sorry for myself and trying random things like ACV in the hope that some sort of miracle will happen. Not likely.

I had my prom a few years ago (we call them formals here) and my skin wasn't that great then either...

I hope you do go and enjoy your prom! Try and not worry about your skin and cover it as best you can and remember most people will be looking at dresses anyway Have a good time - don't let acne stop that!

Thank you! The weirdest thing ever happened to me today - I went shopping for some foundation/concealer for prom and went to the Estee Lauder counter...and the woman looking to find my shade said I have nice skin. I had no make up on and felt horrific, and she insisted she wasn't just being nice (because I disagreed with her). Maybe I'm being too harsh on myself. I guess we see our acne differently to everyone else, I was just so taken aback with getting a compliment on my skin when I hate it so much.

Feeling a hell of a lot better thanks to that, plus I found some make up that actually does a pretty good job covering up everything! Thank you again, I hope I can forget about my skin and enjoy the night.

Always seems to be one step forwards two steps back for me. My acne appears to be hormonal so just when it seems be looking like its getting clearer after a couple of weeks *bam* I get more outbreaks in the run up to my monthly cycle. This seems to be the pattern. Sorry if that's too much information!

Skin looks good today. Just working on the last PIH I have, I have been using Dan's AHA+. Its working great so far. Hopefully, ill be perfectly clear within a week. A girl can wish right? I don't want to be negative anymore. I just want to live a happy life and appreciate everything.

I always seem to think it can be better,clearer, or smoother. Instead of appreciating the the results I have RIGHT NOW.

Thank you! The weirdest thing ever happened to me today - I went shopping for some foundation/concealer for prom and went to the Estee Lauder counter...and the woman looking to find my shade said I have nice skin . I had no make up on and felt horrific, and she insisted she wasn't just being nice (because I disagreed with her). Maybe I'm being too harsh on myself. I guess we see our acne differently to everyone else, I was just so taken aback with getting a compliment on my skin when I hate it so much.

 

Feeling a hell of a lot better thanks to that, plus I found some make up that actually does a pretty good job covering up everything! Thank you again, I hope I can forget about my skin and enjoy the night.

 

Hope you have a great prom!

But also, in response to your post, does anyone think our acne just looks way worse to us than it does to other people?

I've been having a lot of negative thoughts lately and I keep thinking, how can anyone wanna hang out with me when I look like I do. It's weird how I think people are so superficial when it comes to this stuff - Just my negative thoughts a'creepin'.

I'm feelin' alright I guess.

On 7/8/2012 at 12:50 AM, AuguriesofInnocence said:

On 7/8/2012 at 12:43 AM, secretcircus said:

I have my prom in 5 days and my face is looking awful, I feel like crying every time I look at myself in the mirror. Despite having the perfect dress and accessories, all I can think about is how crap my face is going to look - black marks all over my face from pimples (I have Indian skin so PIH is so hard to cover up ) and tons of spots everywhere.

I don't even want to show my face to anyone; I hate how much acne affects me. I should be happy and enjoying life, but no, I'm sat in my room feeling sorry for myself and trying random things like ACV in the hope that some sort of miracle will happen. Not likely.

Im so sorry you feel bad. please dont skip your prom you will always regret it.

Just cover up the best you can look cute in your dress/hair and remember your friends love you for YOU .

Anyway probs are usually low-lighting anyway 😉

I didnt have this problem at my proms, which I am grateful for. I didnt start to get seriously botherd by acne until I was older. yup, 30 year old with acne its getting SO old :-I

Will say prayers for you to heal very fast!

I skipped prom and I still don't regret it. I skipped it 'cause I was too shy or my skin was bad.. Not sure why, I forgot.. ha ha.. probably both..

On 7/8/2012 at 1:05 AM, secretcircus said:

On 7/8/2012 at 12:50 AM, AuguriesofInnocence said:

On 7/8/2012 at 12:43 AM, secretcircus said:

I have my prom in 5 days and my face is looking awful, I feel like crying every time I look at myself in the mirror. Despite having the perfect dress and accessories, all I can think about is how crap my face is going to look - black marks all over my face from pimples (I have Indian skin so PIH is so hard to cover up ) and tons of spots everywhere.

I don't even want to show my face to anyone; I hate how much acne affects me. I should be happy and enjoying life, but no, I'm sat in my room feeling sorry for myself and trying random things like ACV in the hope that some sort of miracle will happen. Not likely.

Im so sorry you feel bad. please dont skip your prom you will always regret it.

Just cover up the best you can look cute in your dress/hair and remember your friends love you for YOU .

Anyway probs are usually low-lighting anyway 😉

I didnt have this problem at my proms, which I am grateful for. I didnt start to get seriously botherd by acne until I was older. yup, 30 year old with acne its getting SO old :-I

Will say prayers for you to heal very fast!

I won't skip prom, but I'm definitely not going to enjoy it as much as I should . It's hard to not think about acne/marks/scarring when it's ruled my life for what seems like a lifetime. Thank you! I can't cover it up very well though - it looks cakey and more obvious, no matter what I use. If I had red marks I think I could deal with it, but the marks I have are almost pitch black and nothing covers that up. It just looks like I've bruised myself but I can't go out without make up on. Haha, I hope it is low lighting that happens to have a yellow tone to it...my skin looks kind of decent then!

I'm sorry to hear that, and thank you again for your kind words . I hope your acne goes away asap too, I hate it!

Do you really need to go to that prom? Seems like you have to go since you already bought the dress, etc.. =\

Trying to enjoy it and ignore your skin.

Anyways, today I am feeling great. I haven't been on acne.org at all because my skin is under controlled. I don't have any active pimple and my redness is gone. I just have dark spots. You see, aloe vere (fresh) does speed up the process. I also apply essential oils like lavender, tea tree, and frankincense which are good for acne, scars, and marks. I do see bumps forming, but they don't get inflamed at all.. they go away or turn into white head which takes 2-3 days to vanish.

 

 

I have my prom in 5 days and my face is looking awful, I feel like crying every time I look at myself in the mirror. Despite having the perfect dress and accessories, all I can think about is how crap my face is going to look - black marks all over my face from pimples (I have Indian skin so PIH is so hard to cover up ) and tons of spots everywhere.

 

I don't even want to show my face to anyone; I hate how much acne affects me. I should be happy and enjoying life, but no, I'm sat in my room feeling sorry for myself and trying random things like ACV in the hope that some sort of miracle will happen. Not likely.

 

Im so sorry you feel bad. please dont skip your prom you will always regret it.

Just cover up the best you can look cute in your dress/hair and remember your friends love you for YOU .

Anyway probs are usually low-lighting anyway 😉

 

I didnt have this problem at my proms, which I am grateful for. I didnt start to get seriously botherd by acne until I was older. yup, 30 year old with acne its getting SO old :-I

Will say prayers for you to heal very fast!

 

 

I skipped prom and I still don't regret it. I skipped it 'cause I was too shy or my skin was bad.. Not sure why, I forgot.. ha ha.. probably both..

 

 

 

 

I have my prom in 5 days and my face is looking awful, I feel like crying every time I look at myself in the mirror. Despite having the perfect dress and accessories, all I can think about is how crap my face is going to look - black marks all over my face from pimples (I have Indian skin so PIH is so hard to cover up ) and tons of spots everywhere.

 

I don't even want to show my face to anyone; I hate how much acne affects me. I should be happy and enjoying life, but no, I'm sat in my room feeling sorry for myself and trying random things like ACV in the hope that some sort of miracle will happen. Not likely.

 

Im so sorry you feel bad. please dont skip your prom you will always regret it.

Just cover up the best you can look cute in your dress/hair and remember your friends love you for YOU .

Anyway probs are usually low-lighting anyway 😉

 

I didnt have this problem at my proms, which I am grateful for. I didnt start to get seriously botherd by acne until I was older. yup, 30 year old with acne its getting SO old :-I

Will say prayers for you to heal very fast!

 

 

I won't skip prom, but I'm definitely not going to enjoy it as much as I should . It's hard to not think about acne/marks/scarring when it's ruled my life for what seems like a lifetime. Thank you! I can't cover it up very well though - it looks cakey and more obvious, no matter what I use. If I had red marks I think I could deal with it, but the marks I have are almost pitch black and nothing covers that up. It just looks like I've bruised myself but I can't go out without make up on. Haha, I hope it is low lighting that happens to have a yellow tone to it...my skin looks kind of decent then!

 

I'm sorry to hear that, and thank you again for your kind words . I hope your acne goes away asap too, I hate it!

 

 

Do you really need to go to that prom? Seems like you have to go since you already bought the dress, etc.. =\

Trying to enjoy it and ignore your skin.

 

Anyways, today I am feeling great. I haven't been on acne.org at all because my skin is under controlled. I don't have any active pimple and my redness is gone. I just have dark spots. You see, aloe vere (fresh) does speed up the process. I also apply essential oils like lavender, tea tree, and frankincense which are good for acne, scars, and marks. I do see bumps forming, but they don't get inflamed at all.. they go away or turn into white head which takes 2-3 days to vanish.

 

Ah, I think I would regret not going though - it'll be the last time I see certain people (I don't know how the prom system works in the USA, but in the UK we have one before everyone leaves for university) and I really need to stop letting acne ruin my life! It's already taken so much from me. Yeah like you said, I've got everything for it and I'm going to have to just try and forget about my stupid skin for the night. Most people are going to be so drunk by the end of it anyway that I hope no one's going to be looking at my face up close .

 

Thank you! The weirdest thing ever happened to me today - I went shopping for some foundation/concealer for prom and went to the Estee Lauder counter...and the woman looking to find my shade said I have nice skin . I had no make up on and felt horrific, and she insisted she wasn't just being nice (because I disagreed with her). Maybe I'm being too harsh on myself. I guess we see our acne differently to everyone else, I was just so taken aback with getting a compliment on my skin when I hate it so much.

 

Feeling a hell of a lot better thanks to that, plus I found some make up that actually does a pretty good job covering up everything! Thank you again, I hope I can forget about my skin and enjoy the night.

 

 

Hope you have a great prom!

 

But also, in response to your post, does anyone think our acne just looks way worse to us than it does to other people?

 

I've been having a lot of negative thoughts lately and I keep thinking, how can anyone wanna hang out with me when I look like I do. It's weird how I think people are so superficial when it comes to this stuff - Just my negative thoughts a'creepin'.

 

I'm feelin' alright I guess.

 

Thank you . I'm beginning to think our acne is perceived differently by other people. When I went to my GP last he said my skin was looking so much better and that it wasn't bad at all, but I see something completely different when I look in the mirror. I'm exactly the same as you - I just assume that everyone's judging my skin negatively all the time because that's how I see myself.

I'm in a bad spot right now. I've been in it before, and it goes back and forth all the time, but now I feel like it's worse then ever.

I've had problems with my skin for 18 years now, and I've tried everything to get rid of it.

I turned 29 a little while ago, and I have finally accepted, that my skin problems are here to stay, and it will never go away.

If that was the case, it would have happened now with all the things I've tried.

I feel like accepting that, is the same as giving up, and it's a horrible feeling, because I'm not the type that gives up.

I've had a severe depression for 14 years, almost half of my life, and I would have ended it long ago, if I was.

But I have to face the fact, that I don't have strong genes. No matter how much I want my body to be strong and healthy, it's never gonna happen.

And how nature works is that the strong owns the world, while the weak stands on the side watching.

The funny thing is, that mentally I'm strong as hell, but my body just can't keep up.

Because of my skin problems, and the fact that I've had a depression for so long, I've had a long time to observe other people, and think about life.

The fact is, that life is not for everyone. The only thing we all have in common, is that we get born, and we die. But other then that we are in no way equal.

I've watched and observed attractive people all my life, and also the unattractive, and the difference is the same almost every time.

The world revolves around attractive people. Life is easy when you are attractive, because it signals that you have good genes, and everyone wants to have babies with people who has good genes, so they can grow up strong and healthy.

That's the meaning of life, to find the strongest partner with the best genes, to mix with our own, so our babies can grow up as strong as possible, and have a better chance to survive in this world. That's also why we use sex and attractive people to sell everything, because that's what we all want. We can't help it, it's our genes telling us, that they are the strongest to mate with.

Unattractive people don't have that luxury.

They signal that their genes are not that good, and if you have any health problems, like acne for example, that's even worse.

Being unattractive limits our hope of finding an attractive partner to have babies with, because no one wants to have weak babies.

Does that mean that there's no hope for unattractive people? Of course not. Personality and other things goes a long way, but the fact is, that if you are unattractive, you have to work much much harder, and it's a constant uphill battle.

Personally after almost 30 years on this planet, I'm sick and tired of watching beautiful people get everything handed to them on a silver platter without any effort, while I have to work 10 times harder for everything, and still not get half of what they have.

We can't fight our genes no matter how much we want to, and when I realized that I was in the weak catagory, I knew it was over.

Don't get me wrong, I've had beatiful girlfriends, and chances to have babies, but I've made a decision not to. It would be selfish of me, when nature is telling me not to.

My children would grow up with the same weak genes like I did, and they would struggle with it like I did. I would never forgive myself for that.

Every day I wish I had never been born, because my body is not strong enough to live in this world.

And that's actually the reason why I'm depressed, that and the fact that I'll never have any kids.

Since the meaning of life is to find a strong mate to have babies with, well I don't really have a reason to live anymore.

Elvin

I'm in a bad spot right now. I've been in it before, and it goes back and forth all the time, but now I feel like it's worse then ever.

I've had problems with my skin for 18 years now, and I've tried everything to get rid of it.

I turned 29 a little while ago, and I have finally accepted, that my skin problems are here to stay, and it will never go away.

If that was the case, it would have happened now with all the things I've tried.

I feel like accepting that, is the same as giving up, and it's a horrible feeling, because I'm not the type that gives up.

I've had a severe depression for 14 years, almost half of my life, and I would have ended it long ago, if I was.

But I have to face the fact, that I don't have strong genes. No matter how much I want my body to be strong and healthy, it's never gonna happen.

And how nature works is that the strong owns the world, while the weak stands on the side watching.

 

The funny thing is, that mentally I'm strong as hell, but my body just can't keep up.

Because of my skin problems, and the fact that I've had a depression for so long, I've had a long time to observe other people, and think about life.

The fact is, that life is not for everyone. The only thing we all have in common, is that we get born, and we die. But other then that we are in no way equal.

I've watched and observed attractive people all my life, and also the unattractive, and the difference is the same almost every time.

The world revolves around attractive people. Life is easy when you are attractive, because it signals that you have good genes, and everyone wants to have babies with people who has good genes, so they can grow up strong and healthy.

That's the meaning of life, to find the strongest partner with the best genes, to mix with our own, so our babies can grow up as strong as possible, and have a better chance to survive in this world. That's also why we use sex and attractive people to sell everything, because that's what we all want. We can't help it, it's our genes telling us, that they are the strongest to mate with.

 

Unattractive people don't have that luxury.

They signal that their genes are not that good, and if you have any health problems, like acne for example, that's even worse.

Being unattractive limits our hope of finding an attractive partner to have babies with, because no one wants to have weak babies.

Does that mean that there's no hope for unattractive people? Of course not. Personality and other things goes a long way, but the fact is, that if you are unattractive, you have to work much much harder, and it's a constant uphill battle.

Personally after almost 30 years on this planet, I'm sick and tired of watching beautiful people get everything handed to them on a silver platter without any effort, while I have to work 10 times harder for everything, and still not get half of what they have.

We can't fight our genes no matter how much we want to, and when I realized that I was in the weak catagory, I knew it was over.

 

Don't get me wrong, I've had beatiful girlfriends, and chances to have babies, but I've made a decision not to. It would be selfish of me, when nature is telling me not to.

My children would grow up with the same weak genes like I did, and they would struggle with it like I did. I would never forgive myself for that.

Every day I wish I had never been born, because my body is not strong enough to live in this world.

And that's actually the reason why I'm depressed, that and the fact that I'll never have any kids.

Since the meaning of life is to find a strong mate to have babies with, well I don't really have a reason to live anymore.

 

Elvin

 

While I can understand, and to an extent agree with what you've said here, I have to say there is more than one meaning to life. Aren't there other things in life you want to experience? Or even things/places you want to see? Or personal goals you want to achieve?

Just because you don't want to pass certain genes on to children if you were to have them doesn't mean you have no reason to live. It just means that maybe you will just not have children in your lifetime.

As I mentioned, I can understand your thinking here - I often wonder whether I would have children because I'd hate for them to go through having acne and all the mental/emotional issues and social issues that seem to come with it... but then I also think that it's just one part of it and that I'd have the experience of having gone through it all and be able to help them so much more... I don't think I'll base any decision over having children or not over this... I know you gave the idea of passing on weak acne related genes being selfish - but aren't there other aspects to people that are great? physical or otherwise? couldn't it also be seen as selfish to not pass on the great things?

And there would be other options to you if you really wanted children. Adoption is something that I'd look into if I can't or decide not to have my own children.

I believe there is always a reason to live. Life is for everyone. Some may have to work harder than others to get where they want to be and yeah that isn't fair -especially when that sort of thing is due to appearance - but it's true that life isn't fair. And I'll accept that.

I want to love life. I want to have something to live for. So I'll search for whatever that something is and then keep living once it's found...

Just some thoughts I had while reading your post I guess...

I'm sorry I can't be of any real help to you.

I hope things get better, honestly.

 

 

 

While I can understand, and to an extent agree with what you've said here, I have to say there is more than one meaning to life. Aren't there other things in life you want to experience? Or even things/places you want to see? Or personal goals you want to achieve?

Just because you don't want to pass certain genes on to children if you were to have them doesn't mean you have no reason to live. It just means that maybe you will just not have children in your lifetime.

As I mentioned, I can understand your thinking here - I often wonder whether I would have children because I'd hate for them to go through having acne and all the mental/emotional issues and social issues that seem to come with it... but then I also think that it's just one part of it and that I'd have the experience of having gone through it all and be able to help them so much more... I don't think I'll base any decision over having children or not over this... I know you gave the idea of passing on weak acne related genes being selfish - but aren't there other aspects to people that are great? physical or otherwise? couldn't it also be seen as selfish to not pass on the great things?

And there would be other options to you if you really wanted children. Adoption is something that I'd look into if I can't or decide not to have my own children.

 

I believe there is always a reason to live. Life is for everyone. Some may have to work harder than others to get where they want to be and yeah that isn't fair -especially when that sort of thing is due to appearance - but it's true that life isn't fair. And I'll accept that.

I want to love life. I want to have something to live for. So I'll search for whatever that something is and then keep living once it's found...

 

Just some thoughts I had while reading your post I guess...

I'm sorry I can't be of any real help to you.

I hope things get better, honestly.

 

Thanks for trying to make me feel better, you are sweet.

Unfortunately I don't have a religious or philisofical approach to life. I don't think there's a higher meaning of life. I don't believe that anything happenes when we die, and I'll admit, that that's a horrible way to think, but that's just the way I am. But I really hope there is.

Therefore I don't see any difference from us, or any living thing on this planet. Other then that we are more evolved and intelligent.

Every animal or insect on this planet lives only to eat and procreate. Take away our intelligence and we are the same. Even with our intelligence we still have the same instincts and needs.

We need food to live or else we die, we need friends because we are a social creatures, and we need partners to have sex with. (And babies)

There's really nothing more to it. Everything else we do is just to pass the time, until we can have sex again.

Everything in this world revolves around sex. We eat food so we can live long enough to find someone to have sex with, so we can procreate.

Look at tv, the internet, commercials, everything we do in life revolves around sex, because that's the reason we are here. To procreate.

Think about it. It's what drives us. We can't help it.

I doesn't matter that we are more evolved or more intelligent then other animals, because our reason to be here are the same. To pass on our genes.

And having acne, makes it a hell of a lot harder to do our "job"

Elvin

I'm in a bad spot right now. I've been in it before, and it goes back and forth all the time, but now I feel like it's worse then ever.

I've had problems with my skin for 18 years now, and I've tried everything to get rid of it.

I turned 29 a little while ago, and I have finally accepted, that my skin problems are here to stay, and it will never go away.

If that was the case, it would have happened now with all the things I've tried.

I feel like accepting that, is the same as giving up, and it's a horrible feeling, because I'm not the type that gives up.

I've had a severe depression for 14 years, almost half of my life, and I would have ended it long ago, if I was.

But I have to face the fact, that I don't have strong genes. No matter how much I want my body to be strong and healthy, it's never gonna happen.

And how nature works is that the strong owns the world, while the weak stands on the side watching.

 

The funny thing is, that mentally I'm strong as hell, but my body just can't keep up.

Because of my skin problems, and the fact that I've had a depression for so long, I've had a long time to observe other people, and think about life.

The fact is, that life is not for everyone. The only thing we all have in common, is that we get born, and we die. But other then that we are in no way equal.

I've watched and observed attractive people all my life, and also the unattractive, and the difference is the same almost every time.

The world revolves around attractive people. Life is easy when you are attractive, because it signals that you have good genes, and everyone wants to have babies with people who has good genes, so they can grow up strong and healthy.

That's the meaning of life, to find the strongest partner with the best genes, to mix with our own, so our babies can grow up as strong as possible, and have a better chance to survive in this world. That's also why we use sex and attractive people to sell everything, because that's what we all want. We can't help it, it's our genes telling us, that they are the strongest to mate with.

 

Unattractive people don't have that luxury.

They signal that their genes are not that good, and if you have any health problems, like acne for example, that's even worse.

Being unattractive limits our hope of finding an attractive partner to have babies with, because no one wants to have weak babies.

Does that mean that there's no hope for unattractive people? Of course not. Personality and other things goes a long way, but the fact is, that if you are unattractive, you have to work much much harder, and it's a constant uphill battle.

Personally after almost 30 years on this planet, I'm sick and tired of watching beautiful people get everything handed to them on a silver platter without any effort, while I have to work 10 times harder for everything, and still not get half of what they have.

We can't fight our genes no matter how much we want to, and when I realized that I was in the weak catagory, I knew it was over.

 

Don't get me wrong, I've had beatiful girlfriends, and chances to have babies, but I've made a decision not to. It would be selfish of me, when nature is telling me not to.

My children would grow up with the same weak genes like I did, and they would struggle with it like I did. I would never forgive myself for that.

Every day I wish I had never been born, because my body is not strong enough to live in this world.

And that's actually the reason why I'm depressed, that and the fact that I'll never have any kids.

Since the meaning of life is to find a strong mate to have babies with, well I don't really have a reason to live anymore.

 

Elvin

 

Aw, sorry to hear that. 18 years is long.. it sucks that many of us have are still suffering at 25+

I do feel the same about having kids. I wanted 2 if my wife wants.. ha ha.. I don't have a gf yet, etc.. so not sure.

My father used to have it worse than me and I have 2 sisters and one brother and I am the only one with bad skin. If it is worse than ever, it is probably a sign that you'll not breakout anymore after it is calmed.It happened to me a few months.. it got worse and now my skin is clear, but still have red marks and new scars. I don't have active pimples at all. I do see small bumps, but they usually stay small and just turn red and go away quick. If you are using chemicals, that would be it... if not, then you'll be fine, I hope.

I'm in a bad spot right now. I've been in it before, and it goes back and forth all the time, but now I feel like it's worse then ever.

I've had problems with my skin for 18 years now, and I've tried everything to get rid of it.

I turned 29 a little while ago, and I have finally accepted, that my skin problems are hoere to stay, and it will never go away.

If that was the case, it would have happened now with all the things I've tried.

I feel like accepting that, is the same as giving up, and it's a horrible feeling, because I'm not the type that gives up.

I've had a severe depression for 14 years, almost half of my life, and I would have ended it long ago, if I was.

But I have to face the fact, that I don't have strong genes. No matter how much I want my body to be strong and healthy, it's never gonna happen.

And how nature works is that the strong owns the world, while the weak stands on the side watching.

 

The funny thing is, that mentally I'm strong as hell, but my body just can't keep up.

Because of my skin problems, and the fact that I've had a depression for so long, I've had a long time to observe other people, and think about life.

The fact is, that life is not for everyone. The only thing we all have in common, is that we get born, and we die. But other then that we are in no way equal.

I've watched and observed attractive people all my life, and also the unattractive, and the difference is the same almost every time.

The world revolves around attractive people. Life is easy when you are attractive, because it signals that you have good genes, and everyone wants to have babies with people who has good genes, so they can grow up strong and healthy.

That's the meaning of life, to find the strongest partner with the best genes, to mix with our own, so our babies can grow up as strong as possible, and have a better chance to survive in this world. That's also why we use sex and attractive people to sell everything, because that's what we all want. We can't help it, it's our genes telling us, that they are the strongest to mate with.

 

Unattractive people don't have that luxury.

They signal that their genes are not that good, and if you have any health problems, like acne for example, that's even worse.

Being unattractive limits our hope of finding an attractive partner to have babies with, because no one wants to have weak babies.

Does that mean that there's no hope for unattractive people? Of course not. Personality and other things goes a long way, but the fact is, that if you are unattractive, you have to work much much harder, and it's a constant uphill battle.

Personally after almost 30 years on this planet, I'm sick and tired of watching beautiful people get everything handed to them on a silver platter without any effort, while I have to work 10 times harder for everything, and still not get half of what they have.

We can't fight our genes no matter how much we want to, and when I realized that I was in the weak catagory, I knew it was over.

 

Don't get me wrong, I've had beatiful girlfriends, and chances to have babies, but I've made a decision not to. It would be selfish of me, when nature is telling me not to.

My children would grow up with the same weak genes like I did, and they would struggle with it like I did. I would never forgive myself for that.

Every day I wish I had never been born, because my body is not strong enough to live in this world.

And that's actually the reason why I'm depressed, that and the fact that I'll never have any kids.

Since the meaning of life is to find a strong mate to have babies with, well I don't really have a reason to live anymore.

 

Elvin

 

Don't say you're ugly or that you're not good enough.. and plus if you did get married with someone attractive who never had acne.. your babies might not have skin problems and they wouldn't be ugly. It would balance out

I'm in a bad spot right now. I've been in it before, and it goes back and forth all the time, but now I feel like it's worse then ever.

I've had problems with my skin for 18 years now, and I've tried everything to get rid of it.

I turned 29 a little while ago, and I have finally accepted, that my skin problems are here to stay, and it will never go away.

If that was the case, it would have happened now with all the things I've tried.

I feel like accepting that, is the same as giving up, and it's a horrible feeling, because I'm not the type that gives up.

I've had a severe depression for 14 years, almost half of my life, and I would have ended it long ago, if I was.

But I have to face the fact, that I don't have strong genes. No matter how much I want my body to be strong and healthy, it's never gonna happen.

And how nature works is that the strong owns the world, while the weak stands on the side watching.

 

The funny thing is, that mentally I'm strong as hell, but my body just can't keep up.

Because of my skin problems, and the fact that I've had a depression for so long, I've had a long time to observe other people, and think about life.

The fact is, that life is not for everyone. The only thing we all have in common, is that we get born, and we die. But other then that we are in no way equal.

I've watched and observed attractive people all my life, and also the unattractive, and the difference is the same almost every time.

The world revolves around attractive people. Life is easy when you are attractive, because it signals that you have good genes, and everyone wants to have babies with people who has good genes, so they can grow up strong and healthy.

That's the meaning of life, to find the strongest partner with the best genes, to mix with our own, so our babies can grow up as strong as possible, and have a better chance to survive in this world. That's also why we use sex and attractive people to sell everything, because that's what we all want. We can't help it, it's our genes telling us, that they are the strongest to mate with.

 

Unattractive people don't have that luxury.

They signal that their genes are not that good, and if you have any health problems, like acne for example, that's even worse.

Being unattractive limits our hope of finding an attractive partner to have babies with, because no one wants to have weak babies.

Does that mean that there's no hope for unattractive people? Of course not. Personality and other things goes a long way, but the fact is, that if you are unattractive, you have to work much much harder, and it's a constant uphill battle.

Personally after almost 30 years on this planet, I'm sick and tired of watching beautiful people get everything handed to them on a silver platter without any effort, while I have to work 10 times harder for everything, and still not get half of what they have.

We can't fight our genes no matter how much we want to, and when I realized that I was in the weak catagory, I knew it was over.

 

Don't get me wrong, I've had beatiful girlfriends, and chances to have babies, but I've made a decision not to. It would be selfish of me, when nature is telling me not to.

My children would grow up with the same weak genes like I did, and they would struggle with it like I did. I would never forgive myself for that.

Every day I wish I had never been born, because my body is not strong enough to live in this world.

And that's actually the reason why I'm depressed, that and the fact that I'll never have any kids.

Since the meaning of life is to find a strong mate to have babies with, well I don't really have a reason to live anymore.

 

Elvin

 

Elvin, are you alright?

Sorry you're feeling so down Elvin. And you know what? You're not completely wrong in your statements either. But the fact that you claim that because someone has acne, that they are genetically weak and inferior is completely lame and untrue.

Lots of people outgrow acne at some point. It may not have happened for you, or at least not yet.

What major health problems do you have? And how bad is your acne? Is it severe and scarring? Cystic and painful? If that's the case, you may have somewhat of a point. BUT I'm an extremely observant and receptive person. I've seen people with acne, and people with scarring have healthy lives, fall in love, and everything. You're theories are all based off of science and evolution. In no part of your ranting do the words love and compassion come into play. They make all the difference. Unfortunately for lots of skeptics, neither of those things really exist to them, and because of that way of thinking, they most likely never will.

Feel sorry for people with real problems, the starving children in 3rd world countries, who care about getting a meal in their stomach that day, rather than superficial skin problems. Or how about people born with horrible diseases and birth defects, that are deformed or mentally challenged. Victims of rape and abuse, or people with family lives so horrible that they resort to suicide.

Those are the people with real problems. Having acne makes you weak if you let it make you weak. And letting it make you weak just means that you ARE weak, and probably always have been weak. But that doesn't mean it's too late to change it. Change your perspective.

BUT, I dont know your life. Maybe you are genetically inept. Maybe not only your skin is bad, but you're fragile and frail, maybe you can't keep on body weight, or build muscle, or lack intelligence, social skills, or confidence. Maybe you're sick or have some horrible medical condition.

I'm just saying, I know people my age with real diseases, like Cystic Fibrosis, and they live life to the fullest and are grateful, even though they know they wont live for long.

Please fill me in on what other problems besides acne you have. I wouldn't mind giving some support.

I've felt down about my skin before too. Trust me, it happens to everyone. But being emotionally dominated by it is another story.

 

 

 

 

While I can understand, and to an extent agree with what you've said here, I have to say there is more than one meaning to life. Aren't there other things in life you want to experience? Or even things/places you want to see? Or personal goals you want to achieve?

Just because you don't want to pass certain genes on to children if you were to have them doesn't mean you have no reason to live. It just means that maybe you will just not have children in your lifetime.

As I mentioned, I can understand your thinking here - I often wonder whether I would have children because I'd hate for them to go through having acne and all the mental/emotional issues and social issues that seem to come with it... but then I also think that it's just one part of it and that I'd have the experience of having gone through it all and be able to help them so much more... I don't think I'll base any decision over having children or not over this... I know you gave the idea of passing on weak acne related genes being selfish - but aren't there other aspects to people that are great? physical or otherwise? couldn't it also be seen as selfish to not pass on the great things?

And there would be other options to you if you really wanted children. Adoption is something that I'd look into if I can't or decide not to have my own children.

 

I believe there is always a reason to live. Life is for everyone. Some may have to work harder than others to get where they want to be and yeah that isn't fair -especially when that sort of thing is due to appearance - but it's true that life isn't fair. And I'll accept that.

I want to love life. I want to have something to live for. So I'll search for whatever that something is and then keep living once it's found...

 

Just some thoughts I had while reading your post I guess...

I'm sorry I can't be of any real help to you.

I hope things get better, honestly.

 

 

Thanks for trying to make me feel better, you are sweet.

 

Unfortunately I don't have a religious or philisofical approach to life. I don't think there's a higher meaning of life. I don't believe that anything happenes when we die, and I'll admit, that that's a horrible way to think, but that's just the way I am. But I really hope there is.

Therefore I don't see any difference from us, or any living thing on this planet. Other then that we are more evolved and intelligent.

Every animal or insect on this planet lives only to eat and procreate. Take away our intelligence and we are the same. Even with our intelligence we still have the same instincts and needs.

We need food to live or else we die, we need friends because we are a social creatures, and we need partners to have sex with. (And babies)

There's really nothing more to it. Everything else we do is just to pass the time, until we can have sex again.

Everything in this world revolves around sex. We eat food so we can live long enough to find someone to have sex with, so we can procreate.

Look at tv, the internet, commercials, everything we do in life revolves around sex, because that's the reason we are here. To procreate.

Think about it. It's what drives us. We can't help it.

I doesn't matter that we are more evolved or more intelligent then other animals, because our reason to be here are the same. To pass on our genes.

And having acne, makes it a hell of a lot harder to do our "job"

 

Elvin

 

I don't have friends, so that's why I am so shy and quiet as I am not used to at talking with people. Usually, kids make friends and talk a lot and that's how they become cool and aren't shy and quiet. It is kinda late for me. I'm just gonna keep going to college, study hard.. and get good grades. As of now, I am trying to relax this summer because after summer, I will be studying hard, etc. All I do is read and go to the internet. Plus people at UPS are giving a hard time, they treat me bad.. they're all assholes.. not all.. but a lot. I was picked on before and now this,grr. I can't do anything 'cause I don't want bad rep and I don't like yelling back, etc. I just control myself and ignore those creeps. In the future, I just wanna be a nutritionist coach and educate others.. I know i won't make a lot, but I don't care about money, I just wanna help people eat healthy and teach them a bit about nutrition. Life isn't good yet.. people who thinks their life is good already got everything -their future job, a wife, kids. I'm still in the beginning because acne did really hold me back. I'm back to the gym and lifting everyday now so I can get more ripped, that way nobody messes with me

I believe there is always a reason to live. Life is for everyone. Some may have to work harder than others to get where they want to be and yeah that isn't fair -especially when that sort of thing is due to appearance - but it's true that life isn't fair. And I'll accept that.

I want to love life. I want to have something to live for. So I'll search for whatever that something is and then keep living once it's found...

That was lovely Lilly75 I needed to read that, and I'm sure many of us do.

On 7/9/2012 at 6:26 PM, Elvin83 said:

Thanks for trying to make me feel better, you are sweet.

Unfortunately I don't have a religious or philisofical approach to life. I don't think there's a higher meaning of life. I don't believe that anything happenes when we die, and I'll admit, that that's a horrible way to think, but that's just the way I am. But I really hope there is.

Therefore I don't see any difference from us, or any living thing on this planet. Other then that we are more evolved and intelligent.

Every animal or insect on this planet lives only to eat and procreate. Take away our intelligence and we are the same. Even with our intelligence we still have the same instincts and needs.

We need food to live or else we die, we need friends because we are a social creatures, and we need partners to have sex with. (And babies)

There's really nothing more to it. Everything else we do is just to pass the time, until we can have sex again.

Everything in this world revolves around sex. We eat food so we can live long enough to find someone to have sex with, so we can procreate.

Look at tv, the internet, commercials, everything we do in life revolves around sex, because that's the reason we are here. To procreate.

Think about it. It's what drives us. We can't help it.

I doesn't matter that we are more evolved or more intelligent then other animals, because our reason to be here are the same. To pass on our genes.

And having acne, makes it a hell of a lot harder to do our "job"

Elvin

On 7/10/2012 at 5:45 AM, justsomeguy44 said:

... In no part of your ranting do the words love and compassion come into play. They make all the difference.

I'm just saying, I know people my age with real diseases, like Cystic Fibrosis, and they live life to the fullest and are grateful, even though they know they wont live for long.

I've felt down about my skin before too. Trust me, it happens to everyone. But being emotionally dominated by it is another story.

@Elvin

I guess a lot of it does come down to personal attitudes and perspectives doesn™t it¦

I don™t think your way of thinking is horrible like you said “ it™s just a different way. I also don™t think someone needs to believe there is a higher power or higher meaning to enjoy life.

Yes we™re social creatures and maybe sex and procreation is inherent to us as ˜creatures™ but I don™t think it™s the ultimate goal in life.

Now I™m not sure if this is right but it™s something I just thought of “ maybe a difference here between us as humans compared to other animals is that we are able to have a concept of life and continuing life. (I think the idea of needing/having a concept of continuing life is often attributed to Peter Singer “ I don™t agree with all his views but they can be interesting¦) I think we™re more able to see values etc of life compared to other animals that may just be going through a cycle¦ I don™t know¦ being able to recognise values and feelings might make all the difference “ like ˜justsomeguy44™ has mentioned.

And I know how horrible acne can be to deal with especially due to emotional effects of it but I think it™s important to remember that we have it a million times easier than people who have life-threatening illnesses, disabilities, those who are starving, abused etc

“ Again the post by 'justsomeguy44' mentions this sort of thing too

Anyway - I agree with the points you™ve made but I also think it™s a matter of perspective, thinking and choice

I still do hope things will be better for you and you'll feel better - as anyone here will agree feeling 'down' like this is horrible. Hope you (and everyone else here) are doing ok.

On 7/10/2012 at 8:44 AM, Geeking said:

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I believe there is always a reason to live. Life is for everyone. Some may have to work harder than others to get where they want to be and yeah that isn't fair -especially when that sort of thing is due to appearance - but it's true that life isn't fair. And I'll accept that.

I want to love life. I want to have something to live for. So I'll search for whatever that something is and then keep living once it's found...

That was lovely Lilly75 I needed to read that, and I'm sure many of us do.

You're welcome then

and thanks - I didn't realise it'd be of 'help' to anyone but I'm glad it is - good thing I left it in there

@Nfamousjade and @EddieE, thanks for the support guys. Tough times like these you need all the support you can get.

Now on to my rant. So my acne is sort of improving, (still worst breakout I've ever had in my entire life) and I just got back home from an amazing week trip to San Fran with my sister. So I get home and see my parents after not seeing them for around a month. They havent seen my this bad ever. Instead of supporting me, all they do is bash me. They say "why don't you just get new products?!? There are dozens of them out there" (I'm allergic to BP, so I can't use half of OTC products). "Oh my god, this is embarrasing. Your face is full of acne, son" "Why arent you using something different". "Seeing your face makes me sad"..... WTHELL, what kind of support is that from parents. unbelievable. I was taking small boosts of confidence when my acne was slowly improving... now all confidence is shattered.. from my parents of all people. My sister has supported me all week, saying when I improve and how my face is getting better. all it takes is one night with the parents. smh. Anyways, I'm prob going to cave in and go see a dermatogist, probably get accutane or something. F @@$)*@)(@ ck!!!

Thanks for all your replies guys.

The fact that I don't believe in anything, is a big part of why I'm miserable.

I don't believe anything happenes when we die. I believe it's lights out, and that's it.

It won't matter if I live a happy life or a sad one, or if I have a lot of good experiences or not, or if I'm healthy or sick, because when I'm dead, I won't be able to remember it anyways.

The only thing that matters, is to keep life going by procreate.

And like any living thing on earth, only the strongest survive, and if I don't want to have children, or can't for any number of reason, I will have failed in life.

To say that there are worse thing in the world then having skin problems, is not the point. It's not what disease you have or how severe it is, if it's keeping us from passing on our genes, then they are equally bad, because when we are dead, it won't matter what was wrong with us, we won't remember it anyway.

The only thing that matters is that we are still alive through our children. That we were the strong ones, and not the weak ones that went extinct.

I didn't always use to think like this. I used to be a normal human with feelings and everything.

But 18 years of constant skin problems and everything that comes with that, has changed me.

I'm tired of fighting this skin disease. I'm tired of that it destroys my face, and everything in my life.

I can't eat anything without it affects my skin, I can't lift weights without it affects my skin, I can't have sex without it affects my skin,

I can't be in the sun or sweat without it burns my skin, me social and dating life suffers because of this, this is not only a superficial problem, it ruins everything.

Instead of being on my side, my body is constantly fighting me on everything I do, and after so many years, I'm running out of energy to keep going.

My body is keeping me from fulfilling my purpose in life, which is to pass on my genes.

I'm not alright right now, I'm really not. But I'm trying my best to be.

Thanks for reading, I hope you guys are doing better then I am.

Elvin

@Nfamousjade and @EddieE, thanks for the support guys. Tough times like these you need all the support you can get.

 

Now on to my rant. So my acne is sort of improving, (still worst breakout I've ever had in my entire life) and I just got back home from an amazing week trip to San Fran with my sister. So I get home and see my parents after not seeing them for around a month. They havent seen my this bad ever. Instead of supporting me, all they do is bash me. They say "why don't you just get new products?!? There are dozens of them out there" (I'm allergic to BP, so I can't use half of OTC products). "Oh my god, this is embarrasing. Your face is full of acne, son" "Why arent you using something different". "Seeing your face makes me sad"..... WTHELL, what kind of support is that from parents. unbelievable. I was taking small boosts of confidence when my acne was slowly improving... now all confidence is shattered.. from my parents of all people. My sister has supported me all week, saying when I improve and how my face is getting better. all it takes is one night with the parents. smh. Anyways, I'm prob going to cave in and go see a dermatogist, probably get accutane or something. F @@$)*@)(@ ck!!!

 

You're not alone with the parent thing. My mum keeps saying stuff like "You need to drink more water", "You need to wash your face properly and more often" and "You're very spotty" and it is driving me insane - I know she's trying to help, but she doesn't know anything about acne. If it was as simple as drinking water and cleaning 'properly', no one would have acne!

Feeling good this morning, last night tried Dan's BP for the first time. It seemed okay. I had ran out of my previous BP that was working great but i heard Dan's was great too. So I had to try it. Didn't see much difference tho, I really dont have acne anymore, so I can see why. I have about 1active pimple due to a clogged pore. I'm glad so I can just get rid of it already. I just want to appreciate my progress hope you all are getting progress as well!