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My friend criticized me today for wearing makeup to cover up my skin. He called me a "cake face." He said wearing makeup will make my skin break out. He obviously doesn't understand my acne is an internal problem. How judgmental and ignorant he is about my skin makes me so angry and insecure.
yes,he's just a jerk dear.
u deserve better!
p.s i love ur signature like everyone else too!
My friend criticized me today for wearing makeup to cover up my skin. He called me a "cake face." He said wearing makeup will make my skin break out. He obviously doesn't understand my acne is an internal problem. How judgmental and ignorant he is about my skin makes me so angry and insecure.
You're friend is an ass for making such comments that has nothing with him to do and for making you feel self-concious. But otherwise the idea is not entirely ignorant, whenever I wear thick layer of makeup I always get new breakouts that go away if I leave my skin alone for some days. It al depends on what type of cosmetics you wear and I guess I just don't have the money for some quality non-camedonic. But you explain that to your friend, so that he knows it and won't make such comments again. I don't think he would be concerned enough to google for it, so you could be a source of valid information.
Those, who have acne, should understand that other people's ignorance is not a sin. How would they know much about the condition they don't have? We constantly judge each other from the previous experiences we had, that's how we are. So instead of getting angry it's better to fill their gaps in with information. I bet many people doesn't know acne is not just the surface, why would they.
What is actually ignorant, is making inappropriate comments, but here again - people are clueless about the emotional load acne sufferers have.
We are sometimes as judgemental as them, cursing them for the advices that maybe didn't mean anything bad. They don't owe us knowing about acne, but can enlighten them 
My friend criticized me today for wearing makeup to cover up my skin. He called me a "cake face." He said wearing makeup will make my skin break out. He obviously doesn't understand my acne is an internal problem. How judgmental and ignorant he is about my skin makes me so angry and insecure.
People also don't understand the emotional toll of acne. For me it's not always that I think others judgemental or ignorant, I just wish people could be more understanding in general. Personally, I can't leave the house if I haven't put a bit of makeup on. I don't wear a lot and can't manage to cover everything (some hyperpigmentation shows through but I'm ok with that - but I still have a fair amount of coverage) but I need to hide a bit of it to feel confident enough to go about my day. Whether we wear makeup or not, whether we go all out with our makeup or opt for a sheer look, is no-one's business but our own. Do what makes you comfortable and confident!! 
(I love what your signature says too! I noticed your signature for the first time the other day - I often miss people's signatures...)
still feeling worse and crappy I should say about myself..... Still using Proactive and it's almost nearly out. I don't have enough money to buy the regimen on here, despite that it is my first time throwing money on here lolol... But again I don't have the money to but it. I need stronger regimen other than Proactive, it seems limited effective since it made my face bit better, but at same time I am still breaking-out mildly.
Gosh I want it for the "Regimen" to win and not have the acne retaliate <.<
But anyway i am still feeling crappy and stressed out about my acne since it's still on-going and I still have scars and dark spots on my cheeks the highest. I am nowhere to being as handsome as those TV, movie celebrity cast stars =(
My friend criticized me today for wearing makeup to cover up my skin. He called me a "cake face." He said wearing makeup will make my skin break out. He obviously doesn't understand my acne is an internal problem. How judgmental and ignorant he is about my skin makes me so angry and insecure.
Uh yeah... that's not "a friend."
I'm doing okay. My skin is clear but I'm really upset about Cory Montieth...I was a huge fan. I just found out at like 2am last night because I didn't watch the news all of yesterday or go online...started having a total breakdown... he (and the entire cast) was an inspiration to me and we were the exact same age almost (he was born like a month before me) so I had a particular attachment to him and was following his career. He always seemed like such a sweet/funny guy in his interviews and he had the most beautiful voice, I'm just heartbroken. 
My friend criticized me today for wearing makeup to cover up my skin. He called me a "cake face." He said wearing makeup will make my skin break out. He obviously doesn't understand my acne is an internal problem. How judgmental and ignorant he is about my skin makes me so angry and insecure.
What I thoughtless and rude thing to say! I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that, sounds like your friend was having a very careless moment when he said that to you. I agree with Lily, do whatever you need to do to feel comfortable and confident and don't worry about ignorant comments like that...some people just forget to think before they speak. 
Thank you guys!! Your words of support always make me feel better. 
And I'm glad you guys like my signature! Sometimes I forget to read it myself. I'm glad you guys find it useful too!
On 7/15/2013 at 11:29 AM, wheatfree said:On 7/15/2013 at 9:49 AM, TheSavyBanana said:My friend criticized me today for wearing makeup to cover up my skin. He called me a "cake face." He said wearing makeup will make my skin break out. He obviously doesn't understand my acne is an internal problem. How judgmental and ignorant he is about my skin makes me so angry and insecure.
Your friend was being a jerk! He is ignorant, so don't let him get to you. I know! You should read your own signature. . . it always makes me feel better.
(reading YOUR signature)
On 7/15/2013 at 11:17 AM, snsdgirl14 said:On 7/15/2013 at 12:20 PM, aanabill said:On 7/15/2013 at 9:49 AM, TheSavyBanana said:My friend criticized me today for wearing makeup to cover up my skin. He called me a "cake face." He said wearing makeup will make my skin break out. He obviously doesn't understand my acne is an internal problem. How judgmental and ignorant he is about my skin makes me so angry and insecure.
yes,he's just a jerk dear.
u deserve better!
p.s i love ur signature like everyone else too!
On 7/15/2013 at 9:49 AM, TheSavyBanana said:>>>My friend criticized me today for wearing makeup to cover up my skin. He called me a "cake face." He said wearing makeup will make my skin break out. He obviously doesn't understand my acne is an internal problem. How judgmental and ignorant he is about my skin makes me so angry and insecure.
That's awful...not a good friend, IMO. Thankfully my friends have never said anything like that to me, but if they did I'd be so upset. I've had guy friends talk about how they hate foundation on girls and how they prefer the "natural look" (while not realizing that all of their favorite celebrities are wearing full makeup 95% of the time they're photographed).
You don't owe it to anyone to wear less makeup. You're your own person and you make your own decisions. If you want to wear makeup, then screw what other people think. If it makes you feel more secure, then embrace it and don't feel ashamed. And if you don't want to wear makeup, that's fine too. To each their own. I personally love makeup, and wearing concealer and foundation makes me feel less self conscious about my skin in public.
And as long as you're wearing non-comedogenic makeup, it shouldn't contribute to breakouts, so your friend is wrong...of course everyone's skin is different and some people break out to different things. But I think as long as you're using the right makeup, cleaning your brushes frequently, etc. you should be fine.
In other news, about my day. My skin looked really good today overall, my mom even commented on it.
On 7/15/2013 at 9:49 AM, TheSavyBanana said:My friend criticized me today for wearing makeup to cover up my skin. He called me a "cake face." He said wearing makeup will make my skin break out. He obviously doesn't understand my acne is an internal problem. How judgmental and ignorant he is about my skin makes me so angry and insecure.
People also don't understand the emotional toll of acne. For me it's not always that I think others judgemental or ignorant, I just wish people could be more understanding in general. Personally, I can't leave the house if I haven't put a bit of makeup on. I don't wear a lot and can't manage to cover everything (some hyperpigmentation shows through but I'm ok with that - but I still have a fair amount of coverage) but I need to hide a bit of it to feel confident enough to go about my day. Whether we wear makeup or not, whether we go all out with our makeup or opt for a sheer look, is no-one's business but our own. Do what makes you comfortable and confident!!
(I love what your signature says too! I noticed your signature for the first time the other day - I often miss people's signatures...)
Thank you!! Your kind words always make me feel better.
On 7/16/2013 at 4:10 AM, Randall Flagg said:On 7/15/2013 at 9:49 AM, TheSavyBanana said:My friend criticized me today for wearing makeup to cover up my skin. He called me a "cake face." He said wearing makeup will make my skin break out. He obviously doesn't understand my acne is an internal problem. How judgmental and ignorant he is about my skin makes me so angry and insecure.
What I thoughtless and rude thing to say! I'm so sorry that you had to deal with that, sounds like your friend was having a very careless moment when he said that to you. I agree with Lily, do whatever you need to do to feel comfortable and confident and don't worry about ignorant comments like that...some people just forget to think before they speak.
Terrible breakout.I think i'll soon need to visit a Psychiatrist. I hate my life.
Sorry to hear you're feeling so down at the moment If you can, or if it helps, try and think of whatever's going on now as a rough patch or a bump in the road - we all experience feeling like this and have our own tough times to get through - but that's the thing - keep trying and you can get through it!
What are you doing for your skin right now? Did you change anything recently? Maybe that's why you're breaking out now..
Speaking to a therapist is a good idea too. Hopefully they can help you
Hang in there!
Terrible breakout.I think i'll soon need to visit a Psychiatrist. I hate my life.
Sorry to hear that, sincerely.
Do not wear your spectacles, it will make you less sad, maybe, a little.
Today I feel like crap. A big, huge crap that stares at me in the mirror, yelling: "you have pimples".
I finally found the paper with my blood test results from some months ago. My gynaecologist said everything was quite fine, but I checked out myself and few things seemed quite odd. First of all I'm quite low on TSH (thyroid stimulating hormone). It's not below the norm, but when I did the test a year ago, the doctor also mentioned it being a bit low. It was 0.55 mE/L out of 0.20 - 4.00. Isn't it a bit low? FSH (follicular stimulating hormones) is low too. It's 2.5 E/L which makes it fall to pre-puberty category instead of the one for women in fertile age. Estradiol (main estrogen) seems to be stuck in follicular phase...
If anyone here know something about hormones, please tell me if I should worry about these things. My gynaecologist didn't pay much attention to them, so I thought everything's fine, besides me having PCOS.
Usually, with blood tests, there is a range because any one person's hormones can fluctuate between those levels within the course of one day. I wouldn't worry about it if you're within that range.
Today, I told my dad that I didn't want to apply to med school this cycle (I want to wait a year, because I really feel that I can't churn out a great application in just a week or two.) And he responded very badly. He looked away with this expression I can only call disgust. He proceeded to insult the organization I founded at my University and my dedication/commitment to it. My letter writers are not responding to my e-mails and he essentially told me to go to their houses and stalk them (he's batshit. I hope he wasn't serious.) He talked to me like I was an idiot. He told me that he knew me better than I knew myself. He said that I was giving up. He sneered at me. I feel so alone. My mother is mad at me because I'm so stressed out that I yelled at her this morning. She smacked me on my butt. WHAT THE F**K IS UP WITH MY PARENTS TREATING ME LIKE I'M A CHILD?!?! I'M 21. Why can't they just be there for me? Why can't they just be supportive. They're freaking psychiatrists. Why can't I have a mommy and daddy? I wonder what they would do, how they would handle it if I ever said something truly groundshaking. What if I were gay and I told them? What if I were pregnant? What if I had a boyfriend? They can't handle the smallest things like "I think I have PCOS" or "I want to take a gap year". They are some of the worst parents in the world. I know every teenager says that, but they really and truly are. They've never cared when I've been depressed, when I've been stressed. They've never cared about my feelings, just about their own impositions on me. "God Help Me" are the only words that can describe how I feel right now. I feel alone. I feel angry. I feel hurt. I feel resigned. God, give me someone who will love me. My friends love me, but it isn't fair for me to depress them with my problems. They have their own problems, they're busy. I just feel so unstable. I feel like I'm a teenager again, back when I used to have angst problems and feel depressed and alone. I hate myself. I've always been told that I'm really intelligent or a really talented writer, but now, I just feel like everyone was lying to me. I feel like they expect too much out of me. God Help Me. I just need a shoulder to cry on. I need a hug. I need someone to kiss my forehead and wrap me in their arms. I need someone to just touch me, just a hand on my arm or a squeeze of my shoulder.
I finally found the paper with my blood test results from some months ago. My gynaecologist said everything was quite fine, but I checked out myself and few things seemed quite odd. First of all I'm quite low on TSH (thyroid stimulating hormone). It's not below the norm, but when I did the test a year ago, the doctor also mentioned it being a bit low. It was 0.55 mE/L out of 0.20 - 4.00. Isn't it a bit low? FSH (follicular stimulating hormones) is low too. It's 2.5 E/L which makes it fall to pre-puberty category instead of the one for women in fertile age. Estradiol (main estrogen) seems to be stuck in follicular phase...
If anyone here know something about hormones, please tell me if I should worry about these things. My gynaecologist didn't pay much attention to them, so I thought everything's fine, besides me having PCOS.
Usually, with blood tests, there is a range because any one person's hormones can fluctuate between those levels within the course of one day. I wouldn't worry about it if you're within that range.
Today, I told my dad that I didn't want to apply to med school this cycle (I want to wait a year, because I really feel that I can't churn out a great application in just a week or two.) And he responded very badly. He looked away with this expression I can only call disgust. He proceeded to insult the organization I founded at my University and my dedication/commitment to it. My letter writers are not responding to my e-mails and he essentially told me to go to their houses and stalk them (he's batshit. I hope he wasn't serious.) He talked to me like I was an idiot. He told me that he knew me better than I knew myself. He said that I was giving up. He sneered at me. I feel so alone. My mother is mad at me because I'm so stressed out that I yelled at her this morning. She smacked me on my butt. WHAT THE F**K IS UP WITH MY PARENTS TREATING ME LIKE I'M A CHILD?!?! I'M 21. Why can't they just be there for me? Why can't they just be supportive. They're freaking psychiatrists. Why can't I have a mommy and daddy? I wonder what they would do, how they would handle it if I ever said something truly groundshaking. What if I were gay and I told them? What if I were pregnant? What if I had a boyfriend? They can't handle the smallest things like "I think I have PCOS" or "I want to take a gap year". They are some of the worst parents in the world. I know every teenager says that, but they really and truly are. They've never cared when I've been depressed, when I've been stressed. They've never cared about my feelings, just about their own impositions on me. "God Help Me" are the only words that can describe how I feel right now. I feel alone. I feel angry. I feel hurt. I feel resigned. God, give me someone who will love me. My friends love me, but it isn't fair for me to depress them with my problems. They have their own problems, they're busy. I just feel so unstable. I feel like I'm a teenager again, back when I used to have angst problems and feel depressed and alone. I hate myself. I've always been told that I'm really intelligent or a really talented writer, but now, I just feel like everyone was lying to me. I feel like they expect too much out of me. God Help Me. I just need a shoulder to cry on. I need a hug. I need someone to kiss my forehead and wrap me in their arms. I need someone to just touch me, just a hand on my arm or a squeeze of my shoulder.
Sorry about what happened. Try not to get upset about it. Great applications should not be rushed - parents don't understand this because the application process to get into med school was not nearly as competitive as it is nowadays. Also, extracurricular activities and involvement in organizations play a huge part in how you are viewed as a candidate, you should emphasize that to your dad so that he stops degrading what you are passionate about.
Would writing your parents a letter help you communicate with them in a peaceful manner? Maybe they will take the time to read it and actually understand your frustration. *hugs*
Feeling indifferent today...that time of the month that I break out is here, but thankfully, I haven't gotten any big zits yet. I have been getting tiny whiteheads right around my upper lip, very frequently...like clockwork, every morning, there's at least two or even three, all around the same place. Then by the next day they've either refilled or there's new ones. It's like, wtf? I just started having this problem this summer...I never used to get this. I've switched my Clarisonic brush, switched cleansers to one with salicylic acid...I just don't understand why they keep coming up. It's not really distressing, but just annoying, because if it weren't for them then I'd have perfect skin. And all the constant whiteheads are starting to leave little red marks right next to my lip. :/
Well I've only been on spiro for a week now so I can't expect too much. It's hard being patient, but I hope I don't have to worry about this when I go back to school. I don't want to wake up in fear every morning of what's popped up over night...and I want to be confident and stuff so I do well in school. It's a shame, but when I'm upset, I do sooo much worse in school. I wish I didn't let my skin affect me this much.
It'll all be gone someday....skin changes a lot over the years, and undoubtedly mine will too...can't let this deter me from my goals and aspirations.
Getting more anxious as next week draws closer. I'm starting back at uni on Monday and on the Tuesday I start my placement work for uni with an organisation that works with children with autism. I'm excited and nervous. Mostly nervous and anxious really... because my skin is SO red and flaky looking on top of still being broken out in places... I'm worried that I'll look untidy and not professional for such a workplace...I can't do makeup well on top of my skin while it's like this... I'm not sure how much of what I'll be doing will be with the children directly, but I'm sure that will be involved at some point at least, so I'm worried about being around young kids and how they'll react to how I look or how red my face is etc. Kids say what they want
I also don't know what to do or say if someone (anyone - not just kids) asks why my face is so red or why my face is so dry or what's wrong with my skin... I guess I could always say I got sunburnt (in this cold-cloudy-rainy-stay-indoor weather we've been having) or that I had a peel done... but I'm sure they'd wonder what was going on if my skin is still like this in a week or twos time...
any ideas of what I could say or do for this??
or any tips / ideas for coping with anxiety? I try and use hypnosis and meditation techniques and recordings but I'd love to hear any other ideas if you have them
I also don't know what to do or say if someone (anyone - not just kids) asks why my face is so red or why my face is so dry or what's wrong with my skin... I guess I could always say I got sunburnt (in this cold-cloudy-rainy-stay-indoor weather we've been having) or that I had a peel done... but I'm sure they'd wonder what was going on if my skin is still like this in a week or twos time...
any ideas of what I could say or do for this??
or any tips / ideas for coping with anxiety? I try and use hypnosis and meditation techniques and recordings but I'd love to hear any other ideas if you have them
You should say you fight with a dragon. Or with a pancake pan. Or you can just say you're trialing a new acne treatment: don't be scared, people won't throw you stones.
You can use jojoba oil to make your skin look better.
Coping with anxiety? Why not some sport to unwind? Or music to practise, or juste to listen?
I start my very first job tomorrow and skin looks crappy as always.
Haha don't feel alone: I start my very first job this afternoon and skin does not look sexy either.
Hugeeee pustule on my nose this morning -_- ugh.
Pustule on my left cheek. My pustule and your pustule should meet and have a drink.
I feel disgusting... I look disgusting, my acne is causing me to be depressed more than I have EVER. I don't even want to look at myself in he mirror.
I send you good vibrations to make you feel better and clear up.
Today, I told my dad that I didn't want to apply to med school this cycle (I want to wait a year, because I really feel that I can't churn out a great application in just a week or two.) And he responded very badly. He looked away with this expression I can only call disgust. He proceeded to insult the organization I founded at my University and my dedication/commitment to it. My letter writers are not responding to my e-mails and he essentially told me to go to their houses and stalk them (he's batshit. I hope he wasn't serious.) He talked to me like I was an idiot. He told me that he knew me better than I knew myself. He said that I was giving up. He sneered at me. I feel so alone. My mother is mad at me because I'm so stressed out that I yelled at her this morning. She smacked me on my butt. WHAT THE F**K IS UP WITH MY PARENTS TREATING ME LIKE I'M A CHILD?!?! I'M 21. Why can't they just be there for me? Why can't they just be supportive. They're freaking psychiatrists. Why can't I have a mommy and daddy? I wonder what they would do, how they would handle it if I ever said something truly groundshaking. What if I were gay and I told them? What if I were pregnant? What if I had a boyfriend? They can't handle the smallest things like "I think I have PCOS" or "I want to take a gap year". They are some of the worst parents in the world. I know every teenager says that, but they really and truly are. They've never cared when I've been depressed, when I've been stressed. They've never cared about my feelings, just about their own impositions on me. "God Help Me" are the only words that can describe how I feel right now. I feel alone. I feel angry. I feel hurt. I feel resigned. God, give me someone who will love me. My friends love me, but it isn't fair for me to depress them with my problems. They have their own problems, they're busy. I just feel so unstable. I feel like I'm a teenager again, back when I used to have angst problems and feel depressed and alone. I hate myself. I've always been told that I'm really intelligent or a really talented writer, but now, I just feel like everyone was lying to me. I feel like they expect too much out of me. God Help Me. I just need a shoulder to cry on. I need a hug. I need someone to kiss my forehead and wrap me in their arms. I need someone to just touch me, just a hand on my arm or a squeeze of my shoulder.
I understand how you feel. As painful as it could be, get away from your parents. The only way I got my parents to respect my choices was not consulting anything with them. Not telling what is happening in my life, seeing them more rarely. It gets better later, you just need to show that their opinion about you is not going to affect you. Don't let your parents manipulate with this "You disappoint me" shit.
I'm saying this because I was in kind of a similar situation. My parents divorced and my dad moved abroad. Now the situation in my home country wasn't the best for a young person who wanted to pursue a carrier, so when I graduated I decided take a chance and go to my dad. That meant I was not applying to any University like my classmates and I would need to spend some years learning the language of that new country. My mom's reaction to this decision was the worst ever. I was called a traitor (for going to my dad), failure (for not going to University right after graduating) and basically there was no support from her just a constant mental abuse with such words as "you're not gonna achieve anything" or "how could you choose your dad over me, I'm gonna go hang myself". The first year in a new country was a huge stress on it's own, but my mom's messages were what what killing me the most. My dad didn't help me much either, he had a family of it's own (this was the time when from a very mild acne I developed a severe one btw).
When I finally started studying, I quickly realised that the thing I chose it was not for me and decided to change direction. My both parents reacted as if their prediction was correct - I'm giving up, I'll never finish anything, I'm just meant to be a failure.
But they paid a price for it. I'll never be as close to them as I would be, if they showed any support. And I think they're starting to realise it.
I know parents' support is very important and needed. But you can do without it Skinnie and you don't have to live to anyone's expectations. We don't live for others. It's only your business when you want to apply to med school or anything else, so don't let your parents think they have a right to criticize you like that.
On 7/17/2013 at 2:57 PM, Mandarine said:QuoteI also don't know what to do or say if someone (anyone - not just kids) asks why my face is so red or why my face is so dry or what's wrong with my skin... I guess I could always say I got sunburnt (in this cold-cloudy-rainy-stay-indoor weather we've been having) or that I had a peel done... but I'm sure they'd wonder what was going on if my skin is still like this in a week or twos time...
any ideas of what I could say or do for this??
or any tips / ideas for coping with anxiety? I try and use hypnosis and meditation techniques and recordings but I'd love to hear any other ideas if you have them
You should say you fight with a dragon. Or with a pancake pan. Or you can just say you're trialing a new acne treatment: don't be scared, people won't throw you stones.
You can use jojoba oil to make your skin look better.
Coping with anxiety? Why not some sport to unwind? Or music to practise, or juste to listen?
Haha a dragon story could be interesting but thanks - I may as well be up front with it if someone asks...
I've been pretty lazy lately when it comes to exercising. I like to go for a jog or take my dog for a walk in the morning or evening but it's been so rainy and cold lately I've let the laziness / my warm bed win But I'll get back into it because I know it helps.