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Does anyone else here basiclly have no social life?

Each year since I first Got acne 5 years ago. Ive dreaded the thought of going out more and more. These past 3 years have probally been the worst I basiclly stopped talking to friends and stopped going out. Im curious is there anyone like me that avoids going out as much as possible? Basiclly I only go out to get food.(anything thats fast food usally)

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HAH...I ALWAYS HAD A GREAT SOCIAL LIFE...THE ONLY TIME I WAS HOME WAS TO SHOWER,AND SOMETIMES SLEEP.......NOW IM IN THE HOUSE ALL FUCKIN DAY....ITS KILLING ME,IT REALLY FUCKIN BLOWS...BUT LUCKILY I HAVE YOU PEOPLE TO ENTERTAIN ME......BUT THIS SHIT HAS TO END REAL SOON.....I GOTTA GET ON WITH MY LIFE...A WHOLE NEW ONE TOO.......

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LATELY IVE JUST BEEN STAYING HOME..WORK , VISIT FAMILY , THEN BACK HOME ....DON REALLY LIKE GOING OUT WHEN IM BREAKING OUT...I GET ATTENTION AS IT IS, AND BREAKING OUT...WELL THE ATTENTION MAKES ME SELF CONSCIOUS...SO I STAY HOME ...AT LEAST TILL IM CLEAR...OR SOMEWHAT CLEAR

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when my acne got bad a few months ago i never went out ... not even for food. lol. i felt uncomfortable and hated having to face someone knowing that they could see how disgusting my face was. that's why i chose my schedule at school to only be tuesdays and thursdays but it was still hard to go ... esp. when i'd have to walk in a class filled with people and once the door opens everyone looks to see who's coming and it's just me and my pimply face. i even avoided talking to people ... when they were real nice and tried to make conversation with me and what's worse is i've avoided family. i missed out on the holidays because of my face. :( oh well. i'm glad it's better now.

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DAMN...I FEEL SO BAD FOR SOME OF YOU.......DONT CONCENTRATE ON YOUR FACE SO MUCH...DONT LET IT STOP YOU FROM GOING OUT...FUCK EVERY ONE....ACNE DOESNT LOOK AS BAD AS YOU THINK..GRAY SKEEZY DONT MIND LOOKIN AT PEOPLE WITH ACNE...TELL YOU THE TRUTH IT DONT BOTHER MOSY PEOPLE,ONLY THE ONES WHO HAVE IT.....YOUR ACNE WILL CLEAR UP SOON ENOUGH,IN THE MEAN TIME DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY.................

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i guess when you've had for quite awhile, you just start to notice every pore on your face and it just eats you up. it is hard to be happy and to go out with a load of shit on your face ... no matter how many ppl say they don't mind or they don't care. aside from just having acne and having to face common everday ppl (most of which are pretty clear) there is also the other side of it. the part where your just trying to find a product that works and doesn't screw you up more and that's difficult! it's a damn pain! :evil:

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hmm.yeah that would be me lately..just sitting like a dick in front of the computer and im also chatting with my friends thru msn..basically being a lazy bitch lol im supposed to start work on Monday which i really need..right now, im broke, im saving money and i yeah i do go out on the weekends time to time but nothing like i used to be.. ive become really private. those days when i had good skin b4 i was out and about but i know ill snap out of it soon..i needed this time, to recover from my bad skin and accutane/chronic dry lips.. sort my feelings out.. it's been good for me but also it's not going to be good for anyone who does it for too long..

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I guess I have the same dilemma with you guys. I stay home all day sitting in front of the computer with a mirror next to it. I still have to bother my mother to buy food for me as I am too afraid to go out and face people. Basically, I've been avoiding all my friends and had yet go to school for weeks. ALL BECAUSE OF ACNE.

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I have no social life by choice... I always get asked out to go places but I just don't feel comfortbale going. Today I've been asked out on the night up town and in the day to the cinema with different people but I just dont feel like I can face it. :(

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all of us would have no social life by choice...

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I realized tonight how much it really effects me. I went to Waffle House with my brother, and a group of cute girls came in...I couldn't even bear the thought of lowering the hood on my sweatshirt, because then they would see my scars, and judge me. I don't like the thought of that, therefor I don't show my face. It was a stretch for me to even go to Waffle House for food. I usually say no. I thought since it was 1 something in the morning no one would be there. Guess I was wrong. Oh well, it's over with. It really puts a damper on the little things that should make life worth living.

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all of us would have no social life by choice...

Not really, If you cant make friends you havn't got a choice whether to have a social life or not.

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all of us would have no social life by choice...

Not really, If you cant make friends you havn't got a choice whether to have a social life or not.

and who's fault is that? anybody can make friends..unless ur some disfigured monster..it's up to that person..the ppl who dont make friends do it by choice...theres always someone ur gonna get along with in this world. yeah..unless u want to be a loner and dont want friends...but i truly beleive evryone wants someone to talk too..

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all of us would have no social life by choice...

Not really, If you cant make friends you havn't got a choice whether to have a social life or not.

and who's fault is that? anybody can make friends..unless ur some disfigured monster..it's up to that person..the ppl who dont make friends do it by choice...theres always someone ur gonna get along with in this world. yeah..unless u want to be a loner and dont want friends...but i truly beleive evryone wants someone to talk too..

Wanting and doing are two different things. Easier said than done. You may not be able to understand it, because you, yourself obviously can do it, but just because someone may want to have a strong social life, doesn't mean they have the confidence, therefor the ability to make it happen. That's the problem with most of the people here, myself included.

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I go through cycles of being social and then being non social. The last couple of years I concentrated more on home and work, got centered. And in the last year, I've made a couple of friends that I hang out with a few times a week. Well, I've made one friend. But she's a good friend.

Maybe it's getting older (I'm 24), but I don't like wasting my time with trivial relationships. I want a friend - someone whom I can call on day and night, for any reason - not just an aqquaitence. You don't find those just around the corner. But it's okay for me, because the one friend I do have is really awesome. And even though she's just one friend, she's one REAL friend. I'd much rather have that than several people whom I just sort of "know."

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right now i have zero social life and im 25. This is as much to do with certain medical problems as acne. If only it were only acne scars.... :cry: honestly, I prefer having no friends at the moment, it would just make life harder if i did. I havn't given up though, im trying a few things to improve my situation..

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My social life is pretty slow alright...sometimes go to the cinema with friends, or to a disco, but usually I spend my time at home, at least when I'm not in school that is!

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My social life has suffered somewhat in the past years, but lately I've been going out more and trying to enjoy myself, meeting up with friends and guys and such but that gets boring after a while and is a headache at times. I think I'm better off in the house and out of trouble.

Sometimes I do dog my friends when I feel particularly ugly, which makes me feel bad that I have to lie to them and compromise having fun because of skin issues and such, but at other times I get in the mood to go out and want to go out everyday. I guess a large portion of my life is on the god damn computer, I feel like chucking it out the window at times.

Aw well :whistle:

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My social life has virutally slowed over the last couple of years. It's like my friends have all moved on, their lives have progressed, and i'm stuck in a period of my life where i don't wish to be in.

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I have no social life at the moment but its not becuase of acne.....im a stay at home mom......but when i did have mild acne I went out every day....I found that it made me feel better to hang out with my friends and have some fun.....staying inside just made me more depressed cause i would just look at my face and wonder when it would go away/what could i do to make it go away. WHen I was out i almost forgot i even had acne.

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acne should not keep you from having a social life. seriously. first of all, there are tons of people with it. so hangout with them. secondly, most people dont care if their friends have bad skin.

i always knew i had acne and didnt like it but it didnt keep me from doing much. i could have done more and probably would have if i hadnt had acne, but i operated at like 90%. i went out all the time in highschool, had tons of friends, and the same in college. i went to an ivy league school, always had friends and was making new ones, and was in a really good fraternity.

so you're just keeping yourself out of the loop for no reason.

scars have effected me differently, though. they've effected me more and for some reason than acne and i've been more effected as i've gotten older. being gay in new york is tough no matter what. having a flaw makes it 10 times harder. not to mention, i'm a total perfectionist and am obsessed with every aspect of how i look.

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Acne didn't really affect me much at all. It's the f'ing scars it left me that have crippled my social life. :(

...getting better little by little though.

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hey, doesnt mean you have acne doesnt mean you cant enjoy life. U shouldnt be cooped up and be all antisocial and depressed. Acne may bring down your self confidence, but I think its all in your head because i see many people that has acne moderate to severe go out in public and act as if nothing is wrong with their face at all.. they have total self confidence, total control on whats around them, and overall they`re not being judged by their appearances at all because i know im not! I know many people I ENJOY being with that has acne. And if others are judgemental they`re assholes and need to get a damn life.

I mean i know this one girl that has the type of severe acne at school all OVER her face and NECK the type where pus is like popping out and everything. First time i saw her im like ehh.. im lucky i dont have that.. but i felt kind of wrong for even thinking that her acne was gross or something because she treated everyone totally equal and everyone in class did the same to her. Doesnt mean other people have better..clearer skin than you.. doesnt mean you can`t reach up to their potential.. we all know what we can do in life and what we`re great at. And if you`re scared like a PUS-sy that won`t face head up towards the world, you`re not really gunna get anywhere. Not to get you`re hopes down or anything.. but, what if your acne never goes away.. what if it`ll stay like that forever and your self esteem gets lower and lower each day. Will you be the same or will you finally get to the point where you can`t stand living like this anymore, and when you`ll finally realized all the time you`ve wasting worrying what other might think of you, it`ll all be too late..

And when you think you cant face the world because of your acne or because you`re not cute or handsome or pretty or because of your overall appearnace, other people will LOOK DOWN ON YOU even more. They`ll think .. "are you teh type of person that will only become apart of your society because of looks?" We all know theres people like that, people who look down on others because they dont have the nicest cars or they`re not rich or they don`t dress right or they dont have the perfect appearance to face others around them. The world is cruel.. deal with it. It just means that all of us have to work harder to make this world a better place to live.. a place without seperation or isolation

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Yeah. Haha i'm sitting home on my birthday in my room eating cake and watching Disney movies. Oh and it's my 18th. I'm supposed to be going out to clubs, strip bars, porn stores, and buying cigarettes because I can. ( I don't smoke. Ew I hate smoking) but yeah xD

My face looks god awful. And my parents actually think i'd leave the house just because it was my birthday :lol2:

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