I'm 34 and have pretty bad scarring on my back. Strange thing -- I did not develop back acne until I was in my mid-20s. Anyhow, I have very few new breakouts BUT I have quite a few deep scars. Of course, I am extremely embarrassed about it and have gone to great lengths to stay as covered as possible!
I recently started dating someone new, and while we've been intimate a few times, I completely freak out when he attempts to touch my back! To make a long story short -- I am considering just telling him that I have this issue so I can relax and enjoy myself.
Has anyone ever had a conversation like this? What do I say?
I'm 34 and have pretty bad scarring on my back. Strange thing -- I did not develop back acne until I was in my mid-20s. Anyhow, I have very few new breakouts BUT I have quite a few deep scars. Of course, I am extremely embarrassed about it and have gone to great lengths to stay as covered as possible!
I recently started dating someone new, and while we've been intimate a few times, I completely freak out when he attempts to touch my back! To make a long story short -- I am considering just telling him that I have this issue so I can relax and enjoy myself.
Has anyone ever had a conversation like this? What do I say?
It's what is on the inside that counts hon. Doesnt matter what you look like even if you have acne or not, he should love you for what you are regardless if you have spots.
If he makes a fuss about you having acne. Drop him
I'm 34 and have pretty bad scarring on my back. Strange thing -- I did not develop back acne until I was in my mid-20s. Anyhow, I have very few new breakouts BUT I have quite a few deep scars. Of course, I am extremely embarrassed about it and have gone to great lengths to stay as covered as possible!
I recently started dating someone new, and while we've been intimate a few times, I completely freak out when he attempts to touch my back! To make a long story short -- I am considering just telling him that I have this issue so I can relax and enjoy myself.
Has anyone ever had a conversation like this? What do I say?
I find a woman's back to be the sexiest part of her body. With that said, I wouldn't care if a girl I was seeing had back acne or scars. If it bothers you so much that you don't want him to touch your back, then just talk to him about it. If it's an issue for him, then he's obviously not the one for you (but I'll bet he'll understand).
I agree with Terri, just let him notice it. It's not like you have to warn him that you have an extra arm back there or something. If he seems like the type that you have to worry about his reaction to something like that then seems like a few scars are the least of your problems. Unless of course it's more you not wanting him to touch them, then tell him. But if you don't care than why should he?
On 12/28/2005 at 5:54 AM, jentie71 said:I'm 34 and have pretty bad scarring on my back. Strange thing -- I did not develop back acne until I was in my mid-20s. Anyhow, I have very few new breakouts BUT I have quite a few deep scars. Of course, I am extremely embarrassed about it and have gone to great lengths to stay as covered as possible!
I recently started dating someone new, and while we've been intimate a few times, I completely freak out when he attempts to touch my back! To make a long story short -- I am considering just telling him that I have this issue so I can relax and enjoy myself.
Has anyone ever had a conversation like this? What do I say?
A bunch of fornicators you guys are, shame on you all!!@!!!
jentie71, I understand you are 34 but that is no reason to have that so called "intimate time", not now at least. Sex will come soon or later but hold your horses jeez. You just started dating the guy. Get to know the guy before any sexual encounters, get to know his character and let him get to know you. Fall in love with this human being before "sexy time".
Love should be passionate folks. Two people united with shameless love. Two people who will love/care for each other no matter how bad the person is sick or dying in their death bed, but in this case love you no matter how bad your back acne is.
and when the time comes such as marriage or whatever you take accredit in, then you can pork each other. But believe me sister it can wait. Love isn't all about sex, sex isn't all about love.
So my advice is tell the guy,theirs a start to know what his character and personality is by his response and/or reaction.
If the idiot dumps you, he's a waste of sperm. Let him go.
For Pete's Sake is that really Christian Bale and Halle Berry, those two were born with perfect skin why are they here.
i Like velvet underground.............am i weird for that??
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i really need a life lol