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(@nakkax)

Posted : 06/21/2017 11:11 am

I'm 14 and about to start 9th grade next year. At the beginning of the 8th grade year my acne wasn't that bad, and I looked pretty good. But then by the end I started to break out on my cheeks and chin instead of my usual forehead breakouts and it started to kill me. I started getting addicted to skincare because everyone at my age had perfect, dewy, glowing skin and I didn't. I would cancel plans with my friends, and i would never look people straight in the face. I even avoid my crush because I hate for her to have to see my acne. what makes it worse is that I know I would look good without acne. I've been told: "girls would think you're cute if you didn't have all that acne" and "i think if your face clears up you would get girls" and all that, and it gets me so depressed in that I can't even control my acne or do anything about it. Even my dad, when i go downstairs to say goodnight, will tell me to "pop that zit!" often, which I find rude and it makes me feel even worse that even my family can't help but just say something about the acne I totally don't notice everyday.I can't do anything about my acne anymore it feels like, and I don't know if it will go away, or if it will actually get worse and just take control of my life even more with an even stronger grip. Now all I do is stay in my room and play video games, and go practice basketball, but only on Sunday's because that's when the court is empty and noone can see my skin.i'm tired of acne, I just want it to go away so I can just be a normal kid again and not have to cancel plans or play hooky to not go to school.
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(@coolcat789)

Posted : 06/26/2017 12:13 pm

Hi nakkax, I know how you feel. All through my teenage years I had acne and it affected a lot of the things I did. Some people's acne does get better and other people's stays around for a long time then some people get acne that comes and goes- so everyone's skin is different. You mentioned acne on your face only which Im sure is hard for you, but just try and remember some people have it on their body too.

It sounds like its affecting you to the point where its not healthy for you, I dont know your full situation but I suggest if its affecting you that much then its time to see a doctor. You mentioned you've already tried a lot of skin care products so perhaps it would better to try something that is given to you or recommended by a specialist. Anyway, something I like to use aloe vera gel because I have a lot of scarring, maybe you could give it a try :)

It must also be hard for you if your dad makes a comment like that, Im sure he doesnt mean it to be rude but unfortunately not everyone understands things that they cant relate to. I think you should let your family know that you dont like comments like this and ask for their help and support in helping you overcome acne and ways its affected you.

Honestly, Ive found that people will still be interested in you even if you have acne, not everyone is going to be accepting of it though but most people can see past it. Theres lots of good looking guys with acne. You may not be able to control your acne and sometimes it might make you feel really crap but hey you can control other things, you dont need to change yourself for anyone but sometimes doing nice things for ourselves make us feel better- so wear nice clothes, style your hair the way you like it etc. 

Well done that youre still practising basketball and making the effort to go out to the court, even if it is only on Sundays - but that is a starting point
 I wouldnt suggest that you stay in your room all day and play video games since that can make you feel quite lonely. So I think perhaps you need to slowly get yourself out more, just little things to get your confidence back again :) You could go for a little walk, or just go to a local shop. Maybe even meet up with your friends somewhere you feel comfortable at. 

I understand it is not easy, especially for a teenager where looking good seems to matter a lot. But remember, lots of people are going through this and lots have been through it. Theres still happy and successful people who have acne :) And there are people here who understand what youre going through and will try and hep you 

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(@ae1976)

Posted : 06/26/2017 11:30 pm

You are a normal kid, acne or no acne. Remember that. However, it made me feel really sad when you said you practice basketball only on Sundays as that is when the court is empty. You are a young boy who should be enjoying your life.

Family members, for that matter anyone who does not have acne, do not understand how people with acne feel. So let it slide. You cannot control this. What you can control is how you react to the acne and the comments.

One thing I want you to understand is that people generally care about how you make them feel. So even if you have acne and are loads of fun to be with, people will generally want to hang out with you. I know clear skinned people who make everyone want to run away from them. The problem with acne is that it generally makes a person depressed and despondent and no one wants to be around them.

So ignore everything and just focus on the fact that you are 14 years old and should be having fun. Acne or no Acne!!!!

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(@skyesthelimit)

Posted : 06/27/2017 3:49 am

True friends will always stay with you and be with you until the end with or without acne. If you have a personality that everyone enjoys, they would want to be with you because they like it and not because of how you look.

There would always be that one friend who will care for you. Find him/her and enjoy the bright future that lies ahead of you. :)
 

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(@koloz)

Posted : 06/27/2017 4:53 pm

You better do something now before it ruins your teen years. I'm dead serious you are 14 and still have time to salvage your teen years before it consumes you for good. It destroyed my teen life and I was living in complete isolation because of it. Dont let it win.

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(@skyesthelimit)

Posted : 06/28/2017 2:19 am

hugs to you too @Koloz

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