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A little backstory...My husband and I have been together nearly 10 years. I've had acne the whole time we've been together. He always says that it doesn't matter to him and he really seems not to notice it. I feel ok about not wearing makeup around him. I've always been very self conscious about my skin, but the past few years have been the worst. A few years ago we had a very bad breakup. He left me for another girl....who has THE most PERFECT skin I've ever seen. No joke, it's PERFECT. Ugh :( Anyways he claims she was just a re-bound, but judging by the fact that he told her she was the most beautiful girl he'd ever been with...I think that's a lie. So we ended up getting back together, but my self esteem has never been the same. I constantly conpare myself to other girls. On tv, at the mall, when we go out to eat...doesn't matter. I don't know why but it's become an obsession. Anyways I'm getting off track..

So lately my skin has been looking a little better eand I've been feeling a little better about myself. That all went right out the window last night. We were watching a reality show and I asked my husband if he thought a girl was pretty or not. He replied "no, she has a crater face!!" I said "what do you mean crater face?" he said "like the holes you have...she has them all over her face...it's disgusting!".....whoa, ouch. Why don't you just come right out and say that you think I'm disgusting?Like when did he decide he felt this way? has he just been secretly thinking this for the last 10 years? I'm so unbelieveably hurt. What an awful, insensitive thing to say to someone. I don't know if he knows how much that hurt me. I didn't say anything. It was just too painful. :( I know this is going to hurt for a long time. I don't know what to do. I'm just so upset. What would you do? I just don't care about anything anymore. what does it matter what I do or how I dress or act....when people look at me all they see is a disgusting crater face anyways :( I give up.

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First of all, your husband is an asshat. Just wanted to clear that up. mad.gif

If I were you, I probably would leave him. He left you for someone else years ago, and now apparently he thinks he can talk to you any way he pleases. To me, that says he thinks you're a doormat.

However, if you have children together, or don't feel like you can leave him, then talk to him about how much he hurt you. Then see a counselor, therapist or pastor together.

And if your skin really tortures you, and makes you feel as sad as you say it does (and trust me, I know the feeling) then see a dermatologist. Take action. That is the only way I was able to get my cystic acne under control.

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There is nothing sexier to a guy when a girl has confidence, with or without acne. Men are flirtatious beings, they can 't live a day without flirting with someone else. BUT, there is nothing sexier than a girl who is confident no matter who her man is flirting with, she can easily win him back over.

Try to give him a hard time, to teach him that your not "easy", they love challenges. For example, if he thinks that you are his try to back out and keep your distance. If he responds by positively to the bait you made, give him a sense that you are his once more. Keep alternating the cycle to make him think that you are important in his life, without you he is unable to have a passionate love life.

Fears are created from insecurities. There is nothing more anti-seductive when someone reveals their insecurities.

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First of all, your husband is an asshat. Just wanted to clear that up. mad.gif

If I were you, I probably would leave him. He left you for someone else years ago, and now apparently he thinks he can talk to you any way he pleases. To me, that says he thinks you're a doormat.

However, if you have children together, or don't feel like you can leave him, then talk to him about how much he hurt you. Then see a counselor, therapist or pastor together.

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Men are flirtatious beings, they can 't live a day without flirting with someone else.

False. Not all men are like this.

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Men are flirtatious beings, they can 't live a day without flirting with someone else.

False. Not all men are like this.

Yea true, I exaggerated a bit.

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I'm just gonna be blunt. He does really feel that way. No one thinks acne is attractive on themselves or anyone else.

My husband has acne but he doesn't try very hard to treat it, whereas I've spent years treating mine and mine is finally clearing up. Even when our faces looked the same, I got on his case for not doing anything about it. I love him, but I don't love pussy acne on his face, and I don't want him to get more scars either.

If he's a good person, he may not like the acne and still like you.

Acne aside, I think you're being a stupid girl to go back to a man who cheated on you. He's using you until someone better comes along. Have the confidence in yourself to DTMFA.

By the way, asking your husband if he thinks someone of the opposite gender is attractive is silly. He'll either lie and say they only person he ever sees is you, or he'll be honest and you'll feel bad. So either you're getting lied to and feeling good about a lie, or you're getting the truth and feeling bad about the truth. For some reason, insecure girls ALWAYS ask about other girls. e.g. Is she pretty? Did you notice she was hitting on you? Do you think she's attractive? Isn't that waitress a skank? But it is a lose-lose situation. There is no point to that conversation. Just stop it.

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Men are flirtatious beings, they can 't live a day without flirting with someone else.

False. Not all men are like this.

Yea true, I exaggerated a bit.

Women say that all guys are the same. Pretty sure that's an opinion.. I've been single for ever, so I am not one of them. I want to date one girl, marry her, and be with her for ever. No flirting, etc.. sure, I might check out at young girls when I am older biggrin.png but that's normal smile.png

First of all, your husband is an asshat. Just wanted to clear that up. mad.gif

If I were you, I probably would leave him. He left you for someone else years ago, and now apparently he thinks he can talk to you any way he pleases. To me, that says he thinks you're a doormat.

However, if you have children together, or don't feel like you can leave him, then talk to him about how much he hurt you. Then see a counselor, therapist or pastor together.

And if your skin really tortures you, and makes you feel as sad as you say it does (and trust me, I know the feeling) then see a dermatologist. Take action. That is the only way I was able to get my cystic acne under control.

No!! She shouldn't see nobody. If her skin is making her life bad, then she should simply change her diet to let all the toxins out.. she'll then clear up. If she is using products, then that's why she's still breaking out. She should stop applying chemicals and eat healthier, exercise, and apply natural products on her skin, like clay mask, aloe vera, etc.. to calm her skin and cleanse. Natural is the way to go.. I think if her skin gets worse after being clear for a while then that means that she might not break out anymore after it is calmed because all toxins came out, etc. That;s if she stop using BP and go into all natural.. it happened to me and I am clearing up now and my skin is very smooth.

good luck!

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Men are flirtatious beings, they can 't live a day without flirting with someone else.

False. Not all men are like this.

Yea true, I exaggerated a bit.

Women say that all guys are the same. Pretty sure that's an opinion.. I've been single for ever, so I am not one of them. I want to date one girl, marry her, and be with her for ever. No flirting, etc.. sure, I might check out at young girls when I am older biggrin.png but that's normal smile.png

First of all, your husband is an asshat. Just wanted to clear that up. mad.gif

If I were you, I probably would leave him. He left you for someone else years ago, and now apparently he thinks he can talk to you any way he pleases. To me, that says he thinks you're a doormat.

However, if you have children together, or don't feel like you can leave him, then talk to him about how much he hurt you. Then see a counselor, therapist or pastor together.

And if your skin really tortures you, and makes you feel as sad as you say it does (and trust me, I know the feeling) then see a dermatologist. Take action. That is the only way I was able to get my cystic acne under control.

No!! She shouldn't see nobody. If her skin is making her life bad, then she should simply change her diet to let all the toxins out.. she'll then clear up. If she is using products, then that's why she's still breaking out. She should stop applying chemicals and eat healthier, exercise, and apply natural products on her skin, like clay mask, aloe vera, etc.. to calm her skin and cleanse. Natural is the way to go.. I think if her skin gets worse after being clear for a while then that means that she might not break out anymore after it is calmed because all toxins came out, etc. That;s if she stop using BP and go into all natural.. it happened to me and I am clearing up now and my skin is very smooth.

good luck!

Right, because doctors go to 4 years of medical school, and then do residencies, and become specialists just to lie to patients. If that were the case, then I'm pretty sure the patients would have long since figured out that seeing a dermatologist was all a scam. I've used natural products for my hormonally-linked acne, and they did not help me the way that topicals and a strong antibiotic did.

Not everyone's acne clears up from going natural. It helps to eat clean, but going natural is not the only answer.

Anyway, this is getting off topic.

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