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And I need to vent. If you're not into reading long posts complaining about everything, stop now! Okay, so today is my birthday. I wasn't expecting anything much really. I've recently moved to a small town and because of my acne havn't met anyone so it's not like I was going to have a party or anything. I asked my mom for ONE thing for my birthday, a book. Costs 20 bucks, was super confident that she'd get it for me since it's all I asked for and it's cheap. I wake up, excited to open a few presents and get readin since I have nothing better to do. No book. I got a few cards, 40 bucks from my grandparents, and $30 itunes giftcard. So I ask her like...what the fuck? Where's my book? She said that she had already got me enough because she also paid my insurance for the next 6 months. Well that'd be cool and all except for the fact that I NEVER DRIVE because I NEVER go anywhere. So what a fucking waste of $300 that was. On top of that, every year for birthdays I get to choose where I want to eat for a birthday dinner. We had chinese a few days ago but that didn't really count as my dinner, so I told her that I'd like to get pizza. Dinner time comes around and I ask her if she's going to get it and she replies with "no I don't feel like going out". Like REALLY? It's my fucking birthday and you won't drive 20 minutes to get a fucking pizza like we already agreed? Just...I thought today would be the one day I could great a break from myself, have a GOOD day for once in a very long time. Instead, today has been the worst day in a long time. I cried, thought about not being alive anymore (not because of the stupid things that happened today, just because of things in general).

Lastly, I'm fairly sure I have BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder). I had a hard time thinking of a way to bring this up to my mom, since it's hard for me to talk about. So I decided to email her a link explaining all about it and told her to let me know what she thinks. In my head, I thought this was going to be a really great thing. I thought to myself....maybe finally she'll realize what I go through on a daily basis and give me a little more room. Instead of being understanding and supportive, she completely blows the whole thing off. Tells me that she doesn't think I have this and that just because I have 95% of the symptoms it listed doesn't mean I have it. It's hard when your mom just sees you as a lazy kid who never wants to get a job and sit in his room all day on the computer. She thinks this is what I ENJOY, that's how blind she is.

If you read it, thanks, sorry for complaining so much. Happy birthday to me.

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damn dude im sorry you had a bad day on ur bday :/ it must be hard to branch out and meet new people, especially if your concerned with your acne and i know how that feels. i hated going to college my first year bc my acne got worse after high school and i was avoiding the girl that i liked for so long that i went to high school with, and eventually she liked me too but bc i avoided her to be seen with acne..she lost interest. i do not know the severity of your acne but are you on any treatment? just don't give up on clearing your acne, i been trying for years to get cleared and luckily i have found this site and now im finally acne free. as for the BDD, have you tried seeking a therapist/specialist? do not spend your time diagnosing yourself with all these disorders. you also say that you thought about not being alive anymore? well you do not have to tell everyone your story why you think that way but maybe you can try talking to your mom one and one on how you feel instead of telling her through an email.anyways hope things getter for you and happy birthday

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I've tried tons of shit to help clear up my face. A few days ago I spent $80 on some vitamin b5. Today is my second day taking it but it's hard to stay positive about something that's supposed to work when nothing else has. And yeah I've asked my mom if I could see a therapist and the response I usually get is "we can't afford it".

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i know the last thing you want to hear is "dont give up, be positive!, have confidence" blah blah trust me i been there when i just lost hope and just accepted the fact that i will never clear my acne. but have you gave dans regimen a try?? i know times are tough these days and seeking help from a specialist can be expensive.

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I havn't tried his exact regimen with his products, but I did exactly how he said with the suggested products. It helped to some extent, but not enough. Plus I took a big risk and spent my whole "acne fund" on the b5 so I can't buy anything else.

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well thats how it first started off when i tried it, whenever you can, just try to get back on it and give it about 3 months. no matter how red or flaky it makes you look lol i almost gave up on it but im glad i stuck through it. i been on the regimen for almost 2 years now. but if there is one thing i learned through this whole experience is that don't let something stupid like acne hold you back from living your life, although im clear now, i still get zits from time to time, even huge ones and i reached the point where i really dont care what anybody thinks. i gotten comfortable socializing with other people with or without acne. especially there are people that have way worst than me and i see them talking and laughing with friends so why can't you? anyways i really do hope everything works out for you, take care

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And I need to vent. If you're not into reading long posts complaining about everything, stop now! Okay, so today is my birthday. I wasn't expecting anything much really. I've recently moved to a small town and because of my acne havn't met anyone so it's not like I was going to have a party or anything. I asked my mom for ONE thing for my birthday, a book. Costs 20 bucks, was super confident that she'd get it for me since it's all I asked for and it's cheap. I wake up, excited to open a few presents and get readin since I have nothing better to do. No book. I got a few cards, 40 bucks from my grandparents, and $30 itunes giftcard. So I ask her like...what the fuck? Where's my book? She said that she had already got me enough because she also paid my insurance for the next 6 months. Well that'd be cool and all except for the fact that I NEVER DRIVE because I NEVER go anywhere. So what a fucking waste of $300 that was. On top of that, every year for birthdays I get to choose where I want to eat for a birthday dinner. We had chinese a few days ago but that didn't really count as my dinner, so I told her that I'd like to get pizza. Dinner time comes around and I ask her if she's going to get it and she replies with "no I don't feel like going out". Like REALLY? It's my fucking birthday and you won't drive 20 minutes to get a fucking pizza like we already agreed? Just...I thought today would be the one day I could great a break from myself, have a GOOD day for once in a very long time. Instead, today has been the worst day in a long time. I cried, thought about not being alive anymore (not because of the stupid things that happened today, just because of things in general).

Lastly, I'm fairly sure I have BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder). I had a hard time thinking of a way to bring this up to my mom, since it's hard for me to talk about. So I decided to email her a link explaining all about it and told her to let me know what she thinks. In my head, I thought this was going to be a really great thing. I thought to myself....maybe finally she'll realize what I go through on a daily basis and give me a little more room. Instead of being understanding and supportive, she completely blows the whole thing off. Tells me that she doesn't think I have this and that just because I have 95% of the symptoms it listed doesn't mean I have it. It's hard when your mom just sees you as a lazy kid who never wants to get a job and sit in his room all day on the computer. She thinks this is what I ENJOY, that's how blind she is.

If you read it, thanks, sorry for complaining so much. Happy birthday to me.

i'm really sorry about your birthday :( that's not cool & not fair that your one special day of the year & its not what you wanted... seems like you might have to deal with the BDD yourself because your mom doesn't get it (i understand.. its like they get it but they don't want you to have it.. so they make up in their mind that you don't when you know you do!). Do you think if your face cleared up it might ease how you feel with BDD?? & why don't you go buy that book with the 40$ your grandparents got you.. then order your fav. pizza with the money left over & start reading your book. :)

i hope it gets better! :banana: :banana: :banana: HAPYY BiRTHDAYY!! :banana::banana::banana:

p.s. were both aires mines on the 30th :)

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Yeah...I know what you mean. I was all about topicals for a really long time, certain things worked and certain things didn't. I started reading about all these topicals damaging skin and how it was doing more harm than good, only a temporary fix, etc. So I stopped and tried things the more natural way. I really should try to get on a good topical regimen again...

Thanks for the posts dude.

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@laurenbee03 - yeah...my skin is definitely a huge part of the BDD. Although I've gone through periods of obsessing over different parts of my body, I've managed to get over most of them except this. My mom told me to use the $40 for the book as well, but I think I should probably keep this $40 for the next acne fad I wanna try, lol. Thanks a bunch and happy early birthday to you =)

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no problem man, as for the whole thing about damaging your skin with topicals..havent had any "damage" like articles say they do. look at Dan, he been on the regimen for many years and his skin is pretty much flawless and he is in his mid 30's i believe. i also have a post about my red marks video, showing my progress from day 1 to when i was finally cleared. you should check it out, hopefully it will help you to stay motivated to stick with the regimen if you decide to do it. and that vid was awhile ago too sand now its only gotten better. best of luck to you man peace

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@laurenbee03 - yeah...my skin is definitely a huge part of the BDD. Although I've gone through periods of obsessing over different parts of my body, I've managed to get over most of them except this. My mom told me to use the $40 for the book as well, but I think I should probably keep this $40 for the next acne fad I wanna try, lol. Thanks a bunch and happy early birthday to you =)

yay! you smilied haha!! :) i knew i could get you to do it! (ur post sounded so sad :( thats not okay for the birthday boy) & yes i agree.. use the 40$ on whatever you want too! & then later you can always buy the book you want. & i hope the BDD gets better.. i think after everything settles youll be fine.. its hard to be 100% happy with yourself.. but don't let anything bring you down.. i just don't want you to turn into Hidi Montag.. please don't! haha jk

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It's hard when your mom just sees you as a lazy kid who never wants to get a job and sit in his room all day on the computer. She thinks this is what I ENJOY, that's how blind she is.

This is me too dude, don't worry, you're not alone

Happy Birthday :D

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:wiggle:HAPPY BIRTHDAYY!!!! :wiggle:

I'm so sorry your special day wasn't everything you hoped for, I know how it feels to be excited about something and then end up equally disappointed. I agree with laurenbee03, use your birthday money to treat yourself- it'll make you feel better!

Hope your day has brightened up at least a little!!!

:dance: Happy Birthday again!! :dance:

Edited by hopeful42day

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Aww, that's so unfortunate. I just want to give you a hug. Well, we are all here for you anytime you need us. My mom doesn't really understand how I feel on a daily basis either. I'm having trouble making friends too. I am a freshman in college, and it seems like absolutely every single person has amazing skin! I thought acne was a common condition? But, everywhere I look, no one else has acne or even slight redness. It pisses me off, but there's nothing I can do about it. I'm sure there is someone there that you will meet and will become an amazing friend! You don't really need a lot of friends, after all, just enough to feel loved.

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Happy Birthday Jay

So how old are you now dude?

Keep your chin up man!

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And I need to vent. If you're not into reading long posts complaining about everything, stop now! Okay, so today is my birthday. I wasn't expecting anything much really. I've recently moved to a small town and because of my acne havn't met anyone so it's not like I was going to have a party or anything. I asked my mom for ONE thing for my birthday, a book. Costs 20 bucks, was super confident that she'd get it for me since it's all I asked for and it's cheap. I wake up, excited to open a few presents and get readin since I have nothing better to do. No book. I got a few cards, 40 bucks from my grandparents, and $30 itunes giftcard. So I ask her like...what the fuck? Where's my book? She said that she had already got me enough because she also paid my insurance for the next 6 months. Well that'd be cool and all except for the fact that I NEVER DRIVE because I NEVER go anywhere. So what a fucking waste of $300 that was. On top of that, every year for birthdays I get to choose where I want to eat for a birthday dinner. We had chinese a few days ago but that didn't really count as my dinner, so I told her that I'd like to get pizza. Dinner time comes around and I ask her if she's going to get it and she replies with "no I don't feel like going out". Like REALLY? It's my fucking birthday and you won't drive 20 minutes to get a fucking pizza like we already agreed? Just...I thought today would be the one day I could great a break from myself, have a GOOD day for once in a very long time. Instead, today has been the worst day in a long time. I cried, thought about not being alive anymore (not because of the stupid things that happened today, just because of things in general).

Lastly, I'm fairly sure I have BDD (Body Dysmorphic Disorder). I had a hard time thinking of a way to bring this up to my mom, since it's hard for me to talk about. So I decided to email her a link explaining all about it and told her to let me know what she thinks. In my head, I thought this was going to be a really great thing. I thought to myself....maybe finally she'll realize what I go through on a daily basis and give me a little more room. Instead of being understanding and supportive, she completely blows the whole thing off. Tells me that she doesn't think I have this and that just because I have 95% of the symptoms it listed doesn't mean I have it. It's hard when your mom just sees you as a lazy kid who never wants to get a job and sit in his room all day on the computer. She thinks this is what I ENJOY, that's how blind she is.

If you read it, thanks, sorry for complaining so much. Happy birthday to me.

I didn't read it all, sorry! Actually, i took a quick glance. But I am glad that you like reading, and that you wanted a book.

Reading is awesome, particularly if you are lonely, sad, or stressed.

That was a good idea to e-mail her. :) She will read it and perhaps feel guilty as she read.

I am lucky to have a nice mother and a father. I cannot live with out them.

Edited by EddieE

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My mum handed me a check for my bday and didn't even bother finding presents.

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@EddieE - I actually hate reading, lol. I just wanted this certain book because it's by my favorite comedian =P

@masg - aww...I'm sorry :/ I hope it was a big check at least? =D

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So i went on dans regimen and let me tell u .. i thought things would never get better but now after 2 months of just dealing with it i have become clear =) i highlyyyy nad i mean HIGHLY suggest taking zinc and Vitamin e, Vitamin b-50 complex, Fish oils, Omega 3-6-9 =) after about a month you should be all good

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Sorry about your birthday :( I know it's hard and parents can sometimes be so insensitive to these kind of things. My mom tells me that i have acne because of all the crap food I eat and because i don't wash my face properly...if only she knew :rolleyes:

I saw that you are on the vitamin b5 regimen. Hows that going?

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Happy birthday bro.

I know me and you had some beef earlier, but I would like to just apologize and brush that off.

Anyways, yo. Let me tell u something. I was on my way to pursuing clear skin a month ago. I had a nice diet going and it was great. I been actually pursuing this for about 1 year but I started getting more disciplined.

Anyways 3 weeks ago, a very tramautic incident happened, and I have been in depression ever since.

So it went from the only thing on my mind was curing my acne, to trying to shake off this depression.

I know it takes time to heal, but one thing that I realized was..

I think the cure to acne is PEACE OF MIND.

Which I don't think me and you have yet. So just find that peace in yourself and God (which I am trying to seek myself) and your problems will go away (including your acne).

I been eating junk the last few weeks, not even caring about my acne. dude i'm telling you, you heard it a million times on this site. but just let it go man.. let it go.. life is too short.

Once you get that peace of mind your acne will disappear. Diets do help, but it's mind and soul over matter. I hope me and you reach that one day. goodluck

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