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How important do you think looks really are?

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Yosup is right. I've seen many white trash people who are physically gorgeous (usually younger than 30 and then their lifestyle makes them look old FAST).

Many smart and hard working types aren't popular as kids, but once they get out of school and start making real money, they rise to the top. Go to any really nice neighborhood or corporation and you'll see that the people living/working there are NOT beauties. Usually they are just sort of out of shape and pale from working really hard to get where they've gotten.

Only in the movies and TV are the successful people also the 'hot' people. In real life it's just not that way. In the rare position of trophy wife, a hot lady can rise to the top, but she'll be quickly forgotten if her husband decides to divorce her.

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In American society, looks contribute alot to your success. That's a FACT. I have an overy good looking friend who doesn't even do anything, yet he gets job oppurtunities, and girls numbers all the time

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Yeah sorry I didnt have the patience to read through that thing. Just thought I would respond to the question posted.

Well looking good most certainly will give u an easier ride through life. People like pretty things including other people. looks are not gonna make u a better person at anything but your body and face are your world.

Okay heres an example of how people really think. A women that looks like Jessica Alba is an alright girl that hasnt got much talent besides looking nice. A chick that looks like Rosie has got loads of great talents and is very funny, smart and an extremely sweet person. Both want to marry a guy that is successful and smart. Who is the guy gonna choose?

Also the pretty people in the world are exactly the same as the average or homely people. They have been given good looks and have learned what that means to society. They are more likely to be jerks and not try as hard at anything because their face is always a fallback. The same is true for bad looking people.

THey may be very nice and caring, but if given the models body they would probably act just as that person does. Thats just human nature. If looks were not extremely important none of us would have found this sight.

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Yosup is right. I've seen many white trash people who are physically gorgeous (usually younger than 30 and then their lifestyle makes them look old FAST).

Many smart and hard working types aren't popular as kids, but once they get out of school and start making real money, they rise to the top. Go to any really nice neighborhood or corporation and you'll see that the people living/working there are NOT beauties. Usually they are just sort of out of shape and pale from working really hard to get where they've gotten.

Only in the movies and TV are the successful people also the 'hot' people. In real life it's just not that way. In the rare position of trophy wife, a hot lady can rise to the top, but she'll be quickly forgotten if her husband decides to divorce her.

Gotta disagree on this one. My sisters are very attractive girls. They are all married and work in professional settings as do their spouses and most of their friends. Many of their neighbors who are upper middle class are attractive people. I gotta say that it is much more likely a successful man is attractive and fit rather than overweight, bald, and simply not good looking.

Your talking about geeks rising to the top. Hell yeah their going to as they spend much more time perfecting whatever it is that they do for a living while other cool kids were at parties in high school. Geeks are different from ugly people though. Geeks are not beauties, but they have appeal to people as well. Heck I am attracted to kinda geeky girls with glasses myself.

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Being attractive is the most important thing there is

If you wanna catch the biggest fish in your pond

You have to be as attractive as possible

Make sure to keep your hair spotless and clean

Wash it at least every two weeks

Once every two weeks!

Haha... who remembers this song?

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The story about the mother is a bit too extreme, otherwise theres a great deal of truth behind it.

Good-looking people are more likely to be successful.

Talented/devoted are more likely to be successful.

Good-looking + Talented/devoted = Impossible not to be successful (giving that there are no crippling factors involved)

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Yeah sorry I didnt have the patience to read through that thing. Just thought I would respond to the question posted.

Well looking good most certainly will give u an easier ride through life. People like pretty things including other people. looks are not gonna make u a better person at anything but your body and face are your world.

Okay heres an example of how people really think. A women that looks like Jessica Alba is an alright girl that hasnt got much talent besides looking nice. A chick that looks like Rosie has got loads of great talents and is very funny, smart and an extremely sweet person. Both want to marry a guy that is successful and smart. Who is the guy gonna choose?

Also the pretty people in the world are exactly the same as the average or homely people. They have been given good looks and have learned what that means to society. They are more likely to be jerks and not try as hard at anything because their face is always a fallback. The same is true for bad looking people.

THey may be very nice and caring, but if given the models body they would probably act just as that person does. Thats just human nature. If looks were not extremely important none of us would have found this sight.

Jessica Alba of course, i'd choose Jessica as long as she's not an asshole. If she was an asshole, i still wouldn't choose Rosie. She's not physcially attractive to me. That and her obsession with Tom Cruise. Still, that has nothing to do with being successful. Marrying a successful guy isn't achieving success for themselves.

Jerks are gonna be jerks if they were raised that way, by parents, friends, society... and whatever. It's a case of monkey see, monkey do. If a person surrounds themselves with assholes, well then there's no way to escape from the farticles. There are plenty of down to earth beautiful people though, enough to dispell any notion that beautiful people are automatically jerks.

Before anything is said, a pretty face definately makes a good impression. That's about it though. I dont think anyone can claim Beauty = Success. That's just silly. It's pretty insulting to everyone too. Tell a good looking person they're successful because they're hot and they're likely to get pissed. To have all your qualifactions and years of hard work invalidated because you're attractive can be quite upsetting.

At the end of the day, if you want to be successful, you need to work hard, whatever you look like. No employer wants a freeloading beauty queen working for them, draining resources. Being pretty in the face is an easy ride, not a free ride.

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My looks are everything to me. MY looks.

But I don't care what other people look like. I never judge another person by their appearance. And I never treat anyone differently based on their appearance.

Both those women are horrible.

Nicely, said this describes the way I feel about looks to a T. Unfortunately though my exp. is that most people do care what u look like and discriminate against u if u r less than perfect and people do treat me differently b/c I have acne scars opposed to when I didn't, this also includes my family who unfortunately and sad to say but r very superficial :(

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Yeah sorry I didnt have the patience to read through that thing. Just thought I would respond to the question posted.

Well looking good most certainly will give u an easier ride through life. People like pretty things including other people. looks are not gonna make u a better person at anything but your body and face are your world.

Okay heres an example of how people really think. A women that looks like Jessica Alba is an alright girl that hasnt got much talent besides looking nice. A chick that looks like Rosie has got loads of great talents and is very funny, smart and an extremely sweet person. Both want to marry a guy that is successful and smart. Who is the guy gonna choose?

Also the pretty people in the world are exactly the same as the average or homely people. They have been given good looks and have learned what that means to society. They are more likely to be jerks and not try as hard at anything because their face is always a fallback. The same is true for bad looking people.

THey may be very nice and caring, but if given the models body they would probably act just as that person does. Thats just human nature. If looks were not extremely important none of us would have found this sight.

Jessica Alba of course, i'd choose Jessica as long as she's not an asshole. If she was an asshole, i still wouldn't choose Rosie. She's not physcially attractive to me. That and her obsession with Tom Cruise. Still, that has nothing to do with being successful. Marrying a successful guy isn't achieving success for themselves.

Jerks are gonna be jerks if they were raised that way, by parents, friends, society... and whatever. It's a case of monkey see, monkey do. If a person surrounds themselves with assholes, well then there's no way to escape from the farticles. There are plenty of down to earth beautiful people though, enough to dispell any notion that beautiful people are automatically jerks.

Before anything is said, a pretty face definately makes a good impression. That's about it though. I dont think anyone can claim Beauty = Success. That's just silly. It's pretty insulting to everyone too. Tell a good looking person they're successful because they're hot and they're likely to get pissed. To have all your qualifactions and years of hard work invalidated because you're attractive can be quite upsetting.

At the end of the day, if you want to be successful, you need to work hard, whatever you look like. No employer wants a freeloading beauty queen working for them, draining resources. Being pretty in the face is an easy ride, not a free ride.

Didnt say looking like a model meant u were instantly successful, but it sure as heck makes the road much easier. I dont know how anyone could claim that beign attractive isnt a huge boost in just about every life issue. My sisters are gorgeous and all married successful and are successful in their own right. They are my favorite people and were always totally nice about everything. Okay every boy at their school wanted to date them. I think that makes it pretty easy when u can just choose like that.

A mate is a huge factor in anyones life and when u can honestly pick and choose from just about every available guy or girl thats a pretty nice thing lol. Finally I think that beauty is a huge talent. If u dont believe me would u rather be married to a beauty queen or someone that is okay looking and can play piano, juggle, tune an engine, paint whatever has tons of talents if both had equal personalities otherwise. If your honest with yourself your gonna choose the pretty girl. That means that beauty is worth like a bunch of talents combined.

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I think a person's physical appearance is a very important characteristic, if not the most important. Being an attractive person projects confidence, intellect, trustworthines and definitely status. If that person is treated with high regards, chances are very likely that he/she will excel and do better than most of their peers. Unfortunately, unattractive people are not given the benefit of the doubt. We associate them as lazy, dumb, inferior and poor candidates as friends. Achieving sucess becomes much more difficult. I can safely say that lawyers and doctors generally compose more attractive people than professions with lower pay.

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Looks are important to me. My looks and other peoples looks. For example, i think Adrien Brody has the most beautiful face i've ever seen. And that means something to me but maybe that's because i am an artist and i experience the world visually first. I guess the important thing is that i don't make judgements and decisions based on the way people look. . . but sometimes i do without even thinking about it. Like i presume a certain person does this this and this because he looks a certain way... and i have to remind myself not to make those judgements. I think there are people who try their best not to judge people based on the way they look but may still accidentally do so at times....

On a similar note, would anyone like to answer this question:

is it racist to not find a certain skin color attractive? or to be more attracted to certain colours?

i'm still on the fence on this one.... it sure does sound racist to say i don't find dark skinned people attractive but then you're not saying it based on race you're saying it based on a preference for a particular color....

any thoughts?

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Gotta disagree on this one. My sisters are very attractive girls. They are all married and work in professional settings as do their spouses and most of their friends. Many of their neighbors who are upper middle class are attractive people. I gotta say that it is much more likely a successful man is attractive and fit rather than overweight, bald, and simply not good looking.

Your talking about geeks rising to the top. Hell yeah their going to as they spend much more time perfecting whatever it is that they do for a living while other cool kids were at parties in high school. Geeks are different from ugly people though. Geeks are not beauties, but they have appeal to people as well. Heck I am attracted to kinda geeky girls with glasses myself.

Maybe in certain professions like sales, physical appearance can help. But I'm thinking about all the doctors I've ever had and all except one was just regular looking to unattractive. Only in soap operas are the doctors also models.

Your sisters might be good looking and successful, but think about it. Wouldn't they be successful even if they weren't pretty? It might have just taken them a few more years to meet a husband, but that's the only difference.

Maybe it is just where I live in Texas, but the trashier people are VERY good looking. The wealthier people are usually from up North and came for a job or whatever- they tend not to have the Anna Nicole look. For the most part they aren't as attractive. Sure Anna Nicole made it and is very rich, but she is very much the exception. Most of her attractive fellow Texans are poor and not highly educated.

Using models and actors as examples of how being 'hot' leads to wealth is silly because they represent a teeny tiny minority of people. BY far most 'hotties' who try to become successful just from that will not succeed. At best they will end up working retail at Bebe for minimum wage thinking they are on top when they really just organize clothes on a rack.

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Well two of my sisters are nurses.

I think anna nicole has fake porn star sex pot looks. That aint beauty at all. Im talkin Natalie Portman looks u know the 100% natural beauty. Okay say looks dont help with employment or a career. You are wrong.

If u are beautiful u have confidence, positive outlook on life, U have much less pressure to succeed so things are a bit easier on u, and on into most all aspects life is easier.

Your born ugly u are likely to isolate yourself and become depressed, anxious, u have to succeed or be a broke ugly person which is as bad as it gets, many times the ugly people have worse attitudes than the pretty as they are angry at them and life for coming out that way.

As I said if looks were not extremely important then I would not be writing this and none of u would be reading it either.

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You obviously miss the part where celebrities seem to have just as many self-esteem issues (and thus the amazing drug and alchohol and sex problems!) as the rest of us do.

Bueaty doesn't equal confidence. Might make it easier, but I've met plenty of bueatiful people who don't have any confidence at all.

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Maybe its just me but it seems the most attractive people I know are the least confident and the not so attractive ones don't give a damn. :shrug:

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Well two of my sisters are nurses.

Your sisters are nurses? Well, there you go. Looks played zero part in their career. Trust me. There is a shortage of nurses anyway. In nursing, simply graduating will land you a job with a decent salary. Strangely, I've noticed many nurses are really fat. Of course, not all. But you'd think being in the health profession would make them want to stay at a healthy weight.

You obviously miss the part where celebrities seem to have just as many self-esteem issues (and thus the amazing drug and alchohol and sex problems!) as the rest of us do.

Bueaty doesn't equal confidence. Might make it easier, but I've met plenty of bueatiful people who don't have any confidence at all.

I think many beautiful people grow up pretty and hear about how pretty they are from parents, friends, etc. They end up over valuing their good looks and freak out if they are anything less than a super model. They know that looks aren't everything, but they don't really know that. They fear losing their looks because this is what has made them special all along or so they think. Unfortunately there are only like 8 supermodels in the whole world and everyone else falls short of that 'perfection'. Also, even they will get old and lose their looks.

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Didnt say they were successful from there looks at all, just that the previous post mentioned ugly people as doctors an such and I wanted to say that. In any case I am sure we all would love to look like models so whatever that means is up to u.

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For me, looks are not that important. Not at all, not anymore. My looks do not dictate who I AM, they do not make up my personality. I've been through so much health wise, I am simply happy to be alive and very grateful to have things other than looks, such as intelligence, a fantastic mom, memories of my father, and a sweet fiance'. My life is not a bowl of cherries, but it is better now that I don't worry about looks. My friends and family and coworkers do not like me for what I look like, they like me because I am a good person. I also know that my looks are gonna fade in time, I will get old and gray and saggy, but there's really no point in thinking about that. Just gotta go with the flow, and whatever happens, happens.

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Being attractive is the most important thing there is

If you wanna catch the biggest fish in your pond

You have to be as attractive as possible

Make sure to keep your hair spotless and clean

Wash it at least every two weeks

Once every two weeks!

Haha... who remembers this song??>>

And if you see Johnny football hero in the hall, tell him that he played a great, tell him you liked his article in the newspaper. :)

I shall listen to Nada Surf now.

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Being attractive is the most important thing there is

If you wanna catch the biggest fish in your pond

You have to be as attractive as possible

Make sure to keep your hair spotless and clean

Wash it at least every two weeks

Once every two weeks!

Haha... who remembers this song??>>

And if you see Johnny football hero in the hall, tell him that he played a great, tell him you liked his article in the newspaper. :)

I shall listen to Nada Surf now.

It's a great song. Very sarcastic.

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Of course looks are important. Ugly people get shit on by society in every situation. Jury's convict ugly people more. Ugly people dont get promotions. Ugly people dont get much and have to deal with living with a few friends who love them for their heart and not their looks. Ugly people are more likely to commit crimes etc..When goody goody social good looking people talk shit at work about people I dont accept it and trash their words down their throats. Ugly ducklings (people who took a lot of abuse in school then became better looking) are some of the best people to know. They are extremely nice to everyone and can spot an asshole from a mile away. Experience is the best teacher and everyone should look ugly at some point in their life in order to understand what others have to go through.

Please, help me and others in destroying the 'beauty' industry...IE the industry that makes everyone insecure about everything. Commercials are on TV to make you feel like you are ugly and unworthy of anything unless you buy their products. Other cultures arent like this. Be you and be confident and ill respect you no matter what you look like.

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I think we all know how important "looks" are in society. It's by far the number one rule of attraction for anything along the lines of human interaction. I guess it's just how it's discussed and shown that it keeps people in denial.

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Tis true and proven by many studies: attractive ppl are more likely to get a job or promotion, get help from strangers, be treated better by teachers, get less harsh sentence in court, etc.

And it is psychological...our minds associate good qualities with people that appear pleasant to our eye. Also, we subconsciously think that good looking people posess superior genes so naturally you would want to marry someone who's deemed "attractive" to continue the trend by procreation.

As for me, heck yeah I think looks are important, and I do take good care of myself. I am not superficial or vain, but shoot, I also want to be attracted physically to someone I'm going to be with. And yes, if their personality sucks, looks won't make up for it, so you have to find a balance between the two.

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No pride u are totally correct. I LOOOOOOOOOOVE ugly ducklings because they are the best of both worlds. The fat girls that lose weight or do something to change their appearance remember what being an outcast was. (well obviously guys too) Even though they may now be super hot they still have teh positive personality traits of an unattractive person, which I think makes them even more attractive.

Pushing up roses I like your posts most of the time. Reading above I would say that most feel like u do. However u are not at all ugly (I looked at your gallery) We can all say one thing but if we were ugly people we would definately know how they are treated by society.

Finally when referring to ugly people I really mean ugly people. It takes a lot for me to call someone ugly. And overweight I mean obese is not attractive at all. Most of u dont fall into that category so dont thikn I am a cold bastard only talking about model perfection.

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