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12 year old girl in desperate need of advice

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(@stephanie-bennett)

Posted : 01/12/2018 4:00 am

I need advice. Earlier last December before I got my first period my skin started to change. It like so oily and my pores got huge. I started breaking out on my chin. It spread to my jawline. Then my forehead. Then my cheeks. I'm emotionally devastated.
Today I am having my second period and the nightmare has gotten worse. It's all over my face and now on my back and shoulders. My mom is sending me to a dermatologist on Saturday. I can't articulate how just destroyed I am. Today at school I felt like, I don't know. It was just, there are no words. The worst part is during lunch when I bumped into my crush and his eyes were just inches from my face. I sent the rest of lunch crying in bathroom. I need, I don't even know what I need other than for my skin to get better. How can I survive 6th grade ? How am I suppose to function ?
It's late at night and I'm crying and asking for help on an Internet forum. I feel like nobody understands. I don't know anyone with skin as bad as mine. If anyone have any advice I'm all ears.

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(@Anonymous)

Posted : 01/12/2018 7:03 am

The dermatologist will give you something then hopefully this will clear up your skin and then you can continue.

i suggest you do t fo anything silly and slap stuff on your face thst makes it worse.do t touch it or pick it.stay hygenic and wait till you see dermitologist.

you might end up on an anti biotic and that should clear it up.
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(@stephanie-bennett)

Posted : 01/12/2018 8:08 am

1 hour ago, Quadboy said:

The dermatologist will give you something then hopefully this will clear up your skin and then you can continue.

i suggest you do t fo anything silly and slap stuff on your face thst makes it worse.do t touch it or pick it.stay hygenic and wait till you see dermitologist.

you might end up on an anti biotic and that should clear it up.
:)
 

Thank you even though that was advice I was already following. I have pus pockets on my face but I don't pick at them because despite the fact they don't look like it could get worse, it can. I unfortunately have to go threw the dreaded process of going to school in a few hours, with very visible pus on my face. I'm black and dark skinned so the white pus stands out even more. It makes me feel disgusting. I hate the looks. Kids even have told me to pop them and don't seem to understand you should not pop zits. 

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(@mrskenzy)

Posted : 01/17/2018 1:38 pm

Dear, sweet, brave, wonderful girl. Sharing your thoughts with a community that understands you is a good place to start. I have 2 kids going through this and I feel like they are tortured everyday. School is the worst and everyone thinks they can give you advice because they can witness your condition. If you had cancer would people do the same thing? Of course not! You would have sympathy and compassion. So you know what? You have to give yourself that sympathy and compassion. You need to be courageous and know that by weathering this storm you will be a more compassionate person to others, you will learn a lot about yourself and you will be less shallow than others your age.

A few things I have learned.

1. Ice is your friend. When you can do nothing else and you are waiting for medicine or a new regimen to work, or just because you need to be nice to yourself, lay down in a comfy place, put some clean paper towels on your face and then place small baggies of ice all over. Make this feel like self care and self love. If you had a burn on your face this is how you would nurture it. Acne is angry skin and it needs lots of love.

2. Go to your derm appointment with all of your questions in hand. Write them down. All questions you have are important. You will need to be your own advocate. Your voice is important. You want treatment but you also deserve compassion and clear answers.

3. Let your mom be there for you. She is helping by taking you to the derm. Show her the regimen on this site--discuss with your derm. and ask her to be your partner and cheerleader. Tell her when you are feeling so low you can't face the world-- and there may be days when you just can't face the outside world. That's OK, be as brave as you can, then give yourself a little break, then take a deep breath and be brave again.

4. Hormones. They are so complicated and especially with women no one seems to have clear answers. Sometimes birth control pills are the magic answer, sometimes they aren't. Your entire life you will have to be like a scientist for yourself. Seeing what works for you--giving treatments and medicine enough time to see if they work, but also listening to your body and knowing when things are getting worse, not better.

Big hug, Sweetie. Take care!

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(@avalati)

Posted : 01/31/2018 6:25 pm

Sounds like this acne is just going to be part of puberty for you :( It sucks, but I think that's actually the best time to be suffering from acne.  Because there will be an end to it! (unlike adult acne) It's not likely you'll continue to get acne in your late teens and onward which is when it really matters imo!

It seems that you are doing everything right! It's good that you're seeing a derm and know not to pick at your skin. Just keep doing that, don't listen to other kids who don't understand what it's like. 

If you are embarrassed to be going to school with your acne showing makeup is an option. Try some concealer for acne (that's not open wounds). If you can't use makeup I also suggest pimple patches, such as the corsx brand! They help heal your acne and can be worn out.side Though I don't know how well it looks with dark skin :smileys_n_people_75: ... corsx is a korean brand and their patches are light skin colored 

I'm really sorry you have to deal with this at your age. People are there for you. Your classmates will mature eventually.  Just keep doing what you're doing, and keep your head up! 

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(@ceri23)

Posted : 02/04/2018 12:07 pm

I had my first period when I was 11. And my skin changed drastically like yours I assume. I am 14 nearly 15 now and I still have severe acne but my doctor put me on various drugs that just calmed it and never seemed to make it go away properly. I suggest using tea tree oil has that made my skin less red from around the spots. Also, you should wash your face in the morning and night. People told me to change my pillow sheets every two weeks but that didn't work for me, so I change mine every week. Hope this helps.

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