I'm so sorry to hear. Hmm ... How long have you been feeling like this? On paper it sounds like depression.. I, myself, have suffered for about 5 years or so, even to the brink of suicide. Am I suicidal now? I don't think so. But I'm definately depressed. I used to cry every day like you, and although crying helps, crying every day can be the sign of something that's not being fixed

I've had therapy before but personally didn't find it to be of any use. My depression is solely down to the state of my skin, and the only thing that would make me truly happy is clear skin. I guess that's me being negative and stubborn, but I can't help it. I have a weak mindset. "If I have bad skinI just can't be happy" is my, very wrong and very stupid, mindset.

Like I said I'm too stubborn for therapy

On the other hand.. That's just me. I know others on here find therapy quite helpful. For me, it personally wasn't the answer but that could be down to poor therapists themselves.

I would suggest therapy before antidepressants, however, and then move onto those if the therapy doesn't work out

I went for therapy and it didn't help, I have terrible scars and fat lossfrom a laser treatment. I was depressed so my doctor put me on meds but they didn't workbecause as soon as I see my face I was back to square one.then she says, well what will you do if it never gets fixed?? i', thinking that's what I'm seeingyou for, to tell me what to do....

I know my problem and it's my skin. I stopped sleeping and have been trying everything to help.I know it's hard to deal with and people withgood skin have no idea how much itaffects your life.If it's just acne Hon you'll get it under control. Scars are hard to deal with because I have so many it changed the shape of my face but I can'tstop trying to fix it.

Depression is a big part of not being able to be yourself and do what you want and go where you want without worrying how you look or how people see you. Support boards like this are good, you can talk to others who feel the same way. If I saw more people on tv or just around with bad skin it wouldn't be so bad but they don't show people with flawsin mag and tv. They even air brush models and actors. So we ahide out thinking no one is like us. I wish the media didn't make us all feel we have to be perfect I would say talk to others like your doing who know how you feel. We're all here for ya.

On 20-12-2015 12:29:54, Geekgirl13 said:

My mum thinks i have depression and should get counselling.

I dont know. I mean i definitely feel depressed but i wouldnt feel so bad if i didnt have acne and can a psychologist really help withthat?

I've been really down sincemy grandma died about a year ago and then last month my cat died which has just added even more to my misery. Now i find myself crying every day. Every little thing sets me off. This intense feeling of despair just comes over me.I call it "the darkness."I hate leaving my home and only go out because i am forced to work and buy food.

Does that sound like i have depression? Has anyone had counselling to help them deal with acne? Does it help? I mean can someone with clear skin have any understanding of what i'm going through?

The psychologist can't cure you of acne. What they can do is trying to help you with accepting your current situation, which may change in the future.

13 hours ago, sts54 said:

I went for therapy and it didn't help, I have terrible scars and fat loss from a laser treatment.  I was depressed  so my doctor put me on meds but they didn't work because as soon as I see my face I was back to square one.   then she says, well  what will you do if it never gets fixed??  i', thinking that's what I'm seeing you for, to tell me what to do....

 I know my problem and it's my skin.  I stopped sleeping and have been trying everything to help.  I know it's hard to deal with and people with good skin have no idea how much it affects your life.  If it's just acne Hon you'll get it under control.    Scars are hard to deal with because I have so many it changed the shape of my face but I can't stop trying to fix it.   

Depression is a big part of not being able to be yourself and do what you want and go where you want without worrying how you look or how people see you.    Support boards like this are good, you can talk to others who feel the same way.  If I saw more people on tv or just around with bad skin it wouldn't be so bad but they don't show people with flaws in mag and tv.  They even air brush models and actors.  So  we ahide out thinking no one is like us.  I wish the media didn't make us all feel we have to be perfect    I would say talk to others like your doing who know how you feel.  We're all here for ya.

Yes i think i would rather talk to someone who understood what i am going through. I know a pyschologist can give "text book" type strategies for dealing with things but unless they've had acne they're not really going to get it are they. 

I know there's more to us then our bodies, but it doesnt stop me wanting to look and feel "normal" and healthy. I feel like a prisoner in my body. I can't be the person i want to be. I can't do the things i want to do. 

Thanks for the kind words. Hope you're able to find a way to treat your scars. 

On 21/12/2015, 04:40:24, Lore91 said:

I'm so sorry to hear. Hmm ... How long have you been feeling like this? On paper it sounds like depression.. I, myself, have suffered for about 5 years or so, even to the brink of suicide. Am I suicidal now? I don't think so. But I'm definately depressed. I used to cry every day like you, and although crying helps, crying every day can be the sign of something that's not being fixed

 

I've had therapy before but personally didn't find it to be of any use. My depression is solely down to the state of my skin, and the only thing that would make me truly happy is clear skin. I guess that's me being negative and stubborn, but I can't help it. I have a weak mindset. "If I have bad skin I just can't be happy" is my, very wrong and very stupid, mindset. 

 

Like I said I'm too stubborn for therapy

 

On the other hand.. That's just me. I know others on here find therapy quite helpful. For me, it personally wasn't the answer but that could be down to poor therapists themselves.

 

I would suggest therapy before antidepressants, however, and then move onto those if the therapy doesn't work out

I have been unhappy for many years because of my skin but always found a way to deal with it. I think with my grandma and cat dying it has just broken me. I was very close to my grandma and she was my dearest friend who i could talk to about anything. And my cat just died a few weeks ago. I know a pets death doesnt sound so important but she has been with me for 16 yrs and was a great comfort to me through my years suffering with acne. 

I feel really alone now. I have no friends and i'm not that close to anyone else in my family. 

Sorry to sound so pathetic.

I feel like you. I just dont see that i can ever truly be happy with bad skin. I can live with not being happy, but what i'm feeling now is utter misery. My moods are very up and down. I'm sure i will pull myself out of this slump. I think i'm still in a bit of shock from losing my cat.  

54 minutes ago, Geekgirl13 said:

Yes i think i would rather talk to someone who understood what i am going through. I know a pyschologist can give "text book" type strategies for dealing with things but unless they've had acne they're not really going to get it are they. 

I know there's more to us then our bodies, but it doesnt stop me wanting to look and feel "normal" and healthy. I feel like a prisoner in my body. I can't be the person i want to be. I can't do the things i want to do. 

Thanks for the kind words. Hope you're able to find a way to treat your scars. 

I have been unhappy for many years because of my skin but always found a way to deal with it. I think with my grandma and cat dying it has just broken me. I was very close to my grandma and she was my dearest friend who i could talk to about anything. And my cat just died a few weeks ago. I know a pets death doesnt sound so important but she has been with me for 16 yrs and was a great comfort to me through my years suffering with acne. 

I feel really alone now. I have no friends and i'm not that close to anyone else in my family. 

Sorry to sound so pathetic.

I feel like you. I just dont see that i can ever truly be happy with bad skin. I can live with not being happy, but what i'm feeling now is utter misery. My moods are very up and down. I'm sure i will pull myself out of this slump. I think i'm still in a bit of shock from losing my cat.  

You are not pathetic, but I do think that you need professional help. There is nothing to be ashamed about. I receive professional help as well. Trust me, you do not live in a prison. There are nice people out there.

1 hour ago, Geekgirl13 said:

Yes i think i would rather talk to someone who understood what i am going through. I know a pyschologist can give "text book" type strategies for dealing with things but unless they've had acne they're not really going to get it are they. 

I know there's more to us then our bodies, but it doesnt stop me wanting to look and feel "normal" and healthy. I feel like a prisoner in my body. I can't be the person i want to be. I can't do the things i want to do. 

Thanks for the kind words. Hope you're able to find a way to treat your scars. 

I have been unhappy for many years because of my skin but always found a way to deal with it. I think with my grandma and cat dying it has just broken me. I was very close to my grandma and she was my dearest friend who i could talk to about anything. And my cat just died a few weeks ago. I know a pets death doesnt sound so important but she has been with me for 16 yrs and was a great comfort to me through my years suffering with acne. 

I feel really alone now. I have no friends and i'm not that close to anyone else in my family. 

Sorry to sound so pathetic.

I feel like you. I just dont see that i can ever truly be happy with bad skin. I can live with not being happy, but what i'm feeling now is utter misery. My moods are very up and down. I'm sure i will pull myself out of this slump. I think i'm still in a bit of shock from losing my cat.  

Oh I'm so sorry to hear  I can completely relate.. I'm going to be heartbroken when my nan and dog pass .. It must be horrible to go through it so soon to one another. Sending big hugs your way.

it's up to you if you get therapy or not . Personally, I'm too stubborn but that's my problem. Therapy can help tremendously with people's problems. Sure, the therapist may not understand what skin problems are like, but then again they may not even know how depression feels, or what it's like to lose an arm, or to lose a child, or to go blind, etc... But people with those problems still go to these therapists for help and find it helpful and successful!  they are trained extensively after all.

why not give it a go and see? You can then tell whether or not it's a good direction for you

I think I was lucky to have some form of therapy at a young age, and I'm not against it at all. In my case, We each saw a therapist in the form of amarriage counselor when my parents' marriage was falling apart. It really helped me realize what was really going on and step back and look at things more objectively. She didn't try to "save the marriage," but helped us all get through the eventual divorce as it happened.

To be clear, seeing a therapist didn't solve all my problems or prevent me from having depressed periods later in life. I think the biggest benefit was just talking to someone who would listen.

I'm really sorry to hear about the losses you've experienced. I think it's totally okay and normal and acceptable to be acting as you are. I also think the real pain can come from thinking that what you're feeling or how you're acting is somehow "wrong."

It can be hard to do anything if you're depressed. But talking to anyone about it is likely to have far more positive consequences than negative ones. That's how I feel about therapy in this case. I don't think there are any real negative outcomes from seeking it out.

Also, this talk helped me a LOT recently when stress/depression came up again for me. I seriously wrote on my mirror/sent myself text reminders and threw everything at it this time.