I know is hard as fuck , I'm in the worst period of my life , I don't know how I will survive , I'm ruined and depressed , but hey...that's life ....If you have only acne without scars you are one of the luckiest person , and you NEED to be happy .

At least you are a girl and you can cover acne with make up..

4 hours ago, Geekgirl13 said:

Last week i was supposed to go to a christmas party but at the last minute i chickened out and didn't go because i was having a bad skin day  

Anyone else have trouble with social situations like this?

Its so sad because a part of me really wanted to go but i just felt so disgusting when i looked in the mirror to put my make up on that started crying uncontrollably. Then my sister got really angry at me because i told her i couldnt go to the party.

So instead  of going out i spent the evening in bed crying. What a fun life i have.

I wish i had some friends or family with acne then we could all get together for our own private party where no one would have to feel ashamed about their skin.

You feel disgusting, but you aren't disgusting. Trust me, you don't have to feel ashamed about your skin.

I've done this more times than I can count. I almost even chickened out of my own birthday party a couple years ago because of my skin! I know how hard it is to go out and be social when you're having a bad skin day, but I will say that every time I've pushed through all of that anxiety and self-consciousness and went out anyway, I was glad I did. Staying home just gives me more time to obsess over my skin in the mirror and cry about how ugly I feel. When I'm out with my friends it's a lot easier to forget about my skin, if only for a few hours.

I'm sorry you missed out on the Christmas party, but try to stillget out and do something fun this holiday season! I'm sure you deserve it.

Exacally. Y'all I struggle too I know how horrified it makes u feel but ive also seen a lot and been a lot of places to know how truly blessed I am. I don't know y ive had to deal w this but trust me there always someone who has it a lot worse than we do...don't loose hope and miss this part of our life bc of stupid acne...it will get better

I've been having mild outbreaks for the last couple of weeks (2 - 3 spots per week), so I cancelled on my work's Christmas party which is later on this week. Didn't want to have to risk going out and potentially feeling awful.

Avoiding a massive hangover, though, is a bonus of this.

You could not have said it more accurately. I'm studying abroad and it's nearing the end of my abroad experience and so naturally my friends have coordinated big farewell parties and such. I have severe acne and I wake up with new whiteheads and pustules and I've been breaking out more than ever recently. I missed a lunch with all my friends today because I couldn't stand to put make up on looking at my bumpy face so I've been in bed crying. I'm really so tired of this and I don't really know what to do anymore. My parents aren't even here so I feel even more alone. I can't experience things like my friends do even when I'm in a foreign country and I so badly want to do many things. But every morning I dread getting up because I know I'll have to face myself.

On 12/13/2015, 9:25:09, Geekgirl13 said:

Last week i was supposed to go to a christmas party but at the last minute i chickened out and didn't go because i was having a bad skin day  

Anyone else have trouble with social situations like this?

Its so sad because a part of me really wanted to go but i just felt so disgusting when i looked in the mirror to put my make up on that started crying uncontrollably. Then my sister got really angry at me because i told her i couldnt go to the party.

So instead  of going out i spent the evening in bed crying. What a fun life i have.

I wish i had some friends or family with acne then we could all get together for our own private party where no one would have to feel ashamed about their skin.

I do this all the time unfortunately. What you have to remember is if you're going to a social get together with friends or family, they aren't going to be judging you because of your skin, there is nothing to be ashamed of - this is easier said than done of course, considering I have put off going out places many times because of my skin, even if it is friends and family. Actually I'm kind of dreading Christmas day because a whole bunch of my family is coming over, and my skin is literally the worst its been at the moment because of Roaccutane. I'm a bit like you though, none of my friends or family have any acne, or even when they were younger. Life is a tad unfair!

I did the same thing.

I skipped going to my work's Christmas party this year because I know there will be a lot of photos and I will most likely look like crap. Plus, who wants to dress up when they feel disgusting?

Sounds like Christmas is a hard time for alot of us. Parties are so awful when you have skin issues.

But i will be doing something else fun to make up for missing parties. I'm going to see the new Star Wars movie - yay!  I love going to the movies - its the one place you can go without worrying about your skin because its so lovely and dark in there  

14 hours ago, struggling said:

You could not have said it more accurately. I'm studying abroad and it's nearing the end of my abroad experience and so naturally my friends have coordinated big farewell parties and such. I have severe acne and I wake up with new whiteheads and pustules and I've been breaking out more than ever recently. I missed a lunch with all my friends today because I couldn't stand to put make up on looking at my bumpy face so I've been in bed crying. I'm really so tired of this and I don't really know what to do anymore. My parents aren't even here so I feel even more alone. I can't experience things like my friends do even when I'm in a foreign country and I so badly want to do many things. But every morning I dread getting up because I know I'll have to face myself. 

As much as we dont want to let acne stop us living our lives to the fullest, the truth is it does impact our lives. It tends to make us less social and more reclusive too i think.

Sorry you're feeling so down. Its hard without at least one person to offer some sympathy. At least i have my mum. She is sort of understanding. 

I think i was extra nervous because the people at this party were my sister's friends - i didnt know most of them. I get really anxious meeting new people. Thats why my sister got all angry when i said i wasnt going. She is definitely NOT very understanding. 

On 15/12/2015, 18:47:58, getschwifty said:

I know there will be a lot of photos

Oh God! There's always one person who appears obsessed with taking photos!

And people seem to get really angry when you don't want your photo taken! Just leave me alone!

I have avoided social gatherings and even school when my rosacea/acne was at it's worst. Now I regret it quite a bit cause people think maybe I am not interested enough to be there.

I'm sure our friends and family do not really care abt how welook, and want usto join in cause they'd really love to have usthere.

But they will never understand how we feel about mingling, photos, worries whether someone is going to ask about our face, and all. Such a difficult situation to be in.

Earlier this year I didn't leave the house for almost five months apart from things I had to do (class, shopping)

i'm a lot better now, but even this week I've cancelled all plans because of how I feel and look.

professionals need to realize and understand that this is a real concern and worry.

ya shit happens, just ask me...