Hi Everyone,

 

I want to share today how acne affected my appearance and resulted in a breakup with my then boyfriend.

 

When I first met my ex, I had clear skin, except for the odd small pimple/blackhead. However about a month into the relationship, I started to develop severe acne. I became so troubled by my skin and went to great lengths to heal the acne. I took antibiotics and spent alot of money on cortisone shots to heal those deep stubborn cysts which I was having. Most of all it affected my confidence and I became very worried that my ex will mind how I looked. He was a very good looking man.

 

Even though I was concerned, deep inside I trusted that he would not mind as everyone knows there is more to a person than appearance, 'especially for a learned person like him. However, I couldn't be more wrong. One day, I randomly received a text stating that he wants a breakup. I was heart broken and my world crumbled. I tried to lie to myself that this wasn't happening. I lost sleep, had no appetite whatsoever. To make things worse, he quickly got together with another very attractive girl with flawless skin, posting their intimate photos all over facebook.

 

At that time, I thought life really IS unfair. It may sound silly, but even though it has been more than 2 years, I think of him every single day. I don't know if it's the hate/resentment/regret or simply because I miss him. Would things have been different if i didn't have acne? I can't be sure.

Things WOULD be different if you didn't have acne. You might actually still be stuck in a relationship with a man with the kind of character that would allow him to break up with you through a text while you are in the midst of the onset of a painful but totally treatable disease, and who - in his infinite douchebaggery- (pardon my french) would proceed to quickly start a relationship with someone else and blatantly flaunt it to your social network while you are still picking up the pieces.

Yes - things might be different if you never had acne in that you would probably have had to suffer through another few months with this person before he ultimately found another reason to break it off for some novelty (or you broke it off because you came to realize his true self). I don't know you, but I think most people deserve much better.

I think megtree said it perfectly. I didn't expect your post to end the way it did...i didn't see it coming that you were going to say he broke uo with you by text. He really doesn't sound like a good person. To put it nicely.

You are feeling bad about your skin , but that doesn't mean it was the reason for the breakup. If it was, then good, glad he is gone. But please don't let it prevent you from believing that every other guy would fail to like you because of your skin. Anyway, going back to what I was saying, this person broke up with you for reasons that had nothing to do with you. He had problems and the next girl will also suffer because of it. I understand you missing him, but I think it's more because you're thinking about the ifs...how things would have continued on in a happily ever after way...if it were not for your skin. But I agree with megtree...let's say you were happy with your skin while with him and weren't preoccupied with worries over how attractive you are to him. Then I think eventually you would have realized what a jerk he is. Because he still would have broken up by text. That's the kind of person he is. It's just that when we're busy thinking about other things, too busy to notice the red flags, we don't see it coming. And it makes it seem like he broke up with you because of what you perceive as a flaw, but it wasn't. His problems go way beyond you or skin or attravtiveness. There are guys out there who will adore you and stick by your side through good times and bad.

Thank you both for your kind words. Indeed my life would have been different without acne. I think I have become a stronger person after this episode. I guess it was indeed unfortunate, but the best thing I can do is to live a better life knowing that nothing can be done to salvage anything anymore. Thanks anyway!