haha...

Story of my life!!!!

Just tell the person next time,... "I'm working on it. Baby steps... " If that wasn't an aunt, and just a friend or someone,... I'd tell that person to stop obsessing over my face, to get real, to let them know that i'm seeing improvement,... that they shouldn't be a debby downer, and lastly, to suck my........and make me a sandwich.

Yeah, I was very close to telling her off but because she is my aunt I could not say anything. To be honest with you, even your relatives can be really mean-spirited, I noticed with my acne experience.

Thank you for your support! Good to know I am not the only one going through this hell !

Oh no problem!!! I love meeting people from here (and have added them to facebook. lol ^^) If you ever need to talk, let me know! I'm always down!

And RELATIVES ARE THE WORST. The balls they have I swear..... I've had to push relatives out of my face, or yell, "can I just enjoy my dinner?" haha...

My mom is the worst.... I just ask her if she has anything better to do, than nag me. And I ask her if she thinks I don't own a mirror, and ask her if she thinks I want to have my face look like it's diseased. She always comes back for more ..... so I keep giving it to her. Sometimes I just shout out that I'm so sexy right now boo boo!!!!, ..... that I look so hot today, and that I'm unstoppable. Give her a kiss, and run out the door.

I just to avoid my home as much as possible. If someone wants to chill, I'm in. haha...

Would you believe me if I tell you that I deleted facebook two years ago when my face was disastrous? This is because of people like my aunt!!!

Good for you for standing your ground !

I have informed you that after taking saw palmetto my skin is much better. I spoke too fast when I said that my acne disappeared. I still get pimples on my chin but they are not HUGE...tiny but still pop up. But not as bad when I was on ortho cyclen. But today, my aunt saw me and she says: "OMG YOUR FACE IS SO AMAZING.... but your clear face makes your acne scars more visible". There goes my confidence... I just don't get why people get satisfaction in putting others down?

Just had to let it out... thank you for listening...

I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way. Seriously. It's your aunt man... I mean come on.

I have informed you that after taking saw palmetto my skin is much better. I spoke too fast when I said that my acne disappeared. I still get pimples on my chin but they are not HUGE...tiny but still pop up. But not as bad when I was on ortho cyclen. But today, my aunt saw me and she says: "OMG YOUR FACE IS SO AMAZING.... but your clear face makes your acne scars more visible". There goes my confidence... I just don't get why people get satisfaction in putting others down?

Just had to let it out... thank you for listening...

I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way. Seriously. It's your aunt man... I mean come on.

I don't care if she meant in a good or bad way. The fact that she said it hurts!!! Instead of being happy for me that I am practically acne-free, she has to continue to talk about my scars. If her comment you do not find offensive, then I have no explanation for you.

Family is usually the most judgmental in my case. I mean my family is pretty much the only ones who've commented about my acne and made me feel pretty bad about what they've said. And no , most likely the cruel comments/stares ever stop, You can't change idiots.

probably..... no -_-

I have informed you that after taking saw palmetto my skin is much better. I spoke too fast when I said that my acne disappeared. I still get pimples on my chin but they are not HUGE...tiny but still pop up. But not as bad when I was on ortho cyclen. But today, my aunt saw me and she says: "OMG YOUR FACE IS SO AMAZING.... but your clear face makes your acne scars more visible". There goes my confidence... I just don't get why people get satisfaction in putting others down?

Just had to let it out... thank you for listening...

Haha wow, this reminds me of this one time I went on vacation to visit some family I hadn't seen in like years...I was in the airport and saw one of my aunts and the first thing she says to me is "What's with the zit on your forehead?" (This was when my face was practically clear, and this damn thing literally popped up on the airplane). I was like really? After all these years, that's what you're wondering? But to answer your question, I think some people don't even realize they're putting someone down...like that's how ignorant/ insensitive some are, you just gotta realize that and ignore them sometimes.

Since I moved here in U.S, I haven't seen my relatives in the Philippines for 6 years. I can just imagine my relatives having the same reaction as your aunt when I come back.

Well actually, most people in my country tend to be shallow minded so I'm hoping I can handle the feedbacks or insults they'll throw at me.

I have informed you that after taking saw palmetto my skin is much better. I spoke too fast when I said that my acne disappeared. I still get pimples on my chin but they are not HUGE...tiny but still pop up. But not as bad when I was on ortho cyclen. But today, my aunt saw me and she says: "OMG YOUR FACE IS SO AMAZING.... but your clear face makes your acne scars more visible". There goes my confidence... I just don't get why people get satisfaction in putting others down?

Just had to let it out... thank you for listening...

I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way. Seriously. It's your aunt man... I mean come on.

I don't care if she meant in a good or bad way. The fact that she said it hurts!!! Instead of being happy for me that I am practically acne-free, she has to continue to talk about my scars. If her comment you do not find offensive, then I have no explanation for you.

I agree that it comes across as kind of inconsiderate. But is your aunt usually mean?

I have informed you that after taking saw palmetto my skin is much better. I spoke too fast when I said that my acne disappeared. I still get pimples on my chin but they are not HUGE...tiny but still pop up. But not as bad when I was on ortho cyclen. But today, my aunt saw me and she says: "OMG YOUR FACE IS SO AMAZING.... but your clear face makes your acne scars more visible". There goes my confidence... I just don't get why people get satisfaction in putting others down?

Just had to let it out... thank you for listening...

I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way. Seriously. It's your aunt man... I mean come on.

I don't care if she meant in a good or bad way. The fact that she said it hurts!!! Instead of being happy for me that I am practically acne-free, she has to continue to talk about my scars. If her comment you do not find offensive, then I have no explanation for you.

I agree that it comes across as kind of inconsiderate. But is your aunt usually mean?

she is not a mean person by nature but she is inconsiderate. For me, being inconsiderate in such a situation that I am in is an equivalent of being mean. A person should have a common sense and understand that a person who has been fighting acne for more than 7 years is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. She does not need to be reminded of acne scars for now... Anywho, thanks for your comment. I understand what you are trying to say. Sorry I lashed out on you.

I have informed you that after taking saw palmetto my skin is much better. I spoke too fast when I said that my acne disappeared. I still get pimples on my chin but they are not HUGE...tiny but still pop up. But not as bad when I was on ortho cyclen. But today, my aunt saw me and she says: "OMG YOUR FACE IS SO AMAZING.... but your clear face makes your acne scars more visible". There goes my confidence... I just don't get why people get satisfaction in putting others down?

Just had to let it out... thank you for listening...

I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way. Seriously. It's your aunt man... I mean come on.

I don't care if she meant in a good or bad way. The fact that she said it hurts!!! Instead of being happy for me that I am practically acne-free, she has to continue to talk about my scars. If her comment you do not find offensive, then I have no explanation for you.

I agree that it comes across as kind of inconsiderate. But is your aunt usually mean?

she is not a mean person by nature but she is inconsiderate. For me, being inconsiderate in such a situation that I am in is an equivalent of being mean. A person should have a common sense and understand that a person who has been fighting acne for more than 7 years is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. She does not need to be reminded of acne scars for now... Anywho, thanks for your comment. I understand what you are trying to say. Sorry I lashed out on you.

Hey, don't worry about the "lashing out".

I wouldn't like hearing a comment like the one your aunt made either.

Over the years I've literally had hundreds of people comment on my skin, my family were the worst though. They'd call me ugly and just generally knock the stuffing out of me daily about my acne and other things. I'd like to think that the problem is with the people who make the nasty remarks and not with me, however acne is really unsightly so I can understand why people are disgusted by it. But it's not like I can help it or choose to let my skin go to hell, I have tried my hardest to make it better and don't feel I can do any more, the worst feeling is that you've done your best and the best is still not enough. Unless someone's had acne themselves they could never understand how disfiguring it feels, and also how hard it is to get rid of - I hate the way some people talk to you as if it's your fault you have spots, and as if the solution to acne is so simple. Like when people say 'oh, just wash your face more then they'll go away' or 'stop eating chocolate and that will solve your problem'. Urgh.

Over the years I've literally had hundreds of people comment on my skin, my family were the worst though. They'd call me ugly and just generally knock the stuffing out of me daily about my acne and other things. I'd like to think that the problem is with the people who make the nasty remarks and not with me, however acne is really unsightly so I can understand why people are disgusted by it. But it's not like I can help it or choose to let my skin go to hell, I have tried my hardest to make it better and don't feel I can do any more, the worst feeling is that you've done your best and the best is still not enough. Unless someone's had acne themselves they could never understand how disfiguring it feels, and also how hard it is to get rid of - I hate the way some people talk to you as if it's your fault you have spots, and as if the solution to acne is so simple. Like when people say 'oh, just wash your face more then they'll go away' or 'stop eating chocolate and that will solve your problem'. Urgh.

I agree!!! I want to scream on top of my lungs: "do you really think I want to be stuck with acne at the age of 28???" And I noticed that it is never enough... when you have almost clear skin, then begin comments about acne scars!! It is never enough to please people. I follow the healthiest diet!!! But is not enough because my acne is hormonal. They only appear on the chin.

I have informed you that after taking saw palmetto my skin is much better. I spoke too fast when I said that my acne disappeared. I still get pimples on my chin but they are not HUGE...tiny but still pop up. But not as bad when I was on ortho cyclen. But today, my aunt saw me and she says: "OMG YOUR FACE IS SO AMAZING.... but your clear face makes your acne scars more visible". There goes my confidence... I just don't get why people get satisfaction in putting others down?

Just had to let it out... thank you for listening...

I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way. Seriously. It's your aunt man... I mean come on.

I don't care if she meant in a good or bad way. The fact that she said it hurts!!! Instead of being happy for me that I am practically acne-free, she has to continue to talk about my scars. If her comment you do not find offensive, then I have no explanation for you.

I agree that it comes across as kind of inconsiderate. But is your aunt usually mean?

she is not a mean person by nature but she is inconsiderate. For me, being inconsiderate in such a situation that I am in is an equivalent of being mean. A person should have a common sense and understand that a person who has been fighting acne for more than 7 years is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. She does not need to be reminded of acne scars for now... Anywho, thanks for your comment. I understand what you are trying to say. Sorry I lashed out on you.

Hey, don't worry about the "lashing out".

I wouldn't like hearing a comment like the one your aunt made either.

Thank you !

Oh and sorry to hear what your Aunt said about your face, was like a back handed compliment. And then when you take offence you're made to feel bad about being 'too sensitive' and 'taking everything personally'. Been there. People are just so cruel in general, I really don't know the reason behind it

 

Over the years I've literally had hundreds of people comment on my skin, my family were the worst though. They'd call me ugly and just generally knock the stuffing out of me daily about my acne and other things. I'd like to think that the problem is with the people who make the nasty remarks and not with me, however acne is really unsightly so I can understand why people are disgusted by it. But it's not like I can help it or choose to let my skin go to hell, I have tried my hardest to make it better and don't feel I can do any more, the worst feeling is that you've done your best and the best is still not enough. Unless someone's had acne themselves they could never understand how disfiguring it feels, and also how hard it is to get rid of - I hate the way some people talk to you as if it's your fault you have spots, and as if the solution to acne is so simple. Like when people say 'oh, just wash your face more then they'll go away' or 'stop eating chocolate and that will solve your problem'. Urgh.

I agree!!! I want to scream on top of my lungs: "do you really think I want to be stuck with acne at the age of 28???" And I noticed that it is never enough... when you have almost clear skin, then begin comments about acne scars!! It is never enough to please people. I follow the healthiest diet!!! But is not enough because my acne is hormonal. They only appear on the chin.

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I have informed you that after taking saw palmetto my skin is much better. I spoke too fast when I said that my acne disappeared. I still get pimples on my chin but they are not HUGE...tiny but still pop up. But not as bad when I was on ortho cyclen. But today, my aunt saw me and she says: "OMG YOUR FACE IS SO AMAZING.... but your clear face makes your acne scars more visible". There goes my confidence... I just don't get why people get satisfaction in putting others down?

Just had to let it out... thank you for listening...

I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way. Seriously. It's your aunt man... I mean come on.

I don't care if she meant in a good or bad way. The fact that she said it hurts!!! Instead of being happy for me that I am practically acne-free, she has to continue to talk about my scars. If her comment you do not find offensive, then I have no explanation for you.

I agree that it comes across as kind of inconsiderate. But is your aunt usually mean?

Oh and sorry to hear what your Aunt said about your face, was like a back handed compliment. And then when you take offence you're made to feel bad about being 'too sensitive' and 'taking everything personally'. Been there. People are just so cruel in general, I really don't know the reason behind it

Over the years I've literally had hundreds of people comment on my skin, my family were the worst though. They'd call me ugly and just generally knock the stuffing out of me daily about my acne and other things. I'd like to think that the problem is with the people who make the nasty remarks and not with me, however acne is really unsightly so I can understand why people are disgusted by it. But it's not like I can help it or choose to let my skin go to hell, I have tried my hardest to make it better and don't feel I can do any more, the worst feeling is that you've done your best and the best is still not enough. Unless someone's had acne themselves they could never understand how disfiguring it feels, and also how hard it is to get rid of - I hate the way some people talk to you as if it's your fault you have spots, and as if the solution to acne is so simple. Like when people say 'oh, just wash your face more then they'll go away' or 'stop eating chocolate and that will solve your problem'. Urgh.

I agree!!! I want to scream on top of my lungs: "do you really think I want to be stuck with acne at the age of 28???" And I noticed that it is never enough... when you have almost clear skin, then begin comments about acne scars!! It is never enough to please people. I follow the healthiest diet!!! But is not enough because my acne is hormonal. They only appear on the chin.

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I have informed you that after taking saw palmetto my skin is much better. I spoke too fast when I said that my acne disappeared. I still get pimples on my chin but they are not HUGE...tiny but still pop up. But not as bad when I was on ortho cyclen. But today, my aunt saw me and she says: "OMG YOUR FACE IS SO AMAZING.... but your clear face makes your acne scars more visible". There goes my confidence... I just don't get why people get satisfaction in putting others down?

Just had to let it out... thank you for listening...

I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way. Seriously. It's your aunt man... I mean come on.

I don't care if she meant in a good or bad way. The fact that she said it hurts!!! Instead of being happy for me that I am practically acne-free, she has to continue to talk about my scars. If her comment you do not find offensive, then I have no explanation for you.

I agree that it comes across as kind of inconsiderate. But is your aunt usually mean?

she is not a mean person by nature but she is inconsiderate. For me, being inconsiderate in such a situation that I am in is an equivalent of being mean. A person should have a common sense and understand that a person who has been fighting acne for more than 7 years is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. She does not need to be reminded of acne scars for now... Anywho, thanks for your comment. I understand what you are trying to say. Sorry I lashed out on you.

Hey, don't worry about the "lashing out".

I wouldn't like hearing a comment like the one your aunt made either.

Thank you !

Sorry don't know how to multi quote! But yeah people just don't get it do they? I am pretty sure mine is hormonal too as it was suddenly set off when I started puberty, however at age 31 I'm still getting bad breakouts - not as often or severe but recently had a relentless breakout which has been really distressing and brought back all the memories about how I used to spend most of my time feeling when I was a teenager and in my 20's. However these days when I do break out it's on the jawline, neck and cheeks - and the whole area becomes very inflamed. Urgh I hate it. Wonder if or when it will ever stop. Would like to get some scar treatment to smooth my skin out too, even though my scarring is not really that noticable. But I am well aware that my skin has never been nice, and I fantasise about how much better life would have been with a perfect complexion. Feel bitter towards those who have never been touched by acne, they don't even know how lucky they are.

Yeah dear, same story here. Saw palmetto seems to help. At one point my acne disappeared but now I see tiny ones on the chin. They are hormonal. I HEAR YA when you say that people that have not been touched by acne should not take their clear skin for granted. I see girls eating junk food yet they have flawless skin. While I munch on carrots and celeries and look at my chin?

You are so right when people accuse of being sensitive when you are offended. I noticed that too. My mom was like: "This is too much... you cannot take criticism at all". I am just relieved to realize that I am not the only out there. Thank you ibiza!

Also, I forgot to say that after seeing progress in my chin area I became more confident in going out there and just looking for the ONE. Now with this whole acne scars scenario, I feel like "no, Janine, you should wait even longer..." Ughhh. And I am a happy person! But I agree with people who say that acne is a huge determinant of your mood.

Oh and sorry to hear what your Aunt said about your face, was like a back handed compliment. And then when you take offence you're made to feel bad about being 'too sensitive' and 'taking everything personally'. Been there. People are just so cruel in general, I really don't know the reason behind it

Over the years I've literally had hundreds of people comment on my skin, my family were the worst though. They'd call me ugly and just generally knock the stuffing out of me daily about my acne and other things. I'd like to think that the problem is with the people who make the nasty remarks and not with me, however acne is really unsightly so I can understand why people are disgusted by it. But it's not like I can help it or choose to let my skin go to hell, I have tried my hardest to make it better and don't feel I can do any more, the worst feeling is that you've done your best and the best is still not enough. Unless someone's had acne themselves they could never understand how disfiguring it feels, and also how hard it is to get rid of - I hate the way some people talk to you as if it's your fault you have spots, and as if the solution to acne is so simple. Like when people say 'oh, just wash your face more then they'll go away' or 'stop eating chocolate and that will solve your problem'. Urgh.

I agree!!! I want to scream on top of my lungs: "do you really think I want to be stuck with acne at the age of 28???" And I noticed that it is never enough... when you have almost clear skin, then begin comments about acne scars!! It is never enough to please people. I follow the healthiest diet!!! But is not enough because my acne is hormonal. They only appear on the chin.

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I have informed you that after taking saw palmetto my skin is much better. I spoke too fast when I said that my acne disappeared. I still get pimples on my chin but they are not HUGE...tiny but still pop up. But not as bad when I was on ortho cyclen. But today, my aunt saw me and she says: "OMG YOUR FACE IS SO AMAZING.... but your clear face makes your acne scars more visible". There goes my confidence... I just don't get why people get satisfaction in putting others down?

Just had to let it out... thank you for listening...

I'm sure she didn't mean it in a bad way. Seriously. It's your aunt man... I mean come on.

I don't care if she meant in a good or bad way. The fact that she said it hurts!!! Instead of being happy for me that I am practically acne-free, she has to continue to talk about my scars. If her comment you do not find offensive, then I have no explanation for you.

I agree that it comes across as kind of inconsiderate. But is your aunt usually mean?

she is not a mean person by nature but she is inconsiderate. For me, being inconsiderate in such a situation that I am in is an equivalent of being mean. A person should have a common sense and understand that a person who has been fighting acne for more than 7 years is seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. She does not need to be reminded of acne scars for now... Anywho, thanks for your comment. I understand what you are trying to say. Sorry I lashed out on you.

Hey, don't worry about the "lashing out".

I wouldn't like hearing a comment like the one your aunt made either.

Thank you !

Sorry don't know how to multi quote! But yeah people just don't get it do they? I am pretty sure mine is hormonal too as it was suddenly set off when I started puberty, however at age 31 I'm still getting bad breakouts - not as often or severe but recently had a relentless breakout which has been really distressing and brought back all the memories about how I used to spend most of my time feeling when I was a teenager and in my 20's. However these days when I do break out it's on the jawline, neck and cheeks - and the whole area becomes very inflamed. Urgh I hate it. Wonder if or when it will ever stop. Would like to get some scar treatment to smooth my skin out too, even though my scarring is not really that noticable. But I am well aware that my skin has never been nice, and I fantasise about how much better life would have been with a perfect complexion. Feel bitter towards those who have never been touched by acne, they don't even know how lucky they are.

Yeah dear, same story here. Saw palmetto seems to help. At one point my acne disappeared but now I see tiny ones on the chin. They are hormonal. I HEAR YA when you say that people that have not been touched by acne should not take their clear skin for granted. I see girls eating junk food yet they have flawless skin. While I munch on carrots and celeries and look at my chin?

You are so right when people accuse of being sensitive when you are offended. I noticed that too. My mom was like: "This is too much... you cannot take criticism at all". I am just relieved to realize that I am not the only out there. Thank you ibiza!

Also, I forgot to say that after seeing progress in my chin area I became more confident in going out there and just looking for the ONE. Now with this whole acne scars scenario, I feel like "no, Janine, you should wait even longer..." Ughhh. And I am a happy person! But I agree with people who say that acne is a huge determinant of your mood.

Yeah it makes no sense how they can eat burgers, fries, no fruit or veg, and have a generally unhealthy lifestyle yet have flawless skin, yet we are eating really well but still have a problem. When I was younger I used to eat mostly fruit and veg but my skin did absolutely nothing so now I don't feel guilty about eating some naughty foods in conjunction with generally eating very well because no amount of junk food seemed to affect my skins clarity either, not that I eat much junk food anyway as I tend to avoid most processed food and cook from scratch all the time. What I mean is I won't skip dessert and don't feel guilty. There seems to be many people on this forum who think acne can be controlled with diet but this never worked for me And to have people accusing you of not eating well when you are making so much effort to buy local/organic, cook from scratch and eat a mainly plant based diet is really distressing. I feel I am forever having to correct the truth and it is so draining. Some people just live their lives without caring what others think, wish I had the same attitude.

Try not to let your acne scarring stop you from going out and meeting new people though, if it's only on the chin area then that's not so bad as hardly anyone looks at your chin anyway You sound like a lovely optimistic person so the right people would see beyond any acne/scars and appreciate what fun you are to have around, and also they'd have the sense to concentrate on your eyes/figure/hair or whatever your best features are

But yeah it's crap when people think they can say what they like then use your sensitivity as an excuse to be an asshole, but that is just so wrong and manipulative. I've been surrounded by those sorts of people all my life and it's depressing. Thankfully I had an escape from them as I got married to a lovely guy and moved to a different country! Although my past does haunt me and I will probably require more counselling in future as my self esteem has really been affected.

Sorry don't know how to multi quote! But yeah people just don't get it do they? I am pretty sure mine is hormonal too as it was suddenly set off when I started puberty, however at age 31 I'm still getting bad breakouts - not as often or severe but recently had a relentless breakout which has been really distressing and brought back all the memories about how I used to spend most of my time feeling when I was a teenager and in my 20's. However these days when I do break out it's on the jawline, neck and cheeks - and the whole area becomes very inflamed. Urgh I hate it. Wonder if or when it will ever stop. Would like to get some scar treatment to smooth my skin out too, even though my scarring is not really that noticable. But I am well aware that my skin has never been nice, and I fantasise about how much better life would have been with a perfect complexion. Feel bitter towards those who have never been touched by acne, they don't even know how lucky they are.

Yeah dear, same story here. Saw palmetto seems to help. At one point my acne disappeared but now I see tiny ones on the chin. They are hormonal. I HEAR YA when you say that people that have not been touched by acne should not take their clear skin for granted. I see girls eating junk food yet they have flawless skin. While I munch on carrots and celeries and look at my chin?

You are so right when people accuse of being sensitive when you are offended. I noticed that too. My mom was like: "This is too much... you cannot take criticism at all". I am just relieved to realize that I am not the only out there. Thank you ibiza!

Also, I forgot to say that after seeing progress in my chin area I became more confident in going out there and just looking for the ONE. Now with this whole acne scars scenario, I feel like "no, Janine, you should wait even longer..." Ughhh. And I am a happy person! But I agree with people who say that acne is a huge determinant of your mood.

Yeah it makes no sense how they can eat burgers, fries, no fruit or veg, and have a generally unhealthy lifestyle yet have flawless skin, yet we are eating really well but still have a problem. When I was younger I used to eat mostly fruit and veg but my skin did absolutely nothing so now I don't feel guilty about eating some naughty foods in conjunction with generally eating very well because no amount of junk food seemed to affect my skins clarity either, not that I eat much junk food anyway as I tend to avoid most processed food and cook from scratch all the time. What I mean is I won't skip dessert and don't feel guilty. There seems to be many people on this forum who think acne can be controlled with diet but this never worked for me And to have people accusing you of not eating well when you are making so much effort to buy local/organic, cook from scratch and eat a mainly plant based diet is really distressing. I feel I am forever having to correct the truth and it is so draining. Some people just live their lives without caring what others think, wish I had the same attitude.

Try not to let your acne scarring stop you from going out and meeting new people though, if it's only on the chin area then that's not so bad as hardly anyone looks at your chin anyway You sound like a lovely optimistic person so the right people would see beyond any acne/scars and appreciate what fun you are to have around, and also they'd have the sense to concentrate on your eyes/figure/hair or whatever your best features are

But yeah it's crap when people think they can say what they like then use your sensitivity as an excuse to be an asshole, but that is just so wrong and manipulative. I've been surrounded by those sorts of people all my life and it's depressing. Thankfully I had an escape from them as I got married to a lovely guy and moved to a different country! Although my past does haunt me and I will probably require more counselling in future as my self esteem has really been affected.

Hun, I just want to say THANK YOU for such an amazing post! You truly made my day! I am so happy you found a lovely guy because you deserve it! You are a sweet and caring person! I really appreciate everything you wrote and GIRL, you deserve to spoil yourself by eating desserts! You and I both know that having a healthy diet has no influence over our acne. We just need to surround ourselves with positive people. I wish I also had thick skin and ignored comments but realizing that there are people like you makes it easier to bear daily BS from a-holes!!!

Sorry don't know how to multi quote! But yeah people just don't get it do they? I am pretty sure mine is hormonal too as it was suddenly set off when I started puberty, however at age 31 I'm still getting bad breakouts - not as often or severe but recently had a relentless breakout which has been really distressing and brought back all the memories about how I used to spend most of my time feeling when I was a teenager and in my 20's. However these days when I do break out it's on the jawline, neck and cheeks - and the whole area becomes very inflamed. Urgh I hate it. Wonder if or when it will ever stop. Would like to get some scar treatment to smooth my skin out too, even though my scarring is not really that noticable. But I am well aware that my skin has never been nice, and I fantasise about how much better life would have been with a perfect complexion. Feel bitter towards those who have never been touched by acne, they don't even know how lucky they are.

Yeah dear, same story here. Saw palmetto seems to help. At one point my acne disappeared but now I see tiny ones on the chin. They are hormonal. I HEAR YA when you say that people that have not been touched by acne should not take their clear skin for granted. I see girls eating junk food yet they have flawless skin. While I munch on carrots and celeries and look at my chin?

You are so right when people accuse of being sensitive when you are offended. I noticed that too. My mom was like: "This is too much... you cannot take criticism at all". I am just relieved to realize that I am not the only out there. Thank you ibiza!

Also, I forgot to say that after seeing progress in my chin area I became more confident in going out there and just looking for the ONE. Now with this whole acne scars scenario, I feel like "no, Janine, you should wait even longer..." Ughhh. And I am a happy person! But I agree with people who say that acne is a huge determinant of your mood.

Yeah it makes no sense how they can eat burgers, fries, no fruit or veg, and have a generally unhealthy lifestyle yet have flawless skin, yet we are eating really well but still have a problem. When I was younger I used to eat mostly fruit and veg but my skin did absolutely nothing so now I don't feel guilty about eating some naughty foods in conjunction with generally eating very well because no amount of junk food seemed to affect my skins clarity either, not that I eat much junk food anyway as I tend to avoid most processed food and cook from scratch all the time. What I mean is I won't skip dessert and don't feel guilty. There seems to be many people on this forum who think acne can be controlled with diet but this never worked for me And to have people accusing you of not eating well when you are making so much effort to buy local/organic, cook from scratch and eat a mainly plant based diet is really distressing. I feel I am forever having to correct the truth and it is so draining. Some people just live their lives without caring what others think, wish I had the same attitude.

Try not to let your acne scarring stop you from going out and meeting new people though, if it's only on the chin area then that's not so bad as hardly anyone looks at your chin anyway You sound like a lovely optimistic person so the right people would see beyond any acne/scars and appreciate what fun you are to have around, and also they'd have the sense to concentrate on your eyes/figure/hair or whatever your best features are

But yeah it's crap when people think they can say what they like then use your sensitivity as an excuse to be an asshole, but that is just so wrong and manipulative. I've been surrounded by those sorts of people all my life and it's depressing. Thankfully I had an escape from them as I got married to a lovely guy and moved to a different country! Although my past does haunt me and I will probably require more counselling in future as my self esteem has really been affected.

Hun, I just want to say THANK YOU for such an amazing post! You truly made my day! I am so happy you found a lovely guy because you deserve it! You are a sweet and caring person! I really appreciate everything you wrote and GIRL, you deserve to spoil yourself by eating desserts! You and I both know that having a healthy diet has no influence over our acne. We just need to surround ourselves with positive people. I wish I also had thick skin and ignored comments but realizing that there are people like you makes it easier to bear daily BS from a-holes!!!

No worries, if ever you want to talk about your feelings I'm here! Glad I made you feel more positive today, that in turn has made me feel great that I could help! You sound really lovely too

Nice to hear someone tell me to go ahead and have desserts for a change when in the past people have given me disapproving looks or actually told me to throw the my chocolate in the trash as I 'shouldn't be eating that kind of thing with skin like mine'.

Yeah my guy is lovely and the most positive person to ever come into my life However I'm yet to open up to him about my acne and the story behind it, that would feel like exposing myself and vulnerability to him completely which is just too daunting right now, baby steps. Maybe after this (never ending) outbreak clears a bit then I will so that he won't have so many spots to stare at as I tell him. Irrational thoughts I know, but when you've been judged by so many people it's hard to imagine that your husband, however lovely he is, won't be thinking the same things as everyone else.

No worries, if ever you want to talk about your feelings I'm here! Glad I made you feel more positive today, that in turn has made me feel great that I could help! You sound really lovely too

Nice to hear someone tell me to go ahead and have desserts for a change when in the past people have given me disapproving looks or actually told me to throw the my chocolate in the trash as I 'shouldn't be eating that kind of thing with skin like mine'.

Yeah my guy is lovely and the most positive person to ever come into my life However I'm yet to open up to him about my acne and the story behind it, that would feel like exposing myself and vulnerability to him completely which is just too daunting right now, baby steps. Maybe after this (never ending) outbreak clears a bit then I will so that he won't have so many spots to stare at as I tell him. Irrational thoughts I know, but when you've been judged by so many people it's hard to imagine that your husband, however lovely he is, won't be thinking the same things as everyone else.

Yes, you helped me a lot hun! I am here for you too! I understand when you say that you have fears in opening up to your husband. But hun, I see that he accepts you for who you are and he sees your real inside and outside beauty, not your acne. Basically he belongs to the 5% of the people who are nice in this entire world. When you are ready, open up to him but I feel like you have nothing to worry about with him. Girl, I wrote here that I am taking saw palmetto. It has helped me! But it interferes with BCP. It is a herbal anti-antrogen which I like. I still get acne but they are not huge painful cysts.

AND YES, please eat desserts. We only live once and I am tired of following this proper diet EVERY DAY . I bought chips today (I said: F*** it... I work too hard).

No worries, if ever you want to talk about your feelings I'm here! Glad I made you feel more positive today, that in turn has made me feel great that I could help! You sound really lovely too

Nice to hear someone tell me to go ahead and have desserts for a change when in the past people have given me disapproving looks or actually told me to throw the my chocolate in the trash as I 'shouldn't be eating that kind of thing with skin like mine'.

Yeah my guy is lovely and the most positive person to ever come into my life However I'm yet to open up to him about my acne and the story behind it, that would feel like exposing myself and vulnerability to him completely which is just too daunting right now, baby steps. Maybe after this (never ending) outbreak clears a bit then I will so that he won't have so many spots to stare at as I tell him. Irrational thoughts I know, but when you've been judged by so many people it's hard to imagine that your husband, however lovely he is, won't be thinking the same things as everyone else.

Yes, you helped me a lot hun! I am here for you too! I understand when you say that you have fears in opening up to your husband. But hun, I see that he accepts you for who you are and he sees your real inside and outside beauty, not your acne. Basically he belongs to the 5% of the people who are nice in this entire world. When you are ready, open up to him but I feel like you have nothing to worry about with him. Girl, I wrote here that I am taking saw palmetto. It has helped me! But it interferes with BCP. It is a herbal anti-antrogen which I like. I still get acne but they are not huge painful cysts.

AND YES, please eat desserts. We only live once and I am tired of following this proper diet EVERY DAY . I bought chips today (I said: F*** it... I work too hard).

Hey thanks

Yeah hope so, he does seem to be one of the 5% - sad that there's only a small percentage of people who are genuine and kind in this world.

Wow I would be more than willing to try that Saw Palmetto stuff, not on BCP so for me that's not an issue. Where do you buy it? I am between USA and UK so have access to shops both sides of the pond Sounds like it is kind of like a herbal version of the pill Dianette which is anti androgen which I tried back when I was about 18 before going down the Accutane route, it did help for a few months then acne came back with a vengence worse than ever before so that's why I had to resort to Accutane at age 20.

Haha yeah I feel your pain and totally understand, keep treating yourself to the chips hun because I truly feel that in most cases acne is not affected by diet, wish it was that simple to cure things but unfortunately no, dammit! And if ever you feel guilty just be like me and ask yourself why so many of your friends have a junk food lifestyle yet remain acne free? Therefore why should be feel bad for having the occasional treat alongside an otherwise healthy diet?! On that note, I'm off to enjoy some Ben & Jerry's guilt free!

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Yeah hope so, he does seem to be one of the 5% - sad that there's only a small percentage of people who are genuine and kind in this world.

Wow I would be more than willing to try that Saw Palmetto stuff, not on BCP so for me that's not an issue. Where do you buy it? I am between USA and UK so have access to shops both sides of the pond Sounds like it is kind of like a herbal version of the pill Dianette which is anti androgen which I tried back when I was about 18 before going down the Accutane route, it did help for a few months then acne came back with a vengence worse than ever before so that's why I had to resort to Accutane at age 20.

Haha yeah I feel your pain and totally understand, keep treating yourself to the chips hun because I truly feel that in most cases acne is not affected by diet, wish it was that simple to cure things but unfortunately no, dammit! And if ever you feel guilty just be like me and ask yourself why so many of your friends have a junk food lifestyle yet remain acne free? Therefore why should be feel bad for having the occasional treat alongside an otherwise healthy diet?! On that note, I'm off to enjoy some Ben & Jerry's guilt free!

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Oh girl, i would really advise trying saw palmetto for at least two months, just to see if it helps. It helped me. I can feel it because chin pimples cannot magically get smaller and less visible. And my skin seems smoother and clearer (hence my aunt's stupid comment about scars). I live in Vancouver and saw palmetto can be found in any drug store... you do not need prescription because it is a herb. I take 583 mg twice a day (Nature's Way brand). So far, I have not experienced any side effects.

Hun, if you went through accutane, I have a feeling taking this won't be a problem. But maybe your breakout is a fluke too ? Cause you said it came suddenly.

Also, I read that women take saw palmetto against hair loss. I am not imagining things: I really noticed that my hair does not fall out as it used to. I know that my acne is hormornal also because my hair started thinning at the age of 23, when the acne horror started.

Hope all is well ! Good night lady !!!

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