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(@andrewbleah)

Posted : 03/14/2013 4:33 pm

I haven't go to school all february,and it's mid march and im still home

my proffessors want s to know whats going out with me,i keep pretending that im sick if next week im not going i will be expeld(im in 10th grade) .a little backround,im 16 ,just finished accutane,although i do noy havr acne as pimpels ,at the beginning of my course i had a very bad initial break out all over my cheeks,now im dealing with severe red marks fron that,i hate going to school cuz everyone is so mean,i use a little foundation ,and now everyone knows that.i dont know how i will go to school monday,i dont want to throw my future away cuz of this.any advice will be good apriciate.

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(@ivyhawk)

Posted : 03/14/2013 4:54 pm

Professors? 10th grade? did I just find another 15 yr. old college student =)

Don't throw away your future, bro. Eventually we will have clear skin again, and at that point we will be glad that we didn't throw our futures away.

P.s. almost all red marks eventually fade.

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(@leelowe1)

Posted : 03/14/2013 8:29 pm

Andrew, this too shall pass. An education is number 1 priority, even over acne so get up and go. If you must, go to a makeup store and they can show you some ifty tricks for covering your marks.

Soemtimes we have to ignore our emotions in order to move forward

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(@nakedsmurf)

Posted : 03/14/2013 9:19 pm

Where are your parents do they not know you been skipping school.

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(@andrewbleah)

Posted : 03/15/2013 5:28 am

I ment teachers,sorry.Yea my mom knows , I talked to her she understood but she said I missed to much and that the summer will be here soon and I just have to go for a little while,but I don't know it's so hard..

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(@dejaclairevoyant)

Posted : 03/15/2013 7:10 am

I don't know what to tell you because I dropped out of high school and ended up going back and finishing via homestudy. High school is hell, in my opinion and I wouldn't go either. People will tell you that education is soooo important, but I barely finished high school, never went to college and I'm now a writer (just like I always wanted), My boyfriend, on the other hand, is 40 grand deep in student loans and unemployed.

Education is important, but you don't necessarily have to find it through the traditional means. I've focused my energies on my own research, reading a lot, learning from other people and traveling and seeing other cultures. I just hate this idea that school is some be all, end all way to a good life. You can have a good life finding your own path and straying from the traditional way.

That said, if you let your acne hold you back from going to school, it's probably going to hold you back from everything else, too. And that's no good.

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(@ivyhawk)

Posted : 03/15/2013 8:17 am

I don't know what to tell you because I dropped out of high school and ended up going back and finishing via homestudy. High school is hell, in my opinion and I wouldn't go either. People will tell you that education is soooo important, but I barely finished high school, never went to college and I'm now a writer (just like I always wanted), My boyfriend, on the other hand, is 40 grand deep in student loans and unemployed.

Education is important, but you don't necessarily have to find it through the traditional means. I've focused my energies on my own research, reading a lot, learning from other people and traveling and seeing other cultures. I just hate this idea that school is some be all, end all way to a good life. You can have a good life finding your own path and straying from the traditional way.

That said, if you let your acne hold you back from going to school, it's probably going to hold you back from everything else, too. And that's no good.

There have been many studies run that have found that there is NO correlation between IQ and income. When I tell people this, they are shocked.

To me, this is a perfect demonstration that talent is what gets the $$, not intelligence. (such as your writing ability)

Just be careful. You can't through you education under the bus and be secure in mind. So go get yourself an education. Heck, do it online! I was home schooled through High School and it didn't ruin me. It helped me.

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(@crazyicecream)

Posted : 03/15/2013 2:19 pm

Hi!~ I know this is a really long post but make sure you read all of it. Don't be lazy!smile.png

I was just like you. Really! I skipped school just because my face was letting me down. I didn't want to face anyone. At all. But my parents didn't understand so they forced me to go to school anyways. Even though they forced me, I still skipped a lot of classes. Like in a month, I would maybe skip around 1-2 weeks. Although not consecutively but I would skip 3 days straight for the first week & maybe do the same thing the next week & so on.

BUT before you try to do that, I'll give you some real advice. I think. Now that I'm fresh out of school, waiting for my O-Level result, I wish I didn't skip any class at all. Really. I wish I had participated more in school instead of just being a nobody. I think school is a place where you could build up your self-esteem. I wish I had participated in competitions & stuff like that. I wish I had done my best to score the O-Level exam.

Sigh... Right now, honestly, I don't even know what to do for my future because throughout my high school years, I've been really unmotivated mainly because of my face that's been affecting my self-esteem.

So, I advice you to go back to school, throw all your care about your face into the trash. If people are gonna be mean, let them be. You're gonna meet a lot of those people in the future & they really got nothing better to do than to pull someone down to the same level as them. Never ever let them pull you down. You're way better than that.

Participate in anything that can help in your grades. Go and create some memorable stuff with your friends. I don't mean go and prank someone and get in trouble. Just have a great time with them. Create a bond with your teachers. Never despise them because they are humans too. That may not make sense to you but somehow, only after I have left school, I realized that teachers are actually human beings like us. Haha. Focus in class. Leave your daydreaming or worrying at home. Oh yeah, if you have something that's troubling you, always talk to your parents. Your mom or dad, whoever you feel more comfortable with. Or if that did not work, maybe your counselor.

Oh and I know with every teenager, there's always that feeling. You know, just wanting to have a girlfriend or a boyfriend. A first kiss or whatever. That feeling. Leave that thought for the future. It's not important at all. Sometimes you'll just hear others all hyped up about it. Don't get caught. It's a trap. It is so so much better if you experience all of those with your future wife instead. And if you didn't have any thought of getting a girlfriend. Well then, you're a good boy smile.png

Hmm..maybe you still care about how you look. Don't worry, all these pain will reward you with goodness in the future. Just remember that you're not alone in this struggle.

Last but not least, your personality. Let it shine. Literally. You may now have your face hiding your personality. But you should put it the other way around. Let your personality hide your face or at least make it less important. I remember now that there used to be a guy in my class with face full of acne but everyone still loved him including me because his personality really just shines. Haha.

Confidence. Yeah. That's the keyword.

Now that I'm already on the other side of the mountain, I could totally see what would be a great benefit for your future.

But like what IvyHawk had said, you could consider that too, but always discuss with your parents first.

But if you've decided that you're gonna go to school on Monday, then go ahead, have a great time, don't let those mean people drag you down. They're not worth your attention. Don't worry about your face, let your personality shine instead.

So yeah. Good luckproud.gif

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(@fatalbert911)

Posted : 03/15/2013 9:04 pm

yeah believe me when i say i know exactly what you mean. i went through the exact same thing in hs and that wasn't too long ago about a year and a half. i did manage to get my diploma but honestly i don't know how lol i managed to slug it out day after day after day after god dame day. i had very bad acne all throughout hs but 9th grade didn't really count because i was in alternative school for that year (dont ask) lol. i can remember that in 11th grade a missed a whole month in total i missed alot of day on all years. i would just get up and actually hide behind my house, because i had to w8 until my mom left to go back inside. for me the ONLY reason i managed to get my diploma was sheer will, sheer will man. i'm telling you everyday was shit for me i would almost always put my head down in class and just go to sleep. i fast walked to class hearing every insult along the way, never went to the cafeteria for lunch. never went to any event or social gathering no clubs nothing. everyday i went the first thing i wanted was for the day to end. but yeah for some reason i kept on going i guess because even though it really sucked i really didn't have anything better to do, so i figured what the hell i might as well go everyone does. i sure as hell fought for that dame diploma, not only on a daily bases but i spent 3 summers in school catching up credit wise... yes i went once for each year lol except for this first year in alternative school. i think that says something in itself i guess i just fit in with the wolves.

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(@helton)

Posted : 03/15/2013 11:20 pm

 

I am so sorry this is happen to you at such a young age sad.png

But you know what I did in high school when I looked my worst with acne covering my nose? I didn't give a damn about it and no one ever said anything to me. ( Although looking back, I wish my friends would at least advise me to use something... but oh well)

Even nowadays I go to college and have scars and break out sometime, I put on my hoodie every morning and always head to class, because I know skipping school won't help with anything, instead it makes things even worse by skipping.

Just remember, everything is temporary, your skin will heal as time goes on.

Don't get stuck on one point, keep moving forward.

Especially for school, finish it, go to college. And by then you will have a degree and clear skin, then u will look back and realize how pointless it was to not go to school because of some red marks.

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(@andrewbleah)

Posted : 03/17/2013 12:01 pm

Wow,beautyful ,just beautyful.

I want to thank everyone here ,you guys really keep me going.

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(@ghostunit)

Posted : 03/19/2013 10:23 am

The red marks will fade! Go to school and ignore everyone. Arrive very early to class and just sit. I would do that. I also like to avoid eye contact.

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