My uncle used to make fun of me about it. He really used to target my insecurities when I was a teenager. He was my uncle by marriage though and he and my aunt got divorced so I haven't seen him for years.

Another person who used to point it out a lot who also isn't around now is my grandfather. He always used to distance himself from me in my teens when my skin was bad, in the sense that he would always make a point of saying that we didn't have a history of acne and that I certainly didn't get it from his side of the family. He was right in as much as that nobody else in the family struggles with their skin at all and it is just me, but I didn't need telling. I really used to resent him for it to be honest but I feel kind of conflicted now because he passed away last April and it doesn't seem right to think ill of him. It doesn't take away the things he said or the fact he didn't take my feelings into account, of course, but it has kind of altered how I look back on it.

The only times it ever really came up with family was if I'd made a mess of my face by picking. Social occasions and things like that would always trigger my anxieties and insecurities so I'd always break out before a family party or something and of course I would make it at least twice as bad by picking, so I always gave them the ammunition in that respect. I wish they hadn't used it of course, but all the same, I did set myself up as quite a target.

The one other person who targets me regardless is my Mum but I think she's just deflecting her own insecurities to be honest. She seems to try and make herself feel better by putting others down. I don't think she even realises she's doing it half the time, it's like a natural thing for her. Sometimes creates awkward situations because if she says something and I object, she takes offense at me getting angry. We've had huge arguments in the past because she's totally gone off the deep end when I've objected to her insulting me, so it's not even possible to defend yourself. Ironically, she'll talk about how I should show more respect, so it's very much a one-way thing to her. In the nicest possible way, I try and avoid her these days because, although she's my Mum and I lover her, I just don't need that negativity and I don't need bringing down. I'm good enough at bringing myself down, never mind other people joining in as well!

There could be all sorts of reasons as to why members of your family do or say the things they do. Some might do it to make themselves feel better, some might get a kick out of belittling others, some might not actually realise how what they're saying bothers you, and some simply might not have that filter which would otherwise mean they'd keep quiet. Whatever the reason, the trick is to find out which reasons apply to which people and how best to deal with each person accordingly.

Yes. Every time my skin seems to hit a point where it looks horrible, my little brothers and sister tell me. They even tell me which side of my face is worse than the other.

You'd think they'd be more sympathetic because they're your family, or they just want to let you know because they care, but they don't realize it's not helping.

My family all have clear skin not me i already feel bad about having it but my sista use to talk about my acne every time we got in a arguement but now she has acne<3 her acne is far worser then mine I hate to make it sound like I wanted her to know how it feels to be talk about but it just shows wat comes around goes around and I think god made my sista a example to show my lil sista never judge know one cause u will be first to be judge...**Best of wishes too u all**

I hate reading that families can be so nasty about a sensitive issue like this although I can't help but wonder if perhaps they just need you to explain it better for them? Sometimes people say things without realising that they can be hurtful, specially if none of them have had acne themselves, they just don't understand. So maybe they just need explaining

I'm lucky that my family is very understanding (maybe except for my dad who isn't very good at wording things so he has hurt me but not with malicious intent).

I can be super self conscious, so it takes me a lot of time to work up the courage to go out in public places and have fun. But sometimes my family has fun by making fun of each other and they go straight for my acne. Even though we all had it bad at some point, it's like they don't realize how much t hurts my feelings. I feel so dumb letting it ruin my day, but whenwe're in public. and they start pointing it out I just can't have a good time anymore.

I wish I had more confidence in myself so it wouldn't get to me so badly.

On 7/3/2020 at 6:46 PM, Red_skies said:

I can be super self conscious, so it takes me a lot of time to work up the courage to go out in public places and have fun. But sometimes my family has fun by making fun of each other and they go straight for my acne. Even though we all had it bad at some point, it's like they don't realize how much t hurts my feelings. I feel so dumb letting it ruin my day, but whenwe're in public. and they start pointing it out I just can't have a good time anymore.

 

I wish I had more confidence in myself so it wouldn't get to me so badly.

I'm so sorry you have been dealing with this Red_skies

If you want ideas about how you can naturally clear your skin please let me know

In the mean time you only live once, so try to live your best life with or without acne