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  1. At my wits end...

    J.A.R: Yes please keep us posted and take it day by day, you are not alone. We care. I care.
  2. You sweet, dear man: Just want to say: You are NOT "retarded" you are very eloquent and your post is truly heartbreaking. I say, Try Accutane! My story is posted here (look me up and you'll see it) I did it almost 30 years ago (Yes, I am old, but I do remember how horrible having acne was, believe me). 30 years ago- it was a very scary thing to go on Accutane- it was new, and the derm scared me to death. But I am very glad I did it. My advise: 1. FOLLOW YOUR DREAM- always. You want to act? Act! Look up all the unconventional actors out there who made it. If that doesn't work out, do something in the industry. 2. LET GO of the anger towards Mom and Dad. The Universe allowed you to be born- not them- you are here and you belong here. Its your job to figure out where. 3. Go rent the Movie "the 40 year old virgin" and LAUGH. Laugh as much as you can, often, at anything you find funny. It is good for your soul. 4. "For every rotten sandal, there is a foot" very stupid saying- its supposed to be in Spanish- but the idea is, ANYONE can find a partner. Go to any public place- a mall works- and sit on one of the benches. Look at the couples walking by for a few hours. You will see old, ugly, fat, skinny, bald, hairy, you get the idea. Join an organization, club, volunteer, something that interests you and GO mingle with people. You will meet someone, I promise. Better yet, get a cute dog, and walk it often. Everyone will want to talk to you, trust me. 5. Don't restrict your diet to the point of depriving yourself. Eat healthy, but don't tress about particular food. Unless you are allergic, foods don't matter to much acne, in my experience. Stay focused on your goals and never give up. There is always someone who has it better, and always someone who has it much worse. Namaste.
  3. At my wits end...

    Hi there. I just registered because I have compassion for what you go through. That was me too- 40 years ago! I'm in my fifties now, and I look back at how isolated I became when my acne was bad. I remember what it felt like to think "everyone" had good skin but me, and its all I focused on. I missed out on so much! Now I realize, people who care about you don't care or notice, so don't stop being social, be yourself, and most of all don't be ashamed. Lots of people do have acne it doesn't mean you have to be a hermit- esp while you are young. I had acne on and off from age 14-21. At 21, I finally had it and went on Accutane. This was after my skin was scarred and I was so sick of pimples popping up constantly, and after years of derms picking at my skin and basically ruining it more. It took a good 4-6 mos on Accutane to see real improvement. My Dr at the time told me not to use anything else that was drying, so I used plain unscented cetaphil cleanser morning and night, and rinsed with lukewarm water after, like 20 times. If I got too dry, peeling, I used unscented moisiturizer. A favroite of mine was (still is) Clinique dramatically different (the yellow one) I have very oily skin. So, its been 30 + years. I do have acne scars, not as bad as some, but certainly not a smooth complexion. But save for the occasional pimple, nothing bad. I notice if I change my skin care routine dramatically, or try a new product, I have to be very, very careful. The thing about acne sufferers is our skin is SO sensitive. We have to treat it very gently. No harsh scrubbing. Also "natural" products, I have found, are the worst for me. I once switched to Clarins, very expensive line. I ended up with the biggest pimple of my life, I still bear the scar on my chin. (This was in my 40s!) So, pick a gentle, consistent skincare routine and stick with It. Don't get distracted by the new products or advertisements that promise clear skin quickly. It doesn't work that way- sadly, there is no quick fix for our skin. In the meantime, be kind to yourself, do things everyday that make you feel good, eat well, drink tons of water, and be with your friends and loved ones. My current skincare routine: AM: Wash with warm, soapy water (non scented) Cetaphil rinse 20 x with lukewarm water pat with witch hazel apply Clinique DD or Cetaphil moisturizer PM/after work: Wash same as AM, rinse 20x pat with witch hazel apply layer of unscented aloe vera gel (I use Trader joe's)- let it sink in completely apply eye cream (because I'm old) apply nightime moisturizer (unscented) Occassionally, I use a glycolic cleanser in the shower if my skin is feeling particularly rough.. I don't advise while on accutane, however, only when you are stabilized. I find this helps unclog pores. I also use retin a (tretenoin .01%-lowest )occassionally for a few weeks at a time, every other night if I feel I need to. This seems to keep my skin stable and as clear as it can be. I never had perfect skin, and never will. But I can still look good, and feel good knowing I'm being kind to my skin and taking care of myself. Take care and be well!!!
  4. Feeling low

    Hi there. I just registered because I have compassion for what you go through. That was me too- 40 years ago! I'm in my fifties now, and I look back at how isolated I became when my acne was bad. I remember what it felt like to think "everyone" had good skin but me, and its all I focused on. I missed out on so much! Now I realize, people who care about you don't care or notice, so don't stop being social, be yourself, and most of all don't be ashamed. Lots of people do have acne it doesn't mean you have to be a hermit- esp while you are young. I had acne on and off from age 14-21. At 21, I finally had it and went on Accutane. This was after my skin was scarred and I was so sick of pimples popping up constantly, and after years of derms picking at my skin and basically ruining it more. It took a good 4-6 mos on Accutane to see real improvement. My Dr at the time told me not to use anything else that was drying, so I used plain unscented cetaphil cleanser morning and night, and rinsed with lukewarm water after, like 20 times. If I got too dry, peeling, I used unscented moisiturizer. A favroite of mine was (still is) Clinique dramatically different (the yellow one) I have very oily skin. So, its been 30 + years. I do have acne scars, not as bad as some, but certainly not a smooth complexion. But save for the occasional pimple, nothing bad. I notice if I change my skin care routine dramatically, or try a new product, I have to be very, very careful. The thing about acne sufferers is our skin is SO sensitive. We have to treat it very gently. No harsh scrubbing. Also "natural" products, I have found, are the worst for me. I once switched to Clarins, very expensive line. I ended up with the biggest pimple of my life, I still bear the scar on my chin. (This was in my 40s!) So, pick a gentle, consistent skincare routine and stick with It. Don't get distracted by the new products or advertisements that promise clear skin quickly. It doesn't work that way- sadly, there is no quick fix for our skin. In the meantime, be kind to yourself, do things everyday that make you feel good, eat well, drink tons of water, and be with your friends and loved ones. My current skincare routine: AM: Wash with warm, soapy water (non scented) Cetaphil rinse 20 x with lukewarm water pat with witch hazel apply Clinique DD or Cetaphil moisturizer PM/after work: Wash same as AM, rinse 20x pat with witch hazel apply layer of unscented aloe vera gel (I use Trader joe's)- let it sink in completely apply eye cream (because I'm old) apply nightime moisturizer (unscented) Occassionally, I use a glycolic cleanser in the shower if my skin is feeling particularly rough.. I don't advise while on accutane, however, only when you are stabilized. I find this helps unclog pores. I also use retin a (tretenoin .01%-lowest )occassionally for a few weeks at a time, every other night if I feel I need to. This seems to keep my skin stable and as clear as it can be. I never had perfect skin, and never will. But I can still look good, and feel good knowing I'm being kind to my skin and taking care of myself. Take care and be well!!!