I know how difficult that dealing with acne or acne scars can be so I wanted to post a word of encouragement for everyone
I want to start by saying that I am a PhD student in the field of psychology and have spent years learning about how important it is to stay positive. Of course, there are always times that warrant a negative reaction and I am not trying to downplay that. Mainly, I just want to encourage people to try and keep an optimistic outlook when possible.
For example, if you are seeing progress using a new scar treatment, rather than dwelling on how many scars you have left, think about how many you have improved. Ruminating about the negatives won't make your skin any better - and neither will staying positive - but if you can manage to make an optimistic interpretation the whole experience will be more pleasant.
Now, I know that is easier said than done - and optimism can only go so far - the main point is to try and catch yourself when you are ruminating about the negatives and replace those thoughts with the positives.
Don't let it get to you
The other point I wanted to make I think can best be illustrated by my own personal experience. I have struggled with acne for most of my late teens and adult life. Around a year ago I finally conquered my acne and was extremely happy with my appearance for a few months. I was confident about how I looked and was overall more comfortable interacting with other people because of that.
After a few months of this, I randomly decided to look at my skin using a magnified mirror. To my horror I noticed I had indents all over my face from acne scars. Even when I used a regular mirror, there they were - seemingly out of no where! Now of course, they had been there all along - I just hadn't taken notice of them because I was so proud my acne was gone.
Upon noticing my scars, my self-esteem plummeted. I regularly found myself crying at night and feeling uncomfortable letting other people see my face. I think my discomfort even led me to meet less people and not get to know people that well because I was afraid of what they would think of me.
This experience made me realize how central our own views about ourselves are in this whole process. In my case, I looked exactly the same before and after I noticed my scars, but the way I interacted with others was totally changed and my overall mood was dramatically worsened.
I know that my situation is unusual and I am not recommending that we all "ignore" our scars and pretend they don't exist. I just hope that we can all keep in mind that we may in many ways be our own worst enemy. Now I try to keep reminding myself that I probably care more about my scars than anyone else does. In fact, it has really helped and I am slowly starting to regain my confidence and get to know people better - even though I still have acne scars.
Take home message
So what I hope you take away from this post is this: Try and stay optimistic and remember that people will love you and care for you based on what is on the inside, not what is on the outside
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