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A few weeks ago I posted on another message board about something and this guy started to tell me about how he had come to embrace his celibacy and didn't really care if he got a girlfriend and had sex or not. Well, even though he'd just mentioned it casually, it was one of the most thought provoking things that I've ever read online.

I now don't really care if I have a girlfriend or not, I'm sick of worrying about having spots and, in the past, I've been dating girls and I would made the most ridiculous excuses not to see them all because I was having an outbreak. Believe me, I haven't had that many girlfriends but any I have had probably thought I was strange because I saw them so little and kept in contact but didnt actually want to see them.

I'm guessing that pretty much everyone is the same - when you meet a girl / boy, and if you're single yourself, probably the first thing you think about is if you'd like to go out with them or not. I was sick of wanting to go out with girls but not having the guts to ask them for my irrational fear of rejection and my obsession about not wanting to go on a date if I had any spots. Now when I meet a girl I don't think about how much I'd like to have sex with them, I just treat them as friends. It's great and makes me feel a whole lot better about things.

Another reason for this is that it's been so long since I've even kissed a girl or been out socialising, 18 months now, that I really think that I've lost whatever knack I may have had for talking to girls.

The longer I leave it the worse it gets.

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Becoming friends with girls is great but once you realize you would really like to go out with them its too late. You have to seize the moment before you become good friends (in my opinion). Because once your friends its hard to start a more serious relationship.

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Becoming friends with girls is great but once you realize you would really like to go out with them its too late. You have to seize the moment before you become good friends (in my opinion). Because once your friends its hard to start a more serious relationship.

I agree here but it's somewhat of a viscious circle. If you are friends, yes it's difficult to start a serious relationship and if you break up then it's difficult to go back to being friends again.

I don't think about if I'd like to go out with them now so I can just be friends.

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There's a damn near infinite supply of women in the world. You needn't worry about losing one or two.

Its funny though. While there may be a tonne of women out there, its very rare that you would find THE one.

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Becoming friends with girls is great but once you realize you would really like to go out with them its too late. You have to seize the moment before you become good friends (in my opinion). Because once your friends its hard to start a more serious relationship.

Hmm? what do you mean man :lol: . If your good friends u can shower together :D

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There's a damn near infinite supply of women in the world. You needn't worry about losing one or two.

Its funny though. While there may be a tonne of women out there, its very rare that you would find THE one.

The more you sample, the better your chances become.

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