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What happened to me after getting clear

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Hey, I cleared up a while back, to the point where a friend of mine actually said I had baby smooth skin. Yippie. Well, I said to him its not quite baby smooth, and he replied, ''Might as well be''. However, I digress......

After my face achieved clarity, I was under the impression that I was suddenly going to start living life to the fullest. I thought that my self esteem and general feelings of happiness would sky rocket. I soon realized though, that regardless of the fact that I was deemed clear by society, I still wasn't happy. I eventually began to question other aspects of myself, and felt inadequete in other areas. At first I thought my clothes were holding me back in life, so I went out and bought some substantially more expensive attire. Even with a new set of threads, I still felt dissatisfied with my quality of life. I changed my hairstyle, and practially began to obsess over it. I started lifting weights again, reposing my hopes on my muscles. Even with a superior physique, better raiment, a new hair cut, I still had feelings of insignificance and inferiority.

Recently I've come into quite a bit of money from inheritance (50,000), and I've decided to get plastic surgery on my nose and chin. Even with clear skin, and all the other improvements I've made on myself, I still feel just as ugly, and just as inferior as I did during my worst break outs.

I guess I just felt a need to share this, especially to those who are under the impression that once their skin clears up, life will become blissful and euphoric over night. That is far from the case, as you will still find things wrong with you afterwards. I never thought I dressed like a bum, or that I was too scrawny, but after disposing of my acne, I saw a whole new set of problems to deal with.

Am I a better person, from a societal standpoint, for getting rid of my acne? Probably

Am I happier? Not at all.

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Hey there, good to see you again! I remember you, and you always had helpful information to share.

Goes to show that the emotional effects of acne do linger, but I'm very happy to hear that you are working on feeling better.

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I'd say - and I know I'm going to regret this - that was more realistic. To not get it in your head that once you clear up, everything will be 100% better all day, every day - that insecurities and flaws will never bother you again. That the other sex will suddenly flood your doorway, that kind of thing.

The change is an inside job - and even then, life is not perfect.

But it does not mean happiness is not worth working for - it just means that you will still be human.

And I think Mrs. Wiggles is incredibly courageous to talk about it. Thank you.

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I'd say - and I know I'm going to regret this - that was more realistic.

why would you regret it?...it's better to hear the reality of the situation than sugarcoat everything...i'm tired of false hopes...i'm interested in the truth...

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i understand this. ppl have told me even this past week that "your so pretty" "your skin is very clear now" but i still have feelings of insignificance too...some days im more confident and others im not.. i've noticed 1 thing is to accept compliments and say thankyou..u will feel better afterwards..and sometimes othr girls forinstance are in compettion with each other..so bleive what the men say and not always the women and vice versa..most of all just know that its not all about beauty..some girls i work with are so obsessed with physical attraction...they dont realise its whats on the inside that radiates most.

i think if we feel ugly its just lack of confidence and replaying those old moments in our head over and over again..we need to work more on loving who we are and especially if our skin is now clear we have to drop those heavy burdens..just be a good person, laugh and smile and work on your best assets and u will shine...a person who radiates warmth and confidence will always have a aura about thm that anyone will tell u is much more pleasing to the eye then just classic beauty..this is what lasts and what is most important.

sure a beautiful girl will get looked at everywhere she goes and be complimented but is she truly happy? we have to work on who we are and not what we look like...the physical part is just a bonus..but we can all work on bringing that out with hair/makeup/clothes etc..

sorry..just had to gt that out...

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Dont waste ur money on plastic surgery thats so stupid. unless u are facially disfigured u shouldnt get plastic surgery.

You know urself even after its all done with you arent going to be happy. Anything u add to ur appearance is just going to make a bigger void.

Work on urself from the inside now.

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Recently I've come into quite a bit of money from inheritance (50,000), and I've decided to get plastic surgery on my nose and chin. Even with clear skin, and all the other improvements I've made on myself, I still feel just as ugly, and just as inferior as I did during my worst break outs.

Noooooo! Invest it, don't blow it all on procedures that you know you'll end up being unhappy with. Once you have double the money, then you can blow half of it on procedures that won't make you happy anyway. Money should be used as it's meant: to make more money.

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You could buy one $50,000 prostitute OR 50,000 $1 prostitutes. The choice is yours.

a prostitute for 50,000 ?????? I didn't know they were that expensive. (I'm just kidding)

Mr. Wiggles

Yeah,

The choice is yours. But before spending on plastic surgery (50,000-prostitute), you should spend it on psychologist/psychiatris sessions ( 50,000 $1 prostitutes). I think you have PERSONALITY problems. Believe, you have to fix your interior first. Otherwise, you will end up with many plastic surgeries done and you will still be unhappy. How many nose surgeries has M. Jackson undergone?? and Do you think he's happy with his nose ????? Nope, that dude, has serious internal issues. Sorry if I'm using this extreme example, but I just wanted to point out that if you don't change your inside first, you'll never be satisfied.

You can do whatever you wanna do with your money. It's all yours. But how many guys on here would die to at least have 10% of that money so they can afford a dermatologist visit or expensive medicine (Accutane). Be greatful that your skin is clear and you don't have any serious deformation. If I were on my bad days, I would call you a complete LOOSER. You with perfect skin and still with a low self-steem!!! ?? But since you've ask for advice, I highly recomend to see a personality specialist. Something must be wrong with you. Otherwise, you will not live your life to the fullest (as you've always wanted)

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I agree to an extent. Clearing your skin is a good step in the right direction. In my opinion though, happiness comes from within. Outside things can make you happy...but it's short lived, and fades soon after.

Spending money on things to change your physical appearance has nothing to do with your body, or nose, or whatever you may be discontented with. It has to do with your perception of those things.

Wasting your money on plastic surgery won't satisfy you in the long run. Do something with your money that makes you happy from within.

An idea: Spend it on others. Spend some of it on those who need help the most. $50,000 is a lot of money, you can do great things with that. Be selfless with it. Involve yourself in selfless acts of charity. That, to me, is a great way to build confidence. Volunteer somewhere, and give back to the community in some way. Be creative. You will loose focus of yourself, and learn to focus on what's important.

My point is that you should utilize yourself in a way which takes your mind off of your own problems. Do things that make you feel good as a person.

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Be greatful that your skin is clear and you don't have any serious deformation. If I were on my bad days, I would call you a complete LOOSER. You with perfect skin and still with a low self-steem!!! ?? But since you've ask for advice, I highly recomend to see a personality specialist. Something must be wrong with you. Otherwise, you will not live your life to the fullest (as you've always wanted)

get a clue..dont u think he would want to feel good if he could? someitmes it takes ppl longer to get over things..and sort their feelings out. Its the same as plastic surgery, its not gonna do a damn thing if u are still feeling the same insecure little kid, playing those same negative experieinces over and over in your head. It's probably knocked his self esteem so badly, that getting what he wants will still not make him happy. im sure eventually h will heal from within and enjoy his skin...telling someone to seek a professional personality specialist is a narrow minded thing to say..and its not such a bad idea in seeking help to get over it, but not in the way u said..

ill be 26 in a few weeks..ive been on accutane and finishing the course soon..i developed acne on and off since 14. thats over 10 years..do u think its so easy to 1 day wake up to clear skin and all that negativity has vanish dovernight? all the missed out days of going out, hiding in your room, not wanting ot be social, not developing your personality and confidence to the fullest that it can be? eventually yes...just realise everyone is different and it takes time..im sure we will all be happy and confident again 1 day soon..

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Hey, I cleared up a while back, to the point where a friend of mine actually said I had baby smooth skin. Yippie. Well, I said to him its not quite baby smooth, and he replied, ''Might as well be''. However, I digress......

After my face achieved clarity, I was under the impression that I was suddenly going to start living life to the fullest. I thought that my self esteem and general feelings of happiness would sky rocket. I soon realized though, that regardless of the fact that I was deemed clear by society, I still wasn't happy. I eventually began to question other aspects of myself, and felt inadequete in other areas. At first I thought my clothes were holding me back in life, so I went out and bought some substantially more expensive attire. Even with a new set of threads, I still felt dissatisfied with my quality of life. I changed my hairstyle, and practially began to obsess over it. I started lifting weights again, reposing my hopes on my muscles. Even with a superior physique, better raiment, a new hair cut, I still had feelings of insignificance and inferiority.

Recently I've come into quite a bit of money from inheritance (50,000), and I've decided to get plastic surgery on my nose and chin. Even with clear skin, and all the other improvements I've made on myself, I still feel just as ugly, and just as inferior as I did during my worst break outs.

I guess I just felt a need to share this, especially to those who are under the impression that once their skin clears up, life will become blissful and euphoric over night. That is far from the case, as you will still find things wrong with you afterwards. I never thought I dressed like a bum, or that I was too scrawny, but after disposing of my acne, I saw a whole new set of problems to deal with.

Am I a better person, from a societal standpoint, for getting rid of my acne? Probably

Am I happier? Not at all.

I wouldn't be happy either if I spent my money on plastic surgery. Spend it on something fun unless you really need surgery such as Porsche 911 or something then you'll be happy.

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[from another forum, from someone I don't know, on a somewhat different topic (the topic was 'sexual positions' or something), but still containing highly relevant information]:

"Pleasure should not be indulged, but extinguished. Unless one does overcome primal human passions, one is chasing after desires that cannot be sated, and are thus condemning themselves to perpetual unhappiness. Insatiable pleasure leads to stupid revisions of simple penetrative sex.

Pleasure by itself can only coexist with pain: as pleasure cannot be permanant but has to end. One should strive to never feel pleasure, as it only leads to disappointment. Pleasure is the absence of pain (people never grasp this fact: they think that pain is the absence of pleasure). Pain is positive, pleasure is the negation of pain. Existence is only pain. Pain is the human condition: the way life is meant to be. One should not try to hide from this simple truth with brief, meaningless fumbles under the covers, seconds of joy in years of torment, but instead embrace for once and for all the misery that pertains to human existence. Life is only suffering, only sorrow, any attempt to attain a moment of happiness or pleasure is worthless and foredoomed. One should just accept their fate, and sink into indifference. Life is best when one withdraws into a miserable, solitary shell and eschews all human interaction, including, of course, the interaction of intercourse."

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I thought that once I got clear I would have more confidence and everything too, but now that I have that is so not the case. Yeah it is nice not to have to worry about if people are looking at my acne or whatever but like Mr.Wiggles I've started to worry more over other aspects of myself that I never had before, and my confidence is pretty much the same as it had been before.

I really don't think its acne that caused me to be like this, I think everyone has imperfections that they worry over and try to get around in the persuit of perfection. But because no matter what we do to ourselves physically we are never going to be perfect I really don't think it can change you that much in the inside.

But if you think that plastic surgery can do that then I wouldnt let anyone else stop you. But my advice would be to like other posters said invest in and make some more money out of it and whilst your doing this give yourself time to think about having the plastic surgery. And if you still want to have it done then make your decesion- just please dont rush into smething that is irreversible. You may even realsie that you are just thinking about having it done now because you can now that you have the money for it, it might bot even be something youve even wanted or thought about in the past.

Good luck and I hope you make the right choices for you! :)

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Be greatful that your skin is clear and you don't have any serious deformation. If I were on my bad days, I would call you a complete LOOSER. You with perfect skin and still with a low self-steem!!! ?? But since you've ask for advice, I highly recomend to see a personality specialist. Something must be wrong with you. Otherwise, you will not live your life to the fullest (as you've always wanted)

get a clue..dont u think he would want to feel good if he could? someitmes it takes ppl longer to get over things..and sort their feelings out. Its the same as plastic surgery, its not gonna do a damn thing if u are still feeling the same insecure little kid, playing those same negative experieinces over and over in your head. It's probably knocked his self esteem so badly, that getting what he wants will still not make him happy. im sure eventually h will heal from within and enjoy his skin...telling someone to seek a professional personality specialist is a narrow minded thing to say..and its not such a bad idea in seeking help to get over it, but not in the way u said..

ill be 26 in a few weeks..ive been on accutane and finishing the course soon..i developed acne on and off since 14. thats over 10 years..do u think its so easy to 1 day wake up to clear skin and all that negativity has vanish dovernight? all the missed out days of going out, hiding in your room, not wanting ot be social, not developing your personality and confidence to the fullest that it can be? eventually yes...just realiseeveryone is different and it takes time..im sure we will all be happy and confident again 1 day soon..

My friend,

YOU GET A CLUE!!

Don't you think the plastic surgery idea is NORROWER than the psychologist/personality specialist????????

In what way I should have said it??????? Isn't it clear that he has low self-steem???????? And I recomended him to see an expert. What was wrong with that??? I was very straight forward.

And did I ever mention that he could be fixed OVERNIGHT???????? Please, READ BACK my post and you'll find something like 50,000 sessions. It means that he should have as many sessions as needed. 'til he sees a change.

Acne and other facial conditions do affect everybody psychologicaly in some way. But you have to realize that some people even before acne had low selft steem, were shy, were never happy with themselves, or weren't good at socializing. This group of people are affected the most when acne appears in their lives. And even when their faces clear up, they are never happy.

Life is too short, Don't dwell on something it wasn't your fault. if acne affected you in the past, the past is gone and there is nothing you can do to recover those days. If somebody suffered from acne for 10 years, it deson't mean that you have to dwell on for the next 10 years. Everybody is different, and I think he doesn't live his life to the fullest because he doesn't want to. Or at least, he hasn't found the right mechanism. But for sure, plastic surgery is not the right one. Had Lance Armstrong stuck with his cancer problems, he would have never won the famous Tour de France.

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I watched this makeover programme on TV, and there was a woman with severe acne scarring and she felt really ugly and beneath everyone else.

She was told that before surgery, she should work on her confidence and feel better about herself, so that after surgery, she would carry on being confident, and not finding other faults.

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I watched this makeover programme on TV, and there was a woman with severe acne scarring and she felt really ugly and beneath everyone else.

She was told that before surgery, she should work on her confidence and feel better about herself, so that after surgery, she would carry on being confident, and not finding other faults.

Ooooo, I think I might have seen that was that on that program I think it was called 'make me beautiful'? Lol, what a name for a show, but atleast they give out advice like that which I think is soooooo true and more people should realsie that about plastic surgery- its no quick fix! :)

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Chin surgery? I didnt know they could sort out Jay Leno chins.

Anyway if you think your nose is too big, get surgery. I dont understand why everyone is telling him not to do it and work on his inside, considering we're all here to get rid of an insecurity called acne. If he wants to sort this insecurity of his, let him.

Why dont we all work on our inside and forget about our acne? Because for some of us acne is the root of what kills us in the inside. I know for a fact my inner persona is being affected coz of my acne. If it goes away, ill be back to how i used to be.

This guy might of have had problems before acne but maybe this is the thing that can help him in the inside.

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Chin surgery? I didnt know they could sort out Jay Leno chins.

Anyway if you think your nose is too big, get surgery. I dont understand why everyone is telling him not to do it and work on his inside, considering we're all here to get rid of an insecurity called acne. If he wants to sort this insecurity of his, let him.

Why dont we all work on our inside and forget about our acne? Because some of us cant. I know for a fact my inner persona is being affected coz of my acne. If it goes away, ill be back to how i used to be

This guy might of have had problems before acne but maybe this is the thing that can help him in the inside.

I totalyy disagree, saying if your acne goes away you'll go back to the person you used to be. Theres no way you can know this and for me although I kind of thought this would be the case it isnt. While its there you could atleast try and learn some postive stuff from it like dont be so judgemental on peoples looks and what about all the other stuff youve learned from during the time you had acne, will that not have altered who you are!? :)

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