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Having no significant other. I feel a void.

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I'm 20 years old and I have never had a girl friend or even held a girl's hand. Not a lot of my friends have girl friends but it doesn't seem to bother them at all. They're all engineering majors who tell me that I'm going to college to learn, not worrying about girls. But I can't ignore the fact that I feel this void. It doesn't feel normal. I watch girls pass by, and I tell myself that I would love to go up to them and start flirting with them. But I have no idea how to flirt, I have no idea what to say. I have no problem talking to girls, but talk always ends up to boring shit and then I just become one of their "friends". I grew up with my mom and she didn't really teach me anything about girls, just to get good grades, finish college, get a good job and girls will naturally be available. But college seems so lonely and I'm tired of eating at Denny's with a bunch of guys.

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Hey man, im right there with ya buddy. I'm gonna be 21 in July and up until today (what irony, finding this post today) I haven't had a relationship worth mentioning...ever. I had a highschool 'sweetheart' whom I was friends with for years, but I told her how I felt about her and she stomped my heart into bits. I haven't kissed a girl since I was like... 13 at a halloween party, like you I felt exiled and like it was never going to happen. 40 year old virgin was a horror movie for me.

The past week though this girl has been coming into where I work and flirting I guess you could say. I got her number TODAY. I'm asking her out sometime soon. You just gotta hang in there. This happened when I didn't exspect it to and it probably will for you too.

I'm a Christian and I believe God has introduced this girl at this time in my life for good reason, kind of closure to alot of worrying and questions I've had and possibly to direct me to where he wants me. I had other plans in mind, but now it could all change. I hope it works out for ya and you can PM me if you want to talk.

I'm a nervious wreck cause im about to call her for the first time in a couple mins. What a sissy :(

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Ok, im not sure how well that went. We have a dinner date, but I'm not sure how excited she was of the idea... maybe dinner is to fast? Why did I ask her to dinner... bah! I act retarded when I get nervious.

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Ok, im not sure how well that went. We have a dinner date, but I'm not sure how excited she was of the idea... maybe dinner is to fast? Why did I ask her to dinner... bah! I act retarded when I get nervious.

I think the fact that you asserted yourself and made the decision is good. There's nothing worse than that conversation of 'what do you want to do' - 'i don't know, what do you want to do' - 'i'll do what you want' - 'no it's okay, you can decide'.

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I'm good with conversation somewhat, but if the other person doesn't talk I bomb and say stupid things and usually upset them. Yeah, now that I think about it dinner is to much for me to handle, bowling sounds alot better. I'll talk to her tomorrow and see if she want's to do that instead.

I think the fact that you asserted yourself and made the decision is good. There's nothing worse than that conversation of 'what do you want to do' - 'i don't know, what do you want to do' - 'i'll do what you want' - 'no it's okay, you can decide'.

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lol, I like how this thead has changed from a "feel sorry for Camo-Face" thread into a "help theknapp with dating" thread. hehe.

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Camo, work at a themepark. I did and wow, you work with so many women/girls its amazing. just make sure to know there ages.

Hmm, can't think of any close theme parks near where I live. I would like to work at the local mall. Preferably a sales job (more preferably normstrom women's shoes section) where I can actually deal with people but I doubt if I can land a sales job. Since your looks are really taken into consideration. The thing that's killing me the most is that when I walk around school, I actually get a lot of eye contacts with girls I walk by but I don't know if they're good or bad. Because I would not initiate eye contact with a girl that I'm not attracted to so I don't know if that means the same for girls.

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I actually get a lot of eye contacts with girls I walk by but I don't know if they're good or bad. Because I would not initiate eye contact with a girl that I'm not attracted to so I don't know if that means the same for girls

Bah, I get the same thing. I usually break off eye contact pretty quick becase the first thing that flashes through my mind is the girl is thinking "wow that guy is ugly" and it makes me not even bother to maintain eye contact. Probably not true all the time but still... :|

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- do you have any females friends?

- do you have any contact with females?

its not rocket science, the only thing stopping you is your worries. act natural, don't act fake,obviously don't bore them with stuff about how you change ur pants every day or whatever, ask themabout themselves, get to know them. Humour is always good man, we all got it, utilise it well my friend.

a regular hello to a girl can turn into a good friendship, you just got to get out of your shell, send out the 'social invites', reap the rewards.

chow

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I'm good with conversation somewhat, but if the other person doesn't talk I bomb and say stupid things and usually upset them. Yeah, now that I think about it dinner is to much for me to handle, bowling sounds alot better. I'll talk to her tomorrow and see if she want's to do that instead.

I think the fact that you asserted yourself and made the decision is good. There's nothing worse than that conversation of 'what do you want to do' - 'i don't know, what do you want to do' - 'i'll do what you want' - 'no it's okay, you can decide'.

Yeah I made sure this didn't happen. You really don't get any more awkward then this. Sigh... there is no way I can sleep tonight, just like lastnight. :[

If you guys smoke or drink, you will never have to think about what to say next...you just do. That's why so many people hook up at parties. If you're really nervous, take a shot or two. If you go sober, take a deck of cards with you. Play speed, egyptian rat tail, or go fish.

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We're both underage (I'm 21 in July).

This are going better, I'm going to her house tomorrow for Easter feast and then monday we're going bowling, then on thursday we're going out to eat. ^_^ I hope by then the tense-nerviousness is gone.

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Shyness is your worst enemy if you are trying to meet girls. Usually you have to be the one to initiate a conversation. Let me give you some advice however.

1. Don't hook up with girls at a party, they are mostly sluts. Don't look for love in the wrong places either. I suppose believe in fate, and believe that one day the right girl will come into your life.

2. Find a GOOD girl, none of this do it on the first date type of crap, that's slutty. Slutty chicks are garbage, don't get involved with them. Any women who has no respect for herself, you should have no respect for.

3. If you are looking for love, don't fool yourself into worrying if she is in love with you or not, if she is you will know it, you have to be oblivious to miss it.

4. Try to be friendly, start talking to girls in class or whatnot, make friends with girls that how most relationships being anyhow.

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you wanna know the secret to getting pussy?

its called 'asking for it',

it aint gonna magically come knock on your door and present itself to you.. unless you hired an escort or something

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Thank you so much for that advice, my eyes are opened and I am now living in a higher state of contiousness just from reading that...

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I think the fact that you asserted yourself and made the decision is good. There's nothing worse than that conversation of 'what do you want to do' - 'i don't know, what do you want to do' - 'i'll do what you want' - 'no it's okay, you can decide'.

Lol I hate that! I try to avoid those kinds of situations and decide first, but then I feel like I'm being too dominate and demanding :confused:

its not rocket science, the only thing stopping you is your worries. act natural, don't act fake,obviously don't bore them with stuff about how you change ur pants every day or whatever, ask themabout themselves, get to know them. Humour is always good man, we all got it, utilise it well my friend.

People love talking about themselves, so definitely ask the girl about herself and listen to what she has to say. Answering with "oh" "yeah?" or "really" can be extremely boring, so show interest in what the person has to say with your own anecdotes, quips, and asking them about certain details. And talk about yourself! Talk about what you like; music, movies, etc- like a movie that's coming out that you're excited to see... if she remarks that she wants to see it too, there's your chance to set up a movie date! I can't stress how important it is to actually pay attention to what a person is saying; a lot of times people drop hints or provide info that you can use to start future conversations or to set up dates.

If you guys smoke or drink, you will never have to think about what to say next...you just do. That's why so many people hook up at parties. If you're really nervous, take a shot or two. If you go sober, take a deck of cards with you. Play speed, egyptian rat tail, or go fish.

But the thing is- the people who hook up at parties just hook up. If you're looking for a relationship, don't bother with any of that. Be yourself; a person's gotta like you for you. Hopefully you don't have to rely on booze or cigs to achieve that sense of confidence- I doubt you'll score something permanent with that.

Shyness is your worst enemy if you are trying to meet girls. Usually you have to be the one to initiate a conversation. Let me give you some advice however.

1. Don't hook up with girls at a party, they are mostly sluts. Don't look for love in the wrong places either. I suppose believe in fate, and believe that one day the right girl will come into your life.

2. Find a GOOD girl, none of this do it on the first date type of crap, that's slutty. Slutty chicks are garbage, don't get involved with them. Any women who has no respect for herself, you should have no respect for.

3. If you are looking for love, don't fool yourself into worrying if she is in love with you or not, if she is you will know it, you have to be oblivious to miss it.

4. Try to be friendly, start talking to girls in class or whatnot, make friends with girls that how most relationships being anyhow.

:wub: I agree with everything you've said completely.

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I have no friends, I look like shit, but

I dont give a shit. Really, ive stopped caring

about everything. Im not suicidal, but I dont care anymore.

:D

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You shouldn't be on this site then.

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I'm 20 years old and I have never had a girl friend or even held a girl's hand. Not a lot of my friends have girl friends but it doesn't seem to bother them at all. They're all engineering majors who tell me that I'm going to college to learn, not worrying about girls. But I can't ignore the fact that I feel this void. It doesn't feel normal. I watch girls pass by, and I tell myself that I would love to go up to them and start flirting with them. But I have no idea how to flirt, I have no idea what to say. I have no problem talking to girls, but talk always ends up to boring shit and then I just become one of their "friends". I grew up with my mom and she didn't really teach me anything about girls, just to get good grades, finish college, get a good job and girls will naturally be available. But college seems so lonely and I'm tired of eating at Denny's with a bunch of guys.

You are still young. Keep your head up. You will find a nice girl that will appreciate you when the time is right. I found my husband when i least expected it to happen. Don't worry. Good things come to those who wait. I know that probably wasn't what you wanted to hear, but it's true. Give it time. :D

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Thank you so much for that advice, my eyes are opened and I am now living in a higher state of contiousness just from reading that...

how many girls have you asked for a root?

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