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Do you think that once we loose are acne we will be happy people or do you think we will always be socialy wierd and have depressive thoughts are whole lives because of what we have gone through?

I always think, I would be such a happy person without my acne...but I wonder if thats really true.

Will I all of a sudden have confidence and be able to talk to girls? Will I be able to look people in the eyes? Will I not get anxious in public places?

I don't know I hope I'm normal after this hell, but I know I'm going to have some bad scaring issue's so that will be fun for the rest of my life

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I will never be 'normal' or 'happy' because being outside of, excluded from, and tortured by society for over half a decade has made me see what a shitty sham it is.

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i know this might sound wierd but its only acne.

some peoples are worse than others granted, but remember that no1 judges you for ur acne, only the VERY RARE few at school or somethin, but thats immaturity coming through.

once u grow up you realise that people dont care about ur skin, if ur happy then ur happy,

if ur a good looking person then ur goodlooking. regardless of acne.

u shud try an not let acne rule ur life else u really wil get down on urself. its fucking hard an sometimes i have trouble doing it myself, but remember that every1 has their flaws an no1 is perfect.

an that is NOBODY!

be thankfull for what u DO have.

like all of us here to try our absolute hardest to understand eachothers difficult times an help one another out.

a lot of people dont even have that.

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Nicely said Dami3n..

I know when you read these things,a lot of peoples first thoughts are......easily said....walk a mile in my shoes..etc...

But when you're alone.....you're happy,right? When there's no eyes looking on at you with expectations you feel you cant meet, You're happy.So it's the people around you that cause the anxiety.

The real irony there is...by deciding that those people are judging you on your looks alone.....aren't we really falling into the same category,by making assumptions?...let them make that choice,don't do it for them.

Lifes short....dont make it miserable as well. :D

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I for one am glad I've had acne. (Although I want it gone right now.) I know some of you are looking at my first sentence and saying, "what is he on?" Let me explain...

It is my belief in studying psychology that the more hurdles a person perserveres, the stronger they are. As a result of this, I don't think any of us will ever forget how much it hurts to feel excluded - so in the future, we won't allow to treat other that way. Also, hopefully we'll always remember the pain and never have our heads so high up in the sky people can't talk to us.

I think at times we'll feel second best, however people will still see us as #1.

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Anyone ever noticed depression can stem from boredom? when your out, socialising etc, how many have found the time to be depressed? depression usualy kicks in when theres nothing to do, you just kinda sit there n start to think then, *oh dear* in kicks depression, am i the only one to notice this?

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Anyone ever noticed depression can stem from boredom? when your out, socialising etc, how many have found the time to be depressed? depression usualy kicks in when theres nothing to do, you just kinda sit there n start to think then, *oh dear* in kicks depression, am i the only one to notice this?

indeed, therefore, go out, be active

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i know what you mean, i wonder if i will ever be the same. 2 years ago i used to go out all day and not give my skin a second thought, i had mild acne but it did not bother me. now that its more moderate thats all i think about all day. i hold my head down with my hair over my face and cant look anybody in the eyes anymore. even when i get a good skin day i feel the same

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I'm not gonna be a preacher...

Everyones different, some people can handle it some people can't.

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i think acne wil affect people even once u get over it (which you do one way or another thats a fact)

its definately a personality builder, not right now maybe but it wil mean u wont take people at face value from now on u know.

i gues im glad its me an not someone i love that has2 gothrough this, i know its nothing major so i dont wan sound like we have all taken a bullet for someone u love. but wudnt it hurt more seeing ur gf/bf so depressed about it an u cant do anything to help no matter how hard u try?

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Anyone ever noticed depression can stem from boredom? when your out, socialising etc, how many have found the time to be depressed? depression usualy kicks in when theres nothing to do, you just kinda sit there n start to think then, *oh dear* in kicks depression, am i the only one to notice this?

I totally agree with you,, I get depressed when I'm bored and I feel lonely. No matter how clear my skin got, I still feel sad at times because I don't feel like I have alot of good friends in my life and my best friend moved to another country which was very hard for me.

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I totally agree with you,, I get depressed when I'm bored and I feel lonely. No matter how clear my skin got, I still feel sad at times because I don't feel like I have alot of good friends in my life and my best friend moved to another country which was very hard for me.

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I totally agree with you,, I get depressed when I'm bored and I feel lonely. No matter how clear my skin got, I still feel sad at times because I don't feel like I have alot of good friends in my life and my best friend moved to another country which was very hard for me.

*hugs*

hugs i needed that :)

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It's kinda good in a way that I have it. Cause when my skin clears up, I'm like HOLY @&%@ I'm so confident and I can talk to anyone and nothing gets in my way.

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For me its not all about confidence and popularity anymore that i want...its learning that things can go wrong, there are so many ways your life can be painful for a while, but you make it through by not letting it 'consume' you. Its like, you have to learn at some point that nothing will be perfect, but it can still be fun and you can still feel comfortable and okay.

Acne can be a massive experience to go through depending on its severity...I'm not angry or sad for myself that i'm having to deal with it anymore, its kind of nice to know that i can hit rock bottom and still stay happy within myself, look at all the love and good things in the world...haha i sound seriously cheesy i love it :cool:

i really am bad at explaining feelings, i say this a lot to people lol but its true, so apologies if i havent made much sense :P

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Do you think that once we loose are acne we will be happy people or do you think we will always be socialy wierd and have depressive thoughts are whole lives because of what we have gone through?

I always think, I would be such a happy person without my acne...but I wonder if thats really true.

Will I all of a sudden have confidence and be able to talk to girls? Will I be able to look people in the eyes? Will I not get anxious in public places?

I don't know I hope I'm normal after this hell, but I know I'm going to have some bad scaring issue's so that will be fun for the rest of my life

Now i dont expect this mentality will work for all people, really it doesnt help me either it just "numbs" the pain: fuck them, fuck them all, fuck anyone who has ever made you feel bad and fuck the ones who have'nt done you any wrong as a pre-emptive measure. Hate them and convince yourself that they are the problem [not your acne]. Because, Lucy loo if your at all like me then your a loser, when your doing dance at gym class you fake stomach issues then lock yourself in the stalls for the hour, you have about 3 friends and you ask people questions on acne sites. On to your question; ya we would be happier we could just flap our wings and fly away from the awkward, painfull world we live in, hell maybe we could even fit in. But people are who their past has made them and 10 years from now im going to have outgrown acne but ill still be holding my scars and there isnt a thing that will be able to take those scars away from me. So hope that your not like me because if you are then you will be just as spitefull, cold, angry for as long as you live.

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Do you think that once we loose are acne we will be happy people or do you think we will always be socialy wierd and have depressive thoughts are whole lives because of what we have gone through?

I always think, I would be such a happy person without my acne...but I wonder if thats really true.

Will I all of a sudden have confidence and be able to talk to girls? Will I be able to look people in the eyes? Will I not get anxious in public places?

I don't know I hope I'm normal after this hell, but I know I'm going to have some bad scaring issue's so that will be fun for the rest of my life

Now i dont expect this mentality will work for all people, really it doesnt help me either it just "numbs" the pain: fuck them, fuck them all, fuck anyone who has ever made you feel bad and fuck the ones who have'nt done you any wrong as a pre-emptive measure. Hate them and convince yourself that they are the problem [not your acne]. Because, Lucy loo if your at all like me then your a loser, when your doing dance at gym class you fake stomach issues then lock yourself in the stalls for the hour, you have about 3 friends and you ask people questions on acne sites. On to your question; ya we would be happier we could just flap our wings and fly away from the awkward, painfull world we live in, hell maybe we could even fit in. But people are who their past has made them and 10 years from now im going to have outgrown acne but ill still be holding my scars and there isnt a thing that will be able to take those scars away from me. So hope that your not like me because if you are then you will be just as spitefull, cold, angry for as long as you live.

You may be scarred for life, but that doesn't mean you need to think about it 24/7. If you occupy yourself with things you love, it won't be as bad. Maybe you'll find a woman who will provide warmth and happiness. Or you could find someone just as cold as you, and share your tales of fuckedupness, and laugh like a madman. Muahahahahhaahahahahahaha.

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It depends on your personality. If you have clinical depression, it';s not going to go away just because you have clear skin. On the other hand, if you're just down/unconfident (is that a word?)/shy because of your acne, and it goes away, you'll likely snap out of it.

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