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Feeling more confident around others with acne/scarring

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Am I the only one who feels more confident socialising with others if there's at least one person with acne/scarring, regardless whether he/she has worse skin than me or not?

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I think that's natural, and it maybe because you believe that acne makes you different or inferior, so I guess it makes sense that you'd feel more comfortable, when you're not the only one who's 'different', and you feel less attention, focus, is on yourself and YOUR skin.

Problem shared, problem halved?

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To a certain extent. I sometimes look around to see if I'm the person with the worst skin in the whole room, and I feel reassured when there are at least a couple others who have it worse than I do. Then I feel guilty about using their suffering for my self-assurance, so it kind of undoes itself. I don't do it as often anymore now that my acne is almost completely gone and now all I'm dealing with are some scars and marks.

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For me it helps, its not even better or worse type of thing though

yeah definately...it's like, then i can see people dont even give a shit about acne, no one notices [i can see it with other people but with myself, i feel like im under a microscope, you know?], and no one thinks its gross or dirty.

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i used to feel like that.....i used to feel inferior than those w/ clear skin..now that ive cleared up tremendously my feelings have changed..now i feel "normal" again..before i would feel like an alien.. :confused:

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there's one client whom i work with and the guy who is the sales person has medium bad skin. i totally feel way more comfortable with him than at other places. i feel confident at other places usually b/c business is business, but i just feel more comfortable with him. i think it's natural.

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I do feel much more comfortable in that situation, but it rarely happens. Everyone I know has good skin- except my poor mama who is worse off than me and it's really sad to see the kind of pain she has suffered from it- although she never complains- it is rather obvious.

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How the other person looks doesnt really affect how i feel, im generally very self concious, plus ive never met anyone in person whos had acne to a similar level of my own....

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my self confidence in my self has gone way down,

the person i was back then was "good old times"

i never thought of my self ending up in a road like this.

i have come so far, but why?

it was nice to read others opinions and ideas, thoughts

:cry:

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I feel better somewhat when I feel like I can relate to someone because they might feel similarly. On the other hand, I hate that they have to feel similarly in the first place, because it's hard dealing with all of the emotional problems that come with acne.

my self confidence in my self has gone way down,

the person i was back then was "good old times"

i never thought of my self ending up in a road like this.

i have come so far, but why?

it was nice to read others opinions and ideas, thoughts

:cry:

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NO way! If anything, they're probably nit-picking at my skin as well since they're just as observant as I am which makes me feel even shittier!

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I'll admit...I'm kinda a shitty person in the fact that I look for others who look worse to make me feel better. Even if I look bad, I'm not as bad as that guy across from me in the room. If I had no makeup on, I often would be the worst in a room, but with makeup, I really don't think anyone thinks much of it.

It's human nature, and I won't deny that if I find someone worse off than myself, I feel comfortable.

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