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I'm trying to put myself out there more...and build my confidence back up little by little. I'm trying to not let acne hold me back anymore. I decided to create a myspace account since my brother has bitched and moaned about it for a while. We'll see how it works.

What are some things that everyone has done to help bring themselves confidence, and the ability to socialize, and lessen the effects brought on by acne?

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I think myspace is quite bad for those with self confidence issues, far too many pretentious pretty people who can make it very clear that you arent good enough to know them, due to you no so great skin.

Good baby steps would be going out with school/uni/work friends, and working on getting to know people that way. (Hypocritical of me to say since ive become quite anti social...)

Still, its something i will pursue once im further along in my treatment :)

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Try not to jump in at the deep end and do anything too social (i.e. too many people) which is going to destroy your confidence even further. I had a couple of incidences of this a few months back, it sucked ass as the saying goes.

You can be happy just hanging around a few close friends. That's all you need, unless you're an attention whore or something.

And may the force be with you.

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I think myspace is quite bad for those with self confidence issues, far too many pretentious pretty people who can make it very clear that you arent good enough to know them, due to you no so great skin.

Good baby steps would be going out with school/uni/work friends, and working on getting to know people that way. (Hypocritical of me to say since ive become quite anti social...)

Still, its something i will pursue once im further along in my treatment :)

You're probably right. Most of the people on there are like that...but it's the only thing for me to do right now. I don't plan on making friends or anything...just the fact that I was able to post a picture and tell about myself a little for anyone who wants to look....that helps my self confidence some. Even if it is just a little. That's why it's a baby step. It might lead to something greater. At this moment in time...I can't even fathom going out with people and stuff. I'm extremely shy and anti social. That's why this works for me....because I can't bring myself to go out and make friends and stuff, and socialize like normal people. May not work for you...but it might for me. That's why I posted this...to see what OTHERS do to help themselves. Not for someone to tell me my way doesn't work.

Try not to jump in at the deep end and do anything too social (i.e. too many people) which is going to destroy your confidence even further. I had a couple of incidences of this a few months back, it sucked ass as the saying goes.

You can be happy just hanging around a few close friends. That's all you need, unless you're an attention whore or something.

And may the force be with you.

Yeah...I don't plan on doing anything extravigant. I think every little bit will help in the long run. I don't have the confidence to put myself in the situation to be hurt more...so no need to worry about this. I have a brother that I hang out with...and it's because of him that I decided to try this. haha I'm definately not an attention whore either.

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well i went through a patch of about 8 months where i did nothing socially, just went out to work and stayed in at night.

recently i decided to myself enough is enough and im gonna do all the stuff ive always wanted to but kept saying to myself id do it abit later, so i started going to the gym and started muay thai kickboxing and ju jitsu. this was a big confidence booster because ive made some friends and been able to tone up my body at the same time.

i also contacted some old friends i lost contact with recently and we started doing stuff again, basically my advice to u is life is too short to be stuck in your house all the time so just get out the house, even if its just going to the shop from time to time, u need to interact with people to see that your normal just like them and then u can make friendships and build on them.

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I've started exercising again, and it makes me feel great. I was an athlete in high school but I pretty much became completely lazy and inactive after my last sports season finished up, and now I'm back into running and other cardio 3-5 times a week. It feels so nice to use my muscles and feel them toning up again. I don't pity/hate myself the way I did a few months ago when I was out of shape and not on the regimen.

I find that making time to sit around a hookah with good friends to just talk and chill out is really nice. A lot of people seem to like having those sorts of "friend rituals", you know? Be it poker night, watching some TV show together weekly, Thursday night Beirut, LAN parties (lol), having something regularly that you can look forward to with people you like is really an underappreciated aspect of one's social life.

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I'm trying to put myself out there more...and build my confidence back up little by little. I'm trying to not let acne hold me back anymore. I decided to create a myspace account since my brother has bitched and moaned about it for a while. We'll see how it works.

What are some things that everyone has done to help bring themselves confidence, and the ability to socialize, and lessen the effects brought on by acne?

Go to the gym, get a nice haircut, wear nicer clothes, and smile.

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You're probably right. Most of the people on there are like that...but it's the only thing for me to do right now. I don't plan on making friends or anything...just the fact that I was able to post a picture and tell about myself a little for anyone who wants to look....that helps my self confidence some. Even if it is just a little. That's why it's a baby step. It might lead to something greater. At this moment in time...I can't even fathom going out with people and stuff. I'm extremely shy and anti social. That's why this works for me....because I can't bring myself to go out and make friends and stuff, and socialize like normal people. May not work for you...but it might for me. That's why I posted this...to see what OTHERS do to help themselves. Not for someone to tell me my way doesn't work.

Sorry didnt mean to offend, all i was saying is that it can be a pretty harsh place at times, just basing it on my opinion as well as those of the other people i know who use it.

Good luck.

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Myspace is like any other site designed for people-meeting. Fun and ridiculous both. Have fun with it, be careful. :)

Interesting, I applaud you for taking baby steps. That takes guts. And you're more likely to get results from baby steps, instead of those big ones that wind up making us panic and run!

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whatever you do dont get a myspace, its a cyber molestors favorite site!

:clap: Cyber molester huh?

Myspace is like any other site designed for people-meeting. Fun and ridiculous both. Have fun with it, be careful. :)

Interesting, I applaud you for taking baby steps. That takes guts. And you're more likely to get results from baby steps, instead of those big ones that wind up making us panic and run!

Thanks, I appreciate that.

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You're welcome. :) I've been taking baby steps this last year, too.

I moved to Kansas City roughly three years ago and for the first two years, had no friends. None. Didn't really want any - work and creating a new life in a new town took up alot of my time. Got to the point where being a hermit was prefferable.

And then I made a friend from work. Just one. Just one friend in three years. And I only go out once a week or so, just enough to poke my head out into the world and remind myself it's out there.

But it's a start. :) Seriously, good for you. It's taking so much energy for me to maintain just this one friendship and I'm so out of practice. This takes work, so power to you for working on that!

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You're welcome. :) I've been taking baby steps this last year, too.

I moved to Kansas City roughly three years ago and for the first two years, had no friends. None. Didn't really want any - work and creating a new life in a new town took up alot of my time. Got to the point where being a hermit was prefferable.

And then I made a friend from work. Just one. Just one friend in three years. And I only go out once a week or so, just enough to poke my head out into the world and remind myself it's out there.

But it's a start. :) Seriously, good for you. It's taking so much energy for me to maintain just this one friendship and I'm so out of practice. This takes work, so power to you for working on that!

Your situation sounds a lot like mine...I'd prefer to be a hermit at the moment...but I'm also tired of not living at the same time. I want more...but I've just not been too sure of how to go about it. I feel this is the best thing for me.

Thanks a lot, I appreciate your support!

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I'm trying to put myself out there more...and build my confidence back up little by little. I'm trying to not let acne hold me back anymore. I decided to create a myspace account since my brother has bitched and moaned about it for a while. We'll see how it works.

What are some things that everyone has done to help bring themselves confidence, and the ability to socialize, and lessen the effects brought on by acne?

Go to the gym, get a nice haircut, wear nicer clothes, and smile.

Ditto that ... pretty much exactly what I was going to say ...

Also, get involved in a couple of things that force you to leave the house. Sports, volunteer work, whatever -- just something that helps you to make commitments to other people and think about other people besides yourself. Acne can make people self-absorbed in a very negative way.

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........what about Bob? I'm confused. Are we talking about my roomate in Oregon, the 70 year old gay man who was addictted to porn but a sweetheart nonetheless named Bob?

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^^^^^^^LOL..........NO... THE MOVIE...WHAT ABOUT BOB???????

IN THE MOVIE......THE DOCTOR...WRITES A BOOK CALLED BABY STEPS.......

ITS A REALLY FUNNY MOVIE............YOU SHOULD WATCH THAT SHIT....

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