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i just remembered another...

One summer back to college, was the first day, my acne had been almost clear for the previous sem but after summer i had new pimples....so as soon as i entered the class, a stupid girl saw me and was like "ohh, you have sooooo many new pimples, your skin too looks very dull..so sad", and i was like thanks for ruining my first day...so i told her, "i know", quite rudely. My friend tried to rescue and was like the summer is tough on all..with the sun and pollution and everything.

Everyone really hated her, cause she was so insecure she picked on everyone. But we found a solution as we noticed she was quite sensitive about her teeth(they were slightly crooked, but barely noticeable, just in her head ).

So, everytime she was about to say something we would just point at her teeth and she would run away....a little mean i guess, but she called for it.

it became funny after a while....

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I probably shouldn't resurrect this thread. For one thing, it's kind of a bummer. And I won't go into all the various ways people have hurt my feelings since I started breaking out as a freaking CHILD. Ahem. But I have really good, kinda funny one. It's a twist on the age-old, CHOCLATE=ACNE cliche.

I was probably about 12, 13 at the time, and after breaking out for years, I was starting to get cystic acne. I had a big one on my forehead that finally ruptured and left behind this huge, completely flat, crusty, and weirdly brown scab. So, this girl I knew, who I totally love and probably didn't mean anything by it (or maybe she did, we were teen girls and teen girls are terrible people, let's be honest) asks me one day, "Are you sure that's not chocolate?"

Yes. YES, you idiot. I have had some kind of enormous thumb-print of chocolate on my head for what, a week? and simply haven't noticed because apparently I never sweat or wash my face or anything. Sigh. She asked in this happy tone, too, like I was going to reach up, rub off the chocolate, and laugh in relief at what a silly doofus I'd been.

Realistically, though, I think a lot of these comments stem from a fear that they, too, will one day have to deal with acne. Like, "Oh, I won't EVER get acne because I wash my face." Someone said that to me once. Or, "I'll never look like him/her because I don't drink soda." People do it with other things, too. "My husband would never cheat on me like hers did, because I work out and do (x)." Nobody likes to feel vulnerable, and looking down on others is a combatant, that's all.

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wow what an old thread

well for me the worst thing was last year

where before it ...i did have acne but i didnt care ...i never looked at my face twice or cared too much

but last year i tried some sorth of a gel that cleared me for a short time ...and by luck around that time ...i liked a girl and i was doing my moves ...things went very good untill one damn day ...i used this gel that broke me out in my nose ...and its safe to say that i lost any hope with her...i felt awefull ...worse time in my life ...so when summer came ...i was like ...screw it ....i went to the derm and got accutane ...i went and fixed some cavities in my teeth ...tried to fix a dandruff problem in my hair ...and basiclly i worked to perfect my self...with one goal in mind ....to be clear after summer and to go and win that girl

so long story short ...i had to stop accutane due to side effects ...but i had a clear skin for a while and went on clear diet to try and prevent future pimples ...and saw that girl again ....and what do you know ...as i was going to make my move again ....i tough hard and decided that it's a bad idea to start a relationship with someone just to prove something ....so i backed off ....now im doing good trying to cure acne trough diet ....and hoping for the best

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A little over a year ago I was at a party, and somehow I got into some little scuffle with a girl about spilling a beer or something minor like that. Then, she look at me and said "You know, someone actually told me that I should hook up with you tonight, and don't get me wrong, you have the body that I look for in a guy, but your face is fucked up". And then she had the nerve to point at my face as if I didn't know where it was or that I didn't know the current state of my face (By the way I'm 6'4, 210, very little body fat, abs, etc..but I'd trade any of it to get rid of acne at the moment lol)

I was so pissed I didn't know what to do. This ignorant girl, who didn't have acne, but I didn't really find attractive anyway, had no idea what it felt like to be me, or what I've been through since. If she was a dude I would have knocked her out right then and there. But since she was a girl, and I will never lay a finger on one, I swallowed my pride, shook my head, and walked away. It was freezing outside but I couldn't stand being at that party anymore or being in sight of that girl, so I went outside. I had come with a few of my buddies and we planned on leaving together in a few hours, and I didn't want to bail on them, so I just hung around outside and shivered away on my cell phone and threw rocks at some trailer. This was no doubt one of the worst nights of my life. No girl has ever said anything like that to me, nor any guy. I really wish there were some way I can get revenge, but I know it's best to just let it go, she's not worth the time. I'm a 22 year old male by the way...I was not even 21 yet when this happened

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This was no doubt the worst nght of my night

Wow. That sucks. I feel sorry about that.

But you said it:

This ignorant girl, who didn't have acne, but I didn't really find attractive anyway.

So, you see, you didn't lose a thing. And attraction and acne are not linked. So cheer up.

And personally, I so much anticipate words that, finally, I don't let anyone to say something mean about my acne.

It makes you be on the edge at the minut when the eyes of your speaker start to move on your face, while you are talking, and stare at your pimples.

A smile, one joke and, hop, you nip nastiness in the bud.

And, yeah, I'm a skilled strategist haha.

Edited by Mandarine

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But how can this be if everyone else on here said that women don't even notice acne and don't care about it? Could it just be that they were all full of shit? Yeah, that's it.

TemperateCent: Whoever said that women don't notice and don't care about it is kidding himself, to be honest. I wish that was the case, but it's just not. I think everyone notices it, unless you are blind or just really not looking someone in the eye. The real question is whether or not that person is ignorant and mean enough to say something about it.

It all depends on who you are dealing with. A stranger who you don't know has no right to say anything about it, just like you don't have the right to go up to someone and call them fat, which I'm sure they are very well aware of already. If it is a friend or a family member, and they are trying to help you out, that is different. But girls in general definitely notice, and I've come to accept that no one finds acne attractive. What it comes down to is does that person care enough about it to stop them from being interested in you. Also, if the girl is actually a sweet girl with any kind of a heart, which I've come to realize is about 80% of the female population, they won't ever say anything about it, especially to your face.

What I find funny is that fat people in general seem to be less insecure about being fat than acne sufferers do about their acne. This may just be because a significant amount of the U.S. population is fat now so it's becoming more accepted lol who knows. And what's worse is that most people get fat because of their own choosing, i.e. poor eating and exercise habits. But most acne sufferers were bound to get acne even if they lived excellent lifestyles, and genetics or hormones ran their damn course. LIFE IS JUST NOT FAIR

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I've had so many comments...I quit my part-time job because I couldnt take it anymore.

The WORST is when you know someone is thinking something about how bad your acne is while you talk to them. You just get this feeling thats hard to describe

comments while working at a register in a supermarket:

"You should see a derm about your acne" (I have for the last half year bitch)

"Daddy, whats wrong with that boys face?"

comments from 'friends' and family:

"Hahah your face looks like a tomato" (from the roaccutane which causes the flushing)

"oooh your skin looks really bad, you poor thing"

"hey ACNE" (this was the worst, being named after this disease as if I was defined by it sad.png )

(from ignorant greek grandparents) : "Whats these mosquito bites on your face?"

and of course lots of people making suggestions to wash your face.

I just dont get what gives these people the urge to say something, like just shut up you bastards.

Greeks have a better diet than most Americans. A lot of em prolly never seen acne in real life cuz there is no crap in their food.

Comments on mine:

Hey, bumpy face! (school)

you gotta lot of pimples! (ymca field trip)

eugh! (library)

One of the worst was at the YMCA. I used to stare blankly at anything when deep in thought. This one girl who was popular and very fond of me because I wasn't an asshole like most attractive guys were, was standing one day. she is very skinny, but oddly was gaining a gut. I was deep in thought when I first noticed it, so I subconciously continued staring while I continued my thought.

Long story short, she realized I was staring, and one day she got her revenge. My acne was at its worst that day, and she ambushed me in the kids gym and grabbed my face and looked very deeply and intensely at it, I was mortified. And pretty muched scarred.

I'm so sorry! for real though, I didn't mean to.

She was a very nice girl, though. I'm really sorry.

Edited by Melloman

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And one time, at football practice: "If I looked like that, I'd walk around with a bag on my face!"

I didn't think it was that bad at the time.



When I think back on high school, I realized that I never was really made fun of for my acne. It was actually in middle school that it happened. This is kind of odd. I attended middle school in Florida and high school in a small city in Ohio....sometimes I truly think that the surroundings you are in and the people who grew up in that surrounding can tell how they treat you. Everyone was really nice in hs and never said "Oh, what's that on your face"-it's something about growing up in the Midwest that I can't seem to describe. But in middle school back in Florida people were rude. No offense to any Southerners or anyone else. This is just a thought since I've lived in so many different places and have an interesting perspective on how people are in different places. {C}

Yeah, the Midwest seems so much nicer. Growing up in the south was nothing nice. I caught hell from everyone. Even the police. I swear, if I didn't have acne when I was in Houston, I would have been involved in so much shit. Good and bad.

Plus, people in Houston were ignorant as fuck. They didn't seem to know much of anything other than to hate on others based on their appearance.

Anyway, one more was when in football practice, someone said: "Man, if I looked like that, I would walk around with a bag on my face!"

At the time, I didn't think it was that bad.

Edited by Melloman

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I remember a man walking past me at my university and just continuously saying "WOOOOW, WOW, oh my god." He kept pacing back and forth in front of me repeating it. Like he was watching a car accident, but he was staring at my face. I've seen a woman literally get distraught, and then seemed to pray. She stared endlessly, looked distraught, and then bowed her head in her hands. It's always people with glasses. I've put my glasses on and looked in the mirror once, and I understand their distress. I seem to make people physically ill more than anything. I heard a woman say, look at her face!! I turn and saw a woman hugging her boyfriend. They were looking at me in sheer horror, like they were looking at a murderer and they were scared. I haven't left my house since that happened...

Edited by Kay24

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My friend wanted to get a picture of all our friends for a picture. He said" Jake(me), get in here, but make sure you turn to the right so it gets your good side...well you don't really have a good side. Just look at the camera I guess". I just laughed it off though, but that was the meanest for me. I had more awkward looks than dialogue.

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Working in dance apparel retail:

Old man customer, there with his granddaughter: "Stop picking at your face. You'd be very pretty if you took care of your skin."

Me: CANIHELPYOUSIR?OH?OKAY. GREAT. YEAH SORRYWONTHELPYOUBASTARD.

I cried a lot at that job (it was the worst work environment ever), but this was definitely the cherry on top.

I don't even pick at my face. I was touching a big, gross cyst because it hurt and I couldn't help it.

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Ugh. I sort-of have a list going on

1.) "Pizza face" shout out to older guy who called me this every day in my advanced math class! It was just SO funny that it made me go home and cry almost every night.

2.) When people that I don't even know come up to me out of nowhere and start rattling of this treatment that is totally guaranteed to make everything better. Because it's not like I've actually tried anything before, right?

3.) The typical "what's wrong with your face?" Especially when younger kids ask, I just don't say anything and have to walk away. One time a little girl in the store was honestly scared of me. I felt like a monster.

4.) The whole junk food thing... Don't comment on my diet please. I rarely go out to eat, and when I do can't I for once enjoy a soda or something? My mum doesn't buy that type of food for at the house.

5.) When people take it upon themselves to buy me a facewash.... like thanks... I guess.... if you were wanting to make me feel even more self-conscious then you have succeeded!

I could go on... but I think these are the worst... that I can think of with my four o'clock in the morning brain at least lol.

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My grandpa would always be like, "What is on your face!?' or "Stop picking it and it won't scar!" (They scar no matter what).Or it's something they do...My grandpa randomly bought me ProActiv. On the outside I was like, "Thanks grandpa!" but in the inside I was like eusa_wall.gifshrug.gifsad.png . Or there is my mom who points it out CONSTANTLY. "Jenny, you need to do something about your face!" I know she's only trying to help because she suffered from acne as well, but it just hurts when it is pointed out.But when someone else points it out that is not my mom I just pretend it does not bug me and that it does not depress me. I just try and stay strong and just continue going through my day makeupless. Just because people point it out does not mean i am going to it take me over like it has before. I am trying to get rid of if. I am trying all I can. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger right? glare.gif

OFF TOPIC BUT

Hi I'm on my first and a half month of birth control and am breaking out much more than usual on my cheeks!! I saw you broke out in your second month also... Did it ever clear? And when did u see improvement? Thanks(:

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Friends and other people have said hurtful things, but the thing that stands out to me the most is the looks. Death stares. Looks of pure disgust. Especially in harsh lighting where my shadows looks prominent. I was at a music festival enjoying myself in April, happy as can be. Then this gorgeous girl like 5 or 10 feet away just kept staring at me shaking her head. I tried to not let it bother me, but it ruined my night. She was looking at me as if I was a monster. Fuck LA, everyone is so superficial.

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I remember 4 years ago, when I was out on a date with a guy I was really fond of. We were sitting in a park, watching the sunset, and just opening up to each other emotionally. And I told him that he made me feel happy. And that he made me feel beautiful.

And he replied, "Yes you are... Except for your face. You really have to take care of your face. You could try a scrub or something."

Thinking back about it now, I couldn't care less. But at that point of time, I was really shocked and just...speechless.

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"Ew look at those hickeys!". It was an overweight guy that said it so I kinda let loose a stream of insults that probably shouldn't have passed my filter, ever. XD

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I once had a child ask what had happened to my face

On the topic of scarring... No one has ever said anything derogatory on purpose. My friends who know me but didn't know me when I had acne and I've told them what my scarring is from have said "oh is that what all that is?" or my other friend has said "Do you know X he has pitty skin like yours and he was considering laser" They're not meaning to be offensive but it hurts all the dame

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It's also difficult to tell how bad my scarring is as my friends tell me it's not bad and no one used to say anything about my acne even though that was really bad at one point and people obviously thought bad things buy didn't say anything. It could be the same with my scarring. I am 6"5 so probably intimidate people haha. Sometimes I'd just like to know the truth! :(

Edited by determinedtowin

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I can mostly deal with the words being said to me, the same old 'do u wash your face properly'  but the cold stares will always be the worst and most uncomfortable  

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