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Meanest thing that someone has said about your acne

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Okay, I guess I lied about my last post being my last post.

This weekend I went to New York with my girlfriend to visit my bestfriend that I mentioned several times in my last post on this forum. We have been planning to move to New York for years and we would all live together. My friend moved out there a few months ago, and has found some new friends and a new girlfriend. I was some what nervous to meet his new girlfriend because, I know what my face looks like. I sometimes feel that I cannot be taken seriously with this mess on my cheeks. I try very hard to make eye contact and have conversations just like I see other people do. I have never been all that personable, but I think people used to always just think I was shy. Anyways, my friend has been dating this girl for like three weeks now? He is such a sucker for the "honeymoon phase." He gets really attached to things really fast. (Honestly, I wouldn't normally divulge this much information about all of this personal shit, but I feel like I having been a ridiculously good friend to him, and he has kind of, quite honestly, treated me like shit. So, for right now, fuck him.) He also really loves the idea of this "big city" persona that he has built up over the past few months, like he is so fucking cool because he knows what the stops are on the "red line" (shoot me.) Holy crap, I really just typed that. Whatever, I'm neck deep in it now. Okay, so, he doesn't really come out and say it, but he thinks and acts like he is better than me. We used to be on the same page about everything. We were working on a full length conceptual album for the past three years, along with tons of other projects. Before I had acne, he would always tell me that he was jealous of me, because of my musical and artistic abilities (I promise you, I don't think this highly of myself, but he did.) But ever since I have had this terrible issue, he has treated me like a retarded little brother. He acts like I am immature or stupid, when he makes the same types of jokes. He calls me "painfully awkward" when his idea of "picking up a girl" is yelling in an attractive waitresses face about a made up party, to try to get her number.

My girlfriend and I stayed at his girlfriend's apartment with the two of them over the weekend, and like I am sure most of you understand, I take a while in the restroom to wash and slather my skin with pimple cream (aka Differin and Cetaphil Moisturizer in the PM and Clindamycin and Benzoyl Peroxide and Cetaphil Moisturizer in the AM) But, I guess that even though I have had many talks with this douche in the past about this very subject, and how sensitive I am about it, he doesn't have any sympathy for me, all he cares about his how "in love" he is with his new girlfriend! (Hahaha, I sound like a jealous ex. Oh God.) He acted like I was such a pain in the morning, for having to go to the bathroom and do all of this embarrassing shit, he was being so impatient. He just gets these stupid pissed off looks on his face. I was trying to hide all of my face products in a t-shirt and when I was about to go use them all, I said "I need to fix my hair." Because my hair was sticking straight up. I knew that he knew that I was going to do shit to my face, and that it takes a while. He says "Do you need to use all of the stuff in that bag?" with a pissy little bitch look on his face. (Sorry for the added angry flavor. This shit has just been brewing in me for a while, and he never wants to talk about the obvious passive aggression in our friendship. So, I am just full on slapping it on the damn internet. Fuck yeah.) And so I said, "I was going to wash my face and fix my hair." He looked really annoyed and said "Okay." So I tried to reassure him that I wouldn't take long, so that I wouldn't waste any of his precious, perfect-skinned time with his new fucking girlfriend in his beautiful big city life. Damn, I am just really hurt by the way that he treats me. He is such a condescending twat. I have never been anything but a loyal friend to him. I have always had his back through anything that he has gone through, and I have always tried to work things out with him in a mature, civil manner. I don't know why he feels the need to make me feel inferior, with his looks and the subtle things he says. It's just weird how we were always on the same level on everything, and now he acts like I am an annoying little kid who says stupid things for attention. Fuck him for making me feel like that. This passive aggressive stuff has gotten way out of hand, it's gone from verbal statements to confrontations to subliminal attacks! Is this even a friendship anymore? Has anyone else ever experienced this sort of thing? I am curious to know others thoughts. It really bothers me that I went there to have a good time, which I really did, but I left feeling like I lost my best friend to a lot of petty bullshit (Even though it seemed like we left on good terms, and there were directly harsh words about anything.) Acne has fucked up a lot of things for me, but was he just a shitty friend in the first place? I cannot tell! I always looked at him as an extremely trustworthy, loyal friend, but my opinion of him has changed entirely. This is a really devastating thing for me. Sorry to rant like a goddamn lunatic, but I have nowhere else to go with all of this stuff. And I don't want to talk shit about him to my girlfriend or someone in my family, because I don't want them to think less of him, they all love him. They all kind of know how he can be though, they get annoyed too. But I just don't know what to do. I feel insignificant anymore. I feel like my opinions don't matter (and I have a lot of them) I feel like no matter what I do, the only thing that truly persists is my acne. I haven't even felt bad about it for a long time! My best friend just made me feel like this, and he doesn't even know it. I don't know if this even fits into the topic of this forum, now that I think about it. I should just write a book or something.

Oh dear, I used to have a friend who was EXACTLY like him (used to...because we're not friends anymore...go figure)! I saw myself in your story. LOL it's like reading into my diary from my high school days

The annoyed bitchy pissed-off looks, I hated that too...I remember she would give me silent treatments for no reason and that would hurt me a lot

I dunno how I stuck for so long with her, I guess, like you, I am just too nice..

Edited by Stella the diver

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It's not necessarily the words that were hurtful. It was the facial expression...I remember someone saying something like "OMG WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR FACE" and they looked so scared and disgusted.

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When the only girl I ever envied for her beauty asked me during a group activity in class: "Oh my, what happened to your forehead?!" in a very loud and disbelieving voice T.T

And also whenever my friend and I have this convo(which actually happens often):

*friend buying peanuts..

Friend: want some? :))

Me: (does not really like peanuts so I politely decline* No, thanks :)

Friend: *In a knowing voice* Oh~ I understand, you don't wanna have pimples anymore

O_O can't I just decline because I don't want peanuts?! huhu

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I also find it insensitive for others to talk about someone's acne. Like this one time my friend's crush walked by and my other friend just randomly said "he's cute but his pimples are increasing in number." Like, what~?!? Girl, were you counting?? It makes me feel like they would also probably talk like that behind my back and when they casually say "you should wash your face more often" O_O like I didn't even think of that and just let my acne be free~ free for the world to see~ *sarcastic mode* sorry! Seriously though, I'm just very sensitive when people around me talks about anything related to acne.. :/

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The meanest thing anyone's ever said to me was said to me 10 years ago when I was 13 and I still remember it to this DAY. Well it was 2 incidents - one was when I walked into my friend's homeroom class to give her something, and I had a giant red pimple on the centre of my nose. It was right before the winter holidays so a bunch of the boys saw me and then yelled out "IT'S RUDOLPH" and laughed their butts off while I cried on the inside.

In the same year, my group of "friends" that I was going to room with at a hotel for our elementary school graduation trip decided that they didn't want to room with me anymore cause I was "weird" now. The only thing that had changed about me was my face so you can imagine how that felt. Kids can be so cruel.

But the best thing I've ever done for myself is cut all those people out of my life. I haven't received negative comments from anyone anymore in the past few years and the only time anyone brings my skin is to either tell me that it looks fine (whether or not that's true) OR to give me some actual advice/tips that they've heard that I might find useful. :)

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My bf's friend was going to take a group photo so he said, "Try to look good everyone.. oh wait, there's nothing you could do to look any better"... I was 16 then but remember it as if it was yesterday. Not even safe at home as my mother often calls me "keyboard face"

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I started getting very little bumps on my forehead around midway through 7th grade. I'd always had picture-perfect baby soft skin and took very good care of my skin starting at a young age. I never thought I'd be so damaged by acne.

Anyway so during the summer of 8th grade, I was googling and youtubing natural face masks to clear acne. I made so many masks that I thought would fix what little pimples I had. My mom to this day thinks the reason why my acne got worse was because of those masks. I'll admit I may have gone a little overboard with them but only because I was so desperate for clear skin. But I didnt go over the limit of masks everyday and plus I took very good care of my skin on a daily basis, making sure not to overdo it. As 8th grade progressed, I started getting more and more red marks on my left cheek. Eventually it just got so red that I would push my hair off to the left side just to hide the redness. Midway thru 8th grade I went to the derm and they prescribed me medication that I used so religiously. I'd always been so good in take care of skin from when I was very little. I had no idea why more and more pimples would replace the old scars.

It got to the point when 2 people asked me if i had a hickey on my cheek. It was so embarrassing!

My family would point it out and I'd avoid family gatherings just so I wouldn't have to hear what I already knew, which was:

"You should go see a dermatologist."

"Are you popping them? Ok good cuz that's not good."

"I see that its getting better"

I know the only reason my family said those things was because they care, but I obviously know I have problems with my skin physically and emotionally. I'm doing everything I can physically to make it go away but their comments aren't helping me emotionally.

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My mum once looked at me and said "are you getting chicken pox?" It was just all the leftover red marks she was looking at...

Unrelated, a few weeks ago I was talking to a guy on the phone and he said he just had an argument with my best friends boyfriend, he thought it was funny that he told him to "wash your face, your acne is disgraceful" I sort of went silent and didn't know what to say, I dont stay friends with people like him, he was always bragging about how amazing he looks, that any girl would be "amazingly lucky" to get him. Someone needs a reality check, especially when their personality is ugly within itself.

Edited by Blissfully Unaware

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Teacher in sixthform- your big enough and ugly enough to know better.

Friend- i dont really know if i can call her a friend- 'Your really spotty'

Another so called friend- 'You have lots of spots'

People staring.

I also went through chemical burns- 2nd degree from using lemon juice to treat acne. I had big blisters all over my face. People just stared and then a group of b*tches were like 'I dont what i would do if i have her face' and started laughing.

I still have acne and bad acne scarring. People still stare. :(

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Its human nature to put other people down, especially when they never will have to deal with it. I have been called ugly infront of other people. And they just laugh and say it even louder so I can hear it. I just reason with it, they are with their friends and it happens. I just ignore them, and at the end of the day, I let it go.

Don't worry, anytime they need help, I will always ignore them.

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When I was a teenager my sister's friend said to me, "It must be so hard having such ugly skin when your sister has perfect skin." Damn right it's hard, but you don't need to point it out!

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Its human nature to put other people down, especially when they never will have to deal with it. I have been called ugly infront of other people. And they just laugh and say it even louder so I can hear it. I just reason with it, they are with their friends and it happens. I just ignore them, and at the end of the day, I let it go.

Don't worry, anytime they need help, I will always ignore them.

It's sad that this seems to be the case, but dame they say it right infront of you?

people are too scared to say it directly to me because I look like an intimidating guy... you must look non threatening for people to be so bold as to be so flat out upfront about it.

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In high school.. "At least you know guys like you for your personality" and "It's great that you have the confidence to go out with such awful skin." Girls are so good at being undercover jerks.

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The meanest things ever said about my acne was said my my friends (who are no longer my friends surprise surprise)

Wow I'm so glad I don't have acne, my friend to another friend right in front of me

I can't wait to see what you look like without spots, ( yeah me to )

Told my friend I was going on accutane and my other friend said she wanted to go on it and my other friend said no your skins NO WHERE NEAR bad enough ( gee thanks)

Liv how often do you wash your face?

*thinking of nick names for each other * liv can be dr spot

Why don't you just pop all of them and then they'll go away? Said by supposedly one of my closest friends

Anyways long story short I fell out with that group of friends, now my skins clear and I'm so much more confident, not to sound like a prick here but I get asked out so much more now I've got clear skin, (sounding really big headed now) guys will ask for my number when I'm just waiting for the met, and yano what, my "friends" and still miserable fucks who get no boy attention, carma bitch.

Seriously tho, when I was with my girl friends all they used to talk about was my skin, as soon as I started skateboarding and all of my friends were guys not a thing was mentioned about it, girls can be bitchy, lesson learnt

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I dont understand why people have to be so ignorant and mean to actually point out people who have acne and make comments I mean its like we know we have acne do you think we Like living with this? obviously we're doing something to clear it! anyway i worked at Mcdonalds as a cashier for 3 years now and I've had customers actually comment or ask me something about my acne after they have placed their order and its SO embarrassing like do you have any idea how i feel when you put me on the spot like that?! I look around to see if my co-workers heard or other customers and i just smile and say okay but here are a few:

- What happened to your face?

- are you using anything for your acne?

- What are you using for your face?

- are you eating too much chocolate and junk food?

- I am selling a cream you should buy it, its soo good

- you should do something about those marks I sell these products please buy it!

One time i went to get my belly pierced and the lady actually started suggesting her acne products and told me i should take care of my acne first!

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7) You've got pimples on your chin (umm I do??)

This is said all the time to me, it honestly makes me tear up and want to be somewhere else. It's the worst feeling in the world when your acne is called out.

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Earlier this week I had some girls sitting behind me in a lecture comment about how gross pimples are and how people need to just wash their face after I had walked in and sat down in front of them. So of course I assume that's why they said it. Plainly loud enough for me to hear too. It really got to me for the rest of the day - found it hard to listen to anything in the lecture, just wanted to go home where no one else had to see me. I was already not feeling great about my skin because I was breaking out a bit. I know it didn't look good but I wish people could be a bit more aware / sensitive. They're about 21 and 26yrs old - definitely old enough to know better I think / or at least know how what they say could effect someone.

Luckily the rest of my week was better and my skin has calmed down again.

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Earlier this week I had some girls sitting behind me in a lecture comment about how gross pimples are and how people need to just wash their face after I had walked in and sat down in front of them. So of course I assume that's why they said it. Plainly loud enough for me to hear too. It really got to me for the rest of the day - found it hard to listen to anything in the lecture, just wanted to go home where no one else had to see me. I was already not feeling great about my skin because I was breaking out a bit. I know it didn't look good but I wish people could be a bit more aware / sensitive. They're about 21 and 26yrs old - definitely old enough to know better I think / or at least know how what they say could effect someone.

Luckily the rest of my week was better and my skin has calmed down again.

Lilly, i wouldn't even stress it. People that feel the need to comment on others are really sad inside so they find that tearing people down make them feel better.

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One of the boys from my school said "Are you suffering from some kind of a serious disease?" Others stood there laughing at me. :(

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Luckily, no one has ever said anything mean to me..

But yesterday....i was really depressed for the past few days and my mom was not liking it...so she finally got really angry and said...

"i can't believe that my daughter is so shallow and superficial that she is upset about something so 'obvious and stupid' like acne...i am so disappointed in you...."

i burst into tears..

Also my aunt once told me that my pimples look 'cute', like seriously??

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I can't remember the meanest but I remember two of them. Both happened this week.

I had a little breakdown in my check (two cysts, and I was totally clear) I got a little sad but whatever.

I went to school yesterday and I was talking to a teacher when she told me "OH GOD, SABRINA, LOOK AT YOU, YOU WHERE DOING SO WELL UNTIL.... HUMMMM.... *looks at my cysts*"

Well that was rude.

And this morning, my dad woke me up and said "Let me give a look". I was pretty sad because of it, and I didn't want anyone to see it (if I could just wear a bag on my head, I would). My dad got mad, and told me that is unfair that he pays for treatments and he can't give a look to my 'monster things'.

You could have save that last part, dad.

Ps: sorry if I have any mistake. English is not my first language.

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one guy called me miss spotty face. that was pretty much enough for me and i swore my ass off at him.

eh,,it did upset me though.

yeaahh..i kno

the feeling sucks...coz

i remember a time wen we were playing a game...and people had to describe each oder...and many of em got so many descriptions ...smart funny beautiful kind cute....but what hurt me the most was wen i was described as pimple face...and i couldnt get back at him coz he .....spoke the truth :-( i mean i am gud at so many things....but that was when i realised people are shallow...

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"Did i fall in a pizza or what?" - me.

I've always been my worst critic, there was one thing my friends once said but it wasn't really acne related: "yeah you have bad acne, but you're arrogant enough to get away with it". I still take that as a compliment.

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When I was younger and didnt know what type of foundation to use for my oily skin I ended up using one meant for dry skin. My boyfriend at the time said to me at school "whats up with your face it looks like its melting."

I had no idea about my skin type I was at that awkward teenage phase. Very embarrassing.

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