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I recently started hanging out with a girl that I knew from High School, but now she tells me she's got a boyfriend.What the fuck?! We'd hang out and stuff all the time, and I'd take her to shows, but not once did she ever mention this 'boyfriend', or show any signs of having one. I feel duped. But she's like, 'are you still going to be friends with me?' I said yes, but it's probably gonna be awkward now. Maybe I'll be able to win her over. :pray: I'm just so fucking pissed and disappointed. I thought we'd make a great couple. I'm really lonely too, and I'm at the point where I want to start sharing my life with somebody, now that my skin has immensely improved. Fuck, fuck, and FUCK!

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I recently started hanging out with a girl that I knew from High School, but now she tells me she's got a boyfriend.What the fuck?! We'd hang out and stuff all the time, and I'd take her to shows, but not once did she ever mention this 'boyfriend', or show any signs of having one. I feel duped. But she's like, 'are you still going to be friends with me?' I said yes, but it's probably gonna be awkward now. Maybe I'll be able to win her over. :pray: I'm just so fucking pissed and disappointed. I thought we'd make a great couple. I'm really lonely too, and I'm at the point where I want to start sharing my life with somebody, now that my skin has immensely improved. Fuck, fuck, and FUCK!

well, maybe u should have told her u were looking for a relationship. maybe she got fed up with waiting for u...

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I recently started hanging out with a girl that I knew from High School, but now she tells me she's got a boyfriend.What the fuck?! We'd hang out and stuff all the time, and I'd take her to shows, but not once did she ever mention this 'boyfriend', or show any signs of having one. I feel duped. But she's like, 'are you still going to be friends with me?' I said yes, but it's probably gonna be awkward now. Maybe I'll be able to win her over. :pray: I'm just so fucking pissed and disappointed. I thought we'd make a great couple. I'm really lonely too, and I'm at the point where I want to start sharing my life with somebody, now that my skin has immensely improved. Fuck, fuck, and FUCK!

well, maybe u should have told her u were looking for a relationship. maybe she got fed up with waiting for u...

No. It's not like she just started dating this guy... she was with him before we even started hanging out. The thing that pisses me off is that she gave off no 'signs' of even having a partner. She even flirted with me. Damn it, I knew I should've tried to kiss her sooner. :confused:

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Haha, I have a really bad habit of getting involved with girls who already have boyfriends. My advice to you is that if you really care about this girl, eg want her to be your girlfriend, then don't try to steal her away. My guess is that you've told her how you felt? If that's the case then she knows that if her man isn't treating her right, you will. If you try to steal her away, you could make things incredibly complicated and a whole lot worse for yourself. Be a friend and when she is single again, then you can pursue a relationship with her. Might not be what you want to hear, but trust me, things will work out best this way.

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Haha, I have a really bad habit of getting involved with girls who already have boyfriends. My advice to you is that if you really care about this girl, eg want her to be your girlfriend, then don't try to steal her away. My guess is that you've told her how you felt? If that's the case then she knows that if her man isn't treating her right, you will. If you try to steal her away, you could make things incredibly complicated and a whole lot worse for yourself. Be a friend and when she is single again, then you can pursue a relationship with her. Might not be what you want to hear, but trust me, things will work out best this way.

Thanks. That's really good advice. I've totally isolated myself these past couple years because of my skin... I hate being lonely. I don't want to be like this forever.

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If she's really interested in her boyfriend, then she wouldn't have been spending so much time hangin out with you...maybe...she wants you to steal her away...;) hope everything works out for ya mate!

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If she's really interested in her boyfriend, then she wouldn't have been spending so much time hangin out with you...maybe...she wants you to steal her away...;) hope everything works out for ya mate!

Haha. That's a good way of looking at it. I'm just confused as to why she didn't mention it before. I mean, when I told her I liked her, her reaction was like, 'what? I have a boyfriend'. If she really did like me, and wanted me to steal her away, then wouldn't she have said something? mind....exploding...right....now

Are you bigger or smaller than her boyfriend? If you're smaller, then yeah good luck mate

I don't even know the guy.

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i know how u feel man. i had a similar situation with a girl about 3 weeks ago, i started gettin feelings for her although i knew she had a b/f...really makes you feel useless and depressed huh? well all i can say is the way i fixed my problem is literally refusing to get depressed about it. i managed to make myself accept it and began looking for other women. listen to uplifting music, that helped me, start thinking about what youve got, i.e. good skin and at least confidence to hang around with women. so many people dont have these qualities and many people have much worse problems in life. when i thought about this, my whole approach changed and i saw each day as an opportunity and i soon found myself having a date with a different girl. (of which i went on last friday) although i still see this girl i like, my feelings for her have really calmed down. sure, if she breaks up with her b/f i will prob ask her out, but iv managed to make myself not get all depressed about it, thats the worst thing. trust me, the only way forward is too change ur depressed thinking into positive and move on, seeing just how many girls are just waiting to be asked and seize every day as an opportunity...much more fun! :)

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If you two are close enough maybe you could tell her how you really feel? Girls have boys as friends though they're usually gay... I'd just tell her how I really felt.

That is soooo not true!! granted gay guys get on much better with girls and girls love them, but its not the gay guys who are mates with girls. infact, most girls i know have more male friends than female..

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i know how u feel man. i had a similar situation with a girl about 3 weeks ago, i started gettin feelings for her although i knew she had a b/f...really makes you feel useless and depressed huh? well all i can say is the way i fixed my problem is literally refusing to get depressed about it. i managed to make myself accept it and began looking for other women. listen to uplifting music, that helped me, start thinking about what youve got, i.e. good skin and at least confidence to hang around with women. so many people dont have these qualities and many people have much worse problems in life. when i thought about this, my whole approach changed and i saw each day as an opportunity and i soon found myself having a date with a different girl. (of which i went on last friday) although i still see this girl i like, my feelings for her have really calmed down. sure, if she breaks up with her b/f i will prob ask her out, but iv managed to make myself not get all depressed about it, thats the worst thing. trust me, the only way forward is too change ur depressed thinking into positive and move on, seeing just how many girls are just waiting to be asked and seize every day as an opportunity...much more fun! :)

Wow. Thanks foreveryouth. You're totally right. I should just occupy my life with things I enjoy so I won't dwell on it (easier said than done though). Man, unrequited feelings blow... but you're so right... I can't let this get me down. I mean, she still wants to hang out and stuff, so who knows. Maybe she'll find better qualities in me than this other guy. Anyway, I hope things go well with the girl you got now. And who knows, the one you like just may come around. By the way, did you ever tell that girl (w/ the bf) how you felt? Or did you just keep it to yourself? Thanks.

If you two are close enough maybe you could tell her how you really feel? Girls have boys as friends though they're usually gay... I'd just tell her how I really felt.

What do you mean? I told her I like her... what else am I supposed to say? I don't really want to smother her with my feelings, because in my experience, that pushes women away. I think I should just play it cool. :cool:

Now that IS gay. Girls are supposed to know how we feel without forcing us to say it :lol:

:lol: Yeah, girls. Why can't you just read our minds?? It'd save us a lot of anxiety.

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Quote: By the way, did you ever tell that girl (w/ the bf) how you felt? Or did you just keep it to yourself? Thanks.

Yea, funny really, cause a year ago i gave her a light hearted valentines card i made myself which was really cheaply done hahaha. worked really well cause although it said 'i like you' it was done in such a joke that she had to laugh and not get all confused over it. but yea, since then everyone knows i like her (including herself) i recon it has actually brought us closer cause ive never forced anything serious upon her. even today i joked about how i cant put a valentines card under her door cause she lives in another house, and she laughed lol. its better this way cause we can stay really close friends and keep it all fun...rather than ignoring each other and acting all weird. hope that makes sense.

so yea, if u wana, let her know how u feel in a fun, flirty way (like bond does with money penny), but the main trick is not to act as if it bothers you (even if it does) cause thats what james bond would do...and hes the master lol. it shows you have the abilty to be a man of the world, never let failure stop you...girls like that. just by adopting this approach i have managed to get away with so many flirty things that she never likes having done to her from other guys.

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Just hang tight. If she knows how u feel, then anything that's meant to happen, will. Just don't start acting crazy and desperate. She won't want any more issues in her life so don't become one.

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Quote: By the way, did you ever tell that girl (w/ the bf) how you felt? Or did you just keep it to yourself? Thanks.

Yea, funny really, cause a year ago i gave her a light hearted valentines card i made myself which was really cheaply done hahaha. worked really well cause although it said 'i like you' it was done in such a joke that she had to laugh and not get all confused over it. but yea, since then everyone knows i like her (including herself) i recon it has actually brought us closer cause ive never forced anything serious upon her. even today i joked about how i cant put a valentines card under her door cause she lives in another house, and she laughed lol. its better this way cause we can stay really close friends and keep it all fun...rather than ignoring each other and acting all weird. hope that makes sense.

so yea, if u wana, let her know how u feel in a fun, flirty way (like bond does with money penny), but the main trick is not to act as if it bothers you (even if it does) cause thats what james bond would do...and hes the master lol. it shows you have the abilty to be a man of the world, never let failure stop you...girls like that. just by adopting this approach i have managed to get away with so many flirty things that she never likes having done to her from other guys.

A home-made valentine? Haha... that's a really good idea. Valentine's day is tomorrow, right? :think: I wonder if I should do something... That's cool that you guys are chill. Sometimes it's better to keep it on the friendship level, I guess. I can't deny my feelings for this girl, but I can change the way I act on them. I should just keep it flirty. I'm more of a serious guy, but I can be pretty goofy too. We do joke around a lot when we talk on AIM... but it's harder to do it in person. James Bond is the shit too. I wish I was him. Did acne make you more reseved and shy? It sucks how guys are supposed to be the strong, supportive half of the relationship, but when you have something as annoying and depressing as acne, it's hard to fulfill that security that women need. Damn skin. :mad:

Just hang tight. If she knows how u feel, then anything that's meant to happen, will. Just don't start acting crazy and desperate. She won't want any more issues in her life so don't become one.

Good advice. Thanks.

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holy shit, no lie, the same thing happened to me this week, i seriously though me and this girl had a chance then when i heard her BF was in town it felt like a kick in the nutsack

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If i had a BF and was hanging out with another guy all the time..it would mean i wasn't really that into my BF. It could be true that she wants u to make a move..it could also be true that she felt things were getting serious to a point where she felt guilty and had to tell u. Only she knows..I suggest keeping a low profile for now..because she said " can we still be friends" and then when u feel the time is right, if there is a chance she has feelings, then fight for the 1 u want. At least then u can say u gave your best.

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If i had a BF and was hanging out with another guy all the time..it would mean i wasn't really that into my BF. It could be true that she wants u to make a move..it could also be true that she felt things were getting serious to a point where she felt guilty and had to tell u. Only she knows..I suggest keeping a low profile for now..because she said " can we still be friends" and then when u feel the time is right, if there is a chance she has feelings, then fight for the 1 u want. At least then u can say u gave your best.

Who knows... I'll just keep it cool. Thanks.

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You are lucky. You've actually managed to find somebody worth spending a lifetime with. Are you married yet?

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Yeah... but honestly, I'm afraid I'll never find somebody. I'm already a major recluse - SO lonely. I don't have many friends. Going out with people is a huge deal. I'm reserved, shy, quiet, pessimistic, and serious. I still have acne, and now I'm fucking getting braces. I dislike my educational status. I pretty much daydream 24/7 about living somebody else's life, because I hate mine. I think too much, and need drugs to calm my brain down. I'm tired of being nobody, and having nobody. Hate faking happiness, because really, I want to die. Life sucks, and has for a looong time. I'm kinda suprised I made it this far actually. I should just give up on this girl, because you know what, I wouldn't want to be with me. Nobody would. Parents even told me that. I'm too much of a headcase in my opinion.

Sometimes I think this is hell.

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Help! I'm starting to get really depressed. Can't take any more of this lonliness. We're social beings. Head....exploding...can....no.....longer....take..it.... I HATE ACNE! ACNE RUINS LIVES!

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I have wrote it before but again:

If you don't have enough real life experience, you just need to watch more porn to realize that almost every girl no matter how pretty and sweet she is is a whore inside.

I'm not a sexist. You don't even need to watch porn to realize that every guy is a dick.

I used almost because there are our mums and the ones indeed ;)

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