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Dropping things because of your Acne??

Guest james11

Hey all, just wondering what others on this site have had to give up because their Acne got too bad, or they had to have invasive treatments, or they just couldn't cope with life. Anything that you want to vent!

I've ultimately given up University and at the moment have no job because i'm nearly finished some treatments and it was too hard to work whilst doing them. All in all, i've basically acheived nothing in the past 18 months relating to a career and have earned next to no money. Thankfully my parents have been really supportive and that's made it so much easier.

Can't wait to hear from others....

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sacrified going out alot of times....now that im clearing up agin(capsiderm?) im going to go out every chance i get to make up for it.

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when my acne was really bad, I hesitated to join social groups and social clubs. I never really had a lot of friends back in high school because I felt people were judging me inside about how I look and I just had an extremely hard time making friends and approaching people. there was this guy I used to like in freshman year (when my skin was clear) and he liked me back! and then as my acne began to get worse, things changed and he wasn't really the flirting type of guy he used to be with me :X

I hate acne. acne made me a shyer person overall, esp in public.

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Being 40yrs old now I still wont answer the door without make-up on. Over the last 6 years I have had every antibiotic known and ro-accutane 3 times which worked for a year each time. Had been clear for 2 years but left with scars. I sometimes wouldnt even go to pick the kids up from school and would never go out socially . I hated myself. I had laser skin resurfacing done 4 weeks ago in hospital. Since then I have had a break out with boils all over my nose and are back on antibiotics. Apparently this can happen with 6 % of people. It is early days yet, suppopsed to take 3-9 months for things to improve but i feel i look worse. More scars than I had and spots again. A lot of feelings are coming back and I hate looking in the mirror again. People say I look better but I think they only say it out of politeness. I take each day as it comes and hope to look better everyday.

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my skin totally controls my life. when i feel like im having a good skin day im like my normal self. im bubbly chatty and love socializing and going out, and SURFING!!!! but when im having bad skin day, happens much more often that the good days!, i don't want to be seen. i will not go out , i have even taken days off work or uni because i don't want to be seen like this! also i feel that when my skin is bad the last thing i want to be doing is getting wet in the sea while surfing coz i know i will just look awful! its so controling and annoying because i like the person i am when my skin is good i just wish it could be like this all the time!also, i really enjoy surfing and i hate having to make xcuses as to why im not going with my flat mates!!! acne is horrible!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I missed loads of parties cause of my skin. I dumped boyfriends, skipped school and called in sick to work. Made me sad :cry:

How cute is this guy? > :snooty:

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Looking back I would have been very different while I was in school. I can say that with confidence. I was never a shy person, I just wanted to avoid things with my acne, I was always in a bad mood. When I'm having a good day (skin is relatively nice), I'm a different person. I've had friends comment on it, though they didn't know it was because of my acne. It's scary how much more light hearted and easy going I am when my skin looks decent for the day. I'm more open, I'm more willing to do things. My whole outlook on things change.

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I was a consultant for Arbonne. This past year my skin broke out worse than it ever did as a teenager. I quit my Arbonne business because I felt like I couldn't sell skincare with a face full of acne.

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I've cancelled nights out, stayed indoors as have been too self-concious to even leave the house n get a paper! Have missed opportunities with very gorgeous boys and have let my low self-esteem ruin relationships.

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I've skipped school and locked myself in the room. I started to get pimples when I was like grade 6 and I was prolly the ONLY person who had it in grade 6. It was horrible, I never understood why it happened to me.

I became really shy, I try to avoid people, I won't do presentations because then people will look at me and my acne.

I wasn't the prettiest girl but the ugliest and the worst all I had acne...but all my friends are so pretty and acne free, I was so jealous of then...never went to school dances or parties.

It was really hard to meet guys.

Never dated anyone until I was in my last year of high school :|

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Things I've given up/in the process of giving up:

- the beach

- socialising

- relationships with close friends

- relationship with 'boyfriend'

- relationships with family slowly deteriorating

- shopping for clothes. unable to wear any singlets/low-necked tops

- skipping classes. affecting grades.

- too many to list

bascially, my life consists of lying in bed...... like a vegetable... and that's when I most feel comfortable. just lying in bed.. what a sad existence I lead.

a little empathy? someone?.......anyone?

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hey unlucky, i feel like you sometimes. when my skin is really bad all i want to do is stay in bed and not see anyone. when my skin is better i like the person i am and i feel loads better. i just wish i had more days :wall: like this!

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I've lost my girlfriend after 4 years, just always felt disgusting because of my acne. I waited so long to be perfect that i lost her in the end. And to top it all i still have acne as disgusting as ever. As well as that i've totally stopped going out on the night, i dont leave the house unless i have to. I just hide myself away in my room and come on here to talk to people because i feel so lonely. My girlfriend always used to call the house and that used to cheer me up. I miss her so much and i just hate acne. Its ruined everything for me, i dont bother with anything anymore, my appearance, my friends, i've given up on it all.

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Well, I'm not going out tonight even though it is a friend's Birthday. My skin is a wreck...full of cysts and whiteheads. My husband will go out without me and I'll sit home alone depressed. I'm 32 and I've had acne all my life. I've been on Accutane at least 5 times. It works for a bit and then bam...this happens about a year or so after I've finished treatment. I look at people (like my husband) with perfect skin and wonder what that must be like. To never have to worry and wake up everyday looking perfect and to never know anything different...nothing like the pain and agony we feel. I'll never know that feeling of unknowing bliss. I'll be stuck with this shitty skin until the wrinkles join the zits. And they don't know how we feel...he acts like I overreact when he has no idea how devastating it is. So, I guess you can say acne is not good for my marriage. I feel for all of you. Reading your posts made me cry. We should all be living full lives. Acne is debilitating and devestating.

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ughh...the worst attribute I've picked up due to acne is sometimes I hang my head down instead of holding it high, as I should...and there is the strict strict diet and not playing sports outside...the wierd thing is I always go clubbing no matter what...It doesnt affect me as much cuz I guess its in dim lighting...my head is always held high and I feel like a pimpppppp

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Yeah, I've lost confidence because of acne. But then again, that leaves me to focus on other things. But other people have it worse so I can only feel fortunate.

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I hid away for years because of acne (cystic). Highschool was a nightmare...people would look at my face in disgust. Some people even told me to my face how gross my acne was! Needless to say having acne killed my self esteem. I thought I was the ugliest person around. I hated myself and became depressed and angry.

I avoided social gatherings like the plague lol. There were parties, etc, that I wanted to go to but my severe acne stopped me. Even with makeup my acne looked awful. I isolated myself and became a loner.

I started getting acne at around the age of 11/12 (now in my 30's) and I still get pimples. For me it's not just the ugliness of acne, it's the pain (cysts, etc) that it causes. Acne can be so damn sore. You not only have to deal with the way it disfigures your skin; the pain is another factor.

I have spent years hiding behind makeup too. I HATE people seeing me without makeup on. Without makeup people stare at my acne/scars, they don't look me in the eye when I talk to them.

I can relate to other posters pain (emotional & physical) and I wish I could cheer people up. All I can say is that we are NOT ugly, etc. We have a skin condition that is largely out of our control. None of us would have chosen acne. And I for one am tired of feeling embarrassed/ashamed about it. No one is perfect...even people with clear skin have their own hang-ups. Try not to let others get you you down...people can be mean and insensitive. But, if you know you are a decent person with a good heart that is the important thing!

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I've had acne for about 7 years now. I've developed social anxiety disorder and become completely Asocial. It's all going to change though. I met a girl that lives in my town on the internet through another friend, i've known her for 3 years and still we've never met. I've always made excuses due to my acne.

I'm determined to meet her by summer '06 though whatever it takes. I've just purchased glycolic acid and i'm hoping this is going to help a lot, i've quit college and decided to get a job. I'm going to start boxing and bodybuilding again and hopefully everything will just be good again. I got too tired of being the asocial guy that lives in his bedroom.

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I feel like i have lost so much like my confidence...

I stopped going to college and i spent many nights inside just crying

I have almost ruined a great relationship with my boyfriend..thank god hes not like most people and only focuses on peoples apprence ..he has helped me alot..but i would have never imagined something like this ruining my life ..its so hard to wake up and feel good about yourself ..

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Being 40yrs old now I still wont answer the door without make-up on. Over the last 6 years I have had every antibiotic known and ro-accutane 3 times which worked for a year each time. Had been clear for 2 years but left with scars. I sometimes wouldnt even go to pick the kids up from school and would never go out socially . I hated myself. I had laser skin resurfacing done 4 weeks ago in hospital. Since then I have had a break out with boils all over my nose and are back on antibiotics. Apparently this can happen with 6 % of people. It is early days yet, suppopsed to take 3-9 months for things to improve but i feel i look worse. More scars than I had and spots again. A lot of feelings are coming back and I hate looking in the mirror again. People say I look better but I think they only say it out of politeness. I take each day as it comes and hope to look better everyday.

im in the same boat. Its amazing how great i feel about myself when i dont have acne, how outgoing i am, meetning new people etc. I dont get panic attacks or anxiety whatso ever. I can truly say that acne is the root of my anxiety. Before i started to get acne i never had a problem with anxiety, i was always loving take pictures etc. But now its changed, and my mood is based on my skin. I wont go to school, go out, even go downstairs to take out the trash. Its horrilbe. I have gone to some extremes i guess to hide my skin, which is embarrasing in itself.

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I had my first panic attack over the weekend. It was strange.

There was a group over my place and I was to meet with them for 2 hours. After introducing myself I found couldn't speak well and I was sweating profusely. It didn't stop. My shirt was soaked in less than a minute. I don't sweat that much working out!!!

I guess acne has a way of controlling our deepest fears of what others think. That is ultimately why acne hit me hard, because as much as I convinced myself that I don't care what others think, I really do.

Take care all.

Kone

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I skipped my 10 year high school reunion this summer. I'm lucky and I never had a problem w/ it in high school but how could I go see all these people now w/ this nasty face? I have avoided all kinds of social gatherings parties, swimming you name it. In fact I haven't seen my brother in 3 years & am supposed to go see him next month but I am hesitating becuz of this stupid problem. Like he'll care I know but it's still hard.

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Guest pokerbugg

dont work out sometimes

dont go to the beach sometimes

dont go out much

till recently-missed work

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