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How's that for a first post  sad.gif .

i thought it was an excellent first post! i think that is the perfect sentiment to carry with me: "resenting others for your unhappiness isn't going to help you one bit."

i'm going to remember that. it's perfect.

and archmange, i don't know if you are still reading this, but don't leave! i remember reading your log about accutane, and you're so funny! stay, stay! i like you! i don't like your idiotic and generalized dislike and disgust at women, but that's ok! i doubt that's permanent!

come back!

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IMHO most girls are manipulative bitches, constantly falling for goofy jerks and bad boys, and those who aren't, think of me only as a friend, as I stated previously. I'm starting to disrespect women greatly...

I've even quitted watching porn for this reason, couldn't look at those slutty females anymore >_<

I know my worth and it's high, so if girls don't want to be with me, they are to blame, not me.

YES, I've tried hard to get a GF for the last 3 years... when I was a good person... none of the girls I've approached appreciated my devotion... I've really tried to give them the best of what I've had... and I had much... cry.gif

My heart was broken so many times that now it lies shattered and starts to rot...

Can you see now what can be called a true problem??

Your skin will eventually recover, my heart will not.

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I'd rather be single for the rest of my life than settle for someone I really don't want to be with just because I need companionship.

yup, i agree.

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I'm 23, turning 24, and also single. I feel pretty good about myself most of the time. I don't have a problem with going on dates and stuff like that, but I don't have a boyfriend because what really freaks me out is guys seeing me without make-up. Daytime I can cover up my acne good enough, and I like to think that the spots I have don't show much when Im wearing make-up, but it scares me to think about waking up with the guy one morning and him seeing my acne and my face with absolutely no concealer. I'm really afraid he'll think I look hideous and never want to see me again, and tell all his friends about how awful I look, because I think the contrast between the way I look when I wake up and the way I normally look is pretty big.

That's my problem.

Doesn't anybody else think like that?

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Im trying HARD to not talk about my acne. I know when I bitch about it and draw attention to it, is the only time anyone notices. As much as it bothers me, and as self concious as I feel about it, Im trying to shut up about it. The low self esteem is much more unnatractive than the acne.

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I've had acne since about the 6th grade, so by now at age 29, even though my breakouts have gone from constant to occasional, my skin is marred by the damage of years of acne and bad derms. I look at other girls's skin all the time and think, "Do you know how lucky you are to have beautiful skin?". That said, I've dated a lot and have had serious relationships that have ended for reasons other than my apperance. I'm dating a guy right now with beautiful skin, and he's never brought it up once. From what I've read on here so far, it doesn't seem like acne is the cause of people not getting dates, but self-esteem is. I know a lot of confident people who aren't great looking for whatever reason, but they have such great personalities and confidence that they are attractive nonetheless. Conversely, a lot of physically attractive people have personalities that suck. A lot of the people I went to high school with who had great skin have gotten married and divorced already, and we aren't even 30 yet!

I've even quitted watching porn for this reason, couldn't look at those slutty females anymore

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^^ CONVERSELY a lot of physically attractive ppl have personalities that dont suck 2. ;)

&i think thats what most acne sufferers are threatened of b/c omg what if someones hot and fun to hang out wityh, that means theyve got the best of both worlds right??

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i just got done eating a pizza. i found a person who likes to pinch and pop. u can too! we have sex everday! then we do some pinchin. it helps when your lover is a pincher. i like 2 pinch. oops! spilled my nachos! this post is 4 real.

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Well, I'm 24 and never even had a date in my life. Acne is only one of the reasons why that is the case but it's not the only reason. Other reasons are that I'm painfully shy, gay and still in the closet, and I pretend that I'm indifferent to guys I'm attracted to. Unlike straight people, I can't just go up to anyone and ask them out. First, you need to figure out if they're gay or not, which isn't something a lot of you folks have to go through. Second, you need to approach the guy and tell him that you want to ask him out. Since most gay guys are superficial people, looks are really important. If you have obvious acne and fat, chances are you will never get laid. Seriously. Sometimes I wish I was a lesbian. Women generally are not very shallow.

You know what, to make up for my obvious lack of a love life at this age of mine, I swear to God that if my acne clears up completely, I will be the biggest slut that I can be. I will be a total player. I will try to break as many hearts as I can. That is what having acne has done to me.

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I'm not shallow! sad.gif

And, I LIKE AUDIOSLAVE. Girls can be nice/neat people, too. It don't matter much what's between your legs, man. There are good folks and bad, you know?

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ive been with someone for 10 months now and my acne only began just after we got together. When i see him i do wear more make up to try and cover up my spots but i just dont think hes ever really noticed them or if he has he hasnt commented on it. Occasionally when i comment on them he gets angry and tells me to stop obsessing about my skin, recently (but not today) my skin has been okay and its co-insided with us spending alot of time together so ive been feeling confident about myself.

I think its very hard though as when my skin is bad i hate it when he looks at me and i wonder what he sees and if he notices what i notice. His skin is pretty good, its not been so great recently but it really doesnt bother me how bad his skin is as id love him no matter what.

I really dont think its easier for a girl with acne to get a guy then it is for a guy with acne to get a girl. Either way i think its hard but people who dont have acne dont seem to worry about other people and their skin. Until i got acne i never noticed acne on other people unless it was very severe, now i almost seem to look for acne on other people just to reassure myself im not the only one

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That's very interesting that you said when you had clear skin, you never really noticed people with acne unless it was real bad. I know I have been dealing with it and seeing it for so long, I just assume that everybody notices it and is looking at it. Lately, I have been trying to look people in the eye and be more confident overall. I think my low self-esteem makes me look worse than my acne.

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i don't date like i used to...i was the hottest shit apparently...we hit the same scenes every weekend and i had the hottest guys. but, now I don't go out...my skin has been so bad lately! i just wanna go back to the days when i felt good about myself...it was so much fun, as soon as i walked into the bars and the clubs, guys left and right...many with the worst of intentions and others with the best, no matter what...they were hot!

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Yeah! I'm getting my acne back, I missed it so much!

I'm starting a second round of Accutane in two weeks; I'm so happy!

I love life!

I've got an urge to murder a man >_<

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