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ive been with my boyfriend for over a year now and we both have mild ance which doesnt bother either of us. A couple months ago his doctors wanted to put him on accuntane but we discussed it and decided it wasnt worth the risks,plus i dont think he needs it as hes still cute and sexy to me. My ance doesnt bother him and he knows im self conscious about it but normally he just give me a hug and tell me he loves me. He doesnt like me wearing makeup because he thinks its unessicary and im beauitful anyway and when im with him i fell that loved and pretty i normally dont feel like wearing make up anyway.

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my boyf doesnt have acne,but he had severe eczema until he was 20 his 24 now.

was bullied at school and was very self concious so he understands my low moods at times,although he always says he thinks its not as bad as i do,but he understands feeling unattractive and self concious.

i wouldnt wish that feeling on anyone but at the same time its nice to now you are not the only one,i no aot of people suffer with acne.but sometimes i when i look around i feel like its just me sad.gif

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It's nice to see so many of you guys have supportive girlfriends/boyfrieds who love you no matter what. It gives me hope that their is somebody out there who will be able to look past my acne and see the beauty that lies within. biggrin.gif

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To all unsatisfied ppl who whined in this topic: Stop whining and STFU, at least you're in a relationship; I'm 18, never even KISSED a girl, can't get a GF, all the girls I know think of me 'as a friend'; I'm fairly good looking (accutane took care of my severe acne nicely), scored 145 IQ on a professional Mensa test this spring, have a quite thick wallet, good sense of humour and a nice amount of self-confidence, I don't know WTF is going on, my failures in dating have taken me to the point that each time I walk past a happy couple flirting or kissing, my hatred towards girls increases, and so my chances of getting one lessen even more, blah, sorry for bad English, it's not my native language and I'm very pissed off now, too lazy to check the spelling and grammar; goodbye and think twice before you write something, there are ppl in worse situations than yours >_< (I know that this applies also to me, thx -_-')

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having intelligence, good looks, wealth and, on top of it all, clear skin should make you the one that needs to STFU.

relationships are not easy and good ones are not easy to come by. calm down, you're only 18 and you'll get kissed/dated/laid/whatever soon enough, especially if you have all this going for you.

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IMHO most girls are manipulative bitches, constantly falling for goofy jerks and bad boys, and those who aren't, think of me only as a friend, as I stated previously. I'm starting to disrespect women greatly...

I've even quitted watching porn for this reason, couldn't look at those slutty females anymore >_<

I know my worth and it's high, so if girls don't want to be with me, they are to blame, not me.

YES, I've tried hard to get a GF for the last 3 years... when I was a good person... none of the girls I've approached appreciated my devotion... I've really tried to give them the best of what I've had... and I had much... cry.gif

My heart was broken so many times that now it lies shattered and starts to rot...

Can you see now what can be called a true problem??

Your skin will eventually recover, my heart will not.

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From urbandictionary.com

Entry: Nice Guy

A man who has rejected the societal notion of masculinity and chosen to define himself from the inside out instead, realising that traits such as empathy and nuturing are not actually limited to the female of the species, and nor are aggression and assertiveness limited to the male.

Despite this newfound revelation, however, there is still a strong genetic predisposition for humans to continuously behave as if we were animals seeking out the alpha male with those genes most suited for surviving in a hostile environment.

Often times, the average woman, whom society encourages to indulge in her weaknesses and surpress her strengths, is a self-loathing masochist who may appreciate the nice guy's friendship and understanding, but feels no attraction toward him because his insecurities remind her of why she hates herself. Therefore, she almost always seeks the dominant, aggressive, unempathic male with whom she can vicariously live to make up for her weaknesses. Of course, this inidividual, commonly known as a jerk, is also usually an egotistical, disloyal, and shallow person for whom societal dictates of masculinity will force him to disregard his mate's feelings and treat her as if she were beneath him.

Feeling emotionally unsatisfied, the female will then turn to her nice guy friend, whom she has long since castrated, for comfort, and complain to him about how men suck, except for him, and that he deserves a good girlfriend eventually except that it is never her or any other woman he might encounter.

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Archmage, if you think girls only go for jerks, they would be all over you by now. That's clearly not the case.

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A-PRO: If you're a guy, I'd likely come to your house and beat you up for calling me 'unmasculine', cause that's the message of your post, fag.

If you're a girl, then you're doing nothing else but trying to justify your irrational, pathetic female behaviour, since you're probably doing the exact things you quoted from urbandictionary.

The only thing you're right about is that I tried to be nice and good to girls for the past 3 years, cause that's the way it should be, duh! People should be good to each other! >_<

But I'm nowhere near a nice guy or even a good person now... nothing makes me more happy now than sight of a girl crying because her dumbass bf left her.

Countless rejections have made me a heartless bastard like that, sorry :<

I'm a Christian, I know I should be better than that cry.gif

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Maybe you're gay. Nothing wrong with that.

BTW: I'm not a nice guy (as defined by the def.), but I'm nice to girls. Just don't be all weak. Girls don't like it when they have to drag their depressed bf around. Noone likes someone who's always weak...well emo girls might. eusa_think.gif

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Yesss, I used the word 'fag' as an insult, but I'm gay, RIGHT!

Yesss, I'd want to beat you up for insulting me, but I'm weak, RIGHT!

I've rarely showed ANY weakness while being near girls, man :<

Sorry for calling you fag, but that outrageous descritpion from UD doesn't fit me :<

I was good to girls because I believed that it's the way people should be and they will receive the same... experience has shown how much I was wrong... I saw that boys who are good, are chewed up and spit out and those who give nothing and/or abuse, receive love, care and sex cry.gif

I would want to be a good person once again... I know NLP and hypnosis, I could change myself completely in a few weeks... but since the good way has led me only to pain, I have no reason for doing so ;/

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Guest Mr K

My girl didnt know me that well before my acne - maybe its cuzz i never payed any attention to her but anyway - after my acne we got together and i pushed her away, i cannot live life with this face let alone have a girl. So we broke up and now where back together.. the fact she still finds me attractive with my acne really made me think what a great person she is... u know shes not all that superficial! anyway im going to tell her tonight - why i have been pushing her away.... im gonna ask her to wait till my horrible face clears up! .. i think its very selfish of me. but if she waits for me i will be loyal and care for her the rest of my life.

Ah and my girl has great skin!!!! + great body and face! ..

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To Archmage:

You really need to take some time to analyze your life, and yourself. Chances are you'll just ignore anything I say and respond by calling me a loser, but please at least read and consider what I'm saying.

You obviously have not had good experiences in the past with personal relationships. I'm very sorry about this, I think most people on this site know what it's like to feel like a social outcast. There are alot of factors that can contribute to this, and acne and a high iq are definitely high on the list. You need to let your past go, accept that you got through some tough times in your life and that now you have all of your life ahead of you to live. Being bitter about the way things have gone is the worst possible thing that you can do, because it guarantees that you will stay unhappy.

It's often mentioned on this site that you have to be happy with yourself before you can really be happy in a relationship, and I think that's something you need to think about. The problem I think is that your self-esteem has been so lowered by your past experiences that you badly need validation from other people, but you are so afraid of being hurt that you consider yourself above everyone else and try to tell yourself you don't need them.

As for the good/bad guy thing, you are pretty confused on this point. I understand why you might feel this way just from your experiences, but you only have half of the equation. Do you even understand what a girl is looking for in a guy, because you clearly don't seem to. You assert that you have money, intelligence, and looks but you don't seem to understand that these aren't the main things most girls fall for. Looks will attract a girl at first, and money and intelligence are both important in the sense that every girl is looking for a guy who can comfortably live the same lifestyle they want and who can carry on a conversation at the same level as them.

But most importantly to start a relationship you just want someone you have fun with and enjoy being around. Your willingness to provide for them is great, but that's not the foundation of a relationship, it's a mutual enjoyment of time spent together that is the core of any successful relationship. You talk about seeing girls crying over their bfs leaving them, yeah, this happens, but they almost invariably enjoy the time they did spend with them, and the reality is that most relationships will be short term, not lifelong. Most people, at least most I know, guys and girls, enter into a relationship fully expecting it to be short term. At eighteen this is even more true.

Honestly, you seem to want a relationship because of what it will do for you. If you want to have a relationship with a girl then think about what SHE is going to want out of a relationship and try to give it to her.

Judging from your icon and name I'm guessing you play alot of video games. Just a tip, that's likely a major reason you have a hard time starting a relationship. Honestly, if your interests are entirely divergent from anything a girl would want to do then why would she possibly want to be in a relationship with you. You may think this is stupid, but that's just the way it is. A girl would much rather have a guy who wants to go out and do something that she can join in on. I would hazard a guess that other parts of your life are similar. You talk about how girls always just want to be your friend, well take advantage of this. Ask some of them what they think you should do to be more attractive to other girls. You'd be amazed how much new clothes and a haircut can make a difference. Of course it's your choice whether you want to change or not. But it sounds to me like you're really unhappy with your life at the moment, and that's why you're striking out at everyone on here.

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To all unsatisfied ppl who whined in this topic: Stop whining and STFU, at least you're in a relationship; I'm 18, never even KISSED a girl, can't get a GF, all the girls I know think of me 'as a friend'; I'm fairly good looking (accutane took care of my severe acne nicely), scored 145 IQ on a professional Mensa test this spring, have a quite thick wallet, good sense of humour and a nice amount of self-confidence, I don't know WTF is going on, my failures in dating have taken me to the point that each time I walk past a happy couple flirting or kissing, my hatred towards girls increases, and so my chances of getting one lessen even more, blah, sorry for bad English, it's not my native language and I'm very pissed off now, too lazy to check the spelling and grammar; goodbye and think twice before you write something, there are ppl in worse situations than yours >_< (I know that this applies also to me, thx -_-')

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IMHO most girls are manipulative bitches, constantly falling for goofy jerks and bad boys, and those who aren't, think of me only as a friend, as I stated previously. I'm starting to disrespect women greatly...

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It is realy hard to truly commit yorself to someone else, be there for them through thick and thin, all of that, when you are self-conscious of yourself and can't get past the way you look. I know that right now, I feel horrible about the way I look and my bf and I just broke up. Although I am sad, I think, maybe this was for the best bc I could not be there for him and help him through things when he needed me-all because of the way I look. It makes me feel horrible but again, until I love myself again, I can't possibly love anyone else.

To be honest with all of ya'll, I have looked at a lot of people's pics on here, even the people who are brave enough to post pics of themselves with full-blown acne. My point is, ya'll are still more beautiful than a lot of clear-skinned people I know. I am being completely honest. So hang in there and dont give up on this battle. And when you finally feel good about yourself again, it will be easier to love someone else and gie them your all.

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Ah fuck it, I was thinking much (the whole night and today's morning) about what I've been through and what I've written here and what I've read in response; I was writing a 11 paragraph post, but decided to discard it and write only one thing... I think I'm damaged beyond repair, sorry for taking your time and for insults I've thrown in your direction, I won't probably post on this board anymore, good luck to all acne sufferers, I know how you feel, I remember the time of my severe acne as the worst period in my life, I hope you'll recover, just like me, and that you will be able to enjoy your lives and, unlike me, have happy relationships.

I've decided that if the girls don't appreciate what I wanted/want to give them, they are not worth my attention, I'll try to fill that hole in my heart with work/religion/whatever... heck, if priests or nuns can live without relationships, so can I.

AMEN, as someone previously said.

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Well I have been dating my boyfriend for around a year. He doesn't really mention my acne and it doesn't seem to bother him that much. He asked me once about the pimples I get on my forehead but he was just curious if I had seen the dermotologist lately. He suffers from acne too, much less severe tho, but we are both using differin right now. (I'm on Erthromycin pills also.) I know what it feels though to be affected by your acne in a relationship. Sometimes I feel like my boyfriend won't love me solely because of my acne. I know it sounds ridiculous but that's how much acne affects your self-esteem. You just have to remember if a person really loves you, they will look past your imperfections. smile.gif

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Hey guys, you know something, only a small part of a good relationship is being happy with your stead's appearance. As long as you show him/her that you care, and that there's more to you than just your acne, only jerks that have no right to be with you will turn you down.

Spoken from true experiences.

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Its much easier for girls with acne to find guys, then guys with acne to find girls.

Im willing to bet however, the guys that do date Girls with acne have a close to 100%, are sexualy active.

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