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Your bf/gf touching your skin...

I just started dating this guy and I really like him. The only problem is that he likes touching my skin... a lot.

This makes me feel incredibly self conscious. My skin isn't anything to complain about anymore, but it's still by no means perfect. His skin, by the way, is. I'm really afraid he'll feel a blemish or some other yucky skin problem. So I usually try to subtlely sidle away, but that's only going to work for so long before he thinks I'm trying to block him out. I'm also really paranoid that all the touching is going to break me out.

So how do I deal with this? Remember, I just started dating him a week ago. I'm not about to say "um yeah, don't touch my face because I'll break out into heinous pimples". That's a relationship killer right there.

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sidel around for a couple more weeks and then when you know him better tell him you are sensitive about your skin. His reaction to this will tell you more about him than months of face stroking ever could. good luck biggrin.gif

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Yep^. Good point.

I've never allowed anyone to touch my face (unless I was drunk).

But here's something that makes me sad...

One of my dearest friends is also an ex-boyfriend, and we were talking a couple of days ago about this subject, and he told me how much it bothered him. Like, it made him sad. Hearing that made ME sad cry.gif...

I wish I could handle being touched like that, but it just freaks me out to the point that I can't think of anything else.

Boo-hoo.

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Hey at least he's touching your skin! The guy i have been seeing doesnt ever touch my face but he does this wierd thing like he sorta bites my jawline/chin (when we are intimate-- sorry TMI) and i always pull away cause I have some bumps there... last week he sorta bit that and it made me want to run away cause I thought he would be grossed out but it didnt bother him I dont think.

Anyways I wish he would actually touch my cheek because its clear (cept for scars). He knows i am really self conscious though about myself so maybe thats why. its kinda like i wont let him go near my ears (no one can) because I have a lot of piercings/stretched earlobes. lol

Seriously though just let him know if it bothers you... maybe in a few weeks you will be ok with it. oh and in the meantime just make sure you treat those areas he's touched if you are freaked you will break out bad.

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I've been self-conscious about having my face and neck touched ever since I developed acne as a preteen. And I'm 41 now! Some concerns just stick with you. That said, I've found a few things to be true (at least to me):

*The risk of breaking out (which can be treated) is worth it compared to the sadness of denying both myself and my boyfriend the pleasure of having him touch my skin;

*If the person cares about you beyond superficial beauty, and if you care about and trust him (or her, as the case may be), over time the skin-touching thing becomes less of an issue;

*Most people understand and can deal with the fact that acne happens. We are, after all, human and not perfect air brushed magazine pictures or plastic surgery makeovers.

Good luck!

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I hate that too! My skin for the most part is very smooth, despite any pimples... just on my forehead it's a bit bumpy, but it still makes me squirmy when my boyfriend strokes my cheek. I also hate when he gets super close and he's gazing at me, it feels like he can see all my imperfections on my face, so basically my solution for that is when I get squirmy with him touching my face I just gently take his hand away and start kissing him instead lol, and when he's gazing at me, I just look back 'intensely' at him so he gazes more at my eyes and his eyes don't wander off to look at my skin...it's kind of stupid, but it's like I have a phobia of people looking directly at my skin...at least on my face anyway.

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If he's gazing at my face, i'll stick my fingers in his eyes.

If he's using his dirty fingers to touch it, i'd slap his hand away.

cry.gif

I don't want to do that anyway though. it's just..an inferiority complex.

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I also hate when he gets super close and he's gazing at me, it feels like he can see all my imperfections on my face

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Yeah, I used to get uncomfortable about that too, when he was about an inch away from my face and my skin was at its worse. He could tell though and asked me why I got funny when all he wanted to do was look at his beautiful girlfriend. He so wanted to get laid that night  razz.gif

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If he's gazing at my face, i'll stick my fingers in his eyes.

If he's using his dirty fingers to touch it, i'd slap his hand away.

cry.gif

I don't want to do that anyway though. it's just..an inferiority complex.

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My guy does that too. I feel bad cause' my skin is not even smooth.

I sometimes wish my skin was better.

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JEANIE!!!!

1st of all, I almost peed myself when I read that^ lol.gif ...stickin' fingers in his eyes...lmao....

And anyway, anyone who is up close to you, gazing into your eyes, is a lucky boy indeed. 

(I'm telling your inferiority complex to fuck straight off, dammit wink.gif)

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Cocoon !!!!!!!

wub.gif aww that's sweet. But no one wants to gaze into my eyes yet.  cry.gif  I'd gaze into yours if you dun mind.  lol.gif

eusa_angel.gif

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hope no one kicks us out for the public display of affection.. lol.  lol.gif

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Yeah, I really hate my boyfriend touching my face lately - shit, I even hate him staring at my face.

It makes me feels so self-conscious.

I hate how acne holds me back.

I think it changes my personality alot!

Ah well.

Jeanie, you hot girlfriend - like broken said, any guy would be lucky to gaze into your eyes! wub.gif

I still want a blythe doll hahaha.

My boyfriend thinks they're freaky!

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mrrreeow you sexy thing

yea acne or having HAD it before makes a person self-conscious. confused.gif

you found any toy shops sellin em yet?

(yea guys find them freaky eusa_dance.gif )

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I haven't started looking for them yet Jeanie.

Prob next week - I live in a small city, so I doubt they will have any.

Then again, I found a store with livingdeaddolls so, maybe ill get lucky.

I haven't wanted a toy in a long time hehe.

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kinda alienish? the dolls i mean, big heads, look like supermodels...all head and no body? or maybe just that one that jeanie shows us..

anise, honey get over it. i agree with the post about the ex bfrnd being bothered that he was unable to touch her skin, i can't imagine my ex bf depriving me of that. believe you me, he is not analyzing it, he is not a facialist, just wants some intimacy. in psychology class you learn that facial touching is a nurturing gesture, it's supposed to be one of the ways to show we care...let him show you, at first you will be self concsious, but allow some time and you will get over it and actually be able to enjoy the caring caresses....it's needed to build a healthy bond...hope you try it wub.gif

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