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(@wrocky)

Posted : 12/26/2014 5:16 pm

Hi,

Probably another one of those topics, but here we go anways ;)

Wanted to ask guys on this site a few questions(girls/women point of view also welcome). For those of you who have girlfriends, how are you dealing with your girlfriend if she is acne free? I am single currently(for some time), but I used to live in a house with 3 girls and I probably had more creams and spent money on those creams/dermatologists than all of them combined, obviously I didnt keep all of my stuff(facial masks, moisturizers, washes and whatnot) in bathroom as I found it quite embarrassing to be honest to take over the whole shelf lol.

The amount we have to spend for acne on vitamins, creams and dermatologists would make you look like some "metrosexual" to the average person. I know people will say that if she does not understand your problems, she is not worth it, but we all know that in real life things don't happen like in Hollywood movies, that's why I am asking for your real life experience. Seems to me that it would be much easier to date someone who is suffering the same problems as you, this way you can support each other and not worry about these things as much. I mean I got a lot to offer, I am 27 years old & I am running 2 successful businesses, financially stable and I get to travel the world a lot, but that damn acne & scars no matter how much money I spend on them, always comes back and I feel very depressed about that hence staying single for a long time now.

Wish there was a dating site for people with acne as there are for people with other "specific" problems.

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(@sarah57)

Posted : 04/20/2016 9:48 am

Omg I have been wishing for a dating website like that forever. It seriously sucks,I can feel ya.

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(@mboat)

Posted : 08/20/2017 4:39 pm

I actually googled for a dating site for acne and ended up here on this latest forum! :D Glad I was'nt the only one thinking along those lines. And sad that no such thing exists atleast not yet.  Do post if you guys find something please ....

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(@bellacat)

Posted : 08/21/2017 11:28 pm

Some one pls date me

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(@juwalker)

Posted : 08/22/2017 2:08 am

Well there's a good business idea!!! Come on you young things get working on it!!!!

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(@eternalrocket)

Posted : 08/22/2017 3:04 am

I think I have almost forgotten what dating is like, lol.

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(@rnacne)

Posted : 08/26/2017 7:55 pm

As a heterosexual woman I would not be bothered by a guys acne after all my boyfriend of five years has acne. My boyfriend has moderate acne with permanent scaring. He is the only guy I have ever been with we never really dated we went straight to living together.

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(@skyesthelimit)

Posted : 08/31/2017 11:55 pm

Lol maybe we can start here in this forum. hahah Not a bad idea to be friends with people here and see where it goes. :)
 

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(@celestialelf)

Posted : 09/04/2017 3:50 am

I wouldn't have a single problem dating anyone with acne, even severe acne as long as they had a good personality. I really wish there was a dating site like that though, it would make things so much easier.

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(@persephona)

Posted : 09/07/2017 2:10 pm

Hello guys, I am so glad that I found this forum where I can express my feelings towards this problem. 

This year of 2017 and the end of 2016 my skin all of a sudden got really bad and I stopped going out with my friends. I only go out if it is extremely necessary and I have errands to run and I always put full coverage foundation and I hate to go out especially during the day cause my acne are so noticable.

Back to the main topic, I have never had a boyfriend (long term). I used to date a couple of boys (back then my skin was way better) but since it started to get worse no dating life found because I am always at home and I don't socialize because of my zero confidence and I have no chance to meet any guys.. 

Past weekend my skin got a liiiiitle better and I finaly got some courage to go in the club with my friends. I put makeup on, dressed myself and everything, and I ran onto the boy I have a crush on and I instantly ran away. He was standing next to me in the club looking and I was covering my face with my hair and turned my back against so he won't notice my face and the pimples (probably they were not very noticable in the darkness but my self-conciousness made it's own).. So, now I probably won't go out a long time cause I don't want to look so miserable in front of everyone including the guy I want to leave my best impression :(

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(@celestialelf)

Posted : 09/08/2017 12:43 am

10 hours ago, Persephona said:

Hello guys, I am so glad that I found this forum where I can express my feelings towards this problem. 

This year of 2017 and the end of 2016 my skin all of a sudden got really bad and I stopped going out with my friends. I only go out if it is extremely necessary and I have errands to run and I always put full coverage foundation and I hate to go out especially during the day cause my acne are so noticable.

Back to the main topic, I have never had a boyfriend (long term). I used to date a couple of boys (back then my skin was way better) but since it started to get worse no dating life found because I am always at home and I don't socialize because of my zero confidence and I have no chance to meet any guys.. 

Past weekend my skin got a liiiiitle better and I finaly got some courage to go in the club with my friends. I put makeup on, dressed myself and everything, and I ran onto the boy I have a crush on and I instantly ran away. He was standing next to me in the club looking and I was covering my face with my hair and turned my back against so he won't notice my face and the pimples (probably they were not very noticable in the darkness but my self-conciousness made it's own).. So, now I probably won't go out a long time cause I don't want to look so miserable in front of everyone including the guy I want to leave my best impression :(

I'm so sorry you had this bad experience!! Isn't it crazy how we hide away bc we lack confidence in meeting people, yet it's the hiding away part that causes us to not meet people? 
I hope you get another opportunity to hang out with friends and maybe see that person again. I'll bet they really wouldn't notice your skin, and if they judge you based on temporary skin blemishes, they aren't worth your time anyway, don't you think? I know it's really hard. I feel the same way depending on the worsening of my skin. I stop wanting to even go to work, much less go out with friends. I think most of us here feel like that. :(

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(@r12345)

Posted : 09/08/2017 8:48 am

18 hours ago, Persephona said:

Hello guys, I am so glad that I found this forum where I can express my feelings towards this problem. 

This year of 2017 and the end of 2016 my skin all of a sudden got really bad and I stopped going out with my friends. I only go out if it is extremely necessary and I have errands to run and I always put full coverage foundation and I hate to go out especially during the day cause my acne are so noticable.

Back to the main topic, I have never had a boyfriend (long term). I used to date a couple of boys (back then my skin was way better) but since it started to get worse no dating life found because I am always at home and I don't socialize because of my zero confidence and I have no chance to meet any guys.. 

Past weekend my skin got a liiiiitle better and I finaly got some courage to go in the club with my friends. I put makeup on, dressed myself and everything, and I ran onto the boy I have a crush on and I instantly ran away. He was standing next to me in the club looking and I was covering my face with my hair and turned my back against so he won't notice my face and the pimples (probably they were not very noticable in the darkness but my self-conciousness made it's own).. So, now I probably won't go out a long time cause I don't want to look so miserable in front of everyone including the guy I want to leave my best impression :(

Hey, sorry you have to deal with this. I am in a similar boat, yet I am a guy and can't cover it up with makeup, I feel more paranoid thinking people can see the makeup than I would the acne.

Don't be scared of going out. You'll find that most lads don't care if your skin is bad or not. It wouldn't put me off, and trust me it's the first thing I notice with people since I'm so paranoid about my own. Yes it's going to put some people off, there is no denying it, but everyone has their imperfections. Imperfections are what make people beautiful in my eyes. 

I do understand where you are coming from though, I also struggle going out socialising, going to work etc when my skin is bad, it takes its toll on your mind and wears you down something rotten. I made my own thread where I've had a proper rant haha! But keep your head up, and remember you are beautiful and there is someone out there for you.

I think I need to put my own advice into practice also :D

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(@persephona)

Posted : 09/08/2017 11:39 am

@CelestialElf @r12345
Thank you guys so much for your help and kind words, you are totally right about that that I shouldn't worry about my situation so much and live my life but yet I feel so bad looking how all my friends have a nice skin even without makeup and minimal skin care and yet here I am with tons of products and stuff and still having the worst skin ever. I feel bad cause it is not my fault and I can't do anything about it. I have tried everything and nothing is working.

I am 22 now and I am afraid that I will be alone forever and I will never find anyone because of my acne, I am afraid that if I find one eventualy he will leave me when he will se how my face looks withot makeup. I know that the real person that is worth a while will never do such thing and judge me for that but let's be real, no one wants to wake up next to an ugly red pimply face 

I used to be very cheerful and carefree girl back when my face was going much better than now, I used to go out all the time hang with my friends, had really much more friends that now I must say, now I have lost many of them just because always when they call me or want to see me I say that I can't go out and I am busy. I hate this person that I have become, I feel like an ugly monster 
 

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(@celestialelf)

Posted : 09/08/2017 2:49 pm

I know how you feel!! Sometimes it can also be annoying to hear people say "just live your life" because if it were that easy we wouldn't all be here in this group!  I understand feeling like I'm the only one with bad skin .. like out of all my friends I think only a couple besides me have troubled skin and they are really good at makeup so I can't even tell. And I've spent untold amounts on skincare and products, have a regimen I follow religiously, but they don't have to do ANYTHING and yet theirs is so clear and nice?? How fair is that? :( (and they can eat pizza and everything too! Uhg!)

But hey friend don't worry. 22 is still really young. When I was 20 I met my now-husband and my skin was actually worse than it has been recently. I would call off dates and stay home bc my skin felt so bad. I would cover it up but it was so dry and flaky I'd want to cry. And I'd wear makeup at night if I spent the night at his place, bc I was so scared of him seeing my skin. (Of course this made it worse) Yet he was still totally in love with me and didn't care about my skin at all. So even though we feel this way about ourselves, doesn't mean that others do. You're definitely not an ugly monster at all!! People can and will love you no regardless of some spots that will come and go. Heck, my partner has always stayed with me even though I came out as trans. So when you find the right person they will love you for what's on the inside, as corny as that sounds! Please have hope! <3 

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(@honeyginseng)

Posted : 09/13/2017 1:13 am

On 12/26/2014 at 2:16 PM, wrocky said:

Hi,

 

Probably another one of those topics, but here we go anways |:;)

 

Wanted to ask guys on this site a few questions(girls/women point of view also welcome). For those of you who have girlfriends, how are you dealing with your girlfriend if she is acne free? I am single currently(for some time), but I used to live in a house with 3 girls and I probably had more creams and spent money on those creams/dermatologists than all of them combined, obviously I didnt keep all of my stuff(facial masks, moisturizers, washes and whatnot) in bathroom as I found it quite embarrassing to be honest to take over the whole shelf lol.

 

The amount we have to spend for acne on vitamins, creams and dermatologists would make you look like some "metrosexual" to the average person. I know people will say that if she does not understand your problems, she is not worth it, but we all know that in real life things don't happen like in Hollywood movies, that's why I am asking for your real life experience. Seems to me that it would be much easier to date someone who is suffering the same problems as you, this way you can support each other and not worry about these things as much. I mean I got a lot to offer, I am 27 years old & I am running 2 successful businesses, financially stable and I get to travel the world a lot, but that damn acne & scars no matter how much money I spend on them, always comes back and I feel very depressed about that hence staying single for a long time now.

 

Wish there was a dating site for people with acne as there are for people with other "specific" problems.

On 9/7/2017 at 0:10 PM, Persephona said:

Hello guys, I am so glad that I found this forum where I can express my feelings towards this problem. 

This year of 2017 and the end of 2016 my skin all of a sudden got really bad and I stopped going out with my friends. I only go out if it is extremely necessary and I have errands to run and I always put full coverage foundation and I hate to go out especially during the day cause my acne are so noticable.

Back to the main topic, I have never had a boyfriend (long term). I used to date a couple of boys (back then my skin was way better) but since it started to get worse no dating life found because I am always at home and I don't socialize because of my zero confidence and I have no chance to meet any guys.. 

Past weekend my skin got a liiiiitle better and I finaly got some courage to go in the club with my friends. I put makeup on, dressed myself and everything, and I ran onto the boy I have a crush on and I instantly ran away. He was standing next to me in the club looking and I was covering my face with my hair and turned my back against so he won't notice my face and the pimples (probably they were not very noticable in the darkness but my self-conciousness made it's own).. So, now I probably won't go out a long time cause I don't want to look so miserable in front of everyone including the guy I want to leave my best impression :(

Acne really takes a toll on your confidence, that's for sure. :( I've definitely spent thousands and thousands of dollars on creams, medications, vitamins, etc. and it's exhausting. Only maybe within the last year it's been clearing up, and I think a huge part of that is finding someone who accepted my flaws. And he has really clear skin, haha so jealous. Sometimes those people pop up when you least expect it, like in my situation. That, and being stress-free and finding the right routine for my skin. :)

I still cover up my face alot with my hands and with my hair, and I used to think I had to wear tons of makeup like the girls on Instagram just to even have a chance. But there are people out there who love no-makeup gals too! 

Think of the positive things in your life! @wrocky, you have 2 successful businesses AND you get to travel the world? Wow, I could only dream of my business to reach that level! 
And @persephona you're beautiful! And still so young, there's so much time to keep making friends that accept you for who you are. Or you can reach out to your old friends and reconnect
IT's frustrating, but seeing and working towards progress is the fulfilling part. :) keep your heads up, there's definitely someone out there for you!

 

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(@persephona)

Posted : 09/13/2017 8:32 pm

@honey&ginseng Hello there, thank you so much for your kind and motivating words, you have no idea how much happy makes me hearing that there are people who can still love you no matter what but I must say that that is a really rare thing.

I don't know maybe I am wrong and I most of a time I happen to run to people who are judgemental. As I said in my previous post, I have dated a couple of guys and no relationship succeeded. Sometimes I comfort myself thinking that maybe they were not searching for something serious and that is why we split, or yes after all they all left because of my ACNE cause all of them disappeared without word after hanging out a couple of times with me.  It's frustrating.
Now I haven't dated anyone for 2 years cause particularly this past 2 years my skin is going crazy and I am not leaving my home.. 

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(@skyesthelimit)

Posted : 09/23/2017 10:33 pm

@Persephona That's exactly the reason why you haven't dated for a while. It's because you have hid yourself from everyone. If you are the one on your profile picture, YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL GIRL! I don't even have one on my own because my self-confidence is waaaayyy too low more than having acne itself.

Anyway, if you have judgmental people around you, it simply means that they are not the ones worth keeping. Those who can still love you despite all your physical and emotional flaws are indeed rare but those rare people do exist. :)
 

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(@Anonymous)

Posted : 10/20/2018 12:46 am

Im F & 25 and Ive just chosen to to not deal with dating at all lol ...

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(@mickidepaname)

Posted : 10/27/2018 3:59 pm

On 20/10/2018 at 7:46 AM, MustangMaggie said:

Im F & 25 and Ive just chosen to to not deal with dating at all lol ...

Unfortunately, same here...damn, the thing is I need to handle my family reaction due to my non-dating life.

Fortunately, people don't talk to me that much about it. But I need to anticipate it and make them understand I'll live alone.

But, let's be honnest, when you get used to be single, you end up not having problem about it at all...

But it's just society's expectations you need to handle...

I have to work on it...

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