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I Hate How Having Acne Automatically Makes Me Ugly To Everybody

It sucks so much. Just having acne makes me ugly and ignored by women. It has completely ruined my self esteem. It makes me feel so worthless, all the time.

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I can relate..Everytime i notice a girl.. I feel like she is giving me a weird look cause of my acne. I would try to give you comforting words, but i pretty much feel the same way you do. Just know it will get better one day

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I have to disagree I don't think acne makes guys ugly. It's just a matter of how u carry yourself with it. I remember before when I wasn't so embarrassed of my acne, some guys who had severe acne, scars, and redness and they really didnt give a shit and they had all the girls trying to get with them... Idk I guess its just our self esteem that makes us feel horrible... I think it sucks more for girls we are expected to be flawless ugh it seems impossible to look semi decent with all these bumps ;(

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Female here. Although I am also acne sufferer so I am a bit biased, I must say that even when I didn't have acne, acne on guys never bothered me. Most girls don't care about the kind of stuff. They just don't want to date a guy who's a jerk! I guarantee you judge yourself WAY more than girls do. From most stories I hear it is actually the guys who are more judgmental about it. Just remember, we're all our own worst critic. :)

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its funny on this website all the girls are like "oh i love guys with acne I dont even notice it!" and "I know all the guys with awful, severe acne and they cant keep girls off them!", yet none of this ever happens in real life. I have never seen someone with acne with a girl, much less someone with severe acne. I cant even leave my house without getting made fun of by some group of girls because of how "disgusting" my skin is.

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You have to stop generalizing. You act as if women all act the same and think exactly a like. Every single person is different and not all women will ignore you.

its funny on this website all the girls are like "oh i love guys with acne I dont even notice it!" and "I know all the guys with awful, severe acne and they cant keep girls off them!", yet none of this ever happens in real life. I have never seen someone with acne with a girl, much less someone with severe acne. I cant even leave my house without getting made fun of by some group of girls because of how "disgusting" my skin is.

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Hence why I don't talk to girls. No point.

Just ignore women as well.

Yup, me too. Maybe its a bad thing but I can't see the point in it either.

You have to stop generalizing. You act as if women all act the same and think exactly a like. Every single person is different and not all women will ignore you.

That is true, everyone is different, but the trouble is the mental block that you get: 'skin is too ugly, no one will be interested' that plays on your mind all the time that often makes you forget that, leading to you never bothering in the first place. Edited by MJRI94

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I think it's only girls who have acne or had acne that don't care but other than that they think ur disgusting. I know what ur talkIn about when they make there little disgusted look when they see u up close even tho they were checking u out from far away. Then they say out loud I would fuck him with a bag over his head then everybody around the bitch starts laughing. I FUCKIN HATE U BITCH

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I'm being 100%, COMPLETELY honest here when I say that I've seen guys with acne before that I've found attractive. There's a guy on my hall in my dorm, in fact, who has moderate acne but does not let it stop him from living his life and going out. And I think he's really cute! And I never really noticed his skin until I had a breakout myself this year (because once I'm breaking out I notice everyone else's skin in comparison to mine).

Acne does not COMPLETELY transform a person's face. You can still tell when they have attractive features; nice eyes, nice lips etc. It all depends how you carry yourself. I'm being hypocritical right now because I judge myself for my red marks, but in the end, I know they do not define my attractiveness and one day, they'll fade and I'll be fine.

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That is true, everyone is different, but the trouble is the mental block that you get: 'skin is too ugly, no one will be interested' that plays on your mind all the time that often makes you forget that, leading to you never bothering in the first place.

^^ this, I get this thought constantly...even though I dress/groom nicely, it is just something that cannot go away until you're finally comfortable in your own skin (eg, no more acne/acne scars)

I'd like to think that girls see past my acne, but the thought of "my skin is too ugly" is something that plays in my head everyday, it's hard.

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I wouldn't say acne makes a person "ugly". Not at all. I've met some nasty, narrow-minded people over the years and I'd describe them as being ugly because of how they behaved or what they said. They might have had great skin but I'd still say they were ugly. Real ugliness is only ever on the inside - I can't imagine I'd ever describe someone as ugly on a physical level.

Flip that scenario around and I reckon it's fair to say that you could have the worst acne and still be known as a nice, caring person if you choose to put such vibes out there. Those things count for a heck of a lot more in the present and in the long run, I'm sure of it. I think that's worth remembering. smile.png

My view of acne is entirely down to my own experiences with it and the understanding that has given me, but I just don't see it as being an issue one way or the other. If I met a guy who had acne and we became friends, the condition of their skin wouldn't come into it and would have no bearing on whether I might socialise with them or share hobbies and interests. Just like if I met a girl and we got together, if there was something about them which I initially found attractive, that would be a constant and I'm sure those feelings would only grow and grow, cancelling out anything that could possibly be perceived as an "imperfection" on a physical level. smile.png

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ugh really guys? seriously, stop complaining so much. keep up this depressed, all-girls-are-shallow-and-i-hate-the-world attitude and even the girls who dont mind acne wont be interested. ask anyone, no one wants to date a person whos negative all the time.

and like the other girls said, girls suffer too. if youre only going after perfect skinned barbies, then theres your real problem

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Just needed to add more input because I stopped at the gas station on my way to work today and was waiting to pay when an attractive couple walked in. and guess what? The guy had acne and the girl's face looked flawless. Now normally I would think nothing of this, but having read this thread I felt the need to let you guys know that not all guys who have acne don't end up with girlfriends. I just saw proof.

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I understand how you feel. What helps me is live your best life now. Be selfish to preserve your individual self. Keep your self-confidence intact by communicating with others and focus on a goals. By talking with people more, you expose yourself to new situations and people that when you encounter these feelings you will know how to rationalize yourself out of them. I used to put myself down a lot by making it an attractive vs. acne world, but that's not entirely the truth. There are grey areas that we struggle to see. There are people out there who will find someone with acne attractive (as other members mentioned before me). Also, as you focus on goals, it'll boost your confidence too!

Our fears and our anxieties can be dissipated with thoughtful, strategic action. Only with action (and a whole lot of self-love) can we ease our troubled minds.

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before i had acne i was the most confident guy in my year. I did get lots of girls flirting then when i got acne i still carried on being confident then bang as soon as it got to mild/moderate my jokes just stopped being funny and the girls just didn't want to talk to me oh well. some girls did but pretty sure that was just like oh i feel so sorry for him, Because i mean i am pretty sure a lot of the girls realized acne made me feel like crap and i became kind of shy. I am now 15 and my main thing is the little holes in my cheeks and redness but when/if that goes away i will live life to the full and be happy. sorry if my grammar sucks

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I'm sure there are people who are actively turned off by acne, but it's not everyone. That's actually more of a self-perception issue. You believe that everyone is judging you as harshly as you judge yourself, but in truth most people don't consider the people they run into beyond that initial encounter.

That cute girl or guy you saw who glanced at you on the street isn't going home and texting their friends commenting on that hideous, acne riddled individual they saw earlier. Those are just tricks your mind plays. In reality most people are self-centered, and I do not mean that negatively, just that we generally think about our own lives more than the lives of those around us.

Admittedly, for those that do judge you, or I, for that matter, it's always struck me as somewhat odd. Here's this mostly harmless condition... It's not contagious, and it doesn't really interfere with your life unless you let it. By which I mean, psychological issues aside, it IS every bit as possible to go to work, raise a family, be intimate with someone... Acne doesn't *physically* stop anyone from doing so; just emotionally.

So it doesn't hurt them in any way, and it is totally beyond our control in many cases, yet there are people who are truly repulsed. Yes, that has always seemed strange indeed.

Edited by AceEpidermis

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ugh really guys? seriously, stop complaining so much. keep up this depressed, all-girls-are-shallow-and-i-hate-the-world attitude and even the girls who dont mind acne wont be interested. ask anyone, no one wants to date a person whos negative all the time.

and like the other girls said, girls suffer too. if youre only going after perfect skinned barbies, then theres your real problem

This!!!!!!!!!! So true.

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ugh really guys? seriously, stop complaining so much. keep up this depressed, all-girls-are-shallow-and-i-hate-the-world attitude and even the girls who dont mind acne wont be interested. ask anyone, no one wants to date a person whos negative all the time.

and like the other girls said, girls suffer too. if youre only going after perfect skinned barbies, then theres your real problem

This!!!!!!!!!! So true.

Thats missing the point though, I don't go after anyone, regardless of how they look since I look terrible myself. Edited by MJRI94

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its funny on this website all the girls are like "oh i love guys with acne I dont even notice it!" and "I know all the guys with awful, severe acne and they cant keep girls off them!", yet none of this ever happens in real life. I have never seen someone with acne with a girl, much less someone with severe acne. I cant even leave my house without getting made fun of by some group of girls because of how "disgusting" my skin is.

Apparently you haven't seen all that many couples. You can't tell me there will NEVER EVER be a couple with someone who has acne. Obviously there are because there are people on here that have boyfriends/girlfriends and they have acne.

Edited by Vampireninja09

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its funny on this website all the girls are like "oh i love guys with acne I dont even notice it!" and "I know all the guys with awful, severe acne and they cant keep girls off them!", yet none of this ever happens in real life. I have never seen someone with acne with a girl, much less someone with severe acne. I cant even leave my house without getting made fun of by some group of girls because of how "disgusting" my skin is.

Apparently you haven't seen all that many couples. You can't tell me there will NEVER EVER be a couple with someone who has acne. Obviously there are because there are people on here that have boyfriends/girlfriends and they have acne.

Of course there are couples where at least one of them has acne. Problem is that it is less likely to get a relation when you have acne, not really impossible but just very hard.

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its funny on this website all the girls are like "oh i love guys with acne I dont even notice it!" and "I know all the guys with awful, severe acne and they cant keep girls off them!", yet none of this ever happens in real life. I have never seen someone with acne with a girl, much less someone with severe acne. I cant even leave my house without getting made fun of by some group of girls because of how "disgusting" my skin is.

Apparently you haven't seen all that many couples. You can't tell me there will NEVER EVER be a couple with someone who has acne. Obviously there are because there are people on here that have boyfriends/girlfriends and they have acne.

I dont know how many couples ive seen, ive never counted. I never said that there will never be a couple where someone has acne, only that Ive never seen a couple where one person has acne and the other doesnt, even though on this website all the girls seem to say they see it everyday. I just find it hard to believe that its that common when if i even approach a girl i get made fun of for my acne. why is my acne so different from everyone else's then?

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all these depressing theads about people complaining that they can't get a girl/guy because of acne is annoying, get over yourselfs and go try. if you get a no whatever theres plenty of other people out there.

quit bitching.

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ugh really guys? seriously, stop complaining so much. keep up this depressed, all-girls-are-shallow-and-i-hate-the-world attitude and even the girls who dont mind acne wont be interested. ask anyone, no one wants to date a person whos negative all the time.

and like the other girls said, girls suffer too. if youre only going after perfect skinned barbies, then theres your real problem

This!!!!!!!!!! So true.

Thats missing the point though, I don't go after anyone, regardless of how they look since I look terrible myself.

I dont know how many couples ive seen, ive never counted. I never said that there will never be a couple where someone has acne, only that Ive never seen a couple where one person has acne and the other doesnt, even though on this website all the girls seem to say they see it everyday. I just find it hard to believe that its that common when if i even approach a girl i get made fun of for my acne. why is my acne so different from everyone else's then?

well i see some good lookin couples and when i see them up close they have some acne. i guess it just depends on the person because in the past when ive talked about guys with one of my friends, i pointed out his acne and she just said that everyone gets it and itll clear up eventually. so i think its different from person to person. just keep trying, i guess. easier said than done, i know but you cant complain if youre not trying, right?

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